| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 11/13/2004 10:52:37 AM | I think it's equal in that the same amount of men and women do not post their pictures. For example just now I went to the first 4 pages of men and women who were online on this site. There were 11 men without pictures and there were 15 women without pictures.
Not exactly a scientific study but interesting nonetheless... | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 11/13/2004 10:55:16 PM | Make sure you increase your sample size to 30+ pics next time, then your statistical data will be much more reliable Watchman.
I've been looking over all the people not only on this site, but across the net for the last few days and I gotta say it seems evenly distributed (although their always seem to be 2 5 times more men looking than females).
People have low self-esteem, don't wanna post what they look like and end up getting a rating of 1 or 2 (if they even decide to allow that option!)
However, I believe once you crack the '1 Picture Barrier' you begin to get a little more open about yourself. I just submitted 3 more pictures of myself in normal activities earlier because I know one side angle isn't gonna do it. | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 11/14/2004 5:56:12 AM | | There are 10 images per page so that would be 40 pictures in the 4 pages of those who were online when I looked. Still not very scientific ;) | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 11/14/2004 7:28:48 AM | guys do it too..
here are some rules for pictures
no pictures of you eating
clear pictures are good
no pictures of kids(not good)
the more naked the better
whats with the pictures with flowers and other stupid things thats what i want to know????? | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 11/14/2004 8:05:01 AM | "People have low self-esteem, don't wanna post what they look like "
I'm getting tired of hearing this one. For many of us it has nothing to do with low self esteem (I'm definately not lacking in that regard). If you read through some of the other threads on this issue you'll see lots of reason's why people don't post pictures. Here are the ones I can think of without going back through them.
1. Concern for professional image
2. Not wanting everyone in thier small town to know they've gone to personal adds
3. Wanting people to respond first based on personality (believe it or not beautiful men and woman sometimes care that people like them for more than their looks).
4. Reducing or eliminating the 'I want to f**k you emails'
5. Don't have a scanner or digital camera (yes there are ways around this)
Its quite possible that some people also don't post a picture because they feel they are unattractive. This is not the case for many of us though. Many of us do have pictures to send. If I think there is any possibility of mutual interest I'm happy to send pictures. Personally I don't send a picture if I think there is zero chance of interest on my part. For example even without a picture I have people contact me just because I'm the 'right age'. | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 11/14/2004 8:28:35 AM | Some of us don't have scanners or digital cameras.
Those of us who do post usually get no response.
'Tis not a friendly world for ugly men. | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 11/14/2004 8:56:33 AM | | I am new here so first off hello to all. My take on this is that lots of guys don`t post pics for a few different reasons. One reason is that most guys(or atleast guys i know) don`t have a habbit or running around taking pics of themselves or other guys.I`ll get told you watch where you point that thing or your gonna be crapping pictures! Two, they don`t think that they are good looking enough. Three, just all around low self confidence. Four, some guys don`t know how , some of the sites i`ve been to are very weird when it comes to posting pics and i am fairly new the hole pc thing and it took a while till i got some help from a friend of mine to get one of my pics up. Myself, i am not the best lookin` guy around and feel that i am not very photogenic but i am happy with myself am after all i am me and there is no changing that. | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 11/14/2004 9:21:40 AM | | Hee, or one can put a pict as one man... only that it was not his own pict :D Or another one who was using really old picts of him... - But it is true that even a fictional picture (shoes, a fairy) gives an illusion of changing ideas with a person(ality)... Otherwise those who are really going to meet somebody on real: I would listen the contests of the words and meet asap in real - if possible. Too long time on net easily creates wrong images. | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 11/14/2004 10:43:29 AM | | o k maybyer if i had the proper eqiuptment to post a pic if i knew how and also why post your pic? if someone doesnt like you they have your pic!! think about it.. | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 11/14/2004 9:14:01 PM | | if youre not 6,7, and 220 lbs , and a perfect ken doll it doesnt really matter anyway does it, if someone doesnt like what they see , then click next | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 11/14/2004 9:35:34 PM |
There are 10 images per page so that would be 40 pictures in the 4 pages of those who were online when I looked. Still not very scientific ;)
Actually it would be scientific if it was a random sample. You really only need 30 from a population to get the standard deviation low enough. Then you don't have to rely on those f-ed up modified equations that take 100 years to enter into a calculator. Problem is, I have no clue if the way they post images is of a random sampling. Probably aren't. | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 11/15/2004 6:05:15 AM | He was responding to one of my earlier posts. The images on the front page are sorted by last online so it's not purely random, although it's not too bad as far as a rough idea goes. I think men and women omit posting their pictures fairly equally.
Barntobehappy does raise some good points in her post though. Even though it seems that many people are quick to think suspiciously when it comes to the lack of a picture in a profile, I can hardly blame them. The total anonymity that the Internet provides should make any prudent person extra cautious about who and what people claim they are. I would bet anyone that has used any dating site for more than a few days has seen the pictures of models/Porn stars in people's profiles.
I will admit that I look at the profiles with pictures in them first, however the actual image has much less to do with the reasons that I would contact that person. I usually base any contact on what they say in their profile. To me the fact they post any picture means they know how to get pictures on their computer in the first place. This helps me determine if it will be extremely challenging to communicate with them or not. Computers are just a tool for communicating and if the people you are trying to communicate with have great difficulty using their computer it really makes things it much harder to establish the trust it takes to move things to telephone communication or a face to face meeting... | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 11/15/2004 8:25:41 AM | Watchman: some GREAT points from the guy's point of view!
To me the fact they post any picture means they know how to get pictures on their computer in the first place... and if the people you are trying to communicate with have great difficulty using their computer it really makes things it much harder to establish the trust it takes to move things to telephone communication or a face to face meeting...
If I see a woman with a real online photo (or several!) my thought is she is genuinely interested in meeting people off line... at least at some point. I love the forums and chatting with people here, but I'm really here to meet cool and interesting people from my part of the world.  | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 11/16/2004 2:40:45 PM | | I didin't post my pic for a long time. I haven't decided if this was a website that i would want to be a part of for long. I was just trying it out. Now that I've been here a while, i posted 3 pics. | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 12/12/2004 4:01:45 PM | | It is not exactly the fact that they do not have a pic, but when you ask for one, they get all weirded-out and bolt. Have had this happen. Honestly, I cannot determine if I am interested in someone without a few pictures to go on. | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 12/12/2004 8:37:31 PM | | I don't post pics mainly because I don't feel it necessary. My profile says it all. Besides, if anyone is that curious I'm sure they can email me and I'll be more than happy to send some over. And yes, real ones of me. | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 12/12/2004 10:54:47 PM | Look at my horrible visage, d*mn you all! If anything, my pictures show me to be insane! Why do I do this? Because I can!
I am not a hot stud, but I couldn't care less!
People should be comfortable with themselves.
If you can't at least find some redeeming quality about yourself physically or otherwise, then I pity you(and my pity is not a good or comforting thing, its like liquid social death). Like I said I'm a social horror, both in the looks department and personality department. So what? Does that stop me from making a freaky ***hole of myself? Hell no. Baby, I revel in it!
In closing, let it all hang out. Slump those shoulders, stop holding in that gut, smile and show your pearly yellows! Let no man or woman put asunder what genetics have wrought within you!
Now go forth my fellow disturbing genetic freaks, and spawn what’cha mamma gave ya!
So saith the giggleparts | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 12/13/2004 12:44:10 AM | | It's just a way for guys to get your real email so they can badger you all the time. If they were honestly serious than they would put a pic up and no play games. That's the way I see it. I block anyone that send me an email with no pic. Or I won't respond. Like they need to be James Bond. There is no excuse why a guy or female if serious shouldn't put a picture of themselves up. Do you know how annoying it is to keep exchanging emails with guys with no photos...It's annoying so save us the trouble and put a picture up. Simple.... | |
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| Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 12/13/2004 1:51:01 AM | giggleparts made the good point that people should be comfortable with themselves.
I agree.
(However, I know Im not, and many people aren't, either :)
But having a pic on the profile is the only real way to be 'seen' - is this shallow? Yes.
A bit vulnerable? Oh yes :)
But its the way things seem to work generally.
So I grit mah teeth and up the pic and hope.
(If you don't see my pic, its still awaiting approval.
I'm not one of the 'no pic for me' team :) | |
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