| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/19/2009 5:52:21 AM |
No it isnt I would feel the contacter might think I was desperate and I feel he would be looking for one thing
I think 7 or 8 years younger is not such a problem.. However 14 years younger was way to much of an age difference for me to consider it.
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/19/2009 5:52:51 AM | I think it also says that he is desperate and isn't scoring well with females of his own age. If his own age group doesn't want him, chance are even a cougar doesn't.
Younger by up to 10 years, doesn't count, but young enough to be our children is just silly. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/19/2009 10:57:09 AM | Ok, I didn't read every response, but at least half. I must be in the minority! I would not take it as a compliment, BUT, I wouldn't take it as an insult, either. If I am at a stage where I'm looking for an uncomplicated, sexual relationship, hell, yeah, I'd consider a younger man. I know that I'm not sexually attracted to men under a certain age--I still see them as children and, as I get older, so too does the age at which they still seem "childish." But if a younger man was at least old enough to tickle my fancy and that's all I wanted--and all he wanted; I don't want some clingy youngster (or oldster, for that matter) expecting commitment, for God's sake--sure, I'd go for it!
Having said that, let's be clear for any young men out there reading this: I am NOT in that stage. I can see being in it, but I'm not. So don't email me! hahahaha. like anyone would!! :) OK, one did, asking if I would date younger men, but since I'm not interested in dating, it was a moot point! | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/19/2009 3:42:03 PM |
Younger by up to 10 years, doesn't count, but young enough to be our children is just silly
Especially when they look even younger then they are in years!! Add to that they appear less in age than my older child!!
Good gravy!!
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/19/2009 5:13:51 PM |
Message: Morganna said, I think it also says that he is desperate and isn't scoring well with females of his own age.
Hardly, young men think is a right in passage to get laid by someone who is 30 years or old. Sex at their age is plentiful yet they know the lonely married or single cougars out there need a little love in too! lol
It's called,supply and demand. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/19/2009 6:01:53 PM |
Hardly, young men think is a right in passage to get laid by someone who is 30 years or old. Sex at their age is plentiful yet they know the lonely married or single cougars out there need a little love in too! lol
It's called,supply and demand.
...it is maybe for some, for others it is a preference...and others dont wish to limit themselves by something as valueless as the number of years on the earth. Take a man at 50 who has had everything handed to him, never struggled, parents paid for college and he went to work for the family. Father died and now he is in charge and he is clueless as to life. Take another man who might be 30 who has had to earn everything he has. He knows the value of hard work and the cost of not working hard. Which is the most mature?
I was married to someone 12 years older and then to someone 12 years younger...the younger one was by far more mature even if he was 24 years younger ...unfortunately mental illness exist.
What is wrong with getting to know who someone is and what their intentions are before passing judgment on them? | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/19/2009 6:12:38 PM |
the younger one was by far more mature even if he was 24 years younger ...unfortunately mental illness exist.
Interesting you brought that up because I am sure many of them do have some sort of mental illness.. I mean what man in his early 40's would be interested in someone that in fact is nearly the age of his own mother?
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/19/2009 11:11:16 PM |
the younger one was by far more mature even if he was 24 years younger ...unfortunately mental illness exist.
Interesting you brought that up because I am sure many of them do have some sort of mental illness.. I mean what man in his early 40's would be interested in someone that in fact is nearly the age of his own mother?
thecatsmeoww
Once again on the forums someone tries to discredit someone elses opinion and ends up looking like a total retard...so sad that reading comprehension is such a lost art. I stated at the beginning that I was 12 years younger than my first husband and 12 years older than the second.
Im 50, so there is no way I could be a mother to a man in his early 40's, my first husband was 24 years older than my second husband, of the two men...the second was the more mature even if he was younger. My point is age is just a number and has no real indication of how mature someone is...sorta like some of the postings in the over 45 forums.
The mental illness had not presented itself until after a series of deaths, the first of which was his grandmother. Which was followed by finding out our baby had a rare birth defect and would die soon after being born...she lived exactly 45 minutes...he held her and let her die in peace in his arms...he said at the time it was so hard not to scream for someone to save our child, from that point on he was never the same...then almost exactly six months later his 34 year old sister dropped dead from heart problems totally unexpected. She had 3 kids, one was only six weeks old. He tried exactly one month later to kill himself. Our lives together was amazing.
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/20/2009 5:48:04 AM |
Im 50, so there is no way I could be a mother to a man in his early 40's, my first husband was 24 years older than my second husband, of the two men...the second was the more mature even if he was younger. My point is age is just a number and has no real indication of how mature someone is...sorta like some of the postings in the over 45 forums.
Just so you know I was speaking about my own experience and not yours. You see I had this man living in my building that wanted to date me. He was in his early 40's and his mother in am guessing to be in her early 60's.
This man became obsessive in his pursuit and IMHO has some issues with anger as well..
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/20/2009 8:38:30 PM | you bet its a compliment!!! i met a really mature younger man on here that i had a beautiful affair with....our conversations were never boring..and the sex was amazing....he contacted me once to see if i was still single but i was seeing someone else at the time...the guy i was dating got on the phone and asked my ex young lover to not phone anymore and he hasnt to this day...ya he was pretty awesome...i hope he found someone since then...... | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/20/2009 9:06:02 PM | | I think if a woman is open to dating younger, then she will be thrilled with the attention. I'm very secure with my age and don't in any way want to be associated with cougar movement, so I would not welcome it, and probably would not find it complimentary. There is a difference between being a mature woman and just being an older woman "wooed by a younger man." A mature woman does not need a younger man to feel good about herself. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/20/2009 11:54:26 PM | | I find it very complimenting and flattered by younger men who contact me - however, if he is seriously trying to date me - it depends on how big the age difference is - 10-15 years is fine - more than that, is still flattering as long as it's tasteful/respectful - don't think I would seriously consider dating someone that much younger, but I do try to keep an open mind about things/people in life....we all have something to offer one another - I think all women have their own comfort level with this - I know I don't want "school" anyone - I tend to want someone that can offer me some meaningful lessons in life and hope that I can bring the same to him. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/21/2009 2:27:34 AM | I don't find it particularly flattering.
For one , at my age, I am not sexually attracted to physical appearance of a younger man. I want a body that is softer and cushier and doesn't have the smell that a younger man has. Younger men have a much faster tempo.
What I have found when I talk to a younger man that wants and older woman they seem to be looking for someone to be what they seem themselves to be equal too. Often they were raised by much older Mother's or " Grand mother figures" .
If they have and age approriate Mother they are weak and inefectual often depending on the son to make decisions, provide care, and affection. But very little supervision. I think they carry in an attitude that they are younger, stronger, smarter, and more sophisticated and that they can promote themselves in a power position
Sometimes they are seeking a family " environment" to just see what it is like. . Or just a stable middle-class houseing situation. Sometimes and older woman is a real "houseing" option or a vehical. Some want to be mothered and I have seen a few that really were not that interested in the sex, especially hetero sex, but more in the absence of sex or at least having multiple partners. They might be quite good at sex and know the right word play for the right woman but it is rarely about love and more likely a permissive "keeper".
If they have children so much the easier to manipulate the sitiuation. Sometimes they are more capable of controlling children/adolecents because they have been life long parents.
A few are doing it as pure "dare" or bordeom. Or genuine hatred for older women. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/21/2009 9:29:18 AM | I had a torrid affair with an older woman (39) when I was just 19 years-old. It started as just an accident, neither set out to pursue anyone way out side our own age brackets. It was wonderful and she changed my life in so many ways I can’t begin to explain in a forum post. We talked about more than just sex, although we went at it like rabbits in heat. She taught me to be a gentleman first and foremost and to CARE about my partner’s needs too. She broke it off when we both started getting too involved.
I’ll always remember, appreciate and hold a warm place in my heart for her. Just the reminiscence starts curling my toes involuntarily. You older ladies might be able to add a few colors to a young man’s paint box. While it didn’t change me into a lifelong “tadpole”, it did teach me to appreciate a woman’s beauty no matter what age she was, and also to respect a woman’s intelligence, tenderness and deep emotion. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/25/2009 6:50:13 PM | ask me that exact question five years ago and i would have said a resounding no.....but my experiences of the past year or so have caused me to change my mind.
a lot of the late 50's early 60's men who contact me act so.....well.....so old!
my options are changing.....lol
at nearly 59 i'm not about to roll out my hammock.....
where are all the fun guys? | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/25/2009 7:00:35 PM | I haven't read all of the posts..but since 99% of the messages and emails I get are from younger men..I really do take it as a compliment! I am getting asked out by guys almost young enough to be my son...I may not go out with them, but if they are nice..and most are...I will chat with them for a bit.  | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/25/2009 7:08:54 PM |
a lot of the late 50's early 60's men who contact me act so.....well.....so old!
at nearly 59 i'm not about to roll out my hammock..... My thoughts exactly.
I don't particularly seek the attention of any man young enough to be my own child ... YUK. However, more and more I am becoming aware that the men my age are either just way to out of shape to be perspective partners ... OR are uninteresting related to incompatible political or religious views.
I'm becoming more and more comfortable with the idea that my ideal partner is probably going to have to be a younger gentleman. Men my age just can't keep up with me. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/26/2009 9:05:40 PM | ...you said it so well coming from a dirty old man...is that the equivalent to a Cougar? I think you are making a god point JgirinSD. I find the term 'cougar' so offensive. Not for personal reasons as I don't date or aspire to date young men. Maybe some women aren't offended by it? I guess I just don't like name calling period. I wonder if all the men who use this term are also comfortable with being called dirty old men because they date or aspire to date (especially in this case) younger women? | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/27/2009 6:30:55 AM | | Well, to be fair, since some older women resort to calling men who date younger women "dirty old men" why don't these same older women call older women who date younger men "dirty old women"? Fair is fair, after all. What's good for the goose is good for the gander. Frankly, I am fond of the popular term cougar which I see as both descriptive and charming. These are feminine, slinky women who exhibit a lot of sexuality and are attractive to men of all ages. They stand above the crowd. I love 'em! | |
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