| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/27/2009 8:01:16 AM | Every man I've ever met is incredibly visual, and many go on and on about the quality of a woman's body far beyond any standard of good taste. So my experience totally excludes any man's genuine interest in a "more mature woman", whose body will naturally be less firm, tight and visually attractive than a younger woman, other physical attributes being equal. So I just assume the many younger men who have contacted me are looking for a woman he hopes will have a good retirement, inheritance, divorce settlement--or even a few hope for American citizenship via marriage.
If you're telling the truth and do indeed have a genuine interest in more mature women, I still couldn't be open to it, tempting as the idea of sex with a healthy young stud is, LOL. Many men my age have gone through a "mellowing" process and seen so much life that they acquire a sophistication I find very attractive. Enjoy those young hardbodies, lad, and don't confuse us old ladies with your attentions, haha. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/27/2009 9:19:26 AM | I haven't read all the previous posts to this thread, however, I am going to add my 2 cents.
I really find it amusing to be contacted by younger men. I wonder why they are usually writing at 3:00 am and if they have lost their mother.
I agree with H20 that I prefer men my age. They do tend to have more of a sophistication. Also, the cohort effect (shared memories) let us hook up is so many ways. Yes, it is nice to think about the youthful physique, however, there are quite a few hardbodies in my age range. Yipee!!!!
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/27/2009 10:13:58 AM | | How can it be a compliment if they are contact me when I don't even have a photo posted? Some, the exceptions, both younger and older, are responding to what I say in my profile and looking for compatibility. But even without a photo, I still get regular email from men 20 and 30 years younger who have obviously not read my profile. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/6/2009 1:05:02 PM | I find it quite amusing when a younger guy trys to "pick up" on me, because that is exactly what it is...just a 'pick up line'. They seem to think we are so desperate, we would buy that? All their looking for is sex and NO, it's not flattering to me at all, but they think I'm going to believe their 'smooze' and I'll somehow find it flattering.
I usually say something, like: " I've got a can of soup in my pantry that's older then you", or "I have shoes older then you and I have no desire to try you on". | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/6/2009 2:13:00 PM | It depends on the age difference and why they're contacting you. I usually date men a few years younger than I am but my limit would probably be somewhere around 10 years.
It also depends on their maturity. For me dating requires clicking on a mental level as well as a physical one, we would need to be able to talk and to have at least some values and experiences in common.
If I suspect they're just contacting me because they think an "older" woman would be easier to get into bed then I politely thank them for their interest and say I'd be happy to chat via email but don't expect that we'll have enough in common to ever meet.
The ones who are explicit about their exclusively sexual intentions just get deleted.
Being contacted by anyone, of any age, purely on the off-chance of sex is not complimentary at all. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/7/2009 11:19:50 AM | | artgal9949: Oh, how you made me laugh! I'm 68, healthy, energetic and look terrific for my age, but I am perplexed by the younger men who hit on me constantly. I am of course flattered, but I feel they have ulterior motives.......like perhaps I'm desperate, or they need someone to take care of them (who has their own home and set financially) or it's just a conquest to tell their friends they did it! I'm open-minded, but nothing about it feels meaningful or of value to me. Yes, bodies change with age, and it eludes me that young men with a zillion opportunites to land young, firm ones would want to experience vintage ones. I want the whole enchilada in a relationship and being with a much younger man has too many hurdles. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/7/2009 11:22:38 AM | Some women may think so but still wonder why he would choose an older woman. I believe they choose older women for various reasons.
1. Older women are more mature and experienced in general.
2. Older "mature" women do not play head games.
3. The man is simply desperate and assumes some older women are too.
4. He doesn't want children and older women usually already have grown children or don't want any themselves.
5. Stability, loyalty, faithfulness, compassionate, family oriented etc, etc.
....Older women are more apt to stay home with her man/family rather than having the need to party every weekend with friends, not giving her man the attention he deserves.
The list goes on.. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/7/2009 11:33:12 AM | I believe they don't bother if at all to read the entire profile. They see the face and/or body and like what they see. THEN either actually read the profile or continue to skip over it and send messages to you.
YOU SEE THIS ON A MAN's PROFILE...
::::Young (some older as well), active, athletic men looking for slim, sexy, active, athletic mature woman...no head games please::::
WELL....On my profile I almost emphasize the fact that I am overweight, yet I get young good looking athletic studs checking out my profile....WHY? I said I am not slim nor athletic but everything else matches his criteria. I used to be quite active, thin, athletic-ish and if I were still that way, It would be a whole other ball game...but it's not so WHY do they check me out anyway?
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/7/2009 11:43:55 PM | The more I read this forum, the more I realize it is absolutely not a compliment. In fact, it is probably an insult. (Qualifiers: at my age anyway and depending how much younger). 
Note: not that you and others don't still have it, kasey: you are obviously gorgeous. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/8/2009 2:39:19 AM | no it's not.....
and no.....
it's not an ego boost.
but it's an absolute hoot reading the msg.,.....
i'd never be foolish or desperate enough to even consider a relationship with someone old enough to be either my son or grandson......
i don't mind 10 years difference in ages.....but i'm not interested if they're any younger than that.....
don't mind older than me,
but not decrepit! | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/9/2009 10:33:36 AM | Considering that the OP _Did Not Specify_ ~How much younger~
Maybe the question should have read...
'Would you be Flattered if a younger man contacted you??'
...go with the assumption that he's within your 'Age Parameters'....
If you're 45...'assume' that he's 40 [that IS 'younger', y'know]...is That fair...??
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Jeeeez!!! You girls always take the Extreme route when asked a question....
or presented with a chance to take a chance...
Like finding the _Absolute_ 'Mr. Right'
but turning him down [without getting to know ~One Thing About Him~]
because he lives more than a certain # of miles away...and before finding out if He would be willing to Move to You!!!
Would _That_ make a difference...???
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No, I'm not being a trouble-maker....just stating that you have to Answer the Question Put to you...without 'assuming' the extreme.
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/9/2009 1:37:43 PM | | Yes it is. We all have an attraction to a certain 'type', why judge a younger man because he finds you attractive? Not just in the physical sense, I have great conversations with younger men and usually more respectful too! | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/9/2009 1:43:28 PM | | I don't know if I would take it as a compliment or as a fluke of internet dating misidentification, especially since I don't have a picture up that could invite that kind of interest. This I will file in the category of things I need never worry about. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/9/2009 1:53:56 PM | christopher 1980,
i really don't like it at all. here i am 52---will be 53 this month and i've had my fair share of young guys that are even younger than my son who is almost 25yrs. old.
mind you they can't message me because of my age settings.
makes me feel like they have a "mommy thing" going on.
it's creepy. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/9/2009 1:58:35 PM | i don't see how anyone finding a person attractive can be considered an insult, unless it's in the way it's expressed
even if the interest isn't returned, if they're sincere i think it's charming of them to express it | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/10/2009 5:19:06 AM | I've always been attracted to older women for their maturity and experience. In these days of improved diet, health care, hormone replacement therapy, and changing attitudes many ladies can remain beautiful and desirable for so very much longer.
Perhaps they should question their own perceptions. Thus when a younger man expresses an interest he is not automatically a pervert, nor an inadequate seeking a mother-figure, nor does he necessarily have an ulterior motive.
We just find you attractive. Accept it. Be proud. Enjoy. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/10/2009 5:55:59 AM | what I find disheartening is that my target age for me (me: shy a month of my 59th, them: + or - 10yrs) more often than not, make contact that sounds "normal" and then by the second email their tone goes straight to sex chat. these are men with LTR checked. I love to flirt and enjoy sex chatting with someone I have an interest in, but I don't put-out on the first email. lol these men really should change their status from LTR to "talk-email". the men that I have actually met & dated didn't try to engage me with sex chatting in the initial mail...we did that later, but after we had built a little steam (interest).
the young men are generally short and to the point, but they rarely try to engage in sex chat right off the bat like the older set and they take "no" gracefully.
compliment? I wouldn't use that word, but neither am I offended. just amused.
I don't even entertain the idea of  on the fresh succulent flesh of young men, mainly I guess because I really am ready for companionship and would hate to be mistaken for their mother while out on a date. at this time, I'm not into hook-ups solely for the sake of hook-ups, as I did back in the 60's/70's.
the younger the men that contact, the more I scratch my head in wonderment, but I am not offended, nor am I flattered, I'm just amused by it. | |
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