| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/10/2009 8:12:34 AM |
Considering that the OP _Did Not Specify_ ~How much younger~
Maybe the question should have read...
'Would you be Flattered if a younger man contacted you??'
...go with the assumption that he's within your 'Age Parameters'....
If you're 45...'assume' that he's 40 [that IS 'younger', y'know]...is That fair...??
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Jeeeez!!! You girls always take the Extreme route when asked a question....
or presented with a chance to take a chance...
Like finding the _Absolute_ 'Mr. Right'
but turning him down [without getting to know ~One Thing About Him~]
because he lives more than a certain # of miles away...and before finding out if He would be willing to Move to You!!!
Would _That_ make a difference...???
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No, I'm not being a trouble-maker....just stating that you have to Answer the Question Put to you...without 'assuming' the extreme I am flattered when a wonderful man within my age range contacts me, if he has contacted me because he has read my profile and is responding to me and not a photo. Of course, he wouldn't be wonderful, in my book, if he weren't responding to the profile. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/10/2009 8:20:45 AM | | I for one say it would! I still feel 16 in my head! Oh well....the only problem with dating younger men, is, that one day, they will want to marry and have children, and us older women, most likely, physically won't be able to, the oven turned off by itself, you know. Plus, we have been through the child-bearing and raising years, and may not even want to do that again even through adoption...tough call...both parties have to face that one head on and see if they both agree. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/12/2009 6:31:32 AM | | It depended on the man, it depend on the age. I am going to marry a younger man, so really it isn't the age it is the person that contacts you. If they are hot, they are hot and age isn't what will change that. If they are polite, they are polite, age isn't going to change that...etc. etc. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/12/2009 8:32:16 AM |
I for one say it would! I still feel 16 in my head! Oh well....the only problem with dating younger men, is, that one day, they will want to marry and have children, and us older women, most likely, physically won't be able to, the oven turned off by itself, you know. Plus, we have been through the child-bearing and raising years, and may not even want to do that again even through adoption...tough call...both parties have to face that one head on and see if they both agree.
Izblue..I agree..I feel 12 sometimes..but as to the children and marriage thing? I find men in their 40's and 50's who still want children! I've been amazed at how many men over 40 and even over 45 turn me down because they still want children. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/12/2009 9:11:12 AM | | I was contacted on POF recently by a 27 year old man who said he liked older women. I asked him why, and he said since I was a bbw who had not been married and was plain looking I would do anything sexually and w0uld be glad to be his sugar mama. After laughing at his response, I let him know in an email that I was very particular about the kind of men I like, that a man my age who appreciates my attractive face, curvaceous body, who was self supporting, well mannered and realized that teachers were not sugar mamas was the kind of man I seek. A lot of younger men seem to prey on middle aged women for sex, but then maybe a lot of bbw think they are plain looking and will be someone's sugar mama and sex buddy just to have a relationship with a man. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/12/2009 9:26:41 AM |
I asked him why, and he said since I was a bbw who had not been married and was plain looking I would do anything sexually and w0uld be glad to be his sugar mama.
It’s not just bbw’s who get contacted by the young whippersnappers looking for action from an older woman. I had my share of them when I was single (until age filters took care of that), and still do every now and again. Some of them try with all older women and it doesn’t matter what she looks like, what her body type is or what her relationship status is. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/12/2009 8:13:03 PM | if you're talking way younger?
no.....
it's not.
just as it's not an ego boost....
in any way....
in reality, it's rather pathetic.
and pathetic are the women who fool themselves into being flattered....
by young men who for the most part are "having a lend of them".... | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/12/2009 8:19:58 PM | Some of them try with all older women and it doesn’t matter what she looks like, what her body type is or what her relationship status is
in reality, it's rather pathetic.
and pathetic are the women who fool themselves into being flattered....
by young men who for the most part are "having a lend of them"....
agree... | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/12/2009 9:02:28 PM |
and pathetic are the women who fool themselves into being flattered....
by young men who for the most part are "having a lend of them" It realllly depends on the man. I went out with a man about 18 years younger and can't say that is what happened. I really dug him, but he wasn't in the same place I was. Now I am engaged to a younger man, 10 years. I honestly don't feel he is fooling me about anything. He is most sincere. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/12/2009 9:15:54 PM | | ^^^I don't actually think 10 years is 'younger.' He is technically younger in years,but to my mind, within a normal dating range. Younger to me is more than 10 years. Like, I put 45 as my cut off limit on my profile, but someone 45 is nearly 13 years younger than I--it seems like a lot. I think 10 years is not really significant. I have dated a man 8 years younger and there was literally no difference in our outlook, perspective, interests, energy level, etc. It seems like I'm making a big deal of 2 or 3 years, but then I get mail from guys who are 44, and I think, well one year younger than 45, and I've said 45 is okay....but at some point, they just are too young. Depends a lot on the man too. I've met some men in their late 50's who are much less mature than men 10 years their junior. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/13/2009 11:31:14 AM | I really don't consider it a compliment at all, it just tells me they are either not reading the profile, merely making a gut reaction to the photo, or contacting everyone in a big sweep to see if someone responds.
I've been contacted by someone 30 years younger and 20 years younger. Maybe I look young for my age, but sheesh, if I am old enough to be their momma that just freaks me out. I would not even consider dating any more than 5 years my junior. Heck, I have a 20 year old son...would I want him dating someone in their 50s - I think not. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/13/2009 11:51:41 AM | When my nephew was 19 years old he married a woman who was 30. That was in 1975, they are still together. They are so happy.
I really think those who condemn others do so cause they have locked them into rules and are to afraid to live outside of them. They have blinders on and cant see a bigger picture and so they judge anyone who isnt like them as being less, when actually they are making themselves less by trying to impose their views on others as being the only right way.
Yes SOME younger men contact OLDER women for just sex. But guess what, SOME older women contact younger men just for sex! If they are happy why should I care?
I have had more men my age contact me for sex than younger ones...
The younger ones who contact me are normally better mannered and have geniune interest in me as a person. If they want just sex as soon as they find out they arent getting any they move on. Some of the others like to ask me about a "girl" they like and how they can get her attention. Some ask me about how to have a better relationship with their mom. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/13/2009 11:57:18 AM | | Someone 10 -12 years younger than myself could possibly gain my attention. It's the 25-30 year olds who seem to bother us women in our 50s cause they think we are easy prey for their lines of crap. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/13/2009 12:50:36 PM | I get approached regularly and by dozens of younger men.
..Apparently my handle has some unique subliminal magnetic attraction to these young dudes....I cant figure it out.
...They are very romantic, send me those attached gifts...and make very suggestive postings.
I don't know how to handle all of this attention....can any of you females help me out?
tia
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/13/2009 1:45:56 PM | ...I've had my share of come on's by younger guys and have never felt insulted. Sometimes I've wondered if I should be though. I usually get a chuckle out of the some of the things they come up with. It makes for good story telling haha
Once when I was in line at a 7-11, I looked up and found myself staring into the eyes of a slightly inebriated 20 something guy just ahead of me. He insisted that "beauty should go first, so I stepped ahead and thanked him for not saying, "age before beauty" haha.
So I finish paying for my stuff and just as I'm leaving he says, " You must have been super babelicious when you younger." Ahhh, Thank-you....I think.
Anyhow... some of them say things without really thinking, or maybe at that age they're thinking with the wrong head haha....But they are still young and have lots of growing up to do. Hell, men my age say some pretty inappropiate things too.
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/13/2009 2:59:20 PM | I'm just glad younger men don't try to contact me. Since I have been single a younger male wanted to take me to the bathroom in the bar I was in. I just laughed about it, and I have had 5 women in their 20's approach me and one in their early 30's seeking sex but I turned them all down flat. I don't know what it is but I think my English accent may come into it initially.
I wish I was more photogenic than I am because I think my pics always let me down and the only decent ones I had went out of the windeowwhen my PC went kaput!
Such is life. LOL | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/13/2009 10:10:57 PM | The main reason I care about a guy's age is exactly the same reason guys care about women's ages: younger people look better! plus, as the years tick by, they go faster & faster, so you find yourself thinking you're 5-10 yrs younger than you are...so people even a few yrs older than you seem too old!
I wouldn't call it a compliment, but I enjoy it if they guy is good looking & has a lot otherwise going for him too. if he's more than 10 yrs younger, i view it as a toy boy...fun for now, but i don't take him or a "relationship" seriously. but if he's really young, he has to have eyes for only me & i have to have eyes for only him...otherwise, what's the point?....at least while we're both still hot for one another. we both know it will eventually end, but it sure can be fun for 3-12 months while the thrill is there for both! | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/14/2009 6:17:27 AM | | When younger men contact me, I initially feel complimented, but, after about 10 seconds I realize that all he wants is to 'have casual sex' that he could brag about later with his buddies. And I find that a real turn off. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/14/2009 6:32:12 AM | I don't consider it a compliment to be contacted by any man, since I don't know their motives at first contact. I appreciate compliments when I'm face to face with the one who compliments me. As I always say, pictures don't show the "whole picture". However, I always accept compliments gracefully by thanking them, if they voice a compliment. Just contacting me is not a compliment.
I do find it a bit uncomfortable when very young men contact me telling me how "sexy" I am. (in their eyes) On another site I was contacted by an 18 year old and a 19 year old just telling me how sexy they thought I was! They had no ulterior motive, since they were not trying to meet me. Just commenting on my picture. Still, I was a bit uncomfortable that they had even noticed me. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/14/2009 7:20:58 AM | You know, I really think that if a guy is moved to give a compliment it's cool, very cool and should be received gracefully. In "real life" I've had a meaningful relationship with a man who was 12 years younger than me and at a different time had a relationship with a guy who was 12 years older. Frankly each were mature and inmature in different ways... not much to do with age.
I don't like the label cougar... I think when we start checking out age before checking out the person we're off base. I also think it's cool that woman are finally winning the same freedom men have had for centuries to date our person of choice regardless of age.
OK here's my last 2 cents worth... Life is too short to be made smaller by our prejudgements. Enjoy! | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 9/15/2009 7:10:08 AM | I think that it's a compliment and it's cute. Then I move on.
Being 50, I don't think I would really consider dating anyone in their 20's. It's just too damn smarting of a Greek Tragedy (Oedipus).
But, I just happen to prefer my men older than me. I have been involved with younger (3 years) and older men. | |
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