| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 12:12:50 PM | ~OP~ Straight from my profile:
* If you're young enough to be my son, I'll need a permission slip from your Mother before I answer your email. (Oh, and a permission slip from my son, and that isn't likely to happen. Sorry, I'm no cougar. That thought really creeps me out.)
"Too young" for me is anyone who wasn't able to legally drink when 80's big hair bands were actually touring/performing the first time around, not the cruise ship venue of today; anyone who doesn't remember the first scud-missile being launched early onset Desert Storm; anyone who doesn't recall MTV playing real music and music videos; etc., etc. My "low" number is very near 40. It's not open for much negotiation. Maybe a year or two ~ nothing more than that. JMO  | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 12:36:08 PM | | I think it is a compliment but always have that question in the back of my mind on why when there are so many beautiful woman that are younger why me. Mind you I have dated someone much younger than me in the past 2 years and it never entered my mind while with him. I guess it depends on the chemistry and the maturity level of both people. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 1:46:32 PM | | I don't know if I would consider it a compliment or not nowadays. In years past I probably would have kicked your a$$ but I've mellowed in these golden years. It is really quite simple to answer who is and who is probably not approachable though, since everyone on here has stated their own age restrictions. Maybe, you could just try respecting what they have stated in their profiles and only contact those who have chosen your age group. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 1:50:15 PM | I think you'll find, OP, that most older women don't need younger men to flatter them. They get quite enough from their own age bracket. And the reason for the flattery is usually more along the lines of what they're looking for
Yep, Don, you're right. Although this suspicious older (ackk) woman thinks the motive behind the flattery is the same, regardless of age..
But that's fine! Bring it on! Flattery is flattery and I'm easily flattered..
OP, keep asking out whoever takes your fancy. But mix the hopeful sex talk with a little bit of intellectual back-chat..just a hint...
It's a free world, buddy, and you're always allowed to dream...
By the way, artgal's description of a 60-year-old woman's body was enough to turn ME off and I'm not gay. Bye-bye arms? Flat soft breasts? Cheesecake thighs? Hello..where's the gym? | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 2:04:47 PM | No not at all.
Youngsters ALWAYS start off by saying "I like older women" -- so what? I like older men.
It's not flattering... I assume he's a horny young thing who thinks older women wanna get some, and he's willing to provide a "service" | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 2:05:27 PM | Okay - I guess I'm in the minority....
I take it as a compliment that someone takes the time to message me. The messages I receive are not usually the 'mass mailings' I've heard others complain about - they are usually written by someone who has read my profile or something I've posted. Considering how many people use this site - it's cool to be singled out of the crowd.
As for the age of the person contacting me - it's no more or less flattering. I don't 'look' for younger guys - but in 'real life' I usually end up with men 5-8 years younger than myself. In all cases the age thing didn't come up until later (sorry I don't ID them) - it's just that they look my age (or I look theirs) and there's no obvious clue that would put them at a younger age than I am.
I have seen postings by younger guys looking for older women and they've been a bit offensive in my opinion... As long as you're not looking for a hook-up so you can put it on your resume it's cool. (Okay - to be fair - I've seen older women looking for younger guys for the same reason...) If you're sincere about it - make sure the women you contact know that.
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 2:22:44 PM | Are you kiddin' me? WHOO HOOO is what I say! Whip out the party favors! 
I do enjoy being complimented by a younger man! Makes me feel like I've still "got it", y'know?
Now, as for the woowing in hopes of a relationship, there's a fine line there. I'm 44 so being seriously pursued by a 20-something is completely out of the question. I mean, grant it, I'd be flattered as all hell, but to try to have an actual RELATIONSHIP with someone that young, I'm afraid not. He wants to do things that to me are "been there, done that" and unfortunately, you can't turn back the hands of time. Now, if a guy is in his mid-to-late 30s, THEN I'll contemplate the idea, if he's mature and 100% serious about wanting a real relationship. By then, I would HOPE that he's gotten a lot out of his system, (having sewn a few wild oats), and is thinking more along the lines of a future with someone. But, that's ALSO a pretty fine line because he may be thinking "kids" - and at my age, it would be quite risky for both me and the child, and I wouldn't want to GO through that, much less put HIM and the BABY through that. So, if he's 100% sure that he DOESN'T want kids, then that makes things a lot easier. Although, the alternative is adoption - but not many men want to raise someone else's child. Some feel rather strongly about their own spawn. LOL!
But, in conclusion of answering your question, I have absolutely no qualms about receiving attention from a "youngin'" whatsoever! LOL | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 3:27:36 PM | I had a younger guy pursue me quite hotly for a while. He was 36 and GORGEOUS. Even my daughter thought he was gorgeous. He looked like a male model..not usually my type But ...definitely yummy...
Anyway, I asked him what's the go with wanting a 52-year-old? He said: I like older women.
Well, it was the biggest turn-off. I don't want to be thought of as an "older woman". It sounded almost like a fetish. It wasn't my looks or my personality - it was my AGE! Yuck!!! | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 4:12:10 PM | I don't know if compliment would be the right word to describe how it might make me feel, but I do rather enjoy talking to men younger than myself. Most of the time they can be more open minded and less patriarchal than the men my age and above. I have had a few hang out friends that were much younger than me, but I do not seek out the the younger man for sex or relationships, but never say never | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 4:17:34 PM | | I know it is wrong to make assumptions, but I usually figure the tadpoles are out fishing for some experienced hot sex. Alot of younger men fantasize about having sex with older women because they hear often that they are better in bed than younger women. So I just generally think that they are looking to get laid. No, it`s not really a compliment. Just more of the same. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 5:42:36 PM |
... for women between 40 and 50 whats too young? Since I'm apparently older than granite, I can't answer for them, but it depends on the "contact," and how it comes across; what the person says to me; how he says it; what/if he even wants anything. Does he want a date, advice, just saying hello, or does he need a note for his teacher? In truth, sometimes it can be flattering - if they're genuine and polite. It can also be extremely unnerving and insulting sometimes. There are (some) younger men who think all older women are desperate and just have to experience them ... as if they are the love-messiah ... And, that's just curiosity, I suppose. What's too young? Well, if you have to ask ... there's your answer. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 6:19:28 PM | Well Christopher I would be more than happy to answer that question for you. I often take it as a compliment and I am always very flatered. I have found that most men my age are not attractedor interested to women their age. They are more interested in the younger, less experienced women. I never dated anyone younger than myself, however I am not opposed to doing so, provided that he is only 5 to 7 years my junior. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 7:17:15 PM | Hard to say, lol! It's a compliment if he's bright, funny and aware, and not especially interested in your age one way or the other. If he *likes* older women as a class, sight unseen, then, no, not particularly. This is purely experiential on my part -- my last husband was 16 years younger than I was and it was a go; couple of years ago got a guy 8 years younger from PoF, who "loved silver foxes" and should have just saved my time and his with a biggol no way.
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 7:58:28 PM | "Having said all that, why would any REASONABLE flirtation or interest be turned down?
If you are trying to sell the house...you really can't complain about who comes to view it,can you?"
You wouldn't want to be hearing the words I would use to dismiss you bs. Love to watch a young buck realize that they have made a big error is judgment.....to funny to watch their butt moving quickly away. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 8:01:37 PM | "I don't see any harm for a meet, you can't have too many friends."
Trust me, at our age we have made so many friends that we only have time for the best, which you aren't. Too dull.......................... | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 8:08:51 PM | " Most of the time they can be more open minded and less patriarchal "
Why would any women date men like that regardless of their age? Patriarchal.............doesn't cut it with most women. We want men who don't need a system to make them in charge. Men who can hold their own without having to be boss...............can anyone say equals................mean self esteem. Younger man/////////////pass. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 8:09:54 PM | In the first month of membership, it was flattering. However, it quickly became obvious that the contacts were about young horny boys thinking that old women were so lonely and desparate that they'd be an easy lay. Me? If anything, I'm looking for a commited relationship or will remain content to play in this sandbox.
Why do you like mature women? | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 8:35:58 PM | I’m kinda surprised about what I’ve read in this thread. The assumption that “age” implies “maturity”. Yeah. Right. MANY people, both female and male, immediately come to mind to toss that notion in the dumpster.
Now, maybe I’m totally misunderstanding OP’s intentions, but geeez! How arrogant of anyone to think that age is a factor in impressing someone. Simply because someone is younger makes them all that?!?! …that the recipient should be flattered?!? I don’t get it.
Of course, if chronologic age is all that important, well… so be it. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 8:45:53 PM | ...It's more of a compliment to be contacted by someone closer to my own age, at least we can exchange in some other forms of stimulation after the sex, such as good conversation.
Sorry OP...couldn't resist
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 11:26:31 PM | It CAN be a compliment. Just like it can be from a man of any age. But in my experience, there are 2 reasons that a younger man wants an older woman
#1 He wants hot sex with someone who can teach him naughty things
#2 He wants a mommy
For me, I am not interested in teaching a young guy anything, I want someone who can keep up with me
And I already have 2 children-I don't need any more! | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/15/2009 11:41:26 PM | I’m kinda surprised about what I’ve read in this thread. The assumption that “age” implies “maturity”. Yeah. Right. MANY people, both female and male, immediately come to mind to toss that notion in the dumpster.
Now, maybe I’m totally misunderstanding OP’s intentions, but geeez! How arrogant of anyone to think that age is a factor in impressing someone. Simply because someone is younger makes them all that?!?! …that the recipient should be flattered?!? I don’t get it.
Of course, if chronologic age is all that important, well… so be it.
howdidigetthere, I agree 100 percent with age not being an indication of maturity. I believe you need to see the person not the age. I have dated older and I have dated younger, Im not offended if the RIGHT person contacts me no matter what their age is. However if a younger man contacts me and mentions my age as a factor then I know they arent really interested in me, but what they think a woman my age would be interested in offering them. | |
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