| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/21/2009 8:20:33 PM | I often get contacted or hit on by younger men...some of them are so sexy,fresh and
and tempting! Ultimately it's like eating a piece of fallen cake..it aint ever gonna be quite..done enough..
tho one ought never never say never..cas...there was this HOT man in his 30's..and we were together for a short while ...
{ stars in her eyes}all he ever would have to do was..ask me..anything..a.n.y.th.i.n.g
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/21/2009 8:43:30 PM | I have been contacted numerous times by younger men, men more than 8 years my junior. Most of the time they were men in their twenties. Did I feel complimented?
To say "No I do not see it as a compliment." would be to put it mildly.
Its nauseating. Its like being approached by a child if you can follow my meaning. And quite frankly I don't even think they are looking for sex, I assume that any male in his 20's, 30's or 40's contacting me is looking for a meal ticket or some way to scam an "old lady".
So really I guess you could say that unless the contact by a younger man is about something, say a forum topic, or qustions about a specific hobby, I am actually offended. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/21/2009 8:55:34 PM |
Its nauseating. Its like being approached by a child if you can follow my meaning. And quite frankly I don't even think they are looking for sex, I assume that any male in his 20's, 30's or 40's contacting me is looking for a meal ticket or some way to scam an "old lady".
What a limiting view of the world, I have several friends in their late 20's, some in their 30's and some in their 40's, 50's etc. Not everyone is looking to take advantage of you.
Personally the older men who try and act like a rutting teenager turn me off the most, you would think they would have learned something by now. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/21/2009 9:04:49 PM | Now, maybe I’m totally misunderstanding OP’s intentions, but geeez! How arrogant of anyone to think that age is a factor in impressing someone. Simply because someone is younger makes them all that?!?! …that the recipient should be flattered?!? I don’t get it.
WOW You hit the nail right on the head!
And I must say if my memory of young men serves me, well I certainly don't remember them as being "all that". LOL | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/21/2009 10:17:29 PM |
What a limiting view of the world, I have several friends in their late 20's, some in their 30's and some in their 40's, 50's etc. Not everyone is looking to take advantage of you.
Excuse me but my view of the world is hardly limited, you obviously misunderstood what I wrote. I too have friends of all ages, some I have known since they were in diapers and have children of their own now.
You must compare apples to apples and the op was obviously talking about contacting older women with romantic intentions.
Personally I am flattered when anyone of any age, sex, race , religion, nationality, politcal affliation, etc sincerely wants to be my friend. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/22/2009 2:24:15 PM | Given the fact that most people are RARELY complimented (real compliment or otherwise) in the first place, to complain about WHO is complimenting you seems to me to the intellectual equivalent of complaining that since you've won a prize that you should be disappointed that you have to now pay taxes on it.
You've won a prize...enjoy it.
Somebody has paid you compliment...accept it graciously and move on w/ your day
Again,if YOU have a problem w/ people complimenting YOU...aren't YOU the one w/ the problem? | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/22/2009 2:36:58 PM | And I'm somewhat taken aback (as I occasionally am) by the number of women on that have hinted or outright stated that they would compare another adult that might have romantic or other interests in them to a child...or their child.
Is that the female equivalent of a man calling his wife "Mother?"
Because I find that kind of odd myself...
If you are not interested in somebody, you're not interested.
Most people aren't going to ask why....and you are probably seeking additional attention if you volunteer your "reasons." | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 4/22/2009 3:47:42 PM |
And I'm somewhat taken aback (as I occasionally am) by the number of women on that have hinted or outright stated that they would compare another adult that might have romantic or other interests in them to a child...or their child.
Is that the female equivalent of a man calling his wife "Mother?"
Because I find that kind of odd myself... It woould only be the female equivalent of a man calling his wife "Mother" if he was married to someone the same age as his mother. Women are comparing these young men to their children because the young men are the same age as their children. That's one of the reasons women feel uncomfortable with it. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 5/1/2009 11:02:59 AM | younger men are not my interest but I am not closed to them but that suspicion
{And quite frankly I don't even think they are looking for sex,
I assume that any male in his 20's, 30's or 40's contacting me
is looking for a meal ticket or some way to scam an "old lady"}.
& how sad for you,btw :(
anyways that suspicion...NEVER even occurrs.....we definitely have different experiences as the men I date..tend to routinely spoil me ...REGARDLESS of age.
the HOT 30 year old paid for everything on our dates ....dinners...outings..
he knew I loved high teas...he was a laborer! me an artist
it turned out there was this tea salon it opened ...80 bucks for two
I though wow..too expensive..he was like.... let's go..I'll TAKE CARE OF IT
he did...and sex.. making love ..he could not stop kissing or touch or loving
very loving giving man...age did not mean jack to me..it ultimately did to him...
he wants kids..
a second man younger lives in another state offerred a local bed and breakfast so
I wld stay at my own room and paid for it on his credit card which he gave the number to me to make reservations and I tore up the number
..the ENTIRE wekend paid for meals everything as I was his guest..... no strings...
so... what meal ticket men are you referring to? old lady..WHO is THAT?
geez loueeze... a compliment is a compliment..nothing wrong with that..but
get real...
an exploiter..or con man.. or user... comes in all
packages... sizes.... colors.... and AGES
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 5/1/2009 5:02:30 PM | I feel that any genuine, articulate message that I receive is a compliment of
sorts (and can I stress ARTICULATE). Du u wnt to f@@k or any variation
thereof from any age group is instant trash. Would I do anything other than
send back a quick thanks, but no thanks, to the under 40's? Nope. I have two
sons and thank you, that is plenty. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 5/1/2009 5:20:40 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^.................................
"Personally the older men who try and act like a rutting teenager turn me off the most, you would think they would have learned something by now. "
But.. that's not a limited point of view?
Sorry.. I think whatever's good for the goose.. is good for the gander.
I don't see where a "cougar" isn't considered as an old lady trying to act like a rutting teenager? All it is.. is the shoe being put on the other foot. You'd think.. these "cougars".. old ladies.. would have learned something by now! Hmmm.... ? Like.. someone I could have given birth too.. is completely off limits.. and rather annoying when they contact me.. well over 45.JMO | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 5/1/2009 10:00:34 PM | I feel uncomfortable with someone in their mid 40's, but flattered. Any one younger than that and it's weird. If I have shoes older than they are-it's definately weird.
On the other hand I have a good friend in her 40's who last year married her long time boyfriend who is in his mid 20's. And they are happy. Very happy. They've been together since he was 19. I don't understand it, but they are happy and I'm happy for them. It works for them, but I still crack up when one of her grandkids calls him papaw.  | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 5/3/2009 9:46:50 AM | Too many fishies in this pond to begin with so any type of contact always flattering and appreciated, however, having said that, I also know that being contacted by a much younger man , his only interest would be sexual. I'm very specific about what I'm looking for in my profile and a friend with benefits is not one of them. I even had to change my mail settings because I found I was getting too much mail from the twenties crowd.
At the beginning , I was even being contaced by men who were younger than my son and that sort of creeped me out a bit ...what could I possibly have in common with someone 20 years younger than me? I know it's about the sex, and only about the sex, no matter how much they tell you it's not. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 5/3/2009 9:27:34 PM | | I feel complimented when I am contacted by any attractive (attractive to me, which may not and usually does not necessarily mean conventional good looks) man within my age range, men from the age of 45 on up. Anyone younger and I feel it is not a serious compliment. That he is not seeing 'me' but a woman who may be reasonably attractive and available for or interested in casual sex. I am definitely not interested or available for anything other than a relationship that encompasses emotion, connection, mutual respect, mutual goals and vision, etc. I think men who contact a woman for something casual are not recoginizing the individual woman, but just someone, anyone, who might do. I am only interested in men who are interested in me, the individual, quirks and foibles and all. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 5/7/2009 8:24:21 AM | | If a younger man contacts an older women he is probably looking for easy and readily available sex without investing much in a relationship, time or moneywise. He may also want some financial or other assistance. If a 45 year old man can date 20 to 35 year old women why on earth would he consider dating, say a 57 year old woman? It would feel like dating Mom. yuk! Of course, there are a few cougars who are actually attractive to younger men. I know a couple of them. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 5/7/2009 8:32:34 AM | I've been hit on by my childrens' male friends, oh...and once a girl, since they all hit puberty. Always flattering. Always amusing. Never considered. Although....some of them are starting to look awfully damn good, particularly those in their 30s'! | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 5/7/2009 8:33:51 AM |
I am not interested in men that are the age of my children
I would say, depending on why OP is interested in older women, maybe I might be flattered by a younger gentleman's attention, but not too much younger probably no more than 10 years. My ex married a woman not much older than our children a couple of years ago & they feel pity for him and don't respect her alot. | |
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