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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 7/9/2009 9:00:44 AM | Wow! I thought surely I had contributed to this thread already but can't find where I did so...
No, I don't feel complimented. I feel insulted... as if the guy thinks I'm (insert negative descriptor here) enough to buy into his BS. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 7/9/2009 10:05:13 PM | I've been (ahem) approached by FOUR younger men in the last year, all of 'em under 35. Ok, one wasn't really an approach, he was family, but still he didn't remember that I'd watched him grow up - sheesh!
It's downright flabbergasting, especially when men my own age (ok, or closer to my age) couldn't care less about me!
I've pondered this, listened to my three adult daughters' comments ("Go, Mom!" "You can be a Cougar", etc.) and decided that whatever the attraction, it's not one that interests me. I came to the conclusion that I couldn't be interested in anyone I would've been old enough to babysit. That's just wrong, but that's just me, and my two cents' worth. Ya have to draw the line somewhere...keep in mind it's your line. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 7/9/2009 10:14:13 PM | | For me it depends how young they are. If they are 18-35, I think they want to have a sexual experience with an older woman without it becoming serious. Older that 35, they are more likely coming from a point like yours, being flattered and wooed . | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 7/10/2009 3:42:08 AM | On here I'm contacted mostly by my men in my age group requirement but when I was with a different dating site last year I used to get 20 year old guys emailing and wanting me to meet up with them.
No on POF it's either the crazies or the married's or the ones looking for something intimate and that's all  | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 7/10/2009 3:47:52 AM | I just feel like they maybe in search of a new mom? And although I have a very nurturing personality I am not looking to raise another human child... I got enough work raising kittens these days..
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 7/10/2009 4:14:29 AM | when I first came on board here, I was contacted by younger men, mostly in their 20's.. who said they liked older women or blatently said they wanted "a good time" with an older woman. Said very "complimentary" things.. must think I was desperate. Basically all they wanted was sex; even if they denied it & said we had "a lot in common". Finally blocked my IM here b/c it was annoying.
Have been told outright that I was not what "he was looking for" b/c he wanted children someday; but if I wanted sex, just give him a call.....
I would enjoy the company of someone 45-65 but have not had much luck with younger guys.. tho you can see it in your own age group too.
so no I dont take it as a compliment | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 7/10/2009 5:11:16 AM |
So do you find it a compliment or not to be contacted by a younger man?
That depends how much younger. My very first note from someone here resembled someone about my oldest sons age. I didn't know if I should be flattered or creeped out. I guess it depends on mental maturity, but men more than 5 years younger than me I usually can't consider serious prospects. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 7/10/2009 3:09:05 PM | yes, it is often flattering to be contacted by a younger man. it is just that both parties have to recognize and be fair about what the communication is about and where it might lead. there are other sites specifically for those who prefer older / younger situations.
personally, I am not going to spend any time at all with any one who is older than me, or probably even my same age.
I want a younger man. I enjoy their outlook and their viewpoint. and, I want fun and stamina! | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 7/10/2009 3:47:05 PM | | I dont find it a compliment at all. My first thought is WHY........I have been contacted by quite a few young guys....to me all they are interested in is a quick shag & nothing else! They certainly dont have what I'm looking for. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 7/10/2009 4:36:34 PM | i totally agree with scatterzoom, these "ladies" need to get real. why would some young stud want to hook up with an older women? it's for one thing and one thing only. and it usually occurs one hour before the bar closes. lol | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/18/2009 5:18:36 PM |
said by dreamgirl4800, I am sure most older women on here get their share of young men contacting them for whatever reason. In my view, it's no compliment for a woman to be contacted solely for sex from ANY man, younger or older, unless, of course that's all she's looking for.
Yes,as you are one of the few to admit to this double standard! So vanity wins out every time,[with exceptions to the rule]!.
And here I thought most women were from Venus?
guess again..... | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/18/2009 7:05:03 PM | | I don't consider it a compliment or an insult. I'm open to talking with anyone I find attractive ~ and usually their true colors come out quickly to clarify what they're looking for. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/18/2009 8:23:07 PM | No worries, scatter..
You will find them, but they are likely in the minority...and some, despite their protests, may be more flattered than they care to admit to...the old 'thou doth protesteth too much' routine..ya know?? And Im guessing it would take a fairly confident woman who can take the heat that comes with this situation.
Happy fishing....Im sure that in time, you will get the nibbles you are hoping for!! | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/18/2009 11:52:01 PM |
Do you want to date one? Do you want to be seen out in public, holding hands, slow dancing knowing that everyone else is talking about you the whole time?
I think if you can honestly answer ‘Yes’ to all of these, and she feels the same, then I don’t see a problem. However, it’s not a compliment being approached by a much younger man, who doesn’t actually want to be seen out with you; that implies he’s just after what he considers to be an easy lay. We deserve more than that. I don’t mind younger men, but there is a limit! If he’s young enough to be my son; that is, more than 16 years younger, then it isn’t an option. JMO | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/19/2009 2:12:51 AM | | Depends at what age the guy is. I get conacted by quite young guys and it feels incentuous, I would not even go there. I think there shoud be a limit but that is just my opinion. I hav an age in my head, but still the guy could be totally mature to talk to, or quite the opposite. For me the conversation decides this. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/19/2009 2:49:28 AM | It is only a compliment if a man shows interest in me or contacts because he likes ME. When he is attracted to me as a person. A man-boy who contacts me because he is just looking for nookie with an older woman does not compliment me, he annoys me.  | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/19/2009 3:27:20 AM | It can be quite flattering to be contacted by a younger man with open mind.
If the contact is made in the morning hours, it could be genuine, and he is showing a respect and admiration for an older woman who reminds him of his Aunt Nellie, an excellent Strudel baker. He is ready for committed relationship and provides validation for a woman who almost gave up on men.
Now, if he contacts you after 6pm, he wants hot sex with someone who can teach him naughty things, or his intentions might be also genuine in providing a valuable service. Strong connection is made with Aunt Nellie’s niece, who’s tastes include not only red underwear, but also a red Mercedes. | |
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/19/2009 4:49:45 AM |
i totally agree with scatterzoom, these "ladies" need to get real. why would some young stud want to hook up with an older women?
Having dated both younger men and older men I can tell you for the same reason!!
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| Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man?
Posted: 8/19/2009 4:56:54 AM |
If the contact is made in the morning hours, it could be genuine, and he is showing a respect and admiration for an older woman who reminds him of his Aunt Nellie, an excellent Strudel baker. He is ready for committed relationship and provides validation for a woman who almost gave up on men.
I can speak about this since both my deceased husband as well as my ex were younger than me. My first husband was very mature for his age in fact a whole lot more mature than men my own age. My second husband was not nearly as mature as him at 49..
Neither one of them were looking for their Aunt Nellie !!
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