| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/17/2009 7:09:30 PM | Geezzzz...what are any of us looking for? Everyone has an idea of what they think their perfect mate would be like; I have a habit of contradicting my own vision of my perfect mate. I by no means think that there are perfect people in the world; I'm far from perfect my self.
If we truly knew what it was we were looking for, we probably wouldn't need a dating site to find him/her. We could go to the perfect for me isle at Soul Mates R Us, rather than the PoF catalog.
For most it's easier to see what we are not looking for, than to find what we are looking for. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/17/2009 7:16:35 PM | To continue with the generalization.....I do believe that women are looking for men who know what women are looking for....  | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/17/2009 7:38:08 PM | what am i looking for errrr
a man .... older than me so 19-28..... body NOT FUSED..... MUST have a personality.... distence am not botherd on... looks am not to botherd on, must be slighty attracted but am not in for all blk spiki hair toned body...... why have that and a poo personality its the personality that makes the person..... and in terms of height i would prefer a lad that is taller than me, but again height is just a figue | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/17/2009 11:14:30 PM | To answer your original question about reasons women dont respond to messages, I often don't respond myself - so I'll share my reasons with you in hopes this sheds some light.
#1 reason: I've had a couple of really bad experiences with men getting defensive and downright rude with me over what I intended as a polite response. Something along the lines of "Sorry, but I'm not looking for a long distance relationship" or maybe "Yes, the age difference is an issue for me" or "I dont feel we're a good match" etc. After getting a few bitter/hateful responses to those, I decided that was a waste of my time. We all get to choose how we spend our time here.
Some of the real reasons I have not responded to messages include:
- I'm talking to someone that has captured my interest, and dont like to split my interests.
- The message just seemed *weird*
- Way out of my age range or location
- Something on the profile didnt set well with me
- I got busy and forgot (lol) | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/18/2009 4:33:06 AM |
I can't speak for *all* women but I did go to your profile and read it.
I think you may get more of a response if you checked your spelling and grammer.
I really am not being critical here... I'm just trying to help.
Best of luck,
~Lady~
I totally agree! Add punctuation to that list... and I didn't even read your profile. Ur thread comment was enough. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/18/2009 5:48:38 AM | What are women really looking for?
~~~~~Ask Mel Gibson!! Then again, he clearly didnt know Mrs. Gibson didnt want him playing hide the hot dog with other women. 
Seriously though...
I cant speak for all women but many are looking for someone who compliments their life and she theirs, on various aspects. Lifestyle, intelligence, sexuality, interests, politics, spirituality, location to name a few. Sometimes you can determine from someone's profile that an essential element is not there for you . Other times, this may become evident through an exchange of emails or after a few phone calls. If you get past all that, and finally meet, the next hurdle is to assess if there is physical attraction and whether or not, the things they said about themselves through emails or phone calls were actually true.
There isnt any magic formula, it is a trial and error kind of thing. Patience, persistence, optimism and keeping an open mind are required. It's all about attitude.   | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/18/2009 6:54:09 AM | I have the exact same problem man. I'm not really sure what the deal is. I just decided that maybe I suck at life...  | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/18/2009 8:26:01 AM | This can't be answered as a generalized statement because everybody is different and searches for different things. For myself what I look for is that 'attraction' that attracts me...eyes, smile love pics of men with smiles...and if they have the look that I am attracted to then I read on....I look for HUMOR, intelligence and stability. I don't care where they live, what job they have or how much they make but as long as they are stable then it's all good.
And most importantly 'interests' ..... because this gives me a broader outlook of the person and lets me know if we could click or not.
So it's the WHOLE package. Those who don't list much won't get my attention. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/18/2009 11:57:07 AM | | Well each person is different, so it is hard to make general statements about what women want. First off women are not like men for the most part, I think that's why we like them so much sometimes. But at the same time, they are very similiar. They are here to meet someone just like us. The very attractive ones get asked out all the time, at the grocery store, the mall, the club, the gym, work, etc... So they are alittle more picky when online, and why shouldn't they be. Some guys are just not there type/ they aren't attracted to you. That can be because hair doesn't look the way they like, or the clothes you where are her style for guy, or even the way you present yourself. The best thing to do would be to have a girl that you trust to look at your profile and help you identify things that you could do to make yourself more attractive. I wish you the best of luck, and there is someone out there for you, as there is for me as well. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/18/2009 12:41:39 PM | Us women have the same problem with you men, so why don't you tells us women what you guys want first and then maybe we will spill what we want.lol | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/18/2009 1:14:15 PM | I think women are looking for
money, security, humor, looks, personality, confidence, and someone they have common interests with. I personally feel women on this website are window shopping. A lot of women are way too picky, and a lot of guys are way too picky. I believe people need to be more realistic.....     | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/18/2009 1:25:56 PM | Well, it isn't attractive that you are looking to hang out with women. Not date one wom A n
singular versus plural
GOT IT??? Date versus hang out???????? DUH!!!!! | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/18/2009 3:49:52 PM | | Well thank you for that observation so thats it?All this time i was wondering what it was....well guys theres the answer all you guys that havent been getting many responses on here grab your pens and number two pencils and lets get to dotting our i's and crossing our t's and our inboxes should be filled in no time lol for some reason~ Lady~ i really dont think that thats the reason and anyone whos going to judge me on that basis wouldnt(oops), would not be my type any way thats like judging someone because they abbreviated a text message to you instead of writing out the word.I dont think many of us have the time to type on here with our dictionaries by our side to make sure everything we write is in the proper text or grammatically correct.Unless the persons writing is not legible or what they write doesnt make any sense you should judge it by the content or whether or not theres any substance or some similarities not a few grammatical errors and trust me there are plenty of profiles with grammatical errors on here.Just because someone may write better doesnt mean that their a better or worse person besides i think thats getting off the main topic.Damn guess that means i blew it with the english majors. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/18/2009 5:02:13 PM | That is so true "Lady", there is nothing worse than a man's profile full of spelling mistakes............Sorry Men, but it is a real turn off!
What is a Turn on, is when you can see a man has taken some time in to writing up his profile, and makes it a little interesting and of course takes the time to ....Spell Check!
I personally don't even bother reading a mans profile if he does not have a decent picture or two clearly of himself, hiding behind dark sunglasses is Not the way to interest women!
Sweet Blessings! | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/18/2009 5:03:47 PM | | i was under the impression that *everyone* just wanted companionship and peace of mind. i could be wrong though. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/18/2009 5:11:27 PM |
Money - charisma - looks - a reciprocated interest - values... in that order.
Ahh, a man that almost knows women. We are really looking for a blind, deaf mute, with lots of money. Mute and money are tied for first place. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/18/2009 5:30:44 PM | Well, for me, and my house, for starters: someone who knows that a period at the end of a sentence is followed by a space. If this is too hard for a person to learn, I figure prolly most of life is gonna git by him, too.
Jus' me. . . .
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/18/2009 5:33:35 PM | that's easy! gals want meat, subsistence, and that x-factor.
that, and sex, drugs, and rock'n roll. :p
Doesn't anybody?
like question, like answer. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/18/2009 8:43:30 PM | Sibce I am 50 something I am looking for a guy who can support himself and can take me out every now and then.....I am not asking for much,I am already past my 30's where I was looking for a goodlooking chippandale dancer(yes,had one).
Differeent ages -different games,as simple as that!
I personally seem to have a problem of finding a man who is stable all the way around!
"Big wheels keep on turning"......everyone -you know what you are looking for.......patience ,patience | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/18/2009 8:56:05 PM | I wouldnt reject love ... it just hasnt been offered to me!!!
I keep running into men who dont want to commit-- or once they think they've got a chance with me, run the other way and dont put in any effort....
I want a nice man to be there for me, rub my feet, have sex with me, buy me things, and let me spoil him in return!
I want a man to share passions with -- like boating, or golfing or taking trips together-- mostly I just want a man for companionship and to share my bed when its cold at night!
Oh yeah.. and to ruby my aching feet! (darn said that, didnt I?) | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/18/2009 8:59:33 PM |
I wouldnt reject love ... it just hasnt been offered to me!!!
I keep running into men who dont want to commit-- or once they think they've got a chance with me, run the other way and dont put in any effort....
I want a nice man to be there for me, rub my feet, have sex with me, buy me things, and let me spoil him in return!
I want a man to share passions with -- like boating, or golfing or taking trips together-- mostly I just want a man for companionship and to share my bed when its cold at night!
Oh yeah.. and to ruby my aching feet! (darn said that, didnt I?)
Marry me...? hehe  | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/18/2009 11:03:37 PM |
Your fecking kidding me right?
Macy's has huge sausage 60% off?
You didn't know?
YEAH! It's a sausage fest at Macy's !
(lol, actually often very few guys in Macy's mens section) | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/19/2009 2:17:50 AM | | This is true. Some of us woman have been screwed over. I for one am looking for a man who is not into playing games and wants to spend time with me on a regular basis. I just want to date one man. Who is honest, kindhearted and a good family man. Not much to ask for is it ? To me it does not matter what you have or lack of in material things. It's who you are on the inside and how you treat me. I want to please my man as much as he wants to me. In all areas in the bedroom and out. I want someone fun, sense of humor, romantic . I am not into one night stands. And guys give us ladies a break it's scary out here dating and meeting you. We are always thinking is he going to be another jerk or sicko ??? I just want one good man I promise to keep you happy ! Where are you ??? | |
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