| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/19/2009 6:35:26 AM | | It is really trying to be one here for over a year and only receive 4 or 5 replies,the other replies were from women who said they were already in a relationship.Thats most likely a blow-off maneuver,who knows. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/19/2009 6:39:30 AM | | I know what you mean about the games,its bad on both sides of the dating scene or whatever the name for it is now.I want to commit to a relationship and shower here with all the attention and love she can stand.Not to go overboard or anything like that but I'm honest and a good family man,but no serious replies as of yet. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/19/2009 6:54:02 AM | It may be trying to experience such a let down, but think of it this way...how many times have you been flirty with someone at work/at a club only to find out they are already spoken for and unavailable? It's not just on POF that you'll experience this, it really happens just about anywhere. Yes it sucks, but the only way you'll ever find the right person is if you don't let it bother you and instead use it as a reason to try even harder.
Is it wrong to intentionally lead someone on if that person will never have a chance with you? Sure. In fact it's a terrible thing to do...but that's when the person who just got deceived needs to turn the other cheek, dust themselves off and try again. Every heartbreak/let down only makes us stronger, and more prepared for when that true love does come around.
Keep your head up. Instead of questioning what they want, BE what they want. Be confident, secure in yourself and most importantly: Be yourself. Your 'potential match' will respond much better to you if they know you're being yourself and not a sensationalized version of yourself. | |
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Eenk
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/19/2009 3:59:14 PM | | As much as they deny it, which you know is a sign that it's really true, women seek out drama. On a genetic level they are encoded to love drama and will do whatever they can to generate it where there previously was none. They may say they want a nice guy, but they all get wet when some douche treats them like shit, then they fall in love with him. Without something to complain about , women can not be happy. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/19/2009 4:12:38 PM | Men who can use both punctuation and their space bar.
k.. kidding aside. We want world domination and low-fat chocolate that tastes just like the real thing. Everything else is optional. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/19/2009 4:16:09 PM | After reading some random 3,467 profiles of men & women on POF it seems pretty clear no one really likes liars, cheaters, players, drama queens, azzholes, jerks and whatnot. 
We're all looking for the same things ( insert any positive adjective in the following spaces: ___, ____, _____, _____, _____, _____, ____, _____, ____, _____, _____, ____, ____, ____ ...) in different ways. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/19/2009 5:35:04 PM | Really and truly?
Well, there's a number of things:
1. Yes, financial security - to be set - comfortable - but not responsible.
2. Fantasitc sex every night
3. A really great, reliable, funny, good friend to relate to. And love, love completely. And be loved.
Now, if someone comes along and has only one of the above three, the girl might take it, on the grounds that this may be the only chance to get it. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/19/2009 9:22:05 PM |
All i see is read delete or read with no response and i wonder WHAT ARE THEY REALLY LOOKING FOR!?
It is frustrating isn't it. You find somebody who on paper seems like a great match and you can't even get a conversation going to explore it further. The answer is to check your expectations at the door. Online dating simply doesn't work. Or at least not often enough to say otherwise. Use the internet to supplement your efforts in the real world. Its easier in the real world b/c our energies and personalities can shine through. We're 3-dimensional beings but on sites like this we're reduced to a 2-dimensional photograph that captures but a split nanosecond of time. Plus I think many people are just scared. So scared that they spend their time trying to find flaws and reasons not to be interested instead of the opposite.
So if the answer is to rely on the real world the next question becomes the same question man has asked since the beginning of time. "Where are all the girls at?" We need like a Top 100 list of the best locations to meet women. I'll start and hopefully others will chip in...(especially the ladies)
- coed sports leagues
- community service/volunteering events
- restaurants (waitresses and bar tenders)
- bars and clubs (not the type I'm looking for though)
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/19/2009 10:45:58 PM | | Cause no matter what women say about not being shallow and how they don't need a mans money cause they are so independant, it's those factors in the end that prevail. Very amusing to hear when asked what is so great about the fantastic guy they are seeing, its never how great a soul or person he is, but its usually the fact that he has a boat or is a pilot or has millions of free traveler miles that they can use. As for being pessimistic and being accused of generalizing women, well when 99.5% of them fit that same mold, it's reality and not generalizing. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/19/2009 11:12:21 PM |
Cause no matter what women say about not being shallow and how they don't need a mans money cause they are so independant, it's those factors in the end that prevail. Very amusing to hear when asked what is so great about the fantastic guy they are seeing, its never how great a soul or person he is, but its usually the fact that he has a boat or is a pilot or has millions of free traveler miles that they can use. As for being pessimistic and being accused of generalizing women, well when 99.5% of them fit that same mold, it's reality and not generalizing.
Sad, but true :(((((( | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/19/2009 11:33:28 PM | -Girls don't like getting hurt.
-Girls want a challenge. not some guy that bends over backwards.
Girls look at guys as strong, safe, and someone that can make them feel strong/better in weak situations.
So if you have none of the above, or nothing that a girl could make her gf's jealous with. ie: ( looks, money, education, hobbies, charm, has a social life, can have fun, dance, connection)
Your odds are against you. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/20/2009 5:14:33 AM | Really...seriously, really!!
As for being pessimistic and being accused of generalizing women, well when 99.5% of them fit that same mold, it's reality and not generalizing.
I guess that means that 99.5% of guys are looking for a hooter's girl with a rich daddy.
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Get a grip man, if this is your attitude and perspective, you are not putting out any kind of vibe that would attract anything different. If guys are not getting what they think they deserve, they need to look at what kind of bait they are using to catch their fish. Bitter, self-absorbed, lazy chauvanists don't really deserve much better.
And we can spot them a kilometer away.... the TV converter permanently embedded in their hands, surrounded by pizza boxes and empty long necks are a dead give away. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/20/2009 7:18:18 AM | a man that will put my tools back where he found them!
I've been looking for my tape measure for 3 days now! | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/20/2009 6:04:19 PM | You know what it'd be easier for all of us just to quit searching for it, as they about trying to look for love and just live life to the fullest if you can. :) You never know when love will hit you in the full force.. lol... Honestly, this is how I'm about to test this theory if it really works... I've been disappointed in the past, no need for me to shed any more tears.
So if the answer is to rely on the real world the next question becomes the same question man has asked since the beginning of time. "Where are all the girls at?" We need like a Top 100 list of the best locations to meet women. I'll start and hopefully others will chip in...(especially the ladies)
- coed sports leagues
- community service/volunteering events
- restaurants (waitresses and bar tenders)
- bars and clubs (not the type I'm looking for though)
-church (You have no idea how many single women I have encountered in my church and past fellowships!)
-college (have you tried taking new courses like cooking)
-dancing lessons especially latin dancing!
-professional designation like Toastmaster International, Amnesty International
-speed dating/online dating would be your last resort... if it all fails..
- try www.meetup.com
I find family and friends are the best way to go but if you already exhausted that avenue try these steps.
Good luck OP...........
PS: I know what I want, and I have listed them on my profile... Just matter of finding me or him, or fate will ever get around getting my guy.. lol. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/21/2009 6:17:22 AM | The guys with MONEY, guys who are well off, guys who are rich, guys with the best paying jobs/careers, and guys with all the fancy toys that women want to be seen with and in!!!
Otherwise..............
all the "just average guys" would get all the dates and have all the women!!!
This is the FACT OF LIFE that no female wants to read, see, admit, acknowledge!!! | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/21/2009 6:55:59 AM | It may be true for some women that their only interested money and toys but were not all like that.
All you "just average guys" don’t get any dates because you don’t ask, don’t know how to treat a lady or your too busy complaining about the people that have more money and toys than you while you’re on your date. This is the FACT OF LIFE that no “average guy" wants to read, see, admit, and acknowledge!!!
What I want…Looking for a relationship, someone I think about when we are not together, a friend, a lover, a partner, someone that I have no fear in telling anything too, knowing with every ounce of me that they wont go and blab to the world everything I told them in confidence, someone that is there when I need them hell there when I don’t, makes me laugh sometimes so hard I cry, helps me cook or make a mess, that I get butterflies in my stomach, something so real, so stimulating | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/21/2009 8:19:54 AM | Speaking for myself only...
I want a somewhat attractive(at least to me), loving, friendly and affectionate man who says what he means and does what he says. A real MAN!!!
Which explains why I have given up and am now just here for the forums.
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/21/2009 4:42:33 PM | Well I am a woman and I just checked out your profile and I think it sounds good.. I know what I am looking for is a man who is honest, reliable and able to be a one woman man... (this is getting harder to find these days) A man that is close to my area is good to cause I am not wanting to leave southern Cailfornia... And I don't want men wasting my time with unkept dates... If you are not interested in the lady after chatting with her then be MAN enough to say so, or just DON'T make afirst date with her.. Okay thats my 2cents for what it's worth. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/21/2009 5:06:56 PM |
The guys with MONEY, guys who are well off, guys who are rich, guys with the best paying jobs/careers, and guys with all the fancy toys that women want to be seen with and in!!!
Why do so many guys think none of the women on this site are successful in their own right and are interested only in a man for financial gain?? It is truly sad to see how bitter and cynical these people have become. Is it because successful women dont put up pictures with their expensive toys or brag about their success in their profile that these guys think these women dont exist? Perhaps these ladies want to be with someone who wants them for who they are, not for the size of their paycheck.
Compatibility is very difficult to assess in 2 dimensions, but between the profile, the approach, an exchange of email, it is certainly easy enough to weed out the undesirables. If you make it past these initial hurdles and finally meet, then it is up to nature to take its course from there.
C'mon guys....not every woman is a gold digging, high maintainance, shopaholic b1tch that is out to make your life a living hell. Do the work, and find out who is for real, instead of letting your ego and****make bad decisions for you. | |
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varune
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Joined: 8/31/2008
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/21/2009 7:57:40 PM | | women are more attracted to'' jerk '', they experience expected failed R and they get addicted to ''jerk'' , somethin abnormal | |
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