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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/25/2009 5:29:03 AM | I to am dissapointed! Did'nt God build a brige to Hawaii because somebody asked him this same question? I think the answer is the same for both genders! If some lady would ask him the same question we could have 2 bridges! 
You cant pick your familey but you can pick your friends!  When cupid sticks that arrow into you all your wants and dont wants go down the tube! If somebody is intersted in somebody its great but if your not than just be honest! | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/25/2009 5:31:34 AM |
Especially when you have 50-something year old hags giving you a hard time as they are not attracted to you.
Point 1 - you either are attracted to people or you aren't. So even the most hideous of women will be attracted to some people and not others. Of course it may not do her any good if the ones she's attracted to aren't attracted to her. But that won't affect the attraction being there.
Point 2 - Why would you care if a "50-something year old hag" is attracted to you? If you don't find her attractive her opinion of you can't be of any importantce | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/25/2009 5:57:55 AM | I quess I am one othe the odd ones .I do not care about your boat ,house or the money ion the bank.I am only asking that you can support yourself and we can enjoy simple thing in life like going to a movie or out to dinner and have that not take your finances into bankrupty. At this age I am not willing to support a grown man financially-I am so burned out even hear about someone's money problems-trust me I had them and got out of them by working 2 fulltime jobs,nobody gave me anything!
I am just looking forward to finding a man who can take care of himself and the greatest bonus would be for him to open the doors and all tose little things that would make me fall in love faster.................this is the old school...... | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/25/2009 8:40:44 AM | all i have to say is that
it would be nice if you would respond to our emails
even if your not interested
maybe you should give people a chance
there more to us then the pic we put on here
but most of you want the barbie dolls
you dont even look past that and try to get to now us
you all say you want a nice loving woman
well when there right in front of you and you dont
even try to get to now us it your loss
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/25/2009 10:19:58 AM | I think what you actually are in need of is a profile review.
I'm sure you are a fine guy, but here's my impression: I would lose the part about not having expectations too high because then you're always let down, blah, blah....That combined with I don't know how many times you reiterate take it slow, friends first...see where it goes, blah, blah, blah....
(I'm paraphrasing of course...) It's good to be cautious, but it kind of kills the romance a little and makes you sound perhaps overly critical of others. I could be alone in thinking this...? ... But, I might feel like I was preparing for a preliminary interview when I was getting ready to meet you.
Spice it up a little here. You want the girl to feel special that you saw something in her profile that you liked, and that you are captivated by her, not that you expect that she will let you down. Also, if you're expectations aren't too high as you say, and you e-mailed her, should she be insulted? lol. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/25/2009 10:53:18 AM |
Point 1 - you either are attracted to people or you aren't. So even the most hideous of women will be attracted to some people and not others. Of course it may not do her any good if the ones she's attracted to aren't attracted to her. But that won't affect the attraction being there.
Yes, you are right on her being attracted to certan people, but then you have to be relaistic and take a look in the mirror and realize you're not likely going to get what you want. And the issue was not them not liking certain guys, but the fact that they look as they do yet they feel the need to insult perfectly good guys in the process byt saying they are inadequate for them.
Point 2 - Why would you care if a "50-something year old hag" is attracted to you? If you don't find her attractive her opinion of you can't be of any importantce I dont care if she or if a beauty is attracted to me. I care about her insulting me or any of the other guys she has insulted. And some guys are willing to get to know women that are not as attractive cause they figure they must have better personalities, but they don't. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/25/2009 11:27:31 AM | Ok, here's the lowdown. After much serious and careful consideration I've come to the conclusion that women, like Cyndi Lauper said:
Just want to have fun!  | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/25/2009 2:14:17 PM | Involve yourself in things you enjoy, activites, sports, clubs, hobbies. And you will find girls that would interest you.
figure out what you want, and you will find girls that already know what they want. Don't chase after girls that don't know what they want, if they like you. They will let you know early. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/25/2009 4:14:28 PM | All i can say is just be yourself.
I believe it all comes down to compatibility and I'm not saying you should join eharmony.
You can't make someone like you, its not how it works and if you force yourself you'll be unhappy.
Best of luck to you. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/28/2009 4:41:57 PM | Girls want:
* Someone who can profess, provide (and not necessarily financially), and protect.
* Someone who knows what he wants.
* Someone who says I am going and goes.
* Someone to be there for them even if they don't give a cuke about their conversation or their depression.....LOL | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/28/2009 8:05:21 PM | Hi there guys
If you haven't done online dating before or liked a woman in person and didn't get the answer you were hoping for sit down and listen please. For some men it's natural and easy to talk to or get a good response from the lady of ther choice, but for some it can be difficult and certainly a challenge. Now don't get me wrong here, i'm not a DonWan or a lady's man for that matter, so here it goes.
What you have to do is start with ["Yourself"] like take ["Good Care of Yourself"] like eat good healthy food, not Mcdonald's!, excercise regularly,get6 to 8hrs. of sleep each and every night for starters,that should take care of the physical part right?
Now get educated like read books, reading gives you alot of information for lifes challenges. Read books that has knowledge about life!, read Wellness books, they have alot of information, now don't get of track here ok? Also read books about psychology, they have tons of important information lifes stresses that everybody faces these days. Remember your have to ["Love"] yourself [First"] before a woman will love you because they can detect and likewise, that there is something wrong. You have to be happy with life and[" Staying in the Moment is Critical!"] Alot of it starts with self- image and good self -confidence, you also have to have ["Faith"] in yourself, believe it because it makes you stronger mentally & physically.Woman can read you and likewise you can do the same! I bet you the shirt off my back that when you do these few steps you'll start having better sucess with woman and secondly you'll be more confident, leaving the woman of your dreams just wanting you like never before! When you type a letter to a woman, make sure [" !Without a Doubt!"] that["! This Woman"!] is ["!The One!"] for you. It doesn't take a brain surgeon to know how to type a letter!
Before you type, go over her profile ["Very"] carefully and pick the things that you like about her and don't forget what you read now! I don't care what people say but physical attraction is important! You have to be turned on when you look at her. Remember , you have too spend the[" Rest of your "Life" with Her"!] When you type a letter to her, take a deep breathe and relax hey i didn't say sleep! Being yourself is upmost important here , but take["Your Time!"] saying things that she wants to here. Don't over do it because that would turn anybody off. Just be honest and frank about it. You know, life's all about ["Balance"] too much of one thing is not good. Rome wasn't built in a day you know! Look at the Leaning Tower of Pisa, it's still standing right now today! Patience i tell you.
Another critical point her, make sure your spelling is correct, capitalize the first word of each sentence, excercise proper grammer, if you don't have good grammer in your letter it won't["Sound"] right. Read ["Out Loud"]to yourself when you type so that you'll know that it is good or not, Remember proper spacing is important, just look at mine here and don't forget to cross your t's and dot your i's. This is what we learned in school.^ Okay, paragraghing your letter, eg.> leave 2 spaces in between paragraghs just like i'm doing right now, ok? don't make them too long though, remember too much of one thing is not good.
  What you have to do on a continual bases is [" Remind Yourself"] that your ["Worth It"!] You can do this because it is worked for me![" Practice Practice Practice"! and your dreams will be answered, i know this because [I'm Confident Now"!!!]     REMEMBER: you come first and formost!
All My Best To You Men!
Genuinly Yours
Bob H. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/29/2009 7:29:02 PM | What do I want?
Someone that can carry a conversation beyond their Exes and the lack of sex that they had with them...........
Someone that isn't secretly married.....hence no picture and they want to text you all the time.......duh
Someone that can carry on a conversation beyond the best game on game boy
Someone that has read more than a cereal box
Someone that doesn't use the word sex in every sentence
Someone that doesn't tell me how sensual they are.......guys this is a no brainer it is the kiss of death.
Someone that can look into my eyes and speak to me instead of talking to my chest
Someone that really has a job.......and not living in a travel trailer telling me what fun it would be if I moved in
Someone that is hgt and weight proportionate and not fibbing by 60lbs....I did notice
Actually we want the same things men want in a partner.....
At my age decent looking and well cared for is a plus.......along with someone that can talk to you and look into your eyes without turning totally around in a chair because they are lying.......yes I notice those things also.
Its simple us human beings make meeting and getting to know each other harder.
Our ego's get in the way and we step all over them.
I don't take it as a personal attack if someone doesn't like me........but as if I am not the right one for them. I let go and move on.
Both sexes have so much bitterness and disdain for each other that your missing the point.......human beings need to connect .......doesn't mean it will always work but sooner or later with enough trying we should get there.......never give up
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/30/2009 4:42:31 AM | So, basically if you find someone you are truly attracted too then be patient.Put her on your favorites list. See if she deletes you. If she doesn't, she is interested. JMO
You have to kidding. You're trying to tell someone to beg for your attention while you decide if you're attracted to him? If I want abuse, I can get it without having to go to that much effort.
This includes spelling, grammar, sentence structure,
That's why it's much better to have been setenteced to a federal minimum security facility than a supermax.
Are men trying to find a trophy to brag about or are men trying to find a lady with many good qualities? Can someone asnwer me?
You mean I have to choose one or the other?
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/30/2009 6:06:59 AM | | secretagentguy--all a woman has to do is look at the posts you've written and she'd run, not walk. i don't know why you are so incredibly bitter but --jeeeeeeeeze! | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/30/2009 6:47:15 AM | | Well. I have to tell ya. From what I'm reading in their profiles, that state that they live in Col. Ohio. And that say 'they love long walks on the the beach'. That tells me, that they are use to being dissapointed. And what they really are expecting is out of reach. They want you to solve their problems. And take them places. (Perferably on a Harley). Good luck. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/1/2009 8:13:31 AM | | There is not a possible way to say what all women want, but on a place like this you really have to market youreslf. Good pictures (need to work on that myself), short yet interesting information about yourself and you'll have to come up with something witty that will make sure you're remembered and not just another guy on here. Chin up though man there really are some incredible women on here and maybe just a little patience is needed. There's also a specific area on here to get feedback on your profile. A few little tweaks might really help out. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/1/2009 11:58:28 AM | I only know (or care) what *this* woman wants. And ya, it's a nice guy. But a *real* nice guy -- not these dudes who show up on the nice guy threads claiming that ALL all women want is gold plated sausages, etc. The faux nice guys are NOT nice: they're passive aggressive, and pretty boring to boot. They blame the so-called objects of their desires for their failure, which is evidently a good deal easier than looking in the mirror. Your average, healthy, sane female can smell them a mile away. So no, they're not gonna have much luck.
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/1/2009 12:11:36 PM |
... figured with all these women i should be able to at least talk to a handful of them maybe we'd be friends or maybe we just wont hit it off ....
OP: These words really stand out for me. What they suggest is that you write to a lot of women hoping some will answer. You do not focus on the few women who might really be compatible for you, but do a sort of scatter shot method of contacting women. I know I do, and I have read many posts by other women, of all ages, that we get mail from men whose mails sound like form letters. These are emails to which I do not respond. I respond to emails that make it clear the writer has read my profile, found true areas of common interest. It doesn't need to be a long mail to make it clear he is interested in me, not sending mails written in similar or exact terms to many other women.
My suggestion is that you think more about only approaching women with whom you would have a true connection. When I do searches, which is rarely, I find few men whom I would consider to be a possible true connection for me. I am not interested in putting out feelers to a large number of men who might in very, very general terms fit within the parameters of what I am looking for.
The point is that when you write to someone in general terms, someone who may fit within a very wide rage of what is possible for you, the mail you send is also very general and the woman senses it. Try being more personal. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/1/2009 1:46:40 PM | The percentage thing works according to an old buddy of mine. When we hit the clubs he would literally ask at least a hundred girls for a shag. He got slapped alot and laughed but sure enough he would score.
It has to be better than going through the process of actually reading a profile of only one or two and go through the whole composing a sonnet for each of them. Only to have it come back as UNREAD/DELETED! | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/1/2009 2:51:28 PM | | You seem an intelligent, attractive young man. But one lady said it best with her list. Sometimes we just don' t make the list. Keep trying. And answer me one: do you guys really think women like huge sausages? Have only heard less than 5 women in my life say they preferred well endowed men. Most women seem to be quite comfortable with the normal man-size. I think guys would be more secure if they knew most women want: Respect (Aretha said it best), your attention, affection (not to be equated with sex, at first), to be seen and treated as a woman but not as inferior. At least that is what I want and what I have heard from my friends all my life. We are no more complex than you are. You guys just want to believe we are so you can blame the female when things don't work out. (sometimes we are to blame, sometimes you are) And as for date-paying, I have paid as many times as I have been the recipient of. Not on the first date, generally the man demands to pay though I always leave the tip, but on subsequent dates, I at least offer and have treated men who have become my friends. Good luck, you will find the right girl, you have a lot of charisma. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/1/2009 5:16:41 PM | wtf!!!!!!!!! ~~ my guy sent a short three paragraph letter, in which he: managed a joke which made me laugh, suggested an item which seemed to be missing from my interests list, said I might find him eccentric, and hoped we could get to know each other better via email. He didn't have a picture up, but his profile indicated that he had some. I answered in pretty short form! (Guys that can make me laugh are pretty rare. . . .) And there began a tale of. . . .
Yeah, writing a whole three paragraph, personal, funny letter does seem to be beyond the capacity of the self proclaimed "nice guys."
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