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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/7/2009 5:37:00 AM | Here in Orlando the guys have come up with the real meaning of POF, which is
Phoney Orlando Females. That sizes it up. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/7/2009 2:12:26 PM | The problem with POF or any other dating sites, people are looking for the next best thing... They don't realize that average people like myself are often overlooked and can't even see with their wide eyes open that this person might have something to offer for. It's no wonder people are still single and picky.
I definetely know what I want with my life and the qualities that I want with my partner. I don't have an ideal list like most women do... But I do believe that you tried so hard to keep searching for that 'ideal' partner, you will never find it until you stop looking for it. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/7/2009 4:01:57 PM |
average people like myself are often overlooked and can't even see with their wide eyes open that this person might have something to offer for. It's no wonder people are still single and picky. .... I do believe that you tried so hard to keep searching for that 'ideal' partner, you will never find it until you stop looking for it.
People may think they're gods gift to the opposite sex since they're usually isolated on their home computers with delusions of grandeur. In reality what makes us special is the fact we have this time on earth to use or lose. Society is very materialistic and consumer driven. We feel entitled to all the junk we buy. Sooner or later people may realize that they can't go shop for another person in an online dating world as if they were buying a book off amazon.
Also i society, we have become very disposable and we often practice for divorce with the way we date people so much and have one night stands.
problem with POF or any other dating sites, people are looking for the next best thing
yeah, online dating is very stupid in my book. I can message a girl and just be one of a hundred, while at a bar if I approach someone I may be interested in I'll have their undivided attention usually without interruption from other guys. Plus I don't have to feel like the person online is trying to marry me right away. The girls in the bar also have more personality for me than those who would be online 24/7 anyways. I joined a meetup group where I actually go and talk to people and do things. POS needs some speed dating events or something extra besides just a database to mine to advertisers... | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/7/2009 4:10:49 PM |
they suggest is that you write to a lot of women hoping some will answer. You do not focus on the few women who might really be compatible for you, but do a sort of scatter shot method of contacting women.
Become a spammer? Firstly, I can't imagine why a woman who like to date a guy who messaged her online. Is he too shy to approach in real life? Secondly, spamming doesn't work when looking for a job, why would it be any better than when looking for someone you may end up having sex with?
If you want a job, you got to make connections and network most of the time. This site should be more about connections which may lead to dating with groups than with forums for vague topics. You can go to monster.com, find a job posting and write a resume specifically for that post and get a reply the same as if you did the same online there, however, there are probably x4 as many men as woman online and the response or even read rate is very low. So the point, figure out a place to go and meet people there. POS is all about hoping, not reality. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/7/2009 6:53:47 PM | If you want the right answer it is best to ask the right question. Instead of asking what men are looking for, like we're wondering the forest, you should be asking: "In what order are you considering a potential mates qualities?"
The answer will always start with looks, if they are being honest. I agree with your comment in that we should evaluate who they are before what they are, but this is not realistic. The best we can hope for is to be found attractive enough for the other person to want to find out who we are.
If I find a girl attractive enough in both regards I continue; and if not then another one bites the dust.
Correct me if I'm wrong. The answer to the question: "What are women really looking for?" is that, they want men to know whatever it is they want without having to tell them. Which, if I'm right, is unrealistic in the long run. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/23/2009 3:32:35 PM | | they are looking for some stupid guy to spend money on them in exchange for their time, walks in the park are out, blockbuster nites laughed at, unless you are willing to spend money with the chance of never seeing them again you are screwed. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/23/2009 6:00:09 PM | "American girls want everything in the world you can possibly imagine." Some Girls by the Rolling Stones
I think that perhaps you should make a list of what you want in a woman. Just like a shopping list you would make for the grocery store.
No one else should see your list, so be very honest with yourself. List qualities she cannot have also, such as ugly feet or bad housekeeping skills.
For instance you meet a beautiful girl with a tight body at church on Sunday. A couple weeks later she invites you over to her Aunties for dinner. She has so many qualities you admire and you start thinking this could be the ONE. When you arrive she introduces you to her three boys Rotton, Rude and Bad. They all have different daddies. They make it impossible for you to ignore them. You yell to her, "You didn't tell me you had children." She yells louder than the kids screaming, "You didn't ask. They are really good boys even when they're being bad." Then she takes off her shoes and asks you for a foot massage. Her gnarly toes, cracked heels, bunions and corns are just what you needed to see before eating.
Knowing what you are looking for makes it much easier to get exactly what you want. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/23/2009 11:55:49 PM | I can't speak for all women only me.
I'm looking for
~ an awesome hair day.
~ someone to wash the dishes.
~ my car keys.
~ my cell.
~ my cell charger.
Someone who gets it when I contradict myself. I want someone to not just love me but to like me for my thoughts and feelings. In the end, we'll be in depends and on the sidewalk with our scooters anyways, so who cares what I look like? I know...reality check. I just want something more than based on who's the cutest of all. That will fade and then what are we left with? Watching the grass grow?
Well if I can't have these, I'd just "settle" for some chocolate. Thanks.
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/24/2009 7:00:27 AM | | Women themselves don't even know what they are looking for so you'll have a hard time trying to get an answer to this question. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/24/2009 7:54:35 AM | Funny, this question keeps coming up with basically the same answers and still little to no progress? I'm pretty much in the dark just like the rest of the fellas, but not totally clueless. I've learned to look at it this way, could I meet her parents and hit it off well with them? Would they accept me and and my current life, social/career situation, family heritage , education level? What are my chances? If I feel like the answer would be no, then I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have a chance with her. So basically I would suppose that most woman are looking for someone they can introduce to friends and family and get a good review.  | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/24/2009 8:04:02 AM | Women themselves don't even know what they are looking for so you'll have a hard time trying to get an answer to this question.
Funny, this question keeps coming up with basically the same answers and still little to no progress? I'm pretty much in the dark just like the rest of the fellas, but not totally clueless.
Well, for what it's worth, my opinion: Women, just like men (go figure) are individuals. We don't all think alike; we don't all want the same things. If you stop thinking, when you are forming a relationship with a woman, that she is somehow another type of human being than you, or in some way another species, and just realize she is simply another human being, you will find things go easier. There really isn't anything, to be 'clueless' about regarding 'women,' as the concept of 'women' being a fixed entity simply doesn't exist. We are all indivdiual human beings. Focus on that, function from that point of view, and you will see a big change in your relationships.  | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/24/2009 8:20:33 AM | Well, for what it's worth, my opinion: Women, just like men (go figure) are individuals. We don't all think alike; we don't all want the same things. If you stop thinking, when you are forming a relationship with a woman, that she is somehow another type of human being than you, or in some way another species, and just realize she is simply another human being, you will find things go easier. There really isn't anything, to be 'clueless' about regarding 'women,' as the concept of 'women' being a fixed entity simply doesn't exist. We are all indivdiual human beings. Focus on that, function from that point of view, and you will see a big change in your relationships.
This is good advice, but I think most of us men feel like the woman we are attracted to are looking for something we can't provide. These days woman are accomplishing alot more and expecting alot more so it is not so easy to impress a woman like you could many years ago. Truth be told I think we all instinctively know what the opposite sex wants but are just hoping we won't have to go "overboard" to get it. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/24/2009 8:28:18 AM |
Truth be told I think we all instinctively know what the opposite sex wants but are just hoping we won't have to go "overboard" to get it. The 'opposite sex' isn't as opposite as people imagine: we are all human. We all want love, we want support, we want to be respected and valued. I don't think you have to go overboard to get what you want: what it' always been is what it still is--just be yourself and the woman who is the one for you will see it and hone in on you like a heat seeking missle (but in a good way, lol). Don't try to impress a woman; just be yourself. You are both good looking, apparently intelligent men. A friend of mine told me many years ago, when I was as young as you guys, just look for friends, compatibility. If someone is meant to be a boyfriend/girlfriend, it will happen without you having to do a huge song and dance about it. And she was right (and she's been happily married for over 30 years). | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/24/2009 8:38:58 AM | Well the forum has spoken. After 7 pages, the most consistent answer is....keys. There you have it men. All you need to know about women summed up for you in one word. Keys - that's what women are really looking for... followed by chocolate.
~dusts her hands off and walks away feeling smug having solved one of the most sought after mysteries in life... Hoffa next~ | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/24/2009 8:42:53 AM |
~dusts her hands off and walks away feeling smug having solved one of the most sought after mysteries in life~ Thank you. I'm so glad it's all over now.  (now I have to find where someone said something about keys....chocolate is obvious) | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/24/2009 8:46:40 AM | eski raises an interesting point.
These days woman are accomplishing alot more and expecting alot more so it is not so easy to impress a woman like you could many years ago
This is true...many women have their lives together, own their home, great job, goals in life....men who are interested in a relationship with a woman like this, need to consider what they bring to the table and be prepared to keep up with her. That doesnt mean you have to be CEO of Big Bucks Inc., but It might be useful to have a lifestyle that is more than living in sweats all weekend, ordering a pizza and downing a 12 pack Saturday night.
Men with an awareness of the world, have a social conscience and can accommodate her priorities for work, family and other commitments will fair better than their brothers who's whole life is planned around the televised baseball schedule.
Most of us arent looking to be impressed, just to be appreciated for the capable individuals we are, and to appreciate a man with similar aspirations. Just sayin. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/24/2009 4:36:13 PM |
Women, just like men (go figure) are individuals. We don't all think alike; we don't all want the same things.
And that is so very true. A lot of men talk about women as if they are all the same and all they need is a simple code book that allows them to unlock the mysteries of what women want. If they could just treat women as individuals, instead of assuming that the new girlfriend will want exactly what the old one did, they would get on much better | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/24/2009 7:26:45 PM | Who knows? LOL
Today I just want a lover...................tomorrow I'll want a relationship...................next day I'll want to be on my own. After all we are allowed to change our minds aren't we? 
Seriously though I was discussing this with a male POFer one night and he said sometimes he thinks he wants someone to be involved with and other times he likes being alone.
I agreed with him and it does make it confusing for everyone else out there.................cheers  | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/24/2009 7:30:29 PM | If you want a serious answer,
someone that can make me laugh
make me think
make me warm
make me smile
make me glad be spending time with them
and let me hopefully do exactly the same for them
I offer to pay half or all if need be; but don't make a fit if they want to pay, and I also don't throw a fit if they open a car door. Chivalry is sweet, not an insult. | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/24/2009 9:25:43 PM |
They're looking for some guy that travels. I don't know about other women as I rarely read their profiles. They are probably looking for someone who likes to do more than sit at home all the time and is interested in venturing farther afield than 25 miles from the front door, maybe even someone who wants to take a cruise sometime.
I am looking for a man who likes to travel and who does travel because I travel, all the time, on my own. I'd like to have a partner to travel with, with a backpack, all over the world, as I already do now on my own. It's a lifestyle choice, really. Some people do that, lots and lots of people don't.
To a lot of men, the idea seems to be in their minds when they read in a woman's profile that she likes to travel is that this lady wants to spend a lot of money on cruises and hotels. Maybe, or maybe not. What she doesn't want, most likely though, is an old fuddy duddy who wants to spend his life on the couch munching chips and watching TV.  | |
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| What are women really looking for?
Posted: 5/25/2009 6:04:59 PM | | NICE REALLY NICE " You want to spend less of my money" "You want to not complain about me wearing my dirty under wearmore than once" | |
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