| Girl doesn't want to be my friend anymore.
Posted: 11/7/2009 6:16:08 PM | Sorry to hear about her sick behavior Mike. She must have some serious psychological problems to do that to a friend. And to never even give you an
explanation is cruel.
You are so sweet in the way you treated her! It sounds like you two are opposites:
you are good and she is bad. I would love to have a nice friend like you. | |
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| Girl doesn't want to be my friend anymore.
Posted: 11/9/2009 1:28:36 AM | It's amazing how the human psyche works. If you know someone long enough, and share enough experiences, you leave an amazing impression behind. Not contacting that person and having zero communication pretty much makes their heart grow fonder for you. It's totally backwards, but true. At the same time, it's a total mind fvck and drama roller coaster.
Way to go Mike! | |
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| Girl doesn't want to be my friend anymore.
Posted: 11/11/2009 7:38:38 AM | Life is full of curses and blessings. In many cases we overlook the good things about our lives because we are wrapped up the emotion of the present situation. In your case, the curse is having been hurt by this person, and her making you feel worthless.... everyone needs companionship. Your blessing is that when you find that companion, it will not be someone like this girl.
Resist any temptation to be in contact with her. You cannot teach yourself how to be self confident, but you CAN act self-confident and your confidence will come when people respect you based on your actions. She has not been respecting you. Show her you are a man, and you won't be her stooge anymore. You'll feel better, and she will respect you along with all of us. | |
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| Girl doesn't want to be my friend anymore.
Posted: 11/11/2009 12:25:22 PM | I am feeling 1000x better now. All that steam that's been building up inside me has been let go after that final email I sent her. Thanks all! I've blocked her email address and downloaded an application on my cell phone to block her phone #.
-Mike- | |
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| Girl doesn't want to be my friend anymore.
Posted: 11/11/2009 2:44:53 PM | It never fails to amaze me how people can treat others so badly and think it is fine. Do parents not teach their children manners. These people who generate no common sense when it comes to treating people with respect and courtesy need a course in how to behave properly in a society that should expect, even demand mutual respect and understanding of feelings. I dislike people who mindlessly go through life do whatever without considering the consequences of their actions. What would it of taken for that silly mindless girl child to explain why it would be best not to have further contact. Would it of been so freaking hard. Look at it this way if your can .... it is her problem not yours ..... sleep knowing that there is nothing in the world that you did to deserve such bad behaviour.
Good luck my dear!!!! | |
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| Girl doesn't want to be my friend anymore.
Posted: 11/11/2009 3:12:19 PM | I agree. She's 39 and still lives with her parents and doesn't have a car...nor a drivers license for that matter... and lives about 35 miles away from me.. I used to make the commute 3 days per week to be with her... what a waste of gas...  but I'm over it now. I did let her know via email that we were never really friends and I'm not gonna be her personal taxi service anymore.
On another note, she dumped me two days after I took her out for her birthday and bought her dinner... which I believe I already mentioned somewhere in this thread.
-Mike- | |
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| Girl doesn't want to be my friend anymore.
Posted: 11/12/2009 7:56:13 AM | My God--she's 39, goes club-hopping and still lives with her parents. When's this chick gonna grow up, grow a pair, get a job, maybe a roommate, and get her own place? It got too serious too fast for her, and she freaked (and she is right to freak). Slow it down, Mike.
Count your blessings, Mike, that it ended there, before you two moved in together, and you REALLY started doling out the cash! You don't want to be a sugah-daddy to someone who lays on the couch all day sleeping and vegging to the tube and parties all night, on your dime. You'd get to resent her a lot more deeply.
You've got to accept some personal responsibility, Mike, for creating and enabling this monster. Don't put yourself out there so much next time-! Give a little, then wait to get. For just being "friends", you sure burnt a lot of gas and spent a lot of dough!
Don't meet the family until you two are crazy in love, having great sex, and she has demonstrated, through selfless acts of kindness and consideration toward you, that she gives as much as she takes-! Let HER make the drive or pay for a meal once in awhile! You have to admit that you moved things along way too fast...for just being "friends". She must've been one red-hot vixen. | |
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| Girl doesn't want to be my friend anymore.
Posted: 11/12/2009 10:01:36 AM |
Count your blessings, Mike, that it ended there, before you two moved in together, and you REALLY started doling out the cash! You don't want to be a sugah-daddy to someone who lays on the couch all day sleeping and vegging to the tube and parties all night, on your dime. You'd get to resent her a lot more deeply.
You've got to accept some personal responsibility, Mike, for creating and enabling this monster. Don't put yourself out there so much next time-! Give a little, then wait to get. For just being "friends", you sure burnt a lot of gas and spent a lot of dough!
She does at least have a full-time job working at the Federal Center (as a lab assistant) in Lakewood, CO. I did not spend a whole lot of money on her. I just offered to take her to dinner for her b-day. I took her to the Traildust Steakhouse in Denver. Normally we each paid for our own stuff when we went out. Like I mentioned before, we weren't really dating and it wasn't getting serious. It is possible to have a friend of the opposite sex without being boyfriend/girlfriend. It's just the fact that she dumped me when we were just friends makes the matter even worse....and now she wanted to be friends with me again. Now I believe she was just treating me like her personal taxi service and just using me to drive her around.
I go to clubs too.... no not to get drunk. I dont even drink anymore when I go out and neither did she. We just loved to dance and there's nothing wrong with that.
-Mike- | |
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