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I think it's only natural.. fight or flight response.. to be afraid of death itself.
However.. I came "to terms with death" at one point in my life already. I was very ill for a few years.. and there seemed to be no answer in site.. and I was dying. I decided.. to just let go. The answer to my self preservation came to me once I did. My doctors were all at a stand-still.. and my health detriorated more and more. It was becoming quite aggressive. I dosed myself on vitamins.. rather than allow doctors to give me continual blood transfusions. Well.. I'm still here.. so.. it must've worked.
I can see "coming to terms with death".. but not.. not fearing death itself. I fear the very end of the "not breathing" part of death. Been there.. and it was rather frightening.JMO | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 5:52:43 PM | I gave thought to my own death at one point in life..was I afraid or accepting nope I was getting ahead of myself. We all fear the unknown to some extent..its natural ( the fight or flight aspect). But death isnt something we can outrun or fightoff forever..we will lose at some point in time.
To me it isn't about the end of the journey but more about the journey itself and what I did and saw along the way. The lives I have touched and created say more about my time here in person. Those of us with children know that as long as our children and friends remember us we are never truly gone despite our death.
Do I fear death? No I will be saddened that this part of my journey will have ended and there were things still left to see and do. Heaven or Hell or somewhere inbetween..??? Hmm well I am not sure.. No matter where, I will know folks in whatever place I may end up. I may change my mind when the time draws nearer but for now this is how I feel about it. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 6:51:41 PM | youth died at 25
young adult died at 35
life, a catastrophe at 45
again at 55
how many times I died
don't really know
failed to count the days
all those that slipped away,
lives lost every single day
all along the way
and now the
death that is final,
so what's next | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 7:15:40 PM | i'm afraid for my children, for what would happen to them if i were to die today
that's my biggest fear, i want to live until they're grown and/or have families of their own
i also don't like the idea of the process of death and of it taking control - me not being able to do anything to stop it
but i do believe in heaven and believe that i'll be there, so i don't look on death itself as the end of everything, which is heartening... it's just the transition i'd sooner avoid :) | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 7:19:40 PM | I am a Christian. I know that my redeemer lives, and because He lives, I too shall live.
It's a promise.
My husband passed from this life to one where he is dancing with Jesus. His memorial was a celebration of life, both here and beyond the grave,.
I do not fear death. I am not crazy about the possibility of pain and suffering, but death itself I do not dread. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 7:47:59 PM | What a goofy thread.
Just ask anyone that has lost someone close, people at the end of their life don't fear death, they welcome it.
Like birth, death is merely a passage to the next life.
Heard words at a funeral I should like to pass on---
"love is eternal and life immortal and death,
death is simply an horizon,
and a horizon is nothing but the limit of our sight." | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 11:32:42 PM | Twice in my life I have been told to "get my affairs in order" due to medical issues ... Well, I'm still here :) I truly believe that dying is simply returning "home" and I look forward to that when its my time.
I have to agree with some posters here that I am not looking forward to some of the more painful methods of exiting ..... wanna go quietly in my sleep!  | |
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Posted: 4/23/2009 12:27:49 AM | i almost died once and was just worried about what i had left behind. coming back from the acute stage of lymes, taught me not to project. that is how i survived and how i found my diagnosis as well as my treatments. i remember times when i was so sick, i crawled. nobody really cared. i vowed when i got through it, i would revamp my life, my friends and my priorities. i actively decided not to be bitter about not being "served" and continued to "serve". the same for love. all you can do is offer love. if it comes round to you, you know what it takes and appreciate it.
if i had cancer on top of what i've aleady had, sure i'd be scared for awhile. when i was sick, i focused on getting my legalities in order. do you have people around for you? i went through this with a friend back east, when i was a vp of a teaching hospital. she was the kind who stuck her head in the sand. i was the kind who did the research and got her the best. almost fifteen years later, she's alive and kicking.
i suppose the worst part for me, having had kids later in life, is to even "consider" that i may not find the last love of my life. that is one place, i don't allow myself to go. i am fortunate to meet people and just made the decision to let my Higher Power orchestrate all that. i just seek balance in my life, social stuff, house stuff, service stuff, kid stuff, lone time and making new friends. being an extrovert, i don't do too much lone time very well.
about to go have two eye surgeries and will have to hide my face for several weeks. a times, i fear the worst, as this one is fixing what the last one damaged! don't know what scares me more, the surgery or the lone time! well, i do have a few friends who i trust enough to share the battered face with. so, although not "the one", i am happy for male and female friends in my life. not many, but ones who count and i'm working on expanding my social horizons. i force myself. quite frankly, i'd rather be snuggling but only with the right person.
so, i guess i'd like to postpone dying, if possilble, to be able to experience all that i have yet to know! hang in. one day at a time. if that doesn't work, one hour at a time. if that doesn't work, email someone and OP if that doesn't work, email me! i have a magic jack. i speak more to my long distance pof buddies, than i do to my family. we all keep each other together. the energy that comes from friends on pof is a gift, this time from heaven. so, there is one, just in case you are worrying. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2009 2:29:39 AM |
Just ask anyone that has lost someone close, people at the end of their life don't fear death, they welcome it. Unfortunately this isn't universally true. Some people may welcome death, others are terrified of it. I guess people are different and circumstances are different. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2009 4:44:42 PM | | Death, like taxes, we can't avoid. The sad thing about death, is it's not like a menu to where we can order "when, where, and how". It just happens. It's not death that I fear, but perhaps how I will die. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2009 4:57:31 PM | | I was five and my older brother was swimming in the lake. He knew how to swim and I didn't. His protection was to tell me to wear a big old life jacket. I stood on the swimming barge where my brother and his friends were yelling at one another from underneath. I jumped in but the jacket wouldn't let me go under the water and under the barge. I figured that all I had to do was take the jacket off. I climbed back up on the barge, shed the jacket and let myself back in the water by holding on to the ladder. I let loose of the ladder and then tried to hang on to the wood but it was slick and my grip came off and so did I. I floated away a few feet and I realized as I froze that I couldn't swim. I began sinking and as I went down I had a feeling of fear but I opened my eyes and looked up and I could see the sun through the green water. I kicked my feet and I surfaced briefly and then went back under. I saw the sunshine again and came back to the surface as a thought overtook me. I remembered that the rule was that people could not surface a third time without drowning. I sank again with the knowledge that I couldn't do much more. I opened my eyes and looked around and gave another kick. I am not sure what happened next but it was like a large hand gently lifted me back to the surface and the safety of the ladder. I never once yelled. I was too embarrassed, scared and ashamed. I suppose I would have accepted death over anyone knowing my failure. But, I was back to the ladder. I jumped up on the top of the barge and pulled the jacket back on immediately while feeling a shock run through my entire system. I then leaped from the barge and paddled back to shore. I have never told anyone about almost dying and being rescued until now. K. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2009 5:00:08 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^...............................
"What a goofy thread."
I don't think this is a goofy thread at all! I think.. it helps those of us that are soooo afraid of death.. a chance to let out some of our feelings of how.. just the thought of our own demise.. makes us truly feel.
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"Just ask anyone that has lost someone close, people at the end of their life don't fear death, they welcome it."
Not necessarily so. My late grandmother.. and both of my late parents were afraid to die.. even at the end. It's not good to generalize this way. Especially when those dying.. are afraid they still have so much left to accomplish.. so much left still to-do. My late father took his to-do list to the hospital with him.. and even added a few things. He never did get back to that to-do list. R.I.P. dad.
SOME.. people at the end.. or near the end of their lives.. will "make peace" or "come to terms with" death. Never.. all.
I think I'm one of those that's gonna resign to it.. all the way up until the end. Then.. it's gonna be kickin and screamin all the way!JMO | |
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Posted: 4/23/2009 11:52:35 PM | First off, there is no such thing as death. We simply exit this dimention and enter into a higher dimention. If we did not complete our divine purpose during this lifetime, then we must return to do so in another lifetime - pending all karma.
There is therefore NOTHING to fear about death. What we should fear is LIFE - our current surjourn upon this beautiful planet of ours, for what we sow is exactly what we would eventually reap...either in this lifetime or the next, hence the reason we should do unto others, what we would like others to do unto us and turn the other cheek when harm is done unto us...
This all has to do with the energies we generate with our thoughts, emotions and actions - they act like a boomarang - which comes back to us, often with interest... | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 12:26:53 AM | The Kingdom of Heaven is WITHIN us - as Jesus said. It is a state of consciousness termed...Christ Consciousness...the state of mind theat Jesus himself exibited when he walked the earth. The fundamental nature of this state of mind is UNCONDITIONAL LOVE for EVERYONE and everything.
In order to attain this state of mind one has to overcome the EGO which manifested itself as "GUARDIAN of PERSONALITY" imprinted with the twin impulses of Bonding/Rejection.
BONDING: To grab, clutch, buy, want, take, hold on to posessions and people in spite of opposition...to think only of one's self and disregard the feelings of others.
REJECTION: To push away, avoid, critisize, degenerate, hate, judge ect.
All of the above gives the illusion of privacy and security...SURVIVAL
When all of our actions are spiritually/love based, we then create the people, circumstances and events that enables us to experience Heaven on Earth, for our vibrational set-point would then be in harmony with Devine Consciousness - Christ Consciousness...THE WORD!
Prayer and Meditation is the way to purify one's mind of negative emotions, which lead to negative actions and experiences. Meditation is the process of relaxing the body and quieting the mind - stopping all thoughts - whereby we enter into a state of equilibrium and our thoughts and emotions are no longer seperated - they are in mutual restraint.
In this state, we can then make contact with Devine Consciousness and be guided to a higher understanding of whatever problem we might be experiencing, thus being enabled to make better choices, which would then uplift our lives and the lives of those around us, creating harmony, peace and joy in our life experience... | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 1:48:04 AM | I have thought about my death...
Something still ringing in my mind coming from another post I made weeks ago:
When a star is created, it lives and then dies. During it's life, due to it's enormous size, gravity and heat, it fuses the higher elements needed for life. When the star dies it spews it's contents at tremendous velocity throughout the univers. We come from the stars.
We are part of the universe. We are connected to it in every way; it is our home. The universe is good and so are we. Not only will we return to the dust of the earth, but we shall return, dispersed into the cosmos, as is expected.
When we return, or die, our lives are dispersed as well. All of our strivings, our fears, our shortcomings, our so called evil deeds we perpetrate on one another, are strewn across the celestial canvas, and forgotten; into the vastness of our origins. The universe, a place too big to own or control, to immense to fight against, will reabsorb it's sons and daughters, each and everyone equally.
Our own star, the sun, will one day expand to engulf this earth and consume it's contents. Our mortality not even realized anymore. Caught up in our stars death throws and last gasps, we are incinerated and blown away by solar wind; what remains, a smear on the canvas.
What is right, and what is wrong; pride, prejudice, what we used to survive, vanished beyond our sky. In the end, all will know, we did what we could.
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It's just too big for me to comprehend fully. We fear what's good and love what hurts. We will try and try again, to make sense of it all. The abused will abuse and we'll seek justice on our own kind. It's all good... it's just all good. The way it's supposed to be.
Yet after all is said and done...is it done? Maybe birth is death, and death is birth? | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 4:40:41 AM | | I am more afraid of wasting what time I have left than dropping dead. There is still some good I can do. I have decided that I will live my life instead of worrying about how long I have. It makes for a much more positive outlook on life. I once had a girlfriend that I was just crazy about, but she was always a little distant. After we went our separate ways, I found out not long after that she had died of leukemia. I had no clue. I guess she was trying to spare me the grief. She had told her sister "I have to live while I am still here." That's all we can do. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 12:14:36 PM | | You aren't ready to live till you are ready to die, guess that is true. Being a Christian and knowing I will one day see the face of the one that paid the price for me to be there in eternity makes it an adventure to look foward to. Now how you go, well, let's say that's the problem. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 7:13:27 PM |
I see death as a release I like this life - I don't want to be released from it | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 8:19:33 PM | | I don't fear death but I do fear the unknown. Like so many others I don't want to suffer, or be in pain..I hope it's quick. I've watched loved ones pass away and some went peaceful but then others suffered horribly. I've always tried to do the right things in my life..but I know I've also screwed up sometimes. It scares me to think what God will say, and what judgemrnt he will have for me. Then I sit back and wonder what I was even put on earth to do..but, guess there's a reason somewhere. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2009 5:26:42 AM | | I like the thought*in*spiration had. I sometimes think when I'm shaving or whatever that it is soooo cool. Here I am 14billion years after the first moments of creation. I and everything around me are made up of materials formed at that time and also due to the birth and death of at least two generations of stars. In that context maybe respecting ourselves and others is more an act of reverance for a truly astonishing event? I accept the fact of my death but am not alone in wishing for a lot more time to grow and realise all of my potentials | |
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Posted: 5/10/2009 6:00:54 AM | Entropic alliance entwined within an expanding
Universe, gives one pause upon this earth to feel
what it is to be human for a brief moment before
moving on to places far beyond the reach of time
and of thought, of family, of work, of love, of play
and of things important.
To grasp in words for a blink of an eye what is deep
within our hearts, to express it fully before we move
on along on our cosmic journey to a faraway land.
K. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2009 6:01:38 AM | Like someone else said - I don't fear death but do a fear a long drawn out and possibly very painful death.
Working in oncology wards and in hospitals for people with mental issues, and watching a younger brother die of bowel cancer left me very aware that death can be a pretty hideous affair.
I rarely think about death, but if I do I am more concerned about not doing the things I could do with the life I have, than in the fact that I am going to die someday. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2009 6:06:55 PM | | I wish I wasn't afraid to die. I hate this survival instinct. I go to bed lonely each night hoping I won't wake up. Then when I wake up in the morning I am happy to be alive, until bedtime when the loneliness comes again, and the cycle is complete. I think when the time comes and I face my death, assuming I see it coming and toward evening, I will just easily settle into my usual bedtime wish for it and count myself lucky. If it happens in the morning I would probably squawk about it loudly and at length. I can't see how all you people can be so content being alone, or why you would even want to be. Different strokes for different folks. | |
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