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Posted: 4/21/2009 9:14:52 PM | | What about a threesome with another male? dosent always have to be a women. | |
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Posted: 4/21/2009 9:16:34 PM | | What???? Can't understand what you are saying. Please check your spelling? | |
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Posted: 4/21/2009 9:25:07 PM | Notice that the people who are against a threesome are ones who haven't done it...kind of like people without kids giving parenting advice.
In a secure, mature relationship, sharing is safe. If you're afraid that you're lover is going to find a replacement for you, not only should you not do it, you should get rid of that person immediately anyway.
And, as someone who has enjoyed sharing a partner, I can proclaim that it has only intensified our feelings for one another. Among 'swingers', you will find confidence, openness and a true zest for everything in life!!! I say GO FOR IT! But first, TALK about it, and at length, with complete honesty to yourself and your partner. | |
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Posted: 4/21/2009 9:43:20 PM | First of all if you have an insecurity that he might want the other woman more then you, then DON'T DO IT. I am bisexual, I have had threesomes. Would I do this again, yes. Depends on whom you are with. If you have that thought in your head at all, you do not do it. This will cause more insecurities after the act is done and will eventually ruin your relationship..... Take it from someone with experience!!!!!
Janice Marie
"All opinions by Janice Marie are with said emotional issues that come along with the few bottles of medication taken for mental issues!! The Dr. requires her to get out at least once a day before she is restrained to her quarters! Please do not hold Janice responsible for any decisions you actually make!!!!!............. !!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 4/21/2009 9:45:18 PM | | that might work for some, but not all lol. Ive had a fantasy for years about being with my girlfriend and watching her enjoy another guy. (strange, i know. But ive always wanted to try it to see how it felt. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 1:05:04 AM | If in fact you are bi or bi curious that would make it easier to find a woman to join you two. Don't worry about him wanting her more then what he wants you. If he has even a little threesome experience with two women he will know that each requires equal time.
In all honesty a threesome or moresome will either enhance your relationship of it will destroy it. If you're in a relationship with good communications and you desire a threesome as something you both desire then you're on the correct track.
It's much better if the women are "into" each other as in being at least bi curious and there is no competition. There are those of us that have experienced much more then our fair share of threesomes for many many years......Gee, and we're still alive to enjoy many more.
If he is hedonistic and you and he together choose to "swing," you may be in a very long term situation. Most men do desire as well as prefer a hedonistic partner...provided they are secure with themselves sexually.
How to find a woman to join you? Simply ask! You may be surprised at the number of women that do enjoy an occasional threesome with a couple. Good luck, relax and enjoy the sexsational adventure. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 4:28:24 AM |
Notice that the people who are against a threesome are ones who haven't done it...kind of like people without kids giving parenting advice.
......and you know that how?!? :30 Perhaps they simply learned a lesson and are sharing from their experience! Hum! | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 4:37:53 AM | | Just be careful, you could suffer an injury during a threesome.. say an elbow in the eye for one.... I just hope yall aren't the clumbsy type... | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 5:38:30 AM | | Threesomes are only good if everyone is comfortable with it and the guards aren't looking. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 6:57:31 AM | I've had lots of threesomes-fmf, the trick is to find someone close to where u live but not exactly in the same town. Also u do the picking-dont let him pick and u wont feel as insecure. try to find someone thats ur age or closer to ur age. Before u do it-make sure its something u wanna do wit him.Invite more than one and make it a foursome-that way someone always has someone to pet and grope on-lol.
Always protect urself-ask for paper work-invest in condoms-and dental dams. Dont let these females sleep in the same bed as u and ur man-and try not to do it in ur home until ur really comfortable with the female. Have ur man have sex with u first-then let him do her. Also what i did in the past was we really didnt kiss the other girls like that-since it was more sexual than anything else it was straight to the point. If for any reason they stayed around longer than 3 months and we really and i stress WE then the kissing would start. Threesomes can be hella fun-and hella draining to the man. If He's doing it everynite like i was-ya may want him to take a multi vitamin and exercise as much as possible. I had to bulk up on my last run-lots of red meat-and water. The perfect scenario for u two would be to invite 2 extra women. You two have sex in front of them while they do whatever-then u all get it on | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 8:16:10 AM | threesomes can be a lot of work.... weather its MFM or FMF. they are best when spontaneous. planned ones are most always akward and empty. best bet is to hire a pro like a previous poster suggested.
but nothing ever good comes of it except "bragging rights" to say you did it. you will be hard pressed to find many people who maintain their "loving" relationship once they get into the "sexual experimentation" gig or join "the lifestyle" phase. you no longer plan dinners and outing for just you.. it becomes a "who can we hookup with this weekend" mindset.
roughly 50% of marriages end in divorce,,, what do you think the average is for people "in a relationship"
sex is awesome, group sex is more of the same, kinda like double chocolate cake.. chocolate cake is yummy therefore double chocolate cake must be yummier...
if you are leaning towards the threesome to explore your "bi-side" your better off doing that on your own. If your doing it for him because you want to prove you "still got it" and you don't want to lose him.. well you already lost him... its just a matter of time.
and lastly if your doing it because you "love each other and just want to make one anothers fantasies come true" be sure and post on this thread about 6 months after your first threesome and let us know how the relationship is going. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 8:34:14 AM | when you bring a third party into your bedroom You should try to think of them as nothing more then a toy!
You play with it, get pleasure, and when you are done you put it away and get on withyour life.
If you arent in a secure relationship filled with trust and respect then I dont think bringing in a third party would be a good idea.
You may not like the end result!
The idea of hiring a professional might be something for the two of you to consider | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 8:43:33 AM |
The idea of hiring a professional might be something
Hey! I'm professional.  | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 9:03:26 AM | Many years ago BC......Before Children...... I had some experience in this subject.
I would have two suggestions....first and foremost...You pick the girl, after all it is you that will need to be atttrcted to her, if you want to explore your bi curious side, If this is a fantisy of his he should not object to having you choose the partner. Most dance clubs, even country and western ones, are full of girls dancing with girls, and you can get a good feel for someones sexuality by the way they grove to the music. Your man and you can just "cut in " and start a conversation, couple of shots and a beer, well you get the idea.
Another good place to find a willing partner might be a gay/ lesbian bar on straight night. Usually if they have a drag queen night, it is considered "straight" night. or a regular club that has "drag" shows. Just remember that large adams apples usually means that "she" is also packing a sack of "nuts"!!
Good luck, and remember....its all about you...he is just lucky to have an open minded partner! | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 9:09:57 AM | i would be extremely lucky if i had a twosome let alone a threesome(me and two females) | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 9:22:45 AM |
Notice that the people who are against a threesome are ones who haven't done it...kind of like people without kids giving parenting advice.
Oddly enough, I've never put my hand in a fire either, but I can offer advice against doing it....
And people without kids, often go on to have kids and raise them.... No one has any experience being a parent before they are....
In a secure, mature relationship, sharing is safe Really?
Is that "safe" as in the mythical "safe sex"? I wouldn't trust a condom to protect me... I'd want any partners in a 3some to have been tested 3 months after their last partner and have papers saying they're STD free... If the other person has an STD, you CAN get an STD even if you use condoms properly. It's just a reduced risk. You CANNOT get an STD if the other person doesn't have one condom or no condom.
Or is that safe as in they won't go off with the other partner? Hmmm, I know someone very dear to me, who's husband left her for the other woman... so much for safe sharing...
Among 'swingers', you will find confidence, openness and a true zest for everything in life!!!
Funny, the few swingers I have known have been bickering, cheating, std's and divorce... none of them have stayed together... On the other hand, one is now living in Brazil... but that's because AIDs is less of a stigma there and the treatments are free. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 9:53:24 AM | | Realize rule number one of threesomes. When you get a third party, YOU can become the third party. | |
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Posted: 4/25/2009 9:18:19 PM | Like I said. If you are worried about it to begin with then do not do it at all. The fact that you have that worry says it all. It says that you are not secure enough in your relationship to do this in any way. Do not try to do things just to please your man if they end up making you uncomfortable or insecure in any way. If you already think there is trouble because he is 28 and you are 41 maybe you should be doing some real soul searching to figure out if this is the best relationship you should be in...........
Happy 
"Janice Marie is and unlicensed, bipolar schizophrenic, psychotherapist; trapped, like most of us, in Reno, NV. She knows where she wants to go and how to get there, but fears she won't make it because of her fu%ked up head. All opinions by Janice Marie are with said emotional issues that come along with the few bottles of medication taken for mental issues!! The Dr. requires her to get out at least once a day before she is restrained to her quarters! Please do not hold Janice responsible for any decisions you actually make!!!!! Tune to openlybi775's profile for more of her freaky babbles!!!!!"
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Posted: 4/26/2009 6:27:00 AM | devonshiremaid,
Have you ever thought that your lover is manipulating you into fulfilling his fantasies at the expense of your integrity? Think about it. Men are expert manipulators.
Don't fulfil his girl-girl fetishes just because he asks you too. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2009 7:37:58 AM |
Trouble is ..he is 28 and I am 41. How do I find a women I would like to have sex without him wanting her more than me...how do I ask a women on here if she would be willing to join us??
If you are already having thoughts about that, DO NOT DO IT! You are opening upo a can of worms and your insecurities will only get worse afterwards. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2009 12:13:36 AM | Normal women with sustem of values ans some moral standards do not do it.
Women who can spell do.....
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Posted: 4/27/2009 6:38:56 AM | i did the 3way thing years ago...had fun when i did it but nothing to stand up & applaud for...the man i'm with now has never had the experience & really wants to try it...rather reluctantly i have agreed to it if the opportunity arises...
being older now sex has changed for me...it is not a bartering chip or something to do when i'm bored or f*&ked up...it is communication between two people who care about each other...one more way to express the depth of my feelings...
unfortunately women f*&k with their hearts & men f*&k with their d!&ks...one of the great cosmic jokes | |
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Posted: 4/27/2009 6:57:25 AM | When you've begun with this, in your youth:
i did the 3way thing years ago...had fun when i did it but nothing to stand up & applaud for...
being older now sex has changed for me...it is not . . . something to do when i'm bored or f*&ked up...it is communication between two people who care about each other...one more way to express the depth of my feelings...
then, in my opinion, you're still kinda "f*cked up" to assert this:
unfortunately women f*&k with their hearts & men f*&k with their d!&ks...one of the great cosmic jokes
All (or almost all) humans learn from experience, even men! You've done your threesomes, and know what you get from it- your guy hasn't, and doesn't. Has nuthin' to do with gender. imho | |
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Posted: 4/28/2009 4:13:19 PM | | Nothing fascinating about cum swapping. Don't even entertain the thought. | |
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