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| Men wanting women only and not other men
Posted: 5/2/2009 7:51:22 AM | these days anything goes ..we want to enjoy the best of both worlds ..just for fun !!!!!
life is too short ...so live it up...drink it down..and laught it off .. | |
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| Men wanting women only and not other men
Posted: 5/2/2009 9:03:34 AM | Alcohol doesn't CREATE desire for sex it release's it. The desire was already there. The fact is we are all human and sex is hardwired into our brains. I have dated many a bisexual men and Homosexual men who were toying with the idea of being with a female. It has been said that the male G-spot is his prostate. I believe that as society becomes more open minded we feel more free to explore our sexual side. We feel we can explore the taboo and what is considered wrong. There is a piece in all of us that is curious about what is forbidden to us. (not necessarily homo erotic). I believe that you are attracted to these men because they have a certain quality that you find appealing. It is up to you to look within yourself and find what that is.
I believe that as we become more comfortable with ourselves and each other that we will explore these area's of sex in all sorts of different ways to further our growth and understanding of individuality and where that fits in a society. | |
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| Men wanting women only and not other men
Posted: 5/2/2009 12:06:45 PM | Amazing how some people can only read certain posts and not them all...again, the act is disgusting, not the person. The act is disgusting to me as in I do not wish to watch etc. I certainly know the definition of homophobic and am certain that there are people that want to claim those that find screwing men up the butt gross as being homophobic; however, that isn't the definition. Please check your dictionaries. You will find that I also find screwing a woman up the butt gross, obviously if a man is screwing a woman in that manner, it isn't considered a homosexual act. I consider certain acts gross. I consider some people pretty ignorant.
Having worked in the modeling field I have been around all sexual preferences and partied with different people. I have enjoyed many different people and have had many different friends from different countries as well as life styles.
What they do behind closed doors with a consenting adult is their business. Unless it is my love with someone else, I could care less what they do. I don't need to hear about it or see it. A mature adult doesn't feel the need to brag about what acts they have or haven't done. My friends have always respected me and I them. Of course we are all older and some have more refined tastes and some aren't as wild as they were. But they are the same people, just more mature and have more knowledge. That is what makes them who they are, and that is what makes me who I am.
The OP is old enough at this age to know where she is at and what she wants. She has just had enough of those that don't just like it straight. There are men that are just straight as there women this way too.
I think some people are afraid of those who know they don't need kink, toys, same sex, etc., some people like to project their own fears or prejudices on those that don't judge. It may also be a lack of maturity. It may be they don't know themselves. I know who I am and you can call me black, you can call me a man, you can call me a teen, etc., but it won't make those things true. | |
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| Men wanting women only and not other men
Posted: 5/2/2009 12:39:03 PM | | There definitely are men that only want women. I'm one of them. Please tell your nephew that he and his buddies can stop marching for gay rights because he's screwing things for all of them with that tired line. Making decisions about what other people want based on your wants is called narcissism. You might take a look at your own radar, as you seem to gravitate to a certain type of man. | |
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| Men wanting women only and not other men
Posted: 5/2/2009 12:41:11 PM | I absolutely LOVE sex and surely hope to goodness that the next man I'm in a sexual relationship would tell me first and or I'm smart enough to figure it out for myself before it got that far.
I want them to be totally into me and my body at that time, not thinking of another guy , want the hard d5ck to be because of me.
To each their own but I ,for one cannot stand the thought of 2 men together and it's revolting just like same sex marriage. Marriage is between a male and female not same sex and it's a contract not a marrriage.
My question is, why do men find it such a thrill and turn on to see 2 women together? They say it's every mans fantasy but I can tell you one thing, I like kinky but seeing 2 men together has never been one of mine. | |
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| Men wanting women only and not other men
Posted: 5/4/2009 5:07:28 PM | | its actually really fascinating how much some women like bi men. I don't think its as high as men liking bi women but it is a higher number than you think. its not excepted for people 2 like to watch gay and bi sex. so the people that like it are silenced | |
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| Men wanting women only and not other men
Posted: 5/15/2009 7:50:56 PM | | Wow kazuoy a beautiful japanese girl who likes boy on boy love. You rock. Atleast we have one or two women on this forum who arent on the homophobic sheep band wagon. | |
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| Men wanting women only and not other men
Posted: 5/15/2009 8:50:40 PM | Becky...has it occurred to you that our aversion to watching two men go at it has nothing to do with any kind of phobia but rather a natural physiological response?
You know, I'm a very open minded person. I've learned a lot about gayness, pansexuality, bisexuality, transgender, transexual, ambiguously gendered people...you name it. I think it's all very cool and interesting. I don't judge them...I believe that they are being authentically themselves and doing what they do because that is what they are predisposed to do.
BUT...I am sick and tired of being labelled as some kind of homophobic person just because I get a natural "ewww factor" happen when I see two men go at it. Is it cultural influrnce? I doubt it. Is it some mindset I have? Not at all..I could care less if they love their own sex.
But I do know that I feel repulsed when I watch it. That does not make me homophobic. I can't tell my body to feel attracted to something I do not. I also can't tell it to be okay with something it obviously doesn't find attractive.
Calling anyone who has a revulsion factor with homosexuality homophobic is just as ignorant as calling all gays open minded.
Give me a break! | |
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| Men wanting women only and not other men
Posted: 5/15/2009 10:09:37 PM | Sorry I feel sick when I see violence encouraged in mainstream media. I feel sick when I hear about women having abortions like its going out of style. I feel sick and say eww when I see war photos from other countries. But for 20-40 yr old supposedly liberal women to use terms such as "yuck" "gross" or "sickening" when it comes to topics regarding man on man sex is immature. A simple no its not my cup of tea will do, but comments like "the idea of gay male sex makes me vomit is tacky and distasteful." I hear these kind of comments all the times on these kinds of forums and nobody says anything.
Yeah Ill throw a pity party for you Im sure your tired of discrimantion as a heterosexual. Yup you suffer so much.
Negativity breeds NEGATIVE. Hate breeds hate. Yeah stereotype is somewhat natural and ingrained, but the selective homophobia on this forum is just quite ironic. | |
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| Men wanting women only and not other men
Posted: 5/15/2009 10:16:09 PM | | OP, What would it matter if he ever had thoughts of another man? Seriously, would you think about him having anal sex while he's on top of you? If you do then you've got even more problems than I thought you had. | |
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| Men wanting women only and not other men
Posted: 5/15/2009 10:21:53 PM | So I guess in the past when men were revulsed by women and said they were beneath livestock was not learned behavior that stems from a superiority complex?
I guess its also not social conditioning when a white person sleeping with a bathroom was tantamount to bestiality?
So its not media programming and social conditioning that says its okay for two women to be affectionate in public and kiss and hold hands, but not men? There was even a case where two brothers were holding each other up during a night of drinking and while walking home they were attacked by a group of men and called anti-gay slurs and one of the brothers was murdered. The fact that people are more okay with men beating the shit out of one another, but two brothers simply holding each other up after a night of drinking being mistaking is perceived a horrible abomination?
You have frickin middle school gay and bisexual boys hanging themselves and throwing themselves in front of trains for god sakes because people taunted their oriernation. | |
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| Men wanting women only and not other men
Posted: 5/15/2009 10:30:05 PM | If it werent media conditioning and programming then why isnt every body aversed to it then? On a forum of teens similar questions on male kiss/male bisexuality were asked to a group of girls roughly 13-16 years of age if they'd ever date a man who swings both ways, many said yes and those that said no, left it as no and not "ick eww gross icky." The fact that 13-16 year old girls can say whether or not they'd date a man thats bi without saying gross, compared to so called 20-40 broads on this forum speaks volumes.
Yaoi is quite popular amongst Japanese females. Furthermore, Men in the Middle East kiss each other on the lips and boys in Sub-Saharan Africa hold hands commonly as a sign of friendship.
And a sign of repulsion or adversion could actually be hiding something deeper. Many men who find it repulsive and vile to see men kiss are many times closet cases.
If your so revulsed by man on man action dont look at it sweety, its not shoved down your throat like lesbianism is in the media. I dont like violence, so I dont watch violent films simple. I dont like abortion so I stay away from pro abortion sites. Simple.
So finding a revulsion to man on man kissing, but tolerating and enjoying lesbian kisses justify the vicious hate crimes against gay and bi males? Ever since this faux lesbian fad emerged in popular media has occurred suicide rates and hate crimes against gay bi males have risen? Hmm a correlation maybe I wonder...Double standards are not cool.
Um no you give me a break | |
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| Men wanting women only and not other men
Posted: 5/15/2009 10:41:42 PM | Whoops I mean white person sleeping with a black person* was once tantamount to bestiality.
Reminds of a guy who stopped dating me because Im 1/4 black lol yeah and racism, homophobia, sexism arent learned behavior Righhhtttt ::sarcasm:: | |
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| Men wanting women only and not other men
Posted: 5/15/2009 10:50:01 PM | | I still don't get why a man being, essentially, bi-sexual is a deal breaker. If your "stuff" isn't good enough to keep him then it wouldn't matter if he were into guys and girls or not. You suck as a person. | |
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| Men wanting women only and not other men
Posted: 5/15/2009 11:01:06 PM | I seriously dont understand it either. Many of the bisexual men I've met are some of the most attractive, intelligent, respectful men I've ever come across. It seems as if the ugliest girl can say shes bi and can be considered hot in an instant, but if a good looking man said the same thing that would be a turn off. Many of the women here have even said if a man had one gay thought that would be the end of the relationship. This is supposed to be a progressive society... Women definitley have a right to choose whether they'd date a man that was bi or not, but you'd expect a bi woman to be more acceptable and understanding towards a bi man, but that's not the case at all...
A very confident straight man brought up this hypocrisy on another forum. The same women that have same sex experiences in college or presently are the same women who judge a man and dismiss him from their dating pool if he's had a past same sex encounter. Hypocrites I tell you. He presents a solid arguement though.
http://www.city-data.com/forum/relationships/337329-why-women-so-bi-phobic.html | |
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| Men wanting women only and not other men
Posted: 5/16/2009 6:59:56 AM | Personally I don't find men wearing makeup or having feminine characteristics attractive. Everyone has preferences. I prefer the stereotypical alpha man that works out at the gym, has that 5 o'clock shadow, prefers lace panties on me...or the floor... There is no confusion walking into a room who the woman is and who the man is.
I love the man that is attracted to just me, it doesn't take work or effort if he is into you. To me if you have to work that hard at keeping someone attracted to you, it isn't meant to be. If I'm turned off by feminine characteristics, no use trying to have a relationship. I am not going to change anyone.
Straight men are out there. Good men are hard to find and a hard man is good to find (body builder reference). | |
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| Men wanting women only and not other men
Posted: 5/16/2009 8:00:09 AM | I personally can't stand these women who use their sexuality as a marketing ploy. There's a fakeness to it that reminds me of prostitution. It's like prostitutes who do it just for the money or other rewards.
Same with female bisexuality. If it's part of a marketing ploy, it's gross. It cheapens it completely. | |
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| Men wanting women only and not other men
Posted: 5/16/2009 8:57:14 AM | well, I've had many gay friends and have always been very gay-friendly, totally support gay marriage, etc. --- but have never felt the least bit of interest in swinging from the other side of the plate.
I just find women so much more appealing: their bodies, faces, hair, voices, body language, smells, touch...the entire package is simply ALL THERE. What in the hell am I going to do with a person who's got the same genitalia as mine, the same facial hair and butt hair? The thought of kissing another man especially grosses me out: I'm embarrassed to admit that when I watched "Brokeback Mountain" I kept looking away during the makeout scenes---even though I'll freely admit that it was a top-notch film in all other respects, totally deserved all the awards it won.
So it's not a JUDGEMENT or a PREJUDICE really, just a question of very strong personal PREFERENCES/TASTES, which I know is completely subjective and absurd. I don't think of homosexuality as a "sin" or abomination, I just have a visceral "ew!" gut reaction to the thought of doing it myself.
Kind of like how some people feel about a particular food that they can't stand. I guess my reaction to two guys going at it is similar to how some people react to chopped liver or raw fish (sushi).
On the other hand, I've always had a thing for strong, tomboyish women ... not totally androgynous, but short hair, lean muscular bodies, a certain confident and spunky quality. Demi Moore in "GI Jane" is one of my all-time faves, and Sinead O'Connor back when she was bald and ripping up pics of the pope on national TV, lol. So I end up falling for lesbians quite often, because my gay-dar only works on men! Freud would probably say that I'm "sublimating" my innate bisexuality, lol ... but I do like the more traditionally feminine type of women too...it's ALL good, on THAT side of the plate!  | |
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