| What do you honestly hate about
Posted: 4/23/2009 7:38:30 AM | I can't say I 'hate' things about a relationship--if that was the case, I'd leave if it was a big enough thing. However, there are some things that would be annoying:
1. Constant references to the ex(es)
2. Jealousy/lack of trust
3. Not putting the toilet seat back down :)
4. Smothering me/being clingy
5. a 2-minute man (yep it's happened)
6. not showing me enough attention (another thread) actually, I left that one
7. Expects me to share in his hobbies/interests, but wants nothing to do with mine
Dang, I'm going to be single forever. | |
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| What do you honestly hate about
Posted: 4/23/2009 11:18:30 AM | | What do I hate about relationships? - The fact that you have to be in one with someone else. When people ask if you're married, can't you simply say, "I'm in a very serious relationship with myself, currently?" | |
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| What do you honestly hate about
Posted: 4/23/2009 11:26:49 AM | I don't hate anything about relationships...if something is off or wrong...you can fix it.
If you can't fix it...you get out of it.
If you're in something that you hate...wouldn't you get out?
I don't really hate anything anyways... | |
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| What do you honestly hate about
Posted: 4/23/2009 12:01:02 PM |
what do you honestly hate about a relationship?
I don't hate anything about relationships. I do, however, hate people - certain types of people that is, and it's not really hate, but rather dislike of certain attitude of theirs. For example, i dislike impulsive people, but like spontaneous people.
To hate something about a relationship is like to hate something about a unicorn. | |
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| What do you honestly hate about
Posted: 4/23/2009 12:30:17 PM | Yep that about covers most of it....
I hate the wasted time it takes to sort thru all the wrongs looking for the perfect right. You can never get it back. | |
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| What do you honestly hate about
Posted: 4/23/2009 12:33:12 PM | I would not say "hate" per se but some of the downsides:
- compromise ...compromise... compromise
- sayin "buh bye" to being freely self indulgent
- not being able to stretch out in my king size bed w/ undisturbed sleep
- the inevitable.. " wtf did you mean by that?" arguments
- petty annoyances ...endlless list
- having to watch TV shows you have zero interest in
- dealing with his friends that you don't like
- picking up after someone besides myself
- sharing sharing sharing...
- Oh and did I mention the constant compromising?
The upshot tho is that the great aspects of being with another person who you really are into outweighs the negative aspects.... | |
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Posted: 4/23/2009 12:35:32 PM | What I love about new relationships is that feeling of discovery. You never know what's around the next bend and getting to know someone is exciting.
Instead of focussing on the negative, why not start with what you like? That could be one reason why some are single on here. Smile, and stop being such downers. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2009 12:57:51 PM | What do I hate about relationships???????
Simple.... it would be everyone that says relationships are hard work.... I have been in true deep love with ONE person in my entire life. We didn't always like each others actions but one thing it was not.... it was NEVER hard to love her. It just happened all on its own. I didn't have to work at it, I didn't have to do anything, Shoot i didn't even want it to happen.
It was just one of those one day WHAM HOLY SHYT kind of moments.
From that day forth nothing was work, nothing was hard, I knew instantly everything she wanted even though i didn't kiss her ass and she would mention things to which i responded YEAH RIGHT!...laughing....
Dream on alice you will get to wonder land....
I love every moment of being in a relationship provided it is a healthy relationship that i didn't have to constantly justify my actions, tip toe around the things i would say, or alter who I am just to please another.
Some say comprimise is a must but for me at least comprimising what butter to eat, or which gas to put in the car, or something basic is fine but I would never consider comprimising on anything that makes me ME.
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Come to think of it there is not much i do hate about relationships... I am a relationship kinda guy. I don't do casual flings, I don't participate in meat market type events. I am one of those all or nothing kinda guys... someone dives in, bets all her cookies, puts in 100% of her and i do the same.
I have no patience for those that like to dip their toes in to test the waters temp, wish to take a nibble to ensure im sweet enough to eat, or spreads herself out to multiple guys each one only getting a slice of her efforts.
Yup those are the parts i would consider that i strongly dislike.
I am odd out of the ordinary. I know this about myself. I also don't plan on changing it about myself. Since it works for me. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2009 1:58:23 PM | | We're an aweful lot alike DREAMS, but I do believe in compromise. My marriage to my second wife was just like you described...didn't have to work at it..the love was just there. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2009 2:11:17 PM | I have a queen size pillow top bed with like 7 pillows, when I'm single I sleep on it any angle I want...When I'm in a relationship I have to share it and listen to the guy snore.
When I'm single I can lay around all day and not shower, but the minute a friend calls to do something I can jump up and take a shower and out the door (if I don't have my child that day) ....When I'm in a relationship and that person is at my house I have to be cordial to their wants at the moment.
When I'm single I can flirt with anyone I want...When I'm in a relationship I have to tone it down. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2009 5:39:44 PM |
I have a queen size pillow top bed with like 7 pillows, when I'm single I sleep on it any angle I want...When I'm in a relationship I have to share it and listen to the guy snore.
Just nudge me or let me have the other side of the bed next time...LMAO...just kidding sorry couldnt resist.
When I'm single I can lay around all day and not shower, but the minute a friend calls to do something I can jump up and take a shower and out the door (if I don't have my child that day) ....When I'm in a relationship and that person is at my house I have to be cordial to their wants at the moment.
When I'm single I can flirt with anyone I want...When I'm in a relationship I have to tone it down.
Yeah I can totally relate to that but when that happens for me I don't see that as a problem since i would already have someone to do something with thus why she would be there ....so if a friend called while she was their it would be a come with kinda thing or a sorry friend im spending time with my lady .....
Since most of my friends are women.... come to think of it all of my friends are women but none of the activities are one on one type of things so it would be come join the group kinda activities.
So how can that be a trouble unless for you and your group of friends they are allway a life seperating type.....
If i am reading what you wrote correctly that would mean it would be a well im going to hang out with my friends and oh yeah your not invited.....
So that would go back to what i mentioned that to me is NOT a couple that is someone you are dating ...... time alone is one thing but the way you stated it would be more of someone that you are SEEing for lack of a better term... not someone in a relationship or as a couple....
in thinking your way that person is in your life when it is conveiniant for you and plays no active role when they are not there... your life still continues as it was prior to being with them.
So if life is to remain the same as it was prior to that person entering your life why do you even want them in your life? Just to fill a void of available time or to fufill a desire for physical connection?
I am not picking i am just trying to understand anothers point of view. maybe it is ME who has it wrong but when i want to be with someone in a relationship it is NOT so that my life can continue the way it was prior to them being in it.
I seek for that relationship so my life CAN change and so that I would become a couple with her. I desire to find the love of my life not so I can continue to be the same person i was or am now i desire for that connection so that I can become a part of something more in life. A union between two people. To navigate through life with her by my side.
I laugh at all those people that spout that crap about having to be a whole person before you find your match in life.... They are simply a bunch of idiots that have never felt TRUE love cause i have felt it I know EXACTLY what it feels like and i can tell with 100% definite response. I was half of a whole. Not two complete seperate people.... To describe it in words it was like a piece of me flowed into her and a piece of her flowed into me. We exchanged a part of ourselves.
So you can by all those books on relationships. You can fly all over to those seminars about how to find the love of your life.... But from my OWN experiance if they start their spiel with relationships are hard work and need to take effort to work or they spill out spew that crap about you have to be a complete person by yourself not longing for anyone else before you can find love.... I call them what they are.... a crock of shyt trying to sell books cause they don't have in their life what would trully make them happy.
I found it once I know it is out there in this world and I don't believe we only get one shot at it.
./stepsOffSoapbox 
Sorry it is one of those days ......I do listen to everyone when they speak even if i don't respond..... And i have watched, listened, and studied all that stuff many times but i don't agree with any of it cause I know without a doubt in my heart differently. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2009 6:09:16 PM | When she finally roles her lazy butt out of bed at lets say 10'ish and has to go get dolled up so we can go eat breakfast. At that time I'm bout ready for lunch. Then she'll ask "What do you want to do today?". Well now that its half over.......................
Or when the women that do get up early are grouchy, "don't talk to me, don't touch me, did you really have to fire up the lawnmower." Ummm Yep.
Or when she text messages me for 2 hours instead of a 2 minute phone conversation. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2009 6:15:28 PM | | having to shave my legs, and be neat, clean and presentable when i really want to kick up a dust storm with the horses! | |
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| What do you honestly hate about
Posted: 4/23/2009 6:31:27 PM | Good answer:
Instead of focussing on the negative, why not start with what you like? That could be one reason why some are single on here. Smile, and stop being such downers. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2009 6:32:57 PM | Well if you had come up with a list of things which you HATE about a relationship, it only means one thing - you are NOT with the person who is right for you, period.
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Posted: 4/23/2009 8:52:44 PM | can't say I'd "hate" things.....
but there would definately be some adjusting to do after being single 13 years!
the dog, on the other hand, hates it when I have a man in my life cuz she has to sleep on the floor then! | |
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Posted: 4/23/2009 9:51:24 PM | | I hate the little "surprises" that come along with realtionships. For instance you get involved with someone and then BAM he tells you he has kids or some sort of psychiatriac disorder. "Baby i was afraid you wouldn't like me if i told you sooner and i wasn't comfortable with telling you". Well thanks "Captain Obvious" here's some gas money. Fill up yo tank and be on ya way. Always be yourself from the beginning. Don't start off a relationship based on lies and deceit. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2009 9:52:57 PM | parklabrea: "What do I hate about relationships? - The fact that you have to be in one with someone else. When people ask if you're married, can't you simply say, "I'm in a very serious relationship with myself, currently?"
Or you can be more specific. Tell them you're in a long term relationship with the hand. Or don't.  | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 5:54:35 AM | Geez where to start.....
1. Leaving the lid off the toothpaste.
2. Using two fresh clean towels after every shower.
3. Crapping on about the girls he met whilst at the pub.
4. Expecting his T bone steak to be edible after 11pm.(After 4 hours in the oven)
5. Wanting sex when that stale 'drank too much' smell comes out from his skin.
6. Peeing in the wardrobe.
7. Deciding to use the toilet at the same time my young son decides to use the toilet then accidently sticks his hard on in the said child's ear in the dark.
8. Not lifting the toilet lid up and pee's over the seat.
9. Telling me my children should be in bed now, yet the next night growls because he is watching a movie with the said children who should be in bednow.
10. Explaining my every move.
I have been single for 11 years now. I don't have time to be lonely and I love my freedom.
If I were to write a list of "good" things about a relationship, then I'm sure the list would be just as long.
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Posted: 4/24/2009 7:31:10 AM | | I hate feeling lonely and being stuck in a relationship. If you are going to tie yurself to one person the that person has some responsibility to make sure your needs are being met as well. I hate one sided takers. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 7:49:34 AM | Most of my "relationships" lasted a "few hours" maximum. I never had anything to hate or dislike....perhaps its because I am tune with myself and out of tune with others.  | |
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