| CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN!
Posted: 7/4/2005 1:22:23 PM |
but I can teach him the emotions that come along with being human. I can teach him from my past experiences with men and what to do and not do with women. Respect, tolerance, strength, education, love, maturity are all traits that a man should have just as much as women should have.
Now that's just beautiful.
If your idea of raising a man is the physical aspects, then ok maybe I cant do that.
Neither can many men. 
The boy IS physically a man. How do you teach that then?
*n scratches at his head* | |
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| CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN!
Posted: 7/4/2005 1:39:28 PM | I really hope that that wasn't aimed at me.
My head was no where near "a gutter"
I was supporting you.
My cousin is 21 and has never done any manual labor in his life. Is he not a man?
He can kick alot of a&&....so......
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| CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN!
Posted: 7/4/2005 1:58:40 PM | I'm getting the impression that some people believe that teaching a boy to be a mechanic is the same as 'raising a man', lol. Geesh...if it were that simple we wouldn't need a mother or a father...just a good trade school.
There are still some out there who believe men have to be macho and should only think with their testosterone. They fear that a boy raised by a woman might create a pansy. I look forward to hearing from more men like that...because it'll give me better odds with the women here, simply by process of elimination, lol!! | |
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| CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN!
Posted: 7/4/2005 2:42:25 PM | I find that the majorityof boy's raised by their mothers grow to be more respectful towards other women. I dont mean that a father cant do the job, I am sure he can just as well as a woman can.
I think we have our own ideas of what a woman can and cant do and to each their opinion. U cant make someone but u can teach someone and to me I think thats what a single parents job is.
Dont put blame on the other party like I said before. It just causes resentment for no apparent reason. You are responsable for your own actions and must live with the outcome.
To me, (some may not agree ) a real man is someone who CAN take responsability, is honest, intelligent, proud of who they are and educated. A real man is someone raised by a real parent. If the parent can't be one themselves, how are the children to learn? A child learns from example and grows up to be what they are taught. | |
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| CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN!
Posted: 7/4/2005 3:53:35 PM | Mom2...
Sounds like you have a Son2anamazingmom!
with a role model like you,he'll grow up to be more than a "man"..
he'll be an amazing human being!
I taught my son how to drive a car,shoot hoops,use a hammer and nails,and put paint on a wall.
I also had to help him to learn right from wrong,respect and honesty.
He's almost 19,a man to most people;and he's a great man!
Smart,honest,respectful,and open-minded;that's more important than anything!
And if my guidance helped him become this man,then I'm honoured by it. | |
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| CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN!
Posted: 7/4/2005 4:49:56 PM | awww leafs thx hun!!!! well i try my best and learn from others and my own mistakes. How can u teach someone something if u have never been through it?
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| CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN!
Posted: 7/5/2005 4:00:10 AM | Dear Mom2anamazingson
I was reading your post...
"...a real man is someone who CAN take responsability, is honest, intelligent, proud of who they are and educated. A real man is someone raised by a real parent."
Now substitute the word woman for the word man.
I agree with what you've said whole heartedly...and I think its a strong argument in suggesting that women can raise boys on their own. The characteristics you are pointing out for a boy are the same characteristics that I'm trying to instill in my daughter. | |
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| CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN!
Posted: 7/5/2005 4:36:52 AM | I think its funny how people who dont know what it is like to have a child can come on here and make it sound as if it is easy.
I think life isnt about what you are but rather who you are. | |
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| CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN!
Posted: 7/5/2005 5:43:50 AM | I agree with the majority here, in theory. I think it takes an exceptional person to raise a child to be a stable and responsible citizen (and that includes treating others with respect and decency as well as holding down a job etc.).
I was raised with an absent father. My older brothers had him around, but not much, and my younger brother didn't have him there at all. My mother was not healthy (physically or emotionally) for most of my childhood. None of them are what I would call stable, healthy men. They all treat women like objects of ownership, my younger brother perhaps has a stronger respect for women, but in general, since my mother treated them as superior, they think they are. I love my mom, but she did a terrible job at raising those boys into the men that are my brothers. It also took me a long time to realize that I was not inferior to men.
That aside, I believe if I had a son, I would do a decent job. I would hope so at least. | |
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| CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN!
Posted: 7/5/2005 7:06:14 AM | | You're an amazing Mom ....Mom2anamazingson. I raise 2 boys by myself and I showed them values and respect. They are adults now and I couldn't be more proud. One has to be a very strong woman to be able to do a wonderfull job. I stand by you. You deserve to be applaud. Keep the good work. Take care and stay safe. | |
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| CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN!
Posted: 7/5/2005 8:40:29 AM | thx hun!!
well i have the dad in his life but I am mostly alone most of the time. We do live together but like I said, hes gone to work all day. When we move out and dont live together anymore, i will have custody of my son . I put myself in this situation b/c i basically live it already.
well an applause to u too ;) u deserve a heads up and a big hug!!! | |
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| CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN!
Posted: 7/5/2005 10:55:22 AM | | Well, anything is possible, however.....the massive popularity of books such as Fight Club, and Iron John and the depth to which they have resonated with men of my generation suggests that there is a heartfelt longing in men for a father figure that they either never had, or who was not really there. | |
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| CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN!
Posted: 7/5/2005 11:25:01 AM | I dont think that a series of books as u stated makes it any more wanted to have a dad around. It has always been that men want their fathers/mothers more often and same as for women wanting the same thing. It's just that the book points it out more but like I said, it doesnt make it more of an issue to something thats been going on for years.
Obviously we cant balance out what the other parent can do but we can help raise them properly and teach them well.
its sad to find excuses to why our children what they are. Why put blame on the other person when you, yourself, could of done a great job yourself? | |
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| CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN!
Posted: 7/5/2005 2:31:56 PM | I am a single Mom of a Boy "child" on the verge of becoming a man. I have taught him morals, values, belief in himself.
Any child that has sure knowledge of this can become a "woman" or a "man". Adulthood is more than shaving your face (or your legs) adulthood is being aware of yourself and aware of the world around you. A faith in yourself, and a belief in what you can achieve. Being aware of others around you and taking responsibility for your own actions. This is how "Mothers" or "women" can teach boys to become men, just as men can teach girls to be women.
Its whether we as parents/role models etc choose to leave our own prejudices, and stereotypes in the playground where they belong. Its teaching our children to listen & accept others as they are. I am not the most beautiful woman in the world, not the most compassionate. I am opinionated, strong willed, stubborn. I am also open minded, loyal, trustworthy & truthful. Those are the same characteristics I have found in "good" men. Those are the qualities I want my son to have. I also get to teach him how to avoid the mind games and traps women are still setting for men. Best of all I get to teach him that the best way of treating a woman is the way he himself would like to be treated.
My son is open minded, opinionated, out spoken, straight forward, loyal, trustworthy, stubborn, truthful, loving, compassionate. He loves sports (I don't but I support him), he hates chick flicks (that's okay so do I), we don't agree on a lot of things, but we both state our opinions, debate over them ferociously. And when needed we go out into the school yard and wrestle for top dog. My son can fight, and will fight when he has to, but he will pick his battles, he won't let some slug head do it for him.
This is a man. And I'm proud to say I have raised a MAN.
I gave him the foundation (morals, values) and I help guide those into the rules he made for his own life. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2005 2:53:02 PM | "Disagree"
I think saying that a man raised by a single mother is less of a man is a ludicrous statement. I am interested to know what people think the differences between raising a boy to a man, and a girl to a woman are.
I am a single father of both a boy and a girl. It is my opinion that no matter what sex your child is you are going to try to teach them the values that they will need to grow into an adult. I take offense to anyone who thinks that I am not capable of raising my daughter to womanhood because I am a guy.
I know that as long as I love my children and always do best for them they will both grow up to be good Men and Woman.
Paul | |
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| CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN!
Posted: 7/5/2005 8:35:33 PM | Hey sandstars!!!
You go girl!!! I agree with you, was in the same boat to some extent. My son is a little older and I have been doing the single parent gig a bit longer. I know it's not easy, but we are going to raise our boys to be men! What other choice is there? | |
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| CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN!
Posted: 7/5/2005 9:09:27 PM | *simple answer yes*....as long as the child is shown love and respect and given a good example to live by then I would think that either parent would be able to raise a good "man" or "woman"...I try to lead by example with my kids and they are also lucky to have thier mother and grandmother in thier lives as well..all you can really do is your best..I'm scared as heck about being a father to my little girl and hope and pray every day that I'm doing the right things and giving the right examples..that is one of the main reasons I am no longer married...I saw my marriage as a bad example to my children..I didnt want them growing up thinking that was the way it was supposed to be...so I ended it..I guess it all comes down to the little choices you make every day and the actions that the children learn along the way..none of us are perfect parents we all make mistakes but I think in the long run...you do what you can with the skills and resaurces you have and just hope that its enough to make good adults out of your children  | |
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| CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN!
Posted: 7/6/2005 12:29:20 AM | what is a man??
it is my thoughts that I am here to instill a good foundation to become a productive adult...to love, respect, work, etc....as for the becoming a man part...give me a break they do that on their own....I didn't become a woman over night it took me several years of heart ache, living the real world to truly become a woman and even now I am still growing on it....so yeah as a mother of two boys I can give the foundation but it is up to my child what they will choose to do with it..... | |
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