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Posted: 7/12/2005 8:52:05 PM | | I totally agree, I was raised by my mother, becuase my father was an alcoholic and took off, living with my mother toaught me resposibility and how to survive on my own, because of my mother i dont need anyone else to rely on where as if i was with my father i would probaby have been arrested numerous times , and be an alcoholic as well cus his answer to everything was . well i cant get mad at you because ive done it myself. | |
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| CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN!
Posted: 7/12/2005 9:08:43 PM | I also had to deal with an alcoholic father..Im sorry you had to go through that.... ..but it sounds like you had a good mom to help you along. | |
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| CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN!
Posted: 7/12/2005 9:09:07 PM | | to babiblue: exactly I hung out in my teen years with what was considered the wrong crowd and I never made bad choices per say,... lots of my friends ended up doing things that landed them in jail etc... I still hung out with them but just cause they were my friends, did not mean I had to do the stuff they did.... nor did I. One of the wonder parts of being independant it is great to have friends but not mandatory....lol | |
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Posted: 7/13/2005 7:38:13 AM | | I like your attitude Mom2anamazingson. I have a 10 month old son and I think the question at hand has been one that has crossed my mind a number of times. You have given me a great perspective on the subject. Thanks | |
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| CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN!
Posted: 7/13/2005 7:05:19 PM | Yes i believe a women can teach a boy to be a man.. I am a single mom of one boy
and so far he is such a man, he even pees standing up lol (and hes not even 3) so thats impressive if you ask me.
My father raised me and my brothers by himself since i was 5 months old, and i am a great woman, so if a guy can teach a girl to be a woman, i woman can most definatly teach a boy to be a man, My son will respect women, and treat them right, and stand up to his responsiblilites, what more can you ask for in a man, as most men arent like that now!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 7/13/2005 7:09:26 PM | here I go spoutin off without reading all the posts again.
But I like the sound of my own voice so......
NO She cant. She can teach him integrity and numerous good traits and virtues. BUT She is gonna teach him how to appease women by listening and obeying them. So many single mothers, and so many women complaining about men who are wussies These boys are not taught how to be men. They are taught how to obey their mother. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2005 7:28:26 PM | Well I've just been reading and I see both points of view. I still say no though. I just say that there are some things that a man can teach a boy better than a mother just for the simple fact that he can relate to a boy a little better. I'm not saying that a woman can't make a boy into a man because by my definition from when I first started this post a woman can make a boy do all those things I described. I have a son, I can relate to my son in so many ways that his mom can't.
EXAMPLE: Say if I had a daughter and her very first period came on, true enough yea I may know what to do but I don't know how she feels and I won't ever know how she feels. Even if she may tell me, i don't believe that she'd feel as comfortable with me as she would a mother/female simply because I don't know how she feels. and in that aspect no a man can't raise or fill all the needs of a mother.
UNDERSTAND? I hope it makes since to you. I'm just saying and it goes the same with boys. There are some things that you just can't relate on but it's nothing that would effect the upbringing of your child.  | |
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Posted: 7/14/2005 7:10:40 AM | | 2 onthebuss...shouldnt a boy be encouraged to obey his parents anyways..whether there is one or two?....or perhaps you mean that if there was a father figure present then the boy should only be taught to respect him? | |
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Posted: 7/14/2005 7:12:42 AM | "My son will respect women, and treat them right, and stand up to his responsiblilites, what more can you ask for in a man, as most men arent like that now!!!!!! "
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Posted: 7/14/2005 7:20:55 AM | | rube2003...I didnt deny in any of my posts that what your saying about a mans influence over a boy is of great importance....all I have been saying is that when a single mother is forced to raise a family alone, then she has to find alternate modes for the influence...uncles, fathers, teachers, brothers.....but when the boys grow.....they are still men....are they not?....in alot of the posts I read, is makes boys raised by single mother seem inferior, which they are clearly not...and that mothers seems to be less then important to sons. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2005 8:01:29 AM | I just seen how many of these posts on this page were mine...its a bit embassing actually... so Im going to shut up now...instead of trying to convince others..I should just be doing it....same I have for the past 22 yrs.... | |
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Posted: 7/14/2005 1:26:02 PM | | I am raising my 4 yr old son as well as my 8 1/2 yr old daughter by myself now. I have been seperated since Aug. Even when we lived with my ex, he rarely did anything with them and I was still basically a single parent. So if having him as a father teaches him to be like HIM...well then I'm glad I'm the one who's his role model! :) | |
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| CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN!
Posted: 7/14/2005 7:09:37 PM | : "My son will respect women, and treat them right, and stand up to his responsiblilites, what more can you ask for in a man, as most men arent like that now!!!!!! "
Boy oh boy. If I wasn't so ignorant I would think that statement was a shot at men...Thats the kind of attitude to teach the little guys eh? | |
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Posted: 7/14/2005 7:22:08 PM | | amy, yup, a boy should be encouraged to obey parents. But a mother teaches him how to appease a woman and submit to women. Among all the other wonderful loving things she does for him. Without a man in his life he learns how to act like a woman. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2005 8:12:59 PM | | I AGREE WITH RUBE2003 THERE ARE CERTAIN THINGS THAT ONLY A MAN CAN TEACH A YOUNG BOY, NOT TO OFFEND ANYONE, BUT THERE IS ALSO CARTAIN THINGS THAT ONLY A WOMAN CAN TEACH A YOUNG GIRL. BUT, I ALSO BELIEVE THAT ALL KIDS NEED A GOOD MOTHER AND A GOOD FATHER (OR A GOOD MALE AND FEMALE ROLE MODEL) SO THEY CAN LEARN AND GROW IN TO ADULTS FROM BOTH WORLDS. . .(MALE AND FEMALE). . . | |
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| CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN!
Posted: 7/14/2005 8:22:46 PM | | ATTN: onthebus44, sorry to hear that the guys like myself that were raised my single mothers are wuzzes. Give me a damn break! your know guys with such lame ass macho-man attitudes are the reason that women think so little of men... Honestly,, flapping your yap and implying that men that are rasied by their mothers are lesser of a man then you...HAHAHA. I'm sure that quite a few of us would love to show ya how much of wuzzies we are by giving ya a good shot in the head to bring ya back to reality.... The year is 2005 get with the program.... | |
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Posted: 7/15/2005 10:31:30 AM | | 2 onthebuss44....the only reason I am responding to this is because it was addressed to me specifically....and by the sounds of your posts and the comment about if a boy dosent have a man in his life he learns to act like a woman...my son...who was raised alone by his mother... is more of a man now at the age of 22, then you will ever hope to be in your lifetime....this mother taught him to respect woman and everyone else....something you obviously werent taught with all your masucline upbringing....it sure as hell didnt do you any good in your mannerism or intellect. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2005 10:34:33 AM | Ami,
Your biased, argumentative, and mostly ignorant.
Please do as you promised in so many other posts and just stop repeating your "2 cents woth" ... it's greatly overpriced. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2005 11:32:29 AM | I'm with Rube here. A woman can teach her boys how to be what SHE thinks is a man (and I'm not faulting any woman for her best efforts) but that boy isn't going to grow up knowing how to be a man from a man's point of view.
Case in point: two post above ^ I'm not picking on you AMI and I don't want to get into your argument there but it proves my point. "...mother... is more of a man now at the age of 22, then you will ever hope to be in your lifetime....this mother taught him to respect woman..." That's great ! But my point is that there's a vastly more to being a man than just learning to respect women.
Hey, like I said, I'm not faulting any woman who gives it her best effort but I wouldn't expect a father to act as the ideal mother so why should the opposite be true? | |
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Posted: 7/15/2005 11:57:02 AM | ooooh, hit a few nerves there.
I can understand it with the gal, but the dude who was raised by women just acted like one
Look folks in seriousness, there is no need to get your feathers ruffled. Its all opinion. I meant no harm, and am able to not get emotional by your baiting.
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| CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN!
Posted: 7/15/2005 12:02:49 PM | I'm sure a lot of you will disagree on this person's morals, values, and judgement, but I would just like to remind you that one of our nations' greatest presidents was raised by a single mother!
http://clinton4.nara.gov/WH/EOP/OP/html/Hope.html | |
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Posted: 7/15/2005 12:09:04 PM | ^um......well, er...suuuuuuuuuure....greaaaaaaat president.
lmao. Sorry but of all the examples to use in this thread that one really doesn't help the counter argument here.
Nothing personal. Dig deeper. Please. Your giving our side fodder here. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2005 1:57:59 PM | Wekaholic,
Your a sophmoric, a perfect example of cave man mentality and a jackass.
I wont fault you for saying Im argumentative....casue I am.... ...so you can be as stupid as YOU are making yourself out to be....oh my..look...a woman who admitted a shortcoming....better check my testosrone level here.
And as for dishing out my "2 cents"......you first big boy.....the day I shut up for the likes of you and you "boys" is the day they shovelling the dirt. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2005 2:29:03 PM | Gotapulse.....if Im reading the "male posts" in here right, no one is getting the point I was making....which is...my son did have excellant male role models to grow with.....right now my youngest is out fishing with his cousins and uncle...and I do think respecting women is a great lesson for young men to learn...dont you?...
I think if more men learned this at a young age there wouldnt be so much abuse happening in homes...and before I get slaughtered for saying that statment as well....what I mean is...my sons will learn they are to NEVER strike a woman or belittle her in any way...under any circumstances...that he needs to walk away....lets things cool....then try and talk things out...of course I also told them not to be anyone "lap dog" either...and by that I mean (seeing how I have to be specific to be understood) is not to take shit from a woman either, that they are better then that and no one needs to be demeaned or abused.
In that short statment there are several lessons that are to be taught....but it all stems back to respect for woman and respecting themselves..I honestly beleive alot of men in these posts are taking respect in the vaguest sence of the word. | |
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