| Proper Blocking etiquette
Posted: 4/30/2009 8:29:44 AM | I am not a huge blocker.But I did however yesterday.There was a guy that messaged me last week and right away asked to go out for drinks without asking me anything about myself.I responded back with a no thank you but thank you for the message.This week he has sent me two more messages asking the same thing.I guess the hint was not taken the first time so yes I did block him.Some men can not take a hint at all.
But to block someone for something so stupid like the fact you have no interest in them is well rude to me.A simple and kind message back stating you are not interested seems to be the way to go but if the person insists on sending message after message after being informed you are not interested then yes a block is put in place. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2009 11:26:25 AM | | I think I've only blocked a couple on here and then I unblocked them soon after. There is nobody on my blocked list, anyway. I must say, I really didn't realize there was a proper way to block a person! "Pre-emptive block" I like that. lol | |
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Posted: 4/30/2009 11:37:41 AM | I've been guilty of blocking men BEFORE they can email me, by seeing who added me to their favourites: if I don't want to hear from someone, I wait until I see he's on IM, and I open it in order to click the 'block' button.
(I don't think there's an IM here any more, tho')
It's only effective if he was going to try emailing me, so otherwise he's none the wiser, and I've saved us both some time. The only drawback is that if he does message me, he might be puzzled about why he got blocked when he hadn't done anything. Then he can chalk me up as a loony and be done with me!
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Posted: 4/30/2009 11:48:20 AM | carlisleman,
I block women who havent replied Just curious how you block someone if they haven't emailed you.
Other than the IM avenue I've used (which I don't think is here any more), where is a function to block a user who hasn't sent mail? | |
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Posted: 5/1/2009 4:36:38 AM | | Hey dubO8, perhaps he had a missus in tow, and she changed her plans for that night!!! Whatever the reason, an honest apology message to you would have been a lot fairer and would not really have beentoo hard for him... | |
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Posted: 5/1/2009 6:14:47 AM |
I wish the POF mail system would alert you before you try and compose a new email.
Amen to that. It is funny, when you don't fit someone's e-mail criteria, the system lets you know that and doesn't even bring up the text box.
I don't get people with the blocking, unless someone is sending you enough e-mail that our computer is about to blow up, why do you have to block them? Either just read those suckers or let them sit there until they fall off the system.
The only reason I would block someone was if they were totally hateful or a perv and if they were incessantly e-mailing me after I had stopped responding to them. As yet, three years and I have never felt the need to block anyone. Since we can delete people without even reading what they write, blocking seems more than a bit silly to me.
I used it once, when I found out a woman was not only married, but married to a guy in my command who was away in Iraq! I sent her an email saying why I was cutting contact and she kept on emailing me.
That's career death for me right there, and she didn't care. Pretended to be single, but when I saw her post on a friends Facebook wall, I clicked on her profile, and every third post was "I miss my husband" or such.
This is a reasonable reason for blocking someone because the continued contact had actual repercussions beyond being a nuisance. | |
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Posted: 5/1/2009 6:24:35 AM | | I've blocked only two men since last June. Neither accepted rejection very well. I don't understand the need for habitual blocking. Most men have responded to even a rejection with thanks for your response and that they appreciated my honesty, and sometimes asked for suggestions. | |
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Posted: 5/1/2009 6:54:35 AM | | so u wasted 3 mins of ur life on that second e-mail you poor thing and now you are here ****ing and moaning about it,not a waste of time I guess. if she blocked you she did it for a reason. your so called compliment might have been somethin like great rack or i wanna butter u up and lick you all over which was rude in her opinion and blocked you. next time if they dont respond don't send a second e-mail. also if you pay some one a compliment don't expect a thank you ,no one is obliged to thank you......u r 45 yrs old for god sake and it seems she was smart enough and anticipated that you are one of those pushy ppl who dont get the word NO | |
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Posted: 5/1/2009 8:18:28 AM | so u wasted 3 mins of ur life on that second e-mail you poor thing and now you are here ****ing and moaning about it,not a waste of time I guess.
I just wasted another 3 minutes of my life reading your comment as well. | |
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| Proper Blocking etiquette
Posted: 5/1/2009 10:54:43 AM | | Some men may get mad and send a woman a rude response because she didn't respond to them. Perhaps this is why she blocked you. | |
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Posted: 5/1/2009 11:07:06 AM | Blocking someone is the equivalent of rolling your eyes at some lowly guy (or girl) that had the audacity to think they could approach (his or) her royal highness. (unless the person being blocked was making a nuisance of themselves and acting like an ass.) Blocking preemptively is the height of arrogance. I don't know whether I've been blocked here or not. If so, it was probably for something I said in the forums... 
As far as the eye-roll, most guys have experienced that at least once. Not fun. I remember when I used to go to the clubs as a kid, a young lady dropped her credit card on the floor next to the bar and walked away. I picked it up and followed her to her seat to return it. She wasn't bad looking, but nothing special. She saw me walking up and gave her friends the eye-roll and indicated my approach. I showed her the card and told her that she had dropped it as she left the bar... And tossed it across the dance floor into the crowd. Her friends cracked up as I turned my back walked to the bar. | |
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| Proper Blocking etiquette
Posted: 5/1/2009 11:19:16 AM | Three minutes? She could have wasted longer reading something from someone
she did not care to hear from again. It is a very useful tool.Something you said turned her off,or did not peak her interest enough to want to hear from you again. Maybe something you thought was clever or meant as a compliment was offensive.
What did you say?" Hey cutie "is a bore and so is "How are ya? You sure are cute."
Open with a comment on HER interest to start with ,especially if it is one similar to yours. Maybe you have something in your profile,which we all usually check before reading a message,that turned her off,and the first responce back from her was just to be "kind". | |
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| Proper Blocking etiquette
Posted: 5/1/2009 11:24:36 AM | I've never blocked anyone before but if they started exhibiting email stalker characteristics I might consider it. Sounds like the girl you are referencing has a "blocking" trigger finger. I would not lose sleep over it. Interestingly enough someone recently blocked me. I have no idea why except maybe for my sarcasm. Either way I found it downright amusing.
Don't sweat it OP.  | |
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Posted: 5/1/2009 4:18:26 PM | | Re sending a second email... I have done this on a number of occasions but I always am super polite and non pushy. Sometimes a woman will mean to have responded and forgotten. Or sometimes, as a former poster said, need that second little "nudge". I don't think it's pushy as long as it is done politely... and never more than once. I actually had several women apologize for not getting back to me, and I think a few even ended up as dates! | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 8:47:55 AM |
Blocking preemptively is the height of arrogance. It may be, but if the guy doesn't try to contact me, how would he even know?
I only do that if a man who's added me to his favourites is someone who ought to know, based on my profile, that we want very different, incompatible things.
If he emails me anyway, well .. who's he got to blame when he already had the information to discourage him?
.. and if he didn't even read it, well *golly*. Is that so arrogant of me to screen him out?
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Posted: 5/10/2009 6:45:44 AM | On another site I had a female send me a nasty message when she saw that I had viewed her profile. I had only viewed her profile, nothing more. She was so arrogant that she thought that only men who meet her ridged requirements should be allowed to view her profile.
Can I ask this? If you knew she was not interested and she didn't respond, why were you sending her a second email?
I agree. My rule is I message once. If there is no response, I write the female off and say it is her loss. (Just like many females say when a man is not interested in them.) I do wish POF had a hide profile so that one could not display the profiles of people whom they had contacted without response or whom they had no desire to contact in the search results. | |
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| Proper Blocking etiquette
Posted: 5/10/2009 3:10:24 PM | I have been on here for 3 years now and only been blocked 4 times:
1. By a girl because she used the word Wigger in her profile and I emailed her about using that word and the way she used it int.
2 By a women that was upset with me I believe because I told her I am interested in knowing more about her but as for as dating...I thought maybe our age difference would be a factor.
3. One women because I guess I made the mistake and assumed she didn't date black men. I didn't come across nasty at all with it...more playful than anything...but she emailed me this nasty letter of how she is hooked up with a black man darker than me and blah blah blah...probably was a like but who knows.
4. Today I was blocked I guess because she sent me a not interested email and I replied back with some questions...and then she replied with questions also...in all she wrote me 4 emails and on the 4th one I guess she had enough and of course the last word so she blocked me.
So what I gather from this is that most women who block people have come kind of issues. Or either the person she is blocking has some kind of issues. Cuz your an idiot if you think blocking someone is going to cut down on the emails you get daily...ha ha...sorry ladies but new people join POF every minute | |
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| Proper Blocking etiquette
Posted: 5/10/2009 3:18:52 PM | I've blocked 3 people in the year I've been on this site
The first was after receiving an unsolicited rant from a guy on single mothers, how I'm a fat, lazy cow who deserves my children being taken away from me! ... reported and blocked
The second, omg, the guy just would not leave me alone, he would email me and by the time I had sent a reply he had emailed twice more to say 'why haven't you replied? you've read my mail! are you still talking to me? have I done something wrong?' couldn't handle that level of neediness in the end and ... blocked
The third was earlier today funnily enough, a guy of 23 (I'm 40) mailed me and said he wanted to get to know me... I replied thanks but you are too young for me and he replied that once I've 'tried younger I won't go back' Yuck! .. blocked | |
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Posted: 5/10/2009 8:42:52 PM | *nats*,
Those seem to be really go reasons to block someone....
I had a girl who emailed me and wanted to know if I she was my type. She liked what I aid on my profile and seemed like she just needed to talk. I told her that I was not really interested in dating her but I do not mind chatting and making new friends.
Anyway after a few emails back and fourth nothing romantic just general conversation...she stopped emailing me...maybe she was trying to gain my interest thought continued communication but I think when she noticed that I was not working...she moved on. It NEVER crossed my MIND to BLOCK her...I really think that would have hurt her feelings and it didn't cost me nothing but 1 minute a day to return her emails and answer her questions. | |
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Posted: 5/29/2009 9:39:27 AM | | It is interesting that people say they can't find anyone but they block at the first message of hello. I know they are looking for Mr. Perfect, but maybe when they are in the retirement home alone they will realize that Mr. Perfect doesn't exists or found someone better then them. Honestly i have met and dated women and are still friends with that didn't respond until the 3rd or 4th message and it was my persistance that they liked. Women who block at the drop at of hat are the ones that are going to be home alone on Saturday night so i don't worry about it. | |
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Posted: 5/29/2009 10:27:27 AM | I just blocked my first person today. He sent me a rather lengthy email and I accidentally deleted it.
He asked why I hadn't responded to his first email and I wrote a very nice reply stating that I wasn't looking to date anyone right now only talk, possibly hang out and it seemed unfair to talk to someone who ONLY wanted more. I thanked him for his interest and told him I hope he found the girl of his dreams.
He responded back telling me I was discriminating and that any girl would be better than a stuck up, snobby b****. Among a few other choice phrases. *Blocked*
OP I say "preemptive blocking" is a little unsettling as is trying to make that connection and finding out that you've been blocked but don't let one lady mess this experience up for you. :) | |
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Posted: 5/29/2009 11:03:57 AM | I've been here for weeks and I only blocked 1 person. The reason why I blocked him was when he tried to asked me to see him again. He tried to convinced me that he's a nice guy but I wasn't convinced and I was thinking that he's just playing games with me. So I told him that I don't believe him and he's just playing games with me. He replied and he said "Omg, nooo." I didn't bother to reply. Then I received another message from him telling me to grow up, etc. So I blocked him without replying to his message. I have some messages that I've read but haven't reply, no plan of replying since I am not interested, some messages are from people that I've talked before.
OP, if women read and don't reply that means she's not interested. Women reply right away if she's interested the minute she read and check your message and profile or if not right away maybe in a day or two. You don't have to send another message to someone who told you she's not interested or if she never reply to your messages. She probably blocked you because she thinks you're too pushy or you're not her type and she thinks you might message her again and she doesn't want to see you again on her inbox so she blocked you. I know it sucks! | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 3:46:11 AM | | The blocking feature blows my mind. I received an email from a man, we exchanged several emails, thought it was goine well, he read the last one and then he did not reply. I assumed he lost interest or had found someone else as he disappeared for a while--guess he hid his profile. He is back on and I decided to attempt to contact him and when I hit the message button, I received ' xxx does not wish to talk to you and is not interested in what you are interested in'. Cold but OK, that is his choice, don't know what happened but figure if he is not interested for what ever reason, that is the end of that. The block feature or filters work on the front end, before you compose an email. I find filters all the time--will note a photo or statement of interest in the profile, just want to send a note to compliment them on their profile or a questions about an activity they mentioned but find I am blocked because I am too old, too young, too far away, female, yada, yada. That is their right. You have to have your big people britches on and develop a thick skin to do the on-line thing. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 6:19:00 AM | | Sometimes I block, sometimes I just delete. No apologies or explanations. I expect an intelligent man to take the polite clue. If someone gets pushy/aggressive, the redhead shows up, lol....and THEN they get blocked. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 7:58:00 AM |
As a male, I have found (over the years) that persistence pays off
It also gets you blocked on dating sites.
I definitely don't appreciate persistence when I've clearly shown I wasn't interested in someone, I find it really annoying and I'll block someone who just isn't getting it. I don't it's rude or inappropriate in any way. If you don't want to be contacted by someone, you get to block them ... no need to whine and cry about it.
She obviously didn't want to hear from you again, and you decided that b/c she just didn't answer you (showing her non-interest clearly) that you needed to bug her, so I guess it's a good thing she blocked you. | |
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