| | Are you getting tired on Internet Dating too?Page 6 of 10 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10) | yeah i had a few nasty replies happen when i tried to give a nice no thanks. and some jerks who would insult me, then block me so i couldn't respond to their insults..mmhmmm...niiiice ones.
ahh been there done that. will choose to sit at the corner market now instead of try online. | |
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Posted: 2/21/2011 9:05:41 PM | | I don't really get that. I appreciate it when people are honest and give me feedback. It's better than making the same mistake twice. I would rather someone tell me I did something wrong, so I won't do it again. If they're not attracted to me, just say not interested. That doesn't bother me. It's better than wasting your time leading you on. If they want to be friends, that's cool. If not, it's no bother, I have other friends. I appreciate the help people have given me on my profile, and I'm grateful for the truly friendly people I run into every once in a while on here. | |
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Posted: 2/21/2011 9:46:25 PM | people on here are very shallow and they decide everything soley on their photograph.
if they find any little bit wrong about the guy in his photograph or if he/she isn't gorgeous, she/he'll never respond or even read the entire message sent to them.
that's what happens on this site, they know there's always something better just around the next corner and so they pass on anyone who isn't a 10 out of 10.
it's pathetic. | |
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Posted: 2/21/2011 9:53:15 PM |
Excuse me soldier man ^^^^^^^^ but I am the most honest person you will ever meet. Don't start with this nonsense and tell me I'm not being honest because I won't put up a full body shot of myself.
I know I'm not obese but I don't need to prove it because I'm confident in myself.......................all that you have proven is how shallow you are because you only want to date "pretty young things" as you put it.
oh yet you require the guy who's trying to get your attention has to have a photo up!
the double standards here is ridiculous.
Women won't put up a photo yet they'll discriminate and tear us men apart who do put one up, and won't reply back to those who don't have one.
in reality, it should be the women who dont' put up a photo that shouldn't get ANY replies. | |
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Posted: 2/21/2011 9:54:00 PM |
I don't agree with that at all. If someone's not attracted to you, you can still be friends or at least be civilized. That person might even be able to help you improve your profile or give you feedback on how your message could have been better. Without feedback, you're lacking information about what to improve. I talk to people on here I'm not interested in to get feedback and help with my profile all the time.
I doubt most women are hurting for male friends. That's not why they're here anyway.
Also remember that about two-thirds of messages go to one-third of women on here, so the women who most guys email are swamped. They may not even read your message. Softening the rejection by offering to form friendships is unfeasible.
You have to understand that the male online dating experience is vastly different than the female. Guys think that just because their inbox isn't a hotbed of activity that women's inboxes must be the same way. Therefore, women should reply, even if they're not interested. Maybe in a perfect world.
Honestly, I'd rather not receive a response than receive something like "no thanks, tubby!"
Consider it a favor that they're not leading you on. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2011 3:49:06 AM | I think I`d better back off of internet dating... maybe indefinately. I don`t think its done anything but make me twice as jaded as I was before.. the more people you subject yourself to the more crap you are subjected to as well.
And the forums are depressing with everyone b1tching and moaning and blaming each other for their own mistakes, disappointments and inadequacies... and expecting others to possess qualities that they don`t possess for themselves because they are only interested in the taking and not the giving...
All in all I think this is just a waste of time... | |
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Posted: 2/22/2011 8:36:23 AM |
Honestly, I'd rather not receive a response than receive something like "no thanks, tubby!"
Harsh, lol. But yeah, not receiving a response is a response in itself - that's the way I look at it. Sure, I get the idea of being polite and agree with it somewhat, but I never got bent out of shape if someone did not respond. It is a stranger, why let a stranger upset you. Yes, I think it proves the selfishness of today's world, but as long as you continue to do what you feel is right, too bad for them.
I don't like online dating as people in the forums have basically said I'm undateable. All of my last relationships were men I met in real life anyway. For some reason, this venue doesn't suit me, so I stopped using it. Life is simpler now.
Yep, some guys complain about getting led on, and then complain when they don't get a response. Equates to = cannot be satisfied. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2011 11:26:15 AM | | I agree that it doesn't work for the most part. The most frustrating part is when you send a few messages back and forth with someone and you're ready to start talking on the phone or arrange a date. A lot of times, it simply goes cold and they stop replying to you. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2011 11:31:27 AM | | ^^^yep and that happens often as well. I figured it's better if they skeedaddled now than not show up for the first date (that has never happened to me, but I know plenty of people to whom it has - I blame not asking the right questions in 2-3 emails.). | |
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Posted: 2/22/2011 12:03:51 PM | I'd like to know what these "right questions" are. :O) Sometimes it's hard to know if someone is going to flake out in person by chatting online.
I get a chuckle from this site.
I'm not sure if my messages just suck, but if they respond to my first message, and the second one is more or less the same, I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong. I wish my city had events for people on here, or had more places to socialize. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2011 12:34:48 PM | LOL. It's hard to pinpoint exact questions, but when faced with a profile with not enough answers, I bluntly ask them the questions that I would like answered. Others may have different ones.
For example, someone puts a religion on their profile and talks about it in their text. In my very first email to them, I ask them how religious they are - if they fudge around, I know they are bullsh*tting me.
If they want kids (I can't), I bluntly point that out and see what they say in response. I do ask them again in person because this is something that can be very important to people. If they say they like to keep active, I ask them what they do to keep active. I'm not a fanatic, but I don't consider archery "working out".
I'm not afraid to ask questions and not afraid to answer them. When people start hemming and hawing, I know there is something amiss. And it can take me less than 3 emails to find out what I need. If talk of a date hadn't come up between us, I will bring it up in the 2 or 3 email. When a man sends me an email, I make sure to address everything in it. It's called paying attention - I mean the email text is right the fack above your response!
I also have a pretty good memory. I am a huge huge fan of food which includes expensive meals sometimes, so when I see that a man has that on his profile, I'm excited to talk about it in person. So this one guy had "fine dining" in his profile and we get to the date and I bring it up and he says that he really thinks it is a waste of money. I also had on my profile that I have a cat (for allergies), and I found out he was allergic (he never told me, but facebook makes your world pretty small) and he never said anything. Uh huh. See ya!
Those are just some examples.....
I'm a tough customer and a mature individual and like my actions to reflect that.
I can't stand men who "try too hard" just so they can be with someone or just so they can get laid. I just don't need the extra drama and immaturity. If I want to get laid, there are better avenues for me. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2011 3:21:13 PM |
I don't really get that. I appreciate it when people are honest and give me feedback. It's better than making the same mistake twice. I would rather someone tell me I did something wrong, so I won't do it again.
Ok, but being that everyone likes something different. Maybe the next woman wants you do it - but you learned not to, so you don't. That doesn't much help. If one woman isn't into you for a certain reason, and the next one would like you for exactly that same reason - how can you use that information? All women aren't ticked off by or attracted to the same stuff - so that's a pretty ineffective lesson. Unless you're not showering or brushing your teeth or something most humans agree is bad form.
If they're not attracted to me, just say not interested. That doesn't bother me. It's better than wasting your time leading you on.
Not responding to your message or carrying on polite conversation is not leading you on. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2011 5:44:52 PM |
I don't like online dating as people in the forums have basically said I'm undateable.
Why is that? Nobody should feel as if they're undateable. Sometimes it takes a lot of dates to find the right person. There's someone out there for everyone.
Women won't put up a photo yet they'll discriminate and tear us men apart who do put one up, and won't reply back to those who don't have one.
I've encountered that. One woman's profile comes to mind. She actually said in her "about me" section: "If you don't have a photo, I won't reply to your email." And she herself didn't have a photo. I sent her an email pointing out her hypocrisy. Didn't get a reply though haha.
And the forums are depressing with everyone b1tching and moaning and blaming each other for their own mistakes, disappointments and inadequacies...
The forums are simply a place for people to discuss their dating experiences, and yes, that includes negative experiences. If people didn't have negative experiences, this forum probably wouldn't exist. It's simply a place for people to rant. Don't let it bother you 
I bluntly ask them the questions that I would like answered.
Your questions seem reasonable. Just as long as you don't say "TELL ME ABOUT YOUR FINANCIAL SITUATION." I hate getting asked that. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2011 8:37:55 PM | That's funny about the photo. A lot of people are hypocrites. I can relate to the frustration a lot of people go through on here. I can't really get a first date from this website. I like to meet people in person because I think someone's profile or online personality can be quite different from how they really are in person, and you never know if you're going to click until you spend time with someone. Sure, there are deal breakers, but there should be some people on here that share things in common with you. Like I said, it's too bad my city doesn't do events anymore. They used to have them, but at the time, I wasn't active on this site because I was actually dating someone. I think it's easier to connect with people face to face than clicking through profiles.
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Posted: 2/22/2011 8:58:07 PM | I love this crap about woman not posting their pictures. I don't have one. Why you ask, is she married/in a relationship? Is she ugly? Does she weigh enough to sink a ship? She must be hiding something?
No to all above. I would not say I am a hottie, nor would I say I am beautiful, but for my age I am above average, okay a tad conceited but every now and then i'm allowed lol
I had my picture on here before and truly I got sick of the emails I got based solely on my looks. | |
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| Are you getting tired on Internet Dating too?
Posted: 2/22/2011 10:28:14 PM | Yeah since I have been busy with work and business not really had time to deal with it.
Plus after sending out tons of emails with ZERO reply to women who viewed my profile, I just got so tired of the wasted effort for no results. Its easier to just meet women in real life. At least the acceptance or rejection is INSTANT and not wasted. Seems like women enjoy playing games with men online- called attention whores. I guess. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2011 11:00:43 PM | | The reality is ..that in the real world men decide to approach a women based on looks first because what else do they know about them before enaging them in conversation. Now what she says will either make her less or more attractive to him. So why should online dating be any different? | |
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Posted: 2/27/2011 9:48:02 AM | ^^^It should be a bit better. Offline it'd be nice to have something we can look at that gives us an idea of who they are and a basis for conversation. Online, you get that. So actually online you have a little more to go on than you do offline.
The fact that you can't determine attraction online is the thing that gets taken away in exchange for the information you get, but it's a good tradeoff. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2011 12:13:42 PM |
^^^It should be a bit better. Offline it'd be nice to have something we can look at that gives us an idea of who they are and a basis for conversation. Online, you get that. So actually online you have a little more to go on than you do offline.
Except that in real life you can SEE who you are talking to, you can not just hear their voice but you can also watch body movement ... on line sheesh you could be looking at 10 year old pictures, read what ever they heck they want to write. Sorry I don't agree that you have a little more to go on from on line, I think it has huge disadvantages than meeting in real life. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2011 1:15:26 PM |
Except that in real life you can SEE who you are talking to, you can not just hear their voice but you can also watch body movement ... on line sheesh you could be looking at 10 year old pictures, read what ever they heck they want to write. Sorry I don't agree that you have a little more to go on from on line, I think it has huge disadvantages than meeting in real life.
Savona, I agree with you here. I don't know though how many online are trying to use false statistics, I've met people who falsely represented themselves, but overall that was a really small percentage.
I tend to like offline better for meeting people, but I'm not usually at a loss for making conversation and finding out things offline - my job is to talk to strangers 60+ hours a week, so for me it's no big deal. I was responding more to a guy who thinks online isn't any better than offline - as most men have expressed a lack of things to talk about with someone offline they may have interest in. In their case, having something to read and respond to as a jumping off point is a plus when breaking the ice. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2011 5:12:23 PM | yeah, 'theoretically' online should be alot better than offline, and i think people who haven't done online think it is until they stay online awhile and then you see the 'wtf' in the forums. you should be able to have a general idea of what the person looks like, status, wants, activities. however, somehow, people have attached so much emphasis that for alot of people on here, those pics, status, wants, activities, profile and first email must be so-so such-and-such specific that they rule out alot of probably compatible people. not to mention the ones who are absolutely nothing like their profiles, omg | |
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Posted: 3/5/2011 8:43:11 PM |
I had my picture on here before and truly I got sick of the emails I got based solely on my looks.
then maybe you just aren't cut out for this?
can't handle it? get out.. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2011 9:24:01 PM | ^^^exactly. Several people (some on this thread) say this continually in every thread similar to this one but people like to whine, what can ya do.
I found it wasn't giving me what I wanted, so I opted out. I may or may not return. It has been more than a year now that I've not dated - even in real life. I'm not dying yet.  | |
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Posted: 3/6/2011 5:05:08 AM | I've quit this (and all dating sites).
Jaded? maybe that is the word...but...mostly I think these dating sites contain far to many rude and nasty people. I don't want to meet any of them!
Hangout in the forums from time to time, but even that has become a lot less. | |
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