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Posted: 7/1/2005 3:02:03 PM | wood Of the many things you said that I agreed with the dating as competition and women as a trophy or prize to be won really stuck out to me. Men who act like that to me are a huge turnoff. They are usually the materialistic braggarts, my car is more expensive, my house is bigger, I have a boat and you don't so naturally I should get more women or the better quality of women (whatever that is). You win one woman's heart at a time by showing understanding, kindness, compassion and interest. Every woman is of course different, but by taking time to get to know her that's the only way you know what it will take to win her. Not as a prize or an award for being a "good guy" but as someone that you desire and want to be with.
I've posted this same thought myself before, but you're the first man that I've seen post this. I think the whole idea has some merit. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2005 3:03:17 PM | "i liked lil susy so i kicked her in the shin"..
*sigh*
Her name was Jennie and I punched her in the gut.,
I know..I know...."strike 10"
THANKS ALOT WOODROW!!
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Posted: 7/1/2005 4:01:09 PM |
They are usually the materialistic braggarts, my car is more expensive, my house is bigger, I have a boat and you don't so naturally I should get more women or the better quality of women (whatever that is).
These guys want the admiration and jealousy of other similar guys. My guess on the definition if better quality of women would be women who can also arouse this admiration and jealousy. The "trophy wife" as it were. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2005 9:58:15 PM | | stone Well, maybe a good guess but no. Better quality women are the antithesis of women who arouse admiration and jealousy. You got it totally so bassakwards. A trophy wife and quality woman? You just delineated the total polar extreme opposites. You only quoted a part of what I posted, I'll go review it later, but I am not known for being confusing I'm known for stating myself very clear and concise. I'll just say that this is subject for review. And stone, in the future, just for MY sake if you choose to quote me, don't quote a part, hit reply so we all can see what post you're referring to, taking one sentence out of a post can lead to misunderstanding, I'm assuming that's the case with YOU, but please don represent what I said that way. I may have a problem with that, and after going back to my entire post, if I DO you'll know. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2005 10:36:52 PM | Hi bucsgirl:
When I read your post, it took "better quality of women" to be from the materialistic braggarst point of view. I am saying that to them, "better quality" means a woman that they can show off they way they would a big house or nice car. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2005 10:38:17 PM |
would any of you guys walk up to a woman in a bar, d*ck in hand and say "hey..my name is.." .. no.. you wouldn't..
So that's what I've been doing wrong {slaps forehead} | |
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Posted: 7/1/2005 11:39:54 PM |
My my Woody what a hornet's nest you have created!
Passion I think you are taking things a bit too serious and well, that ego of yours must be delicate to get that upset over Woody's attempt at humor. What he posted in the first post is very much true of SOME men here on POF. Since you have taken such an offense to it all, I would have to ponder if you were one of those men Woody was describing. If I am wrong, my apologies, but from a women's perspective and not a man with an "ulterior" motive, your lack of sense of humor turned many women off today.
1) yes you are very wrong, no apology is necessary.
2) How many women I may turn-off does not concern me if I'm being true to myself and stand by what I believe in. I'm not going to bend my beliefs just cause it may "turn off" certain women. I'm sure you can get that from any number of guys who listen to what you may believe is what THEY should think. I'm not like that sorry. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2005 3:13:12 AM | Woody - you are "the Man" my friend.....
Passionfly - you are just a f**king "idiot" dude....
Did your ego even let you notice that the women on here absolutely loved him & his
post, because he understood how they felt? You on the otherhand, really showed your
a** dude..maybe because "you" are one of those pecker flickin' guys he mentioned &
you got offended? You only made it worse by whineing about Mens Rights, & how we
are treated so unfair...get the f**k outta here w/that, man. Do you really believe that
you are such a stud-puppy, that you can't learn anything from any of the other people
on these dating sites? I walk into a bar & the 1st thing I look at is the women, the next
thing is the competition...just kinda lets me know where I stand. I watch , I listen , and I learn....because I'm not stupid enough to believe that there aren't guys in there (or in here) that are alot better at this women-pickin-uppin thing, than I am. He consistently tried to convince you that it wasn't guided directly at you...only a stupid man ever, ever decides to quit learning. You want proof that he may be worth listening to - simply compare profiles! His has a great combo of**** & funny - yours just sounds angry & egotistical...am I right
Forum People? And Dude, one more piece of advice (Pamalla Anderson, forumla, recieved) - Get a Spell Check! Also: (Quote - How many women I may turn-off does not concern me)...only a dumba** would say something that stupid! | |
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Posted: 7/2/2005 6:47:08 AM | | wingrider <------reading my mind. Also, you're right.....checked the profiles, no comparison. Woodrow is a total and complete HUNK with an awesome sense of humor! Passions' I did even finish....it struck me as the "I'm way too good for you anyway". | |
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Posted: 7/2/2005 7:16:14 AM |
How many women I may turn-off does not concern me if I'm being true to myself and stand by what I believe in. I'm not going to bend my beliefs just cause it may "turn off" certain women. I'm sure you can get that from any number of guys who listen to what you may believe is what THEY should think.
Let me ask you this, how are your beliefs altered by heeding any of the advice Woody posted at the beginning of this forum? No one was asking you to THINK like we women do, but to offer some friendly (if not humorous) advice on the do's and don'ts of emails on POF. The thing is Passion, Woody does not need to grandstand or bring attention to himself because when you talk to a MAN like Woody he listens. He may not agree with how you see things as a women, but he takes the time to listen to our perspective. Something you have shown to not to do! So I ask you what is it that you THINK we women want to see here in an email on POF. I would love for you to put your money where your mouth is and show me how your beliefs are going to be altered so much by taking some advice from a man that has listened to his female friends on POF. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2005 8:35:49 AM | Ok adding an example of a DON'T when sending emails: (Woody babe I know you will roll your eyes on this one  )
HELLO,
NICE SWEET LADY,
how are you today,including your health and your family members too.i hope all is well and fine with you,including your work. sweet lady, it is my pleasure to use this fine period of time to express my feelings to you,after i have seen your picture and pro file in fat i pick much interest in you that is why i am here today to express my feelings to you.
sweet lady, i like all about you and i will like you to be my friend lets cheers as one in love, i am presently in XXXXXXXXX.
i promise to be nice,good,kind,lovely,loyal,caring and honest to you,if you grant my reguest.
i need your reply soonest,you can reply me through e-mail
XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
i hope you will give me the needed co peration.
have a nice and sweet day,i wish you good, good things in your life.
take care and god bless you.
best regards,
XXXXXXXX | |
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Posted: 7/2/2005 9:06:20 AM | Well, as it seems this has been moved...
First off, having tons of fun reading through all of these posts and am determined to get Part II of the rules out ASAP...
But, back to what's on the plate at the moment...holly...here's what I can imagine would be the automatic reply...
Hello,
My deepest and most sincere apologies for this, a short reply to your expansive and wonderful message outlining the feelings you have for me.
Unfortunately, I must decline. I have a very strict rule for this sort of thing, which goes as follows...If I decide I would probably prefer to stay at home and jam a pencil in my eye rather than meet someone from this site, I have promised myself I will do neither.
I have read your message carefully, and believe that we are likely to be about as compatible as a Victoria Secret super model and a snail.
Please understand, that this is not to say you won't have many women happy to 'give you the needed cooperation' required to spend actual time in the same room with you without screaming or needing massive doses of medication. I would look for 'interests' matching the following keywords: "oddball", "disturbed and possibly deranged" and "Illiterate but tries hard nevertheless".
Take care, and good luck with what I can only imagine is a search to find a lady who is about to become one of the all-time unluckiest people on this planet.
Sincerely,
XXXXXXXX | |
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Posted: 7/2/2005 9:12:45 AM | My cheeks HURT!!!!!
Woody you are one in a million my dear!!! I know I tell you this all the time, but you are INCREDIBLE!! Adore you to pieces!!! | |
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Posted: 7/2/2005 9:12:55 AM |
Well, as it seems this has been moved...
wasn't me ;)
though it might do even more good here, Woody......at least some people here really WANT to know what they're doing wrong, or what they need to do to be more effective. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2005 9:20:39 AM | Aw, Pandy, thanks, but of course, I don't mind where this ends up...it just feeds my pathological desire for grandstanding and desperate attempts to make myself look good...
And Hollies... glad to be of service... | |
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Posted: 7/2/2005 9:28:41 AM | darlin'....I'm in agreement with someone else on this thread.....you really should be writing if you aren't already. Jon Stewart has nothin' on you
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Posted: 7/2/2005 10:19:35 AM | my guide:
1. come on to a woman in a perverted way
2. get rejected
3. repeat steps one and two until... whatever, i dunno
4. add at least one dancing banana
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Posted: 7/2/2005 3:11:00 PM | | I think that would be more of a question for the Deck the Holls forum , but since its all on the same lines I would definitely think he would strike out more than you Frosty. ;) | |
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Posted: 7/2/2005 4:08:23 PM | Ok, 79 dude - you win - you got the "Fly" beat...lol.
At least he only talks s**t, you put it out there for us...ladies, why are ya'll not applauding
his muscular attributes? Hey, I can do better than a six pack - I have a 12-pack & if I wind
up with a gal that's a good cook...may work it into a case. Hmmmm, maybe I better search for a fitness girl so as not to gross out those around me.
But thank you, thank you dude for not takin' them pics down any lower - you go poppin out
the teeny weeny w/o any bikini....I gotta find another forum...  | |
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Posted: 7/2/2005 5:08:03 PM | I don't really know where to begin on this one. So I'll just start typing and hopefully no one will notice if I typo.
I think we need a femal version of Woody/Dave Berry ( I completely agree with the person that said Woody's style is reminicent of Dave Berry --love him and Woody for intellectual pleasures)
I think that if a woman has to show breast shots and butt shots to get a reply how is that better than a man posing in boxers? Also we as females in general tend to be clingy and sometimes desperate. I think Woody could actually delete number 1 and change the "he"s and "him"s and it would work perfectly for women as well. Oh but we would want to talk about clothes, shoes, jewelry and pedicures.
I would like to move on to 79 as his comments are fresh on my mind. First off the dancing green banana is a very interesting icon. But at the same time you have the wrong approach unless you happen to be in the red light district, or you are that much of a moron so as to think this might actually bring you into favor with a woman of substance.
Also, as a woman I do agree that the most annoying thing is to be propositioned in the first email. Someone equated sending****shots out to being in a bar walking around with it hanging out. More importantly, I've only had the great displeasure once of a guy walking up to me at a bar and asking if I wanted to sleep with him. (Only the verbage used was much more crass and appalling.) Though at times, these situations do tend to make you laugh.
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Posted: 7/2/2005 5:09:20 PM | well i agree...
myself and hac started a "helpline" for guys.. maybe one should be started for some of da ladies.. but i think that would be best done by one of the male pof's | |
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