| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/5/2009 8:34:26 PM | burgundy bomber said: I have dated a few "african american chicks" or whatever they call themselves these days. WE CALL OUR SELVES WOMEN<< Black women african american women etc etc but we are women.. It was cool, but their families hated me... no matter how good our connection was I forever remained the farmin cracker in the truck that wakes up the neighborhood (as if crack isn't delt 24/7) WHAT?? so your a farmer who deals crack?? what the hell was that comment suppose to mean??? wanna hear this.. If i could find a black girl with a less rascist family.... and maybe that lived in a nicer neighborhood (optional) then I would not have a problem in the world with dating black girls. i'm sure an know that there's are a lot of people in the world who wished that thier family was more exscepting of them an who they are an who thier with an or thier lifestyle there's plenty of racist an discriminating familys an people who are totally agianst many things in this world an life,.. you can't change people... speaking of how is your family when it comes to you dating somebody out side of your race an kind.. do they get the pitch forks an lite up the crosses in the front yard..? an a better neighbor hood?, i know there's a lot of women who dont care for somebody who lives way out in BFE aka butt f uck egypt.. an or way out where the next store or club is 30 to 50 miles away.. do we need to ride the tracker into town btw: whoever said once you go black...... don't kid yourself, especially black girls know that's a lie, and now that I've dated a few colored girls I know much better. O but son you don't know jack s hit,, colored?? really did we just go back to 1940?1950?? well let me get my black ass in the cotten field an get to work master.. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/5/2009 8:45:44 PM | I have farmed my whole life... and i picked cotton, I'd like to see you try... prolly couldn't take the work.
The young lady i was thinking of lived on the black side of town (like it or not, that's what it is) and that's where the white people go to get crack... and the cops follow me out of town every time i picked her up. "her family called me cracker boy all the time" so i just started calling her dad boy to keep from saying anything rascist.
Oh and my dad is a KlansMan if you must know.... i just didn't figure that was the way to do things, it's not in the bible to burn crosses in your yard every Friday so i choose not to..... just saying.
Every "mahogony" woman i ever dated said i was the most polite and considerate man they had ever been with and were glad to have doors open, dinner bought and not be called a **** or a hoe (dunno what the hell gardening has to do with this though)
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/5/2009 9:04:44 PM | Geez, That Girl.
Farm guy gave an honest answer and you go off on him.
This reminds me of a Bob Newhart skit.
A black guy storms into his office after yelling at his receptionist and demands help.
He yells about racism this and and that and goes off on a rant about nobody liking him.
Gets mean and scary about it.
So Bob meekly suggests it isn't racism.
But that the guy was mean, bad tempered, and well ... just plain mean.
To which the guy smiles and says
"You're telling me people don't hate me just cus I'm black??
But because I'm mean?
I feel so much better."
Walks out happy.
This is a touchy subject That Girl.
No need for attitude if you dont like the answer.
geez.
flying off the handle at the drop of a hat is not an attractive attribute in any race.
Think about it.
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/5/2009 9:57:15 PM | | I messaged a black girl today. Doesn't make any difference to me, although I know it sure as hell does to "the brothuhs" and our different-race families-! If we go out, you can bet "the brothuhs" will give me a lot of dirty looks (like I give a s--t). | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/6/2009 7:08:10 AM | When i was with a woman who is black at first i was suprised on how i didnt get stared at but then again im in nyc where it is neither taboo or a good thing.
People in nyc dont give a rats a--s what you do as long as it doesnt directly affect them.
I do get once in a while the approval of others [white women} /
I have got well intended but weird comments from white women telling us how great it is with all the rascism in the world that i can get together with a woman who is a different color skin than i am . like i am the reverse Jackie Robinson {insert sarcasm here} .
I do find that the only friends who have a problem with it are white women even though their political views and behavior show quite the opposite.
While my white republican or middle of the road male friends had no problem whatsover . | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/6/2009 9:11:45 AM | Jaila
I don't have a problem dating outside my race. In fact I've dated far more outside my race than in my race. I went to a very integrated highschool, maybe that has something to do with it. I believe most people date in their comfort zone. People also have different ideas about what is attractive. Thank God we all have different ideas about what is attractive, because we would probably all be chasing what Hollywood tells us. That would leave 95% of us alone. We are all different and that means that a lot of the time people we are attracted to aren't attracted to us. It is not something to take personally. Yet people do. The person who gets turned down bad mouths the person who turned them down. We look for anything to blame it on so as to comfort our bruised egos. We can't change who other people are, and I wouldn't want to anyway. When I find that someone she most likely won't be white, but who knows where the heart may go? | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/6/2009 9:26:18 AM | OP: Just to clear the air some.
My comments weren't meant as trash-talking and I hope they weren't taken as such.
First of all, I'm already taken. So I'm not interested in ANYBODY, regardless of skin color.
Second, other peoples' personal preferences shouldn't be so taxing on your self esteem. And there's no point in trying harder. If they're not into you, they're not into you and there's nothing that can be done to change that. Move on.
Third, my freckled fair skin don't tan and I'm a lil jealous of those who can tan. But that don't stop me from dating a tanned person. It's the person, not the skin I'm dating!
My comments were based on my own historical reflections, observations, and perceptions.
On a bit of a personal note, from reading your postings here. I get the sense that you are playing the "victim" role. I don't think that THAT is a very appealing attitude for ANYONE to have.
I have learned that...if you keep your chin up and keep positive thoughts on your mind and positive words crossing your lips.......then positive results will occur.
Just be patient! | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/6/2009 10:39:14 AM |
Oh and my dad is a KlansMan if you must know....
Really? I never would have guessed...
Rebelling against daddy by dating a colored girl, were you?
Even when someone isn't a racist, it isn't hard to tell when someone had been raised by one. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/6/2009 11:41:10 AM | Because, unfortunately, society has failed to evolve...why? Because a question such as this even gets air...maybe it is my late 60's-early 70's influences, but race should not matter...what should is that glow between two people umistakenly in love, but no, such couples more have to worry about glares then glows. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/6/2009 2:18:32 PM | Burgundy bomber, You are a moron. You are exactly what is wrong with this country.
Typical white trash, pick-up truck driving, country ass, truck-hat wearing, burns red in the sun, racist piece of sh** who still uses terms from the 1960's to refer to "black people". | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/6/2009 2:50:45 PM | You forgot beer swilling, pork rind eating, rebel proud.
Hell Yeah, yeehaw.
W/E Anyways.......
( I was joking, about a lot in the post... dry sense of humor I guess).... I have picked cotton, but we use machines now... much more efficient, no my dad's not in a secret society, but we have both been asked to join. i do know what a ho is. And i hate Wiggers, with their white hoodies living in their trailors getting laughed at by whites and blacks alike. and the two african american girls i dated met both my parents and everybody hugged and went fishing, yes both went fishing, that's what they each enjoyed so... (we just didn't fall for each other enough to sort through the issues with their families) and other compatibility issues as well from both parties.
I talked at length on the subject with a few black friends at work today 2 were women, one woman whom i had dated in the past, and another a man talking...
and they stated that I wasn't very familiar with their culture because i had never met an african untill i was 12 years old. And if I listened to rap music i might actually understand what they were saying most of the time... and the young lady still wonders what if, we had stayed together.
But the general consensus was they refuse to call me german irish american, but i should call them african american, and I'm not allowed to use the nigga word but they are. And bro's and sisters.... is "their" word too. Depending on how touchy the person is depends on what they prefer to be called, and i was definantly mistaken using the word "colored".
If i was trying to rebel against my old man I'd buy a toyota, wait i allready bought a Dodge, he wouldn't talk to me for 2 months!!
If i want to meet someone I like, I'll date whoever is interesting of any race.
I'm am extremely convinced that the only way to eliminate racism is to ignore it completely... some people are so anti-rascist they end up going the other direction... I know an african american man, that drives a diesel truck, dips skoal, listens to country and when a fight broke out at the river he was screaming to whip the "insert N word" ass.... that just isn't right in any way shape or form. He can't like who he's become.
I'm done with this thread, no point arguing about it. I only know whats in my heart and what I have lived and been through.
somebody will prolly pick this post apart yet again..... but I'll just let it ride. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/6/2009 3:26:01 PM |
AmeliaMD said:
Burgundy bomber, You are a moron. You are exactly what is wrong with this country.
Typical white trash, pick-up truck driving, country ass, truck-hat wearing, burns red in the sun, racist piece of sh** who still uses terms from the 1960's to refer to "black people".
exactly but a few seem to think i over reacted..
really? how would some people know how it feels an what it's really like in life when they've never lived a day in a "african americans" shoes a day in thier life let alone know anything about what other races have to an have been through..
and ignoring racisim an discrimination wont make it go away..
so what now we just sweep everything under the carpet like it never exsisted or no longer is here,, when it still is an will never go away... things have only been sugar coated in the years everything still is here an goes on,, it's just kinda candy coated over today.. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/6/2009 3:28:59 PM | ^^^^
Yup, This thread is a trap.
just a lame "Nice girl can't get a guy" thread of a different color.
As in all "nice peeps" threads.
It usually boils down to loose the weight, attitude, self pity, ect.
Easier to blame others than work on oneself. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/6/2009 8:41:53 PM | | Hi Jaila, I'm in Maryland. I see interracial couples here all of the time. It's no big deal here. As for me, I'm neither Black or White, so no matter who I date, it's a mixed-race thing! So, don't take it too personally. Give it some time, or, be assertive and make the first move. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/8/2009 12:17:20 AM | jaila, i'm going to address your initial question and ignore the rest, because as a mom, i've past letting it "piss me off". it just now gets weary. first of all what is the composition of your town and the "ethnic" versus racial heritage? are you a minority there or are your neighborhoods segregated?
for example, i had a friend back east who came from dutch reform farm land in wisconsin. there, you would not even date another "white" person, let alone another religion. so, she came east and met her man. wisconsin grannie now has a "bi-racial" child. however, she took him to a bigger more cosmopolitan city to raise him later on. many "white" people get tired of small town parochialism and slowly branch away. some of the small towns start to change for external reasons and some continue on. back east there are vestiges of ethnic neighborhoods that are more defined by ethnicity but have racial implications.
you do know your history that after world war two, people of "color" were not allowed fannie mae mortgages and this is how a lot of this started. it does not go back to "slavery" and it was not changed until the civil rights legislation in the 60's, which was then followed by bank "redlining" practices and by then, much of the damage was done .
so, now it's time for the next post 60' s generation to branch out and "mix". for some, it's a pretty scary feat. it depends on where you live and "high school " is the worst years for any kid nowaday as there is too much pressure from all angles. so, kids form all sorts of cliques there. way back when i was a kid, i got beat up by an irish clique for being "jewish", but my first husband was irish. not much different.
my kids are supposedly bi or tri racial. i've taught them their ethnic heritage which they did not know when they came to me as teens. they are african american, indigenous, spanish and british in descending order of genetic contribution. the british part is on their african american side ( birth grandma). me and my parents who they will have to carry forth in their stories to their kids are russian descent and jewish to boot. my grandfather passed through africa to come here and i have true african relics to pass down to them. their birth parents raised them as hindu.
my grandson adds afro-cuban to the mix. my little one seems to attract " skinny white boys" with blue eyes. my eldest has an african american partner, now, but before had a red haired, irish boyfriend. my son likes latino women, but he eats matzoh ball soup and looks like a rapper with dreadlocks.
so, it all depends upon where you live and if you seek multi-cultural settings. i tell my kids half of the world popualation stays with their original culture to preserve it and the other half connects. over time, the math will slowly mix us all up. some don't want to lose their "look". sorry charlie, but the future is about species survival and not about one's puny little ego. so, OP. just seek out the richness of all cultures and put blinders on, if you must plow through the ones who are there to "preserve". i've always been a connector. but, i have many friends from different cultures who chose to stay with their "own" or it just happened that way and they are open to me, in other ways than "mating". today, even though where i live now is "whiter" than san jose, above us, most people here would not bat an eyelash at an interracial couple. they might ask "what they are" because of interest in ethnicity, culture, traditions, richness of diversity. in other areas, just being white and jewish can get you hung! however, with a little bit of education and exposure, most of these people will also slowly "get it". | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/8/2009 9:37:13 AM | this is not a pity thread.
are the posters reading the degrading things that are being said about black women?? hello i have a reason to be pissed.
the poster above me just siad that a white man will never bring me home to his mother.
and a poster has a nerve to come in and say that this is a pity or victim thread? what the ****? i am being attacked and ridiculed because i am a black woman.
then another posters comes in and say that he can't find a black woman who lives in a nice neighborhood
am i supposed to ignore this racial injustice and not say anythign at all about it? it seems that nothing matters, if i lose wieght get a new hairstyle...it won't matter because i am BLACK.
this is really pissing me off. especially that it's so easy for a black man to leave and marry a white woman. but what am i stuck with? whatever craps that i am given | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/8/2009 10:26:00 AM | Typical white trash, pick-up truck driving, country ass, truck-hat wearing, burns red in the sun, racist piece of sh** who still uses terms from the 1960's to refer to "black people".
Hey, I married and have two kids with a pick-up truck driving, countty-ass. truck hat wearing, beer drinking, burns red in the sun man. And he has never made me feel less than human. He has, however, shown me the wild and crazy world of racist hillbillies and it is a scary, scary place. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/8/2009 10:53:39 AM | Well OP,
All I can tell you is to come visit Toronto.
I personally dated or gone on dates with girls who were black, Middle Eastern and East/West Indian.
I think dark skinned girls are beautiful.
And I personally know at least a few white guys who are either married to or have been in serious relationships with dark skinned girls. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/8/2009 12:00:16 PM | Come visit Atlanta. It's amazing because you see the whole spectrum, meaning White men with black women, black men with white women, but also all kinds of variations such as Geeks, Goths, Nerds, Jocks, Rappers, Heavy metal heads, granolas.
I personally think its awesome. | |
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