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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/8/2009 12:11:47 PM | Oh, oh, you said Marietta? I hate Marietta!!!!!!
Hehehe. Just kidding. Actually one of the coolest thing about this town is how because of Hip Hop and music it has become a meca for TV and video production and that is something that attracts musicians, writers, set designers, composers, producers, film makers, you name it and that transcends tremendously. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/8/2009 7:21:47 PM | OutMind said:
Come visit Atlanta. It's amazing because you see the whole spectrum, meaning White men with black women, black men with white women, but also all kinds of variations such as Geeks, Goths, Nerds, Jocks, Rappers, Heavy metal heads, granolas.
I personally think its awesome.
So true.....I just love it here!
Brandie | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/16/2009 8:56:34 PM | I think the problem is that many Black women are scared of what their friends and family is going to think, and also scared of the unknown, and not wanting to be the little chocolate fantasy for a white guy.
Some women, not just Black, would rather share a married/involved man or a player, instead of dating IR. By the way is a stupid term.... IR??? we're all the same "race", most are the same nationality, and some are diff colors. There is no "race" in Europe, only nationality.
I don't do a double take, or tighten up my face when I see a wht guy with a blk woman.
Hey, if they're happy, thats all that matters, not the opinions of others. Nobody has the right to say who "should" date who.
I say, give it a try.... keep an open mind to all colors and nationalites, date and be yourself. You might just find more things in common with someone of another color than your own. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/16/2009 11:38:38 PM | | I think its cultural. not racial. i date a lot of white girls not because im super into white girls, but if you can find me a black girl that like italian horror films, comic books and baseball please please please send her my way. But im not gonna wait for her to come along | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/19/2009 6:27:01 PM | | I would wonder then if the women are emailing the men? I would like to think that in this day and age people are not so hung up with the pigment of the persons skin they are attracted to and eliminating dating or relationship potentials based on something so superficial. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/19/2009 7:55:05 PM | I personally think white guys may be intimidated. I've actually taken the initiative to message a few guys I've found attractive, to no avail -_-. but me as a black women that has a preference for guys of a different race, it's hard to put it out there without getting some kind of judgement in some way or another. so I think it's that willingness to just take a chance that maybe some black women and white men are lacking...while there could be just no attraction at all which is understandable..I think if there is a bit of attraction..why not go for it?..just my opinion. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/20/2009 7:33:38 PM | | Interesting. I'm in Maryland as well, and lately I haven't had any problem at all attracting white men and dating white men. And while I've found that there are some cultural differences, they are nothing major, and not unlike things I encountered when dating a black man who was the child of Jamaican immigrants. I think its just all about what you're comfortable with, and I really believe that if more black women appeared receptive to IR dating, it would happen more often. I know of a lot of black women who would rather be single and lonely than date a white guy. Whatever. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/22/2009 11:44:06 PM | Personally, I hate Atlanta. But mostly due to the traffic!
ATL, NYC, and Chicago..........you can have em!
I'll take L.A. ANYDAY over them three!
But, that's prolly my left coast bias.
I'm actually starting to see this thread as more of the OP's personal problems. Than of anything to do with racial bias in the dating scene.
There's leaders, followers, and whiners. Whiners play the "victim" role and try to blame others for their own problems/situation/lot in life.
I don't have the time, nor the energy for people that play the "victim" role.
I'm certainly not going to date this kind of person.
Leaders and followers get things done, make things happen, play a role in their own future. They "work" to create/change their status quo.
Stray Cat is right. This more of a "Why won't anyone date me" kind of thread. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/23/2009 5:03:00 AM | | I'd like to try to prompt a departure from the negativity I'm seeing here by answering the topic question from a logical and mathematical standpoint. First off, the African-American population is something like 12-16 percent of the total US population and much of that is culturally and/or socially disparate. That leaves a single digit percentage of the socially integrated. Odds are, that the chosen target for a white man amongst, say 20 women, one of whom is black, isn't going to be that particular woman. She's one option versus many others and she only has a 1/20 chance of being seen as the best option regardless of her race. To expect otherwise, is to assume that a sizable number of white men have an explicit preference for black women which the everyday experience isn't going to lend itself to unless, for whatever reason, they were more exposed to black women than other women, which is highly unlikely. The follow up question might be "shouldn't a lot of white men prefer black women?" However, that's not really a fair request because why would they? It's not the same thing as with some black women who may work with a lot of white men and grow attached to the demographic; there's just less exposure there. At any rate, I've dated black women before and have no complaints but in those cases, things just fell together. I wouldn't generally seek out a black woman to date if I didn't know her already and while I might if I found her more appealing than the rest of the women out there, but the likelihood of her standing out in that regard AND even being open to dating a white man isn't too high. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/23/2009 1:24:13 PM | | well, i never understand why people call it interracial dating, since we are all the same species, but i honestly find a black woman more attractive in general anyway....anything more requires a look into their eyes and smile, but in the end, if they don't have a good personality, their eyes and smile make no difference. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/23/2009 9:27:05 PM | | This is probly gonna hurt me more than the women this might hurt if taken the wrong way, but my two cents is that for some reason I just don't find most of them attractive. The few I find attractive are either taken, or being hit on by throngs of guys, and when the latter is the case, I prefer to save my energy and resources for some better chances. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/24/2009 8:06:31 AM | | I have nothing against dating a black woman. the problem I run into is Im not quite good enough for what ever reason to be with a black woman. Ive had a couple contact me one time and that was it. I replyed to what they wrote and i never heard from them again. I perfectly find with dating a black woman, an Asian woman, or a latino woman. They just dont seem to find me good enough which i cant seem to figure out why that is. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/24/2009 11:13:40 AM | I only date white men and I don't have a problem with dating outside of my race. I had former friends I let go because they had issues with me dating white men; I figure if you are my friend you will respect who I am with. I wish you the best of luck finding that special lady.  | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/24/2009 11:50:11 AM | Here is my 2 cents to this thread... It took me about an hour to read through 4 pages of this thread. And I did find some very good comments and bad.
It really all depend on the individual. I grew up where racist was very popular, but as I grew from boyhood to a man and intergrated with different cultures and different parts in the world, I found myself color blind. It really doesn't matter what nationallity she is, or what other people think, it only matters about how you want to live your life.
I really think you are wrong, there are a lot dating of people outside of their norm. Your bigger cities often have a diverse sociality and no one cares or even look twice because you are with someone from a different culture. Those who do look are wondering why you are having more fun then they are.
I can't remember who wrote this, but this was beautifully said in my opinion.
I think it's a combination of 3 basic things....
1. Your attraction to a certain set of features and cultural environment (barring experimental curiousity).
2. Your familiarity or comfort with that set of features or culture and your opinion of it (you were raised around a lot of whites but want anything but that cause you're bored with it; you're white and were raised around a lot of blacks and it's what you're most comfortable around; you are black or white and you were raised with all types of different people and it's not something you notice really; that sort of thing).
3. Your fear of outside opinion based on your preference. Example: you are white and are attracted to non-white but default to date white more often because you stand to deal with a lot of comments from outsiders if you don't, or you are white, like non-white and therefore date non-white cause it's what you like and you could care less what others think. It's basically the amount of crap you're willing to put up with mixed with the actual amount of crap you would actually deal with in your region.
We both have very open attitudes and refuse to let race be an excuse. ~LoriMac~
Just know this...I never dated within my race. I always dated someone outside of my race. Don't give up, your better half is out there. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/24/2009 3:53:03 PM | | I think there is actually very very much dating between white men and black or other races of women. I am a white woman wanting a white man, and I'm single. I see white men mostly wanting only barbies, girls half their ages, and some are dating outside of the race, be it black or not. So when we rule out those, there are often no men left for a dating pool for regular white women. I'm very open to dating men from the north; it seems that some of the same problems are not as bad there. At my church we have several mixed race couples and the majority are white men with black women??? And I sit and watch black women hit on the few white men there??? When I am out, I try to look to see for the couples where the woman is white and the man is black, hoping the demographics are more balanced than what I see every day. I do think that stereotype about black men willing to date bigger women is based on fact, though, because I see alot of big white women with black men. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/24/2009 6:18:10 PM | | I don't date white men for money. But I guess its a double standard for interracial dating. Its ok for a black man to only date white woman but if a black woman date a white man its a sin. Like I said before I only date white men because I am attracted to them. I have never been attracted to black men. I have my reasons which I don't have to explain to a black man or anyone else for that matter. Op, don't give up love. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/24/2009 6:27:29 PM | Thanks for the compliment. There is nothing wrong with admiring a beautiful black woman. I think a number of white men like black women because they have nice curves. There are some white women who have nice figures as well. But usually black women we have a tendency to have curvier figures. Well good luck fishing.  | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/25/2009 3:20:49 AM | "Cutiepie" that would be a great post if it were 1980. If you honestly believe the media is promoting whites over other races in this day and age you need to seek therapy. If you believe men find something attractive just because they see it on TV or in a movie I've got more bad news for you as well.
It must be so nice to be as ignorant as u are headon. If u have watched any movie or tv show since 1980 u would realize that cutiepie is dead on.
As for my opinion on the subject.
I find black woman attractive. Not as much as say white or asian or whatever but i do find them attractive. Problem is, i have no idea how i would handle being in a relationship with a girl like that once the relationship got serious. Meetin the parents if there not open to the idea (which mine arn't) would be rough. If we have kids and no offense but if the kids turn out more black than white then thats another rough issue. Not only would i be a first time father but i would also find out just how different i was raised and treated in school/life compared to how my black son or daughter will. Its just a completely different life style for them. different interests, different agenda's, ideaology's, enemy's... ya. But if i loved her that much then it wouldn't be a problem now would it. | |
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