| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/25/2009 5:02:24 AM |
I can't remember who wrote this, but this was beautifully said in my opinion.
I think it's a combination of 3 basic things....
1. Your attraction to a certain set of features and cultural environment (barring experimental curiousity).
2. Your familiarity or comfort with that set of features or culture and your opinion of it (you were raised around a lot of whites but want anything but that cause you're bored with it; you're white and were raised around a lot of blacks and it's what you're most comfortable around; you are black or white and you were raised with all types of different people and it's not something you notice really; that sort of thing).
3. Your fear of outside opinion based on your preference. Example: you are white and are attracted to non-white but default to date white more often because you stand to deal with a lot of comments from outsiders if you don't, or you are white, like non-white and therefore date non-white cause it's what you like and you could care less what others think. It's basically the amount of crap you're willing to put up with mixed with the actual amount of crap you would actually deal with in your region.
That was me, thanks. Good to know stuff I post gets read sometimes...lol | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/30/2009 8:10:26 PM | In canada, interracial dating is the norm. Especially here in Toronto. Black women date white men all the time here and no one bats an eye to it. You will see asian women with black men, white women with asian men, indian women with white men, black women with white men, latin women with black men, latin women with white men. It is all good and so great to see.
I have dated women from various backgrounds, I am like many others and say who cares what others think.
If you are a black woman and like white men, there are lots of white men who do in fact like black women. More than you would believe. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/31/2009 1:31:38 PM | | I am a BW and I have never had a problem dating WM and I live in the South of all places. I have seen many Dark Skinned BW with WM as a matter of fact the majority of the cases where I have seen a BW with a WM the woman was dark. I am not sure where you are from but maybe you need to work on yourself because men of all races love a women who loves herself. I can tell by the title of your post that don't get out much because there are BW/WM couples everywhere. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 5/31/2009 4:17:23 PM | | +1 I am a WM, on a date with a BW last night and was one of the best dates I've been on, she was beautiful, perfect body, classy, polite, great conversationalist and even as we kissed and held hands walking down the sidewalk I didnt notice any "staires" not that I would care. I only hope she felt the same chemestry I did. All of you that define a person by thier color need to get on the same page as the rest of developed nations. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/1/2009 11:01:54 AM | What is the big deal anyway? At the end of the day, whether the guy is White, Latino, or African American, if they are going to do dirt then the only things that make them different is which one got bs called on them the loudest.
I don't discriminate. I date who I want and that is that. People who don't want to date me because I am a very fair-skinned Latina could kiss my butt----and there is plenty of it. My youngest son's dad is African American and his father's side of the family couldn't care less that his mom, me, is Puerto Rican. We are not together for reasons that have nothing to do with race.
Anyone who is interested in you should 'flip it' to the people who have issues with it. If you think that I am going to let an opportunity pass over stupid shit like that is too sorry for words.  | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/1/2009 2:58:29 PM | | I think that most white men found white women more attractive then black women its not even because of the color its the hair girl. That's why black men are dating white women they like the silky hair which we don't have. I'm sorry dude but I'm beautiful I don't need no hair. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/1/2009 8:32:17 PM | Y dont u stop all the damn whinning. Thats pathetic. Stop feeling sorry for urself and creating a problem that doesnt exist.
Dark skinned people dont have a harder time dating people but they do have the self confidence to go out there and do it. Everyone has a preference when it comes to dating. There are people who you do find attractive and their are people out there who u dont find attractive.
I dont have a problem meeting white men or men from another race. They message me and I respond and vice versa.
Ur problem could be that u look like u have low self esteem and are desperate. These traits are unattractive in any race and gender. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/3/2009 8:34:01 AM | Wow and to think we have come this far and still people are assuming black people are lower class, this time the women, by saying they only date us white guys for our money. Wow. I sure am far from loaded, and the black women I have dated over the past 10 years have never been poor, broke, using me for my money. Not sure why a black man would turn around and say that about a black woman. I have known black men in the past, where they felt it was quite alright for them to date a white woman but his own dated a white man he was against that. Crazy and so pathetic. I could care less if a white woman prefers to date black men. It is a preference and that is it.
I believe most black women have and do find white men attractive, BUT, it is the white men who have this thought in thier minds that black women do not date white men.
I remember when we started to see alot of white women date black men, and alot of white guys figured that we must not be good enough. Plus alot I remember thought black women stick to "thier own" so most white men would not bother approaching the black ladies. It is 2009, and interracial dating is here to stay. Many white men, including myself, find black women to be more attractive than white women.
Remember how in the 70's and 80's it was all about the blonde women, now it is light skinned women, dark skinned women, asian women who are the ones who more and more men find more attractive and appealing.
Attitude plays a big part and from my experiences, black women have better attitudes towards things than most white women do. Comes from upbringing.
My question is, if a black woman prefers dating white men it is thought that she is only in it for money? What about a white man who prefers to date black women? What about that? I wonder what the assumption is there.
I say we date who we want, two words here PERSONAL PREFERENCE | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/3/2009 10:40:13 AM | I disagree^^^ toally. White women in general are the ones who seem to judge more white men by the prestige, status, career they have. Now I never said ALL so calm down there ladies, but the majority of white women do look at those things as what matters most. Now the majority of black women are not searching out white men who have money. The majority of black women that date white men do so because they find the men more appealing and attractive.
It is like saying black men date white women because they give it up easy compared to black women.
So what do you suppose is the reason behind a white guy who dates black women exclusively? And what about a black man who dates white women exclusively? Why is he doing that?
Also what I mean by we have come this far is how we have integrated and not segregated like 50 years ago. That people of all races, religion, cultures can live among one another happily. There is some racism still around and sadly it will be forever, but I believe that those times are gone and the majority of us can live with one another, among one another with acceptance. Like I said there will always be SOME disagreement and SOME racism in our society.
Black women are strongwilled women I find. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/3/2009 2:23:25 PM | Speaking as one who used to have both a black wife and several white girlfriends after divorce, I think there is some truth in the physical differences between white and black women. I believe hair is one. For myself, it's always been in the eyes...not brown like mine but blue, green, hazel.
But it doesn't matter too much, not many black women wanna date me anyway. I guess cuz they are looking to date a white guy...hence this post.  | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/3/2009 4:08:35 PM | Statistics mean crap. I don't make an average of 50K a year, and so these typical 'American" stats are just numbers is all.
I just don't get why you say that black women date white men for thier money. That in my experience is untrue. And see this is how we all get our views and preferences, by our experiences no? I know many white families who are not racist and many black families who never would frown upon thier daughters dating or marrying a white man and vice versa.
To say the black woman has some sort of issues for preferring white men is pretty bad when you do not know that specific black woman.
Also do you have issues with interracial dating? You must because you seem to knock the black women for doing it. What about the black guys dating asians and white women?
Also see we are all a part of the same race. The human race. A black woman bleeds red like a white man, like an asian woman etc. | |
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| For the love of God...
Posted: 6/3/2009 7:08:51 PM |
I might as well kill myself
...did you REALLY just suggest that you should kill yourself because you ain't found a white boy yet to hook up / hang out / whatever 20 somethings' do with?
For all that is holy.....
PLEASE... | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/3/2009 7:25:28 PM | This is in response to Mr. Mthomjmark:
You've got to be kidding me. Unless your profile setting excludes Black Women that consider themselves Big & Beautiful they have every right to look at your profile and make contact if they so choose. Just like a man, women have the right to approach, contact, and or solicit anyone they may desire.
You are just a man, nothing more and nothing less. I don't care if you jog 50 miles a day. You're not more important, special, or worthy of love and attention than the plus size Black girl that made the mistake of contacting you. I'm sure you know what it feels like to be rejected harshly, rudely, and without feeling. I'm sure you've experienced this over and over and over again. So please tell me why you'd want to spread the hate.
Stop hiding behind stereotypes to insult people who you claim you have no interest in. | |
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| For the love of God...
Posted: 6/3/2009 7:28:37 PM | Malestrome what I mean by saying stats are crap is that I do not live my life based on statistics.
I live it based on my life experiences.
Just because one grows up in a low income neighbourhood does not mean that person is going to be low class for example. Just because statistics may show that most men who live in that environment won't do much with themselves. It is all about how YOU the person wants to live your life.
And when a white man finds black women more attractive and more appealing than white women, I don't see anything wrong with that.
If a black man decides he likes Asian women only, so be it. There are experiences that give us the reasons. And as we get older we usually know what we like and want.
Interestingly I know a black guy who dates white women yet he does not like the fact his sister who is black dates white men.
I also know a black woman who dates only black men and does not agree with her best friend who is black dating a white man. Also I know many white people who would never date a black woman. So be it, personal preference. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/5/2009 4:02:55 AM | Well, here's my 2 cents:
I'm in Austin, TX, grew up in Louisiana. All of the guys I've dated (from the first to the most recent) have mostly been white. I see myself as an equal-opportunity dater and thus don't limit myself. I think that's what the OP is trying to say: Why aren't more people on this site and in the real world looking for SOMEONE that could enjoy time with, not a man or woman that is or isn't a certain color. I like to think of it this way: a close-minded person that either plays into stereotypes or uses the whole "just not into it" mentality may be missing out on "the one" and will be looking around them years later wondering what went wrong with their relationship/marriage, etc. I've had to fight stereotypes so many times with people, including exes' families, especially here in the South. I'm very active, I actually jog (which is something one guy on here made it seem like no minority does), most of my friends are white (although I have friends of every nationality/race), I listen to mostly rock music, and I own my own business. I have 2 college degrees, but for some reason (and I've actually heard this from a potential "suitor") some white men stray from contacting me because they think I wouldn't "fit in" with their friends/family/lifestyle or that I would in actuality turn out to be that stereotype later on. I know this topic has been discussed to death on here and in the media, but I guess now that I'm back in the dating game that I've gotten more defensive about my views. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/6/2009 4:00:40 PM | Every relationship I've ever had (with the exception of one), has been with a white European or white American male. Over 75% of the responses that I've received on POF have come from white men.
I do agree with certain things that have been said so far. I think the main reason white males do not try to date black women are either because they do not find us attractive, they worry how people in their lives would respond to them dating a black woman, or due to the often wide differences in the average lifestyle of a white male/black woman.
While people come in all shapes and sizes, black women tend to be heavier for example. I recently read an article that stated approx 60% of all black women in America are either overweight or obese...larger than any other female ethnic demographic. By no means am I saying all white males only like thin/average built women. Interracial dating overall is common in NYC, but I have YET to see a white man(especially if he's attractive/in shape) dating a black BBW, and I've lived here for almost 12 years! But anything is possible I guess.
Someone earlier mentioned something about the large percentage of single black women. My father is a former politician and he was involved in a project in a different state that had findings that noted in many urban communities (where you are most likely to find large populations of black women) approx 70% of all black babies born are born out of wedlock to single mothers who either are working class poor and/or poverty level. And no, I'm not saying all black women are like this, but at the same time statistics don't lie. It is very common to see a black women who has never been married with 2-3 children (often by more than one father). I personally do not see the average white man wanting to date someone like that (and by NO means am I saying all white men think this about all black women). But the problem is when there are large populations of people doing this, then the entire group often gets stereotyped as being such.
I also think it's about your social circles/environment. if your circle of friends and the places you frequent are the same places the type of men you are interested in frequent (regardless of race), then you are more likely to meet someone you are interested in. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/8/2009 12:23:34 PM | | well ill put my 2 cents in for one most black women seem to want a black guy, or they value his penis size only, this is not saying that white men men have small penis but black women seem to be stuck on the idea that all white guys r small, but i feel the truth of the matter really is that black women r close minded and prejudiced to the idea of dating white men and i think alot of it is becuz black men and their community as a whole says to them do not date white men i live in dallas tx and i can say from observation there is very little why men blk wmn dating here i will say to those white men who like black women go for women from africa or some foreign country rather than american black women, african women are far superior mentally, emotionally and spiritually than american black women trust me i would definitely marry an african woman never a blk american woman they are like shit beneath my feet | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/9/2009 12:55:02 AM |
well ill put my 2 cents in for one most black women seem to want a black guy, or they value his penis size only, this is not saying that white men men have small penis but black women seem to be stuck on the idea that all white guys r small, but i feel the truth of the matter really is that black women r close minded and prejudiced to the idea of dating white men and i think alot of it is becuz black men and their community as a whole says to them do not date white men i live in dallas tx and i can say from observation there is very little why men blk wmn dating here i will say to those white men who like black women go for women from africa or some foreign country rather than american black women, african women are far superior mentally, emotionally and spiritually than american black women trust me i would definitely marry an african woman never a blk american woman they are like shit beneath my feet
Dear God man! I see what you're saying, but do you want to get banned from forums?? There are sensitive people on this site that will delete you're posts, threads, and profile in a second! Say it nicer and be respectful to the women. Even the ones outside of your personal preference. Suppose an African American woman or someone dating one reads what you said! They'd be pissed!
Anyways I disagree with you. Penis size has little to nothing to do with it. Women are a little different than men my friend. You may date a girl because you like her bust size but most women are not like that towards the opposite sex. Women are a little more emotionally stimulated than men and a little less physically stimulated. (but dont get me wrong it still plays a big part.) If a man, white or black, does every thing he's supposed to and raises her interest in him through the roof, she will hardly mind that he doesn't exactly have the incredible hulk in his pants. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/9/2009 1:08:46 AM | | See, the guy who just made the comment about African-American women being scum...and no, as an African-American woman, I did not take offense. There's an old saying: "an opinion is like an *ss, we all have one.". I'm a decent, educated woman, so people like that don't matter to me...but it goes to show you how some people think of AA women...so actually, thank you for showing your true self! | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/9/2009 5:31:20 AM | | this is in response to the two people who read my my post to the gentleman yes i shouldnt have been so harsh i dont want to get banned thank you my friend to the lady and anyone else i dont mean to offend there are decent aa women i suppose but they aint got nothin on an african woman im done thank u | |
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