| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/15/2009 3:26:24 AM | Correct, and I've made my choices of who I've decided to date based upon the men I'm around/types who approach me.
It is totally impossible for anyone to meet everyone. Is there a possibility that somewhere, there's a black male with similar goals/interests, who I also find attractive? Absolutely...just like I'm sure there's an Asian male, and a Hispanic male too...I just haven't met him yet. In my profile I did not indicate I'm looking for a white male, but I did state for the most part I have dated interracially. I made that statement to let people know I'm open minded so if a man of any race who likes my profile/photo can feel free to respond to my profile/message. Also, I've had experiences with black men who did not want to be with me once they know I've had relationships with white men...I've been called tainted goods by certain black men. By no means do I feel all black men feel that way, but I put it out there right away so people can chose to or chose not to contact me. So far, I've received responses from white, black, and hispanic males...
I see nothing wrong with a man who prefers not to date a black woman...again it's his choice...I've never been one to be angry/disappointed at what someone likes or doesn't like. It's not going to add or subtract anything from my life. There's always going to be people who chose to or chose not to date certain people. Just like I would never date a guy with a bunch of illegitimate kids by different women...no offense to the kids, but that's just me...my choice. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/15/2009 6:37:11 AM | It boils down to this and I will put it in layman's terms and this comes from experience..Unfortunately in 2009, we still have ignorant racist individuals who, when they see a man/woman, they see BLACK/WHITE..they don't take the time to SEE the person. I didn't grow up racist and will not be friends with any individual who is. I have known good and bad black AND white ppl. I can also tell you this..the saying "once you go black you never go back"..for "white" women it is not because of the myth of size..it is because "black" men are more protective of their women and families. It is because of how deep their souls run. They express their feelings more to their woman(regardless of the woman's color) then any other men.
The sterotype that a "black" woman is more abrasive is just well, uninformed and closed minded..again a person sees how one or several ppl may act(no matter who or what the situation/race is) and ASSUMES they are all like that. I have met some "white" women who could give a new meaning to the term abrasive! Could it be that because of that idiot saying I mentioned previously that "white" men think they would not be able to "fulfill" (so to speak) a "black" woman they might be interested in? Again uninformed and closed mindedness may be a factor here.. I have also met "black" women who are very confrontational and I attribute that to society..come on ppl..NO ONE in the good ole USA is truly white or black anymore. We are ALL of mixed race!! | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/15/2009 7:36:43 AM | | im gonna say this one more time especially to jonjolia i like dark skinned attractive well built black women any day i live in dallas and the black women here are usually hood rats who hate white guys thats why i date african women instead jonjolia u r fine as hell and u know it but are u trying to get sympathy i hope not u cant move from louisiana but maybe u should come here to dallas and we can date come visit me ill date you. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/15/2009 8:38:53 AM | Winterlotus If I lived my life based on opinions of people I would be a misrable person. I will never see myself in your words dont give yourself that much credit!
I am a postive person and I tend to keep postive vibes around me. Negative caddy and pettty people have no place in my life. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/15/2009 8:44:42 AM | Chad I dont need sympathy from you or anyone else! Why would I want to date you if you feel that way. I dont need people feeling sorry for me! This is a forum and I simply speak from my experiences what do you want me to do lie and say I am fine as far as dating goes?????
If my dating life was perfect I would be in relationship with a man. Obviously something is wrong and I come here to express my views and at the same look for advice that may help me to become a better person. I dont come here to get shut down or to look for a pitty party.
I am so glad I dont have to come on here to bring other people down to make myself look better. Look at yourself before you come down on me.
If I felt sorry for myself I would sit and home and wonder. I am active and willing to change life and become a better person so when the right man comes along I will be ready for him. You dont have to worry about me ever wanting to date someone who thinks I need their sympathy that is not how I roll. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/15/2009 9:29:42 AM | One friend's gf is a black girl who grew up in a low income area. She dated white men who seemed to think they had to act all ghetto. When he met her one night at a restaurant take out he said it was her smile and eyes that caught his eye. She was with a couple of friends and he said "I was wiondering if you ladies could suggest something on the menu for me, I'm undecided here" and he said they laughed at him but then they realized he was just being humourous and they suggested something and he said ok I'll get it.
He smiled at the one who soon became his gf. And left. But then he said he turned around and seen all 3 of them looking out the window and he waved to one to come over. "You know you have such a beautiful smile, here is my number, give me a call tomorrow night" and walked away.
Well 6 years later they are married, 2 kids, both work and have a fun life. Her family loves him and his family adores her.
They always joke about that first meeting. She said he was the first white guy to make her smile and laugh all in one night. Amazing. And best of all, just because of where she lived, he didn't ever think low of her. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/15/2009 2:24:55 PM | okay, black women, I love ya to death, sexy, sweet or stubborn, or whatever else, much love. Now here comes the problem that most (not all) have.
poor planning skills. maybe even low goal orientation at times.
I know a ton of ladies that just make thier lives so much more frantic by not plotting anything out ever. So then sometimes decisions are made last minute and are often impulsive or even made by the situation itself. I'm not trying to come up with a new stereotype, i been noticeing this for years I think it's a bad side effect caused by Black women trying so hard not to be too bossy, which is like an opposite thing, But in all actuality Im going to bust the guys out here, we really like to act like the boss but we are 50 percent or more dependant on what you ladies think, seriously we don't expect you to mail out all kinds of cutesy greeting cards for everyone we know, or bake cookies for the new neighbors. But we need you to help decide, or already know what (you), want to eat for dinner, where our next date will be, if we need to go holiday shopping weeks or days before, not on xmas day. Really i'm being serious, put in for vacation time that you deserve and get out and have the most fun you can have with your man, your fam, whatever, don't be afraid to get out there and have fun, plan to move somewhere nice if thats what you want. it will go a long way, All men love women with structure, it shows heart and pride, they also like to take part in your goals and ideas, No men like to be bossed into doing nothing, I hope this helps.
p.s. Bonita Applebum, Ya gotta put me on! lol | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/15/2009 2:52:57 PM | | i dunno i have occasionally found some black girls to be attractive and know lot of guys that like black girls. maybe you're having difficulty getting them to talk to you since you don't have a picture on your profile. users without pictures often don't get replies | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/15/2009 8:17:32 PM | Mmm I never had that problem, maybe it is because I am from Amsterdam originally?? There is a lot of different ethnicity, what they call the multi cultural society... but that's just something that has always puzzled me.
But I do believe that unless people all around the world keep thinking there are differences in races, in religion in culture..not much will change.. divide and rule still works even in the world today!! Each and every person is UNIQUE and till we let that person express their uniqueness even if we do not agree with it..we will still be living in a mind controlled world | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/15/2009 11:52:20 PM | Well...took me a while to read thru all these posts...so now...perhaps some perspective from one who is of mixed race?.....
Mixed race....errrr....sorry, I meant of mixed ethnic background...are we not all humans???? We are of the same race, Human....sure, all us women have dated some Dawgs in our time, and the men have dated some real ****es....but we are all of the human race, first and foremost....
I myself have never entertained the idea of worrying about anyone of a particular ethnic background being concerned with the colour of my skin or of my racial background....what comes from within is what is of utmost concern to me, always has been that way, always will be....currently, I am in the early stages of 'getting to know you' with a man of Mandarin Chinese/Russian descent....myself, I am black, irish, german, cherokee, blackfoot, ojibway and english descent.....clearly not a drop of russian or chinese in me....do i care? Fuk no!!
Race? We are all human, and we all have our human foibles to contend with....those are what need to be addressed in order to get along with each other, everything else will take care of itself....most people can't tell what 'race' I am....fuk, I hate using that term....and I tell them 'It doesn't matter, it's ME you have to deal with, not my 'race''...and I can be one feisty, hotheaded mofo and have the ability to make people forget what their original question in regard to 'race' was....
Just my perspective on things; I really can't believe this is such an issue, but on the other hand, I know that it is to some....peace, love to ya'll....
JS | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/17/2009 12:32:36 AM | mthomjmark,
Wow, I feel a need to respond to your post because, whether you intended it or not, its a little mean spirited, my friend. 'This thing with Black women that they think its their right to make white men date them is ridiculous,' quite frankly, is ridiculous.
Besides the creator of this thread asking the question, 'why there is so little dating between white men and black women?,' I'm not familiar with a 'thing' going on that consists of Black women forcing white men into attraction for them. Perhaps you can share from where this observation emanates.
As for mostly overweight Black women contacting you, perhaps they are misled into believing you are a progressive, intelligent man with a sense of cultural awareness stereotypically uncharacteristic of white men because of your selection of conscientious Black hip hop artist 'Common' as the musical choice in your profile. Sadly, it seems, they are misguided as you seem to be yet another perpetrator of hip hop cultural tourism so common (pun intended) these days. You like hip hop music but don't really have an appreciation nor real affinity for the people who created it.
Oh, and, FYI, its just a fact of Internet dating, women are in short supply. The women who are likely to initiate contact are those who aren't inundated with notes because they tend to less 'desirable' to us typically superficial males. Big white girls write me all day but I don't attribute it to a phenomenon of white women forcing me into attraction for them - although, truth be told, there's far more anecdotal evidence of that phenom.
Face it, my friend, Halle Berry and Angelina Jolie are not on Plenty of Fish clicking through profiles to contact. Their heavier and cooler cousins just might be though. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/18/2009 10:57:42 PM | I have an old saying I used to say to people when they'd go on preaching to me about God wants this, God needs you to do that.....
"Did I tell you I met God? Yeah, she's black."
That would stop them dead in their tracks. Black women rule. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/19/2009 12:16:21 PM |
I can also tell you this..the saying "once you go black you never go back"..for "white" women it is not because of the myth of size..it is because "black" men are more protective of their women and families. It is because of how deep their souls run. They express their feelings more to their woman(regardless of the woman's color) then any other men.
Im not trying to stir the pot but this statement is a crock of dung. I LOVE my family and women. I was raised by a single mother and women get the utmost respect from me black or white until they prove they dont deserve it. Dont even try to stigmatize black men care more about their families, souls run deeper and protect women more. I was born and raised in detroit and as we all know its pretty diverse here. I have black m/f friends as I do white hispanic jew etc. The common problem is just the person being close minded and stereotyping. Racists are stupid and the sheer audacity of it should be extinguished.. fast.
Ive been called cracker, white boy etc. from black women I have approached and it left me feeling bitter. However I have been told Im amazing, and numerous other compliments by black women. Its a 2 way street that unfortunatly will never end.
Have any white men tried going out to a bar or club with a black woman??? I have.. and the end result was having to leave to avoid a fight or getting shot. Its not easy dating outside your race simply because people that are racist dont make it easy. Most men would rather not deal with the frustration. The same thing goes for women dating black men. people just dont respect one another anymore.. its not all peace love and happiness anymore. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/19/2009 5:02:55 PM |
Have any white men tried going out to a bar or club with a black woman??? I have.. and the end result was having to leave to avoid a fight or getting shot. Its not easy dating outside your race simply because people that are racist dont make it easy. Most men would rather not deal with the frustration. The same thing goes for women dating black men. people just dont respect one another anymore.. its not all peace love and happiness anymore.
Wow this is sad. I have never ever had a problem going out to a bar or club with a black woman when I was younger...I don't frequent the bar scene anymore.
I had some dirty looks from white women, white men, black women, black men. But I also had some smiles and comments like "Good taste guy" from black women, black men and white men. But no one has ever said anything derogatory towards us.
In the women's bathroom a couple of black women said to the black girl I was dating at that time "Girl your man has some Jungle Fever goin on huh?" She laughed and said "Well you know the saying Once Black Never Go Back" and these girls dated white guys as well. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/19/2009 5:41:26 PM | I have been out with 2 different black women and never had any fights or any conflicts at all. I am not doughting that anyone else has but nobody has even stared me down and im definitely not a guy who people are afraid of.
I did get these very weird positive mesages though.
Example I am at a party and another girl approaches us and tells us how great it is that we are a interacial couple and how nice we look together.
I think she was truly sincere but dont know what to make of these positive messages from white people. They come off as goofy or perhaps maybe they are guilty of what their parents might think/ | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 6/19/2009 7:24:55 PM | | lol...funny reading..I tend to notice the stereotype of black women being loud..But, I tend to be attracted to the black girls with more white features..I emailed one on this site and never got a response..She was hot and one of the first ones I emailed... | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 7/11/2009 9:32:27 AM | this is to jajoinla ur profile sounds like u r defeated urself, u r very beautiful u know that but like i said here in dallas black women dont date white men only african women seem to, i try to talk to black american women all the time the dark ones too but all they say is no white men allowed
I am a Black American woman from Dallas, Texas and I date WM. My ex-husband was White and my current Boyfriend is White also. Where are you meeting the BW that will not date you? I see BW with WM all of the time. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 7/14/2009 1:14:52 AM |
I also am not attracted to them. This thing with Black women that they think it's their right to make white men date them is ridiculous. Please don't flatter yourself! There might be a few black women who are interested in dating white men and are posting questions like this, however, the majority are not interested at all. So for the most part it is mutual. | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 7/14/2009 4:54:34 AM | Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
oh i don't know... let me guess... because they don't want to?
::points up:: "...for the most part it is mutual."
bingo.
your question is absurd on the face of it. but hey i like pointing out absurdities so i'll run with it for a bit. the answer to your question is a question: who cares and if the situation were any different, how would that change your day to day life? | |
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| Why is there so little dating between white men and black women?
Posted: 7/14/2009 5:00:38 AM | I am an american living in europe... here, I see more white men with black women than black men with white women...
its exotic and a few of my friends have actually disclosed that they just prefer black women (like robert deniro)
i see no skin color... I enjoy the taste of all women, regardless of their origin, race, creed, religion... mmmmm.... women!
a few months a go a beautiful statuesque brown sugar captivated my attention... it was mutual, although we decided not to pursue our animal lust (she wanted all or nothing and I was in a phase of non-committal) we decided to be friends... but boy did I fantasize about her and told her regularly... we jokingly said, if we ever drink too much and something happens, so be it.
ive dated a few black girls... beautiful, passionate and fun! back in the states, in a conservative area, I remember getting stares from people from time to time, but they would look away quickly as "not to be rude"... dont know if they condoned or didnt, doesnt matter, think many were just curious and their first experience with this... my girlfriend at the time had such a great sense of humor, she gave me a t-shirt to wear sometimes, when I was with her, that said "once you go black..." errrr, you know the rest ;-) | |
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