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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 5/7/2009 8:46:28 AM | | When a man passes over a woman his own age for one younger, it makes the older woman feel old and undesirable, so she resents it. When a woman passes over a man her own age for a more desirable, younger man, the men her own age understand it, and partly because they got that when they were his age. For men the idea is to try to get sex, while for women the idea is to choose from among the men who are trying to get sex. It's about the trying and getting. Men are reviled for trying to get younger women, while women are applauded for being gotten by younger men. Speaking in general terms, per the premise posted. If the roles were reversed and it was women who went after men, then so would the reactions be reversed. In any case, as had been said, it only applies to some people's attitudes and is entirely possible to ignore if you choose, so, do what you like and when someone butts in to put you down, think a happy thought and thereby remove the effect from their antagonism. | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 5/7/2009 10:34:40 AM | see and here in lies another problem, ya, im at my sexual peck, but im not just looking for some action. If someone came along that could stimulate both physically and mentally, ya im gonna want more from that relationship. Doesnt really matter what the age difference is, it matters more if you both fit what the other needs. As long as its not jailbait, have at it.  | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 5/28/2009 2:22:19 PM | | I choose to not date ladies 10 yrs younger than myself. Only because I am in a point of my life that getting the home straight, and not the social life, is more important. I am not saying all 28 yr old ladies are bar hoppers...but it appears that way in my experience. I think I would find it odd if a guy was 40 and his girl was 25. I dunno, not my thing. Not saying it is wrong, and yes I would say the same if the genders were reversed. | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 5/28/2009 3:47:21 PM | | While you do look great for a 52 year old man,you still look 52. Now if you want to date younger women,and if the women are agreeable, date younger women.I would not say that men who date younger women are looked upon as sick in general, but then it really depends on what you mean by younger.At your age of 52 if you were dating a 19 year old then I would think you were a bit pervy,but a 42 year old woman is no girl. She is very much a grown woman. I would have to wonder what you have against women who are your own age though? | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 5/28/2009 3:51:09 PM | I disagree - women get as much grief for going younger than men do, perhaps even more so. I had a twenty years relationship with a man who was 5.5 years younger than me and the last guy I dated seriously was 12 years younger ... for this, I've been called (directly or in generalizations) a cougar (a term that is derogaroty and offensive), delusional, in denial, a fool, an attention whore, a slut, etc. etc. etc!
OP...date who YOU are attracted to and don't feel you have to explain or justify your life/actions to anyone...good luck to you:)
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 5/29/2009 6:41:36 AM | Just do what makes you happy, nevermind the bollocks! In the past year I managed to attract and date a woman half my age, and except for her being nuts (which is probably irrelevant to her age) it was a blast...It is indeed a double standard that we 'manthers'  get a bad rap, but when I get curious looks I just smile at 'em and keep on keepin' on. Judge not, and all that...You could always apply the 'half your age plus seven' rule to determine the proper age to fish for. | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 5/29/2009 9:27:20 AM | I'm not sure if there's actually a double standard or not - I think many people get bothered by this regardless of whether the man or the woman is with someone much younger.
I do know that women especially don't like it when they see an older man with a younger woman - or perhaps it's mainly when she's much prettier than they are (the whole envy thing, especially when their men stare).
Case in point: We are friends with another couple where he's about 16 years older than her (she's early 30's). She's a smokin' hot, blue-eyed blonde, former model and beauty queen, always dressed to kill. I'm about his age. Anyway, we were walking in the mall, she and I arm-in-arm with our S.O.'s walking together behind us. They noticed a lot of women and couples looking at us, with the women consistently having a rather sour look on their faces, and the guys trying to hide that they were looking from their wives. Our friend says he notices this a lot, and it was entertaining for him to see ME getting those looks for a change! I didn't notice a thing, being too involved in our conversation.
We could only speculate on the sour looks. I think it had more to do with the women being envious of her, or perhaps they didn't like their men looking and maybe having ideas that they could do better if they tried. | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 5/29/2009 4:15:09 PM | Age should not be an issue, if both parties are adults, more to the point I dont understand why you are worried about what other people think.
As for older ladies with younger men ,it happens ,I am an older lady I do not go looking for younger men, they come to me, I am friends with males both younger and older than myself. I see them not as an age but as a person, thats the great thing about being a growen up you chose who to be friends with and blow what others think | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 5/30/2009 1:17:42 PM | 1. Older men chasing young chicks is creepy.
2. I do not for one moment believe that Cougars are doing the chasing. I think this is a misconception. I am OFTEN pursued by 20 year olds. Not 50 year olds. Why? You tell me.
3. I would NEVER NEVER contact a 25 year old for sex. But a man? Would. In my opinion? That's simply sick.
4. If you're getting alone great with a female 15 years younger than you - then I'd say you're probably not developed to your age appropriate level of development. Were you always delayed in maturing in school?
Just my opinions based on my knowledge and personal experience. You don't have to share them or agree. | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 5/30/2009 6:31:33 PM | I can make this extremely simple for you. For Centuries it was common practice for older men to marry younger women and in most cases there was an extreme age difference. They did it for the same reasons you are doing it in 2009. They wanted the "hottie"! A much younger woman they could shape, mold into what they wanted and show off to their friends. Again, for the same reason you are doing it.
Your profile screams "Middle Aged Crisis"!!! I would advise you to really look at the reasons behind your attraction to a woman so much younger than yourself. You are definitely not at the same point in your lives. What could you possibly have in common that would take you into a long term relationship?
Just call it what it is...you want the hot, young ass! It may work for a month or two and then she realizes you are 52, boring and she dumps your ass for a guy closer to her own age or finds one your age with more money.
All of which you deserve. Get a life!!! | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 5/30/2009 6:52:51 PM |
If you're getting alone great with a female 15 years younger than you - then I'd say you're probably not developed to your age appropriate level of development. Were you always delayed in maturing in school?
Yes, I AM developmentally delayed. I have been in special ed classes for many years. But I have sexual feelings nonetheless yet cannot "identify" with others in their late 30's who are starting families and solid careers while I'm still waiting to sleep in a bed with a woman in my arms for the first time and get a job in general. I don't drink coffee or think about what politician does what or finance reform whatever; I want to go to house parties and road trips and stuff, and the people I get along with best usually tend to be in their 20's.
Or was that a hypothetical question meant to shame others into pretending to conform? | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 5/30/2009 8:32:35 PM | Yup. I agree. I think us, as females dating a younger man, get more crap than the older guys with a younger woman. My ex husband is 6 years younger than me and omg the crap I put up with....my last bf was 17 years older than me and it was totally different..but on one hand I was called "cougar" and on the other a "gold digger".
I think either way, the males have it easier than we do. | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 5/31/2009 6:01:05 PM | yep, I totally agree with the OP. There is a discernible double standard regarding this matter.
There are far, far more obvious troll threads about younger men (20 somethings) and older women (40-52), than older men with younger women.
I'm sure the same reasons apply here as per the other double standards. We are not equal nor the same. Regardless of what they taught you in school lmao. | |
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