| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 6/1/2009 7:28:23 AM | I would think any man over the age of thirty five who hasn't had kids or been married already would make me seriously wonder in the first place why he hasn't he and why would he feel the need to chase a much younger girl to do this with.
The young girl is going to get old one day like the rest of us....and then what... does the cycle repeat istself and the old guy goes chasing a younger model again.?
Seems a tad delusional to me. | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 6/1/2009 8:08:42 AM | "I would think any man over the age of thirty five who hasn't had kids or been married already would make me seriously wonder in the first place why he hasn't he and why would he feel the need to chase a much younger girl to do this with."
biology..men were selected to chase younger women because an 18yo has alot more chances at getting knocked up than a 35yo..
total opposite for women...a 35yo getting knocked up by an 18yo guy has really made life difficult for herself and the baby..
its not a cultural norm, its a biological strategy that has worked incredibly well.
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 6/1/2009 9:07:40 AM | The only way that an older man dating a younger woman bother's an older woman, is if the man is someone she would date herself, or if the younger woman is more attractive than she is. The same goes for men too really.
It doesn't bother me if some woman, who I don't find at all attractive, has found herself a young fellow to give her what she needs or wants. It's when I feel like I'm missing out on something that it stings a little. When I see profiles here of women in their late 30's or early 40's who have taken as good care of themselves as I have over the years, but only date younger men, I don't feel a bit bad about dating younger women. I date women I find attractive. If the ones my age feel they are too good for men their own age, that's fine. I have options. | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 6/1/2009 2:02:10 PM |
Women can still have kids into there thirties and forties these days. It may be a little more difficult but not impossible.
If I knew what I know now when I was younger, I would have waited until I was in my 30's to have children. I think that having children in their 30's is the best time for women to have children, as by then they can finish their education, become established in a job, and be mature enough to handle children.
Not that I want any more children, but women are having children well into their 50's now.
In any case life, dating and marriage is not all about having children. Not everyone wants children. | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 6/1/2009 11:10:05 PM | I agree bcsofnc57. Not all men are necessarily looking to have kids especially at a later age. So using the same bogan excuse to choose a much younger mate to partner up with is just that- an excuse. Just leaves me wondering where that leaves the rest of us who are in our thirties and forties if the men our age don't want us?
If you prefer younger women purely because you find them more attractive and desirable at least be honest about it. Thats all I was trying to say  | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 6/2/2009 2:55:51 AM | Why does anyone care about this issue? I get approached by cougars all the time, and I give them the same regard and scrutiny as any other girl.
As long as the participants are 2 consenting adults, who cares what friends or the world thinks?
All I care about now is that I'm happy, she's happy, and things are peaceful.
I can give a crap less what others think about my beau or about my relationship.
My best friend is "barely 39" and he only likes girls in their mid 20s. This is realistic for him, because he can find interested women.
I say as long as a person's preferences are both realistic and don't hurt anyone...
Live and let live. Happiness is hard enough to find in this world as it is. I say don't try to take others' away. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2009 4:52:57 AM | Nah, Shannyn, don't look at it that way. There are plenty enough men your age to go around.
If you were 10 years older it would be a whole different story.
Anyway, to the OP. I don't really see much of anyone in real life giving others grief one way or the other when it comes to May/December romances or flings. In general though, I would think it is because the idea is that older men chase younger women whereas older women are chased by younger men. It's not bad, it's just who is doing the chasing.
I have never, not once went after a younger dude but I have plenty that come my way and chase me. Same goes with older men. I don't go after them but they come my way. The only guys I go for are the ones my age. Now, I will date any age if I find them appealing and interesting but as far as the effort I put into it initially, I chase men my age. The rest chase me. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2009 8:29:52 AM | I wasn't judging anyone for not having children. I just meant that MOST men by a certain age 35+ have already had there kids or been married by that stage. No need to start character assasinating I never directed my comments at you did I??
The reason I have 37 as my age preferance is because like I already explained men older than myself prefer to date younger women.
But hey it was just something I was wondering about....this is a dating site after all and we are all on here to meet someone and ask questions. How else do you learn in life but by asking questions.??
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 6/2/2009 9:15:08 AM |
"I would think any man over the age of thirty five who hasn't had kids or been married already would make me seriously wonder in the first place why he hasn't he and why would he feel the need to chase a much younger girl to do this with."
This is coming from a male that has never been married or no kids, I am 36. I feel I have made some good choices in life not to have either.
I find it odd that you shannyn list your self as "single"(which to me means never married), and that you have no children...
are you questioning yourself along with all the men you wonder about?
Your logic of only dating men younger than 38 is backwards. The reason you wont is because you just assume that all men over that age wants younger women?...that is your reasoning?...so basically ANY man over the age of 38 has NO shot with you because of a dumb assumption you have made....
I could care less what your reasoning is, but to sit on your high post and wonder about men that are over 35 and never married with no kids, when your in the SAME position.....just odd... | |
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Posted: 6/2/2009 9:38:06 AM | * Extensive Trolling/Offensive Topic Matter
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That was between you and I and I'd appreciate it if you removed it immedately. Otherwise I'm reporting you and contacting Admin. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2009 10:03:21 AM | I am just trying to understand your logic thats all...
not everyone is going to agree with you, man up.....
You could try taking some of your own advice. Do what you like I'm finished on this topic your all too hostile and bully like for me. Everyone can voice there opinion I try and be as Diplomatic and civial as possible about it and I get attacked. Lovely.
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 6/2/2009 2:32:25 PM | I am married to a 52 yr old man and he acts like he is soooooooooooo old, and expects me to sit and watch HIS tv shows, do his fishing crap and all that but doesnt ever want to have fun or be playful in bed. i am not ready to be old, i feel great. i would definetly date a younger man if i got the chance!
why would a young girl want a 50 yr old when i dont even want one? not unless he's like me and still wants to enjoy life. | |
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