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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 10/26/2009 5:40:34 PM | 10-15 years younger and we get/got along GREAT. But why is it that older guys looking for younger ladies is looked upon as sick?
Who says that? It's not "sick" for a 52 year old man to chase a 37 year old women. 37 y/o women have plenty of maturity and life experience. 25 y/o girls do not compared to you. If you were hell bent on a 25 y/o that would be strange. I'm granting you full shame-free permission to forge ahead after the 30+ hunnies. Best of luck. | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 10/27/2009 8:57:16 AM | Sorry I had to reply on this I know its old but its new to me 
<div class="quote"> reminds me of when i was five, little girls running crying "I'm telling mom"
um didnt i read this first
<div class="quote"> That was between you and I and I'd appreciate it if you removed it immedately. Otherwise I'm reporting you and contacting Admin.
nuff said on that part and on this part my comment is..
<div class="quote"> I would think any man over the age of thirty five who hasn't had kids or been married already would make me seriously wonder in the first place why he hasn't he and why would he feel the need to chase a much younger girl to do this with.
I mentioned this on another form before so hears my history. No im not dwelling its just my life experience.
I got married when I was 19 to somone I met when I was 16. I was married for 13 years. We lost two children one 12 years ago and another 9 years ago. Due to a unknown neurological degenrative disorder. No name was ever given but the doctors wound up comming to the conclusion that my ex had a defect in her mitochondria. They told her that she could not have kids. I stuck around because I expected thats what a woman would want and expect a man to do. Besides I had set out on only get married once in the beginning but life has a way of changing your dreams. I would never have taken this out on my x or held her accountable for something that she couldnt help. My x went into depression as I did but it destroyed who she was. It changed everything about who she was and her dreams and outlook on life. After 7 years passed after loosing our last child and 7 years of communication failing dispite all attempts, she decieded to basically pursue chasing younger guys. She turned her back on commitment and threw away over half her life. I respect her choice to do what she needed. Even though I thought it was pretty bad she threw away half her life and myself. Leaving me able to have kids at 35 now.
She actually had the nerve to brag to me that she was dating younger guys because she proudly told me what it ment to be a cougar. Thats where I heard that term first from her. Little did she know that I was dating an 18 year old. Which yes I learned that is WAY to young to date and learned 25/26 and up for me only. How ever I am finding closer to 30 does seem to work for me because younger (low 20's) think us older guys are old enough to be their dads. (another result of babies having babies social issue).
With that said shannyn there are reasons why men are at my age with no kids. Why we still want to have one. Also, be it by gods design or evolution men dont have a expiration date on having babies. Which means that for what ever reason human biology works the way it does. Its obvious by who evers design it is the way it is. It should not be look down on. Each person should do what makes them happy. Besides I know there are exceptions to younger people having kids because I know a couple who had kids she was 12 he was 16 and they are now in their late 30's still with kids still together happy. But most guys at 18 fail at being good dads because it appears most guys dont even begin to mature mentally until around 24 and some never do. Some females change at 30 and then start hunting younger guys. Like I said to each their own.. Its all about what ever tripps your trigger.
Ok ill shut up now I could go on forever on this topic cause its the story of my life. lol
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 10/27/2009 2:10:38 PM |
Have you ever tried to date ladies around your age who don't act, look, feel their age?
Nobody would call you sick if you do so. Your problem solved!
That's just it, those women tend to choose to date younger men, as well. (Not that there's anything wrong with that.)
I date women I'm attracted to. Age doesn't affect that to any large degree, since it's generally not printed on their forehead. If I'm attracted to a woman, and find out she's my age or older, it doesn't change my attraction. It just doesn't happen very often. | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 10/28/2009 12:40:16 AM | well im 47yrs australian lady and why do women go for younger guys because older guys dont go for older women.
Some women enjoy being with a toyboy or maybe in there 30's because in one way it makes us feel like we r not past it. I think men should not be discrimmated for looking for younger women for each is equal... only think men who look for 15 to 18 yr old should seek counciling.
I talk too alot of young men on here from 24 to 36 and they might just want to be silly but after awhile they show them real selves.
So no harm wanting younger men just after awhile the toyboy grows up and becomes a GI Joe and he then looks for younger women. | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 10/28/2009 8:31:16 PM | central_scrutinizer,
It's not "sick" for a 52 year old man to chase a 37 year old women. 37 y/o women have plenty of maturity and life experience. 25 y/o girls do not compared to you. If you were hell bent on a 25 y/o that would be strange.
Here's the thing... It's not about life experience, let's be honest. I think that's a statement that frequently has validity to it, as a backup to getting away from it all. There are 37 year olds who lack maturity and have less life experience than say, your average 27 year old. And there are 25 year olds who have a good amount of maturity.
So is it REALLY about maturity & life experience? And what if you're an older guy at 52 who doesn't have a ton himself? For a long-term relationship, regardless of age, it's best to have same-in-range life experience & maturity, sure. But we don't go OFF on people who are a kinda mis-matched on that... and certainly not when you know it's a fling and won't last but it's "fun".
In essence, I think it's a cover. OTHERs don't like it because someone's old, and someone else is young. It turns most people off, and against traditions. It "steals" a young chick from the young guys, and they don't like that... and older women get upset that he's going after the young ones and they feel ugly then, too.
Reasons why it wouldn't be good for a relationship:
0 Generation gap. Not maturity & life experience per se, but different stages of their lives, and tastes tend to be different
o How could you be with someone when they hit 72 and you're 49? OBVIOUSLY it's just a temporary thing, don't fool yourself... | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 10/30/2009 9:47:54 AM | Who told you it was ok for women??? I am offend at the term cougar. And I dont think I would react very differently if my son brought home a old woman than if my daughter brought home an old man.
I dont look or feel my age either but I still dont feel a need to date men who are bundle of sex hormones. I dated 20 and 30 year old when I was 20 and 30. Did they start making a different model in the last 10 years???? Or are they still immature?
But that is much like beauty in the eye of the beholder? | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 10/30/2009 7:07:38 PM | I think it has become more acceptable and more common for women to date much younger these days. Where it is becoming less common and more frowned upon for men to be dating much younger women these days. The times have changed and from my view...men are expendable or disposable by the time they hit thier 40's. Women can act, feel and look younger these days. They are encouraged to. And it is totally acceptable. But men to do the same is called immature. So we get grey, fat, balding, unattractive by 40 and become undesired. Women then go to the young guys because a man 25-35 is in his prime and the best men out there.
As I say, I am 40, unattractive and how do I compete with a hot, young attractive guy? I can't, so i don't bother. | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 10/30/2009 7:33:07 PM | | @Forums001: There are a lot of women in their 40's who are looking for a man of the same age range who want's a serious long term type relationship. Problem is when the 40 + guys act just as bad as some younger guys (send lewd messeges/pics/propositions) and only think with their**** and want to get laid. So under those circumstances a woman might go 'hey if they are pretty much after the same thing why not go with the younger one'? I think older guys need to demonstrate that they sincerely want more than just sex and can meet many more needs than a younger guy. That's my thesis. | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 10/30/2009 7:38:45 PM | im 34, and even though I lost the hair at a young age, I make up for it in other ways... I like dating young women (like 22-25,) or older women (over 45.)
It is a strange double standard of men being considered immature if we act 'youthful.' But, nothing should stop a man from being as healthy as possible, and living a young life in terms of still dreaming and achieving.
Maybe I am too young still to really have an opinion on this yet? The culture definitely has done a 180 and women appear to pursue younger men more voraciously (or at least the media makes it look common,) but the idea of older men doing it isn't as palatable. Look at Hulk Hogans wife; her BF is 19. She is in her 50s (?)... But the hulkster, if he was with a 19 yr old he would get torn to shreds in the media as being a creep. I hate looking at pop culture for reference but telling a story about myself or a friend doesn't resonate as much in the forum...
I think different cultures and towns also make a difference? In scottsdale just north of me by a few miles, you will see it both ways... cougars and what we call 'trouts' which are older men looking for young girls. Unfortunately, they usually get the ladies via money/gifts and not out of attraction.
If I am single in my 40s, I will still find women in their 20s attractive and will pursue them. It only seems to be women of my own age that is impossible to date. Older and younger, but never the same age! Just works out that way. | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 10/31/2009 9:52:04 AM | | Personally I think that people laugh more at "mom-son" relationships, i.e., older woman-younger man (brat). Also, it's been generally accepted over the years to have an older man dating a younger woman. Sure, it raises an eyebrow perhaps, but that's about it. Also, it makes more sense for an older man to be interested in younger women because a man can have children for most part of his life, the same can't be said about an older woman. In the latter case it's nothing about a silly sex fantasy where a brat gets his trophy and the woman to feel young for one night, or two. | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 11/2/2009 5:05:29 PM | I think age shouldn't be an issue....both ways.
It's funny how people want to put others into a category. On a thread I posted on this forum, I am getting funny arguments from women saying that I "don't deserve" dating a younger women, because I'm not all that, but would complain bitterly if I made such a blanket statement about them, because they think they're "all that".
The truth (and it is a truth) is that people have many different reasons for desiring a person that they find attractive and while there are trends (most people date and marry within their age ranges), there is no definitive "right or wrong", unless it isn't legal. | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 11/2/2009 7:41:47 PM | | I don't know, Augustime, like I said in one of the other threads, I'm 42 (and don't have a lot of money) and seem to get quite a bit of attention from women in their late teens and early twenties at the gym. I guess I'm a late bloomer but what's more - I was trapped in a bad relationship for a long time with a woman older than me, so now its time to live the life I always should have. | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 11/4/2009 2:47:33 AM | Older men don't get a BAD RAP for it unless those COYOTES...um... I'm sorry..... COUGARS have something BAD to say about to make OLDER men seem perverted and wrong to date young women...... YET they are acting like young 16 old gyrls themselves BANGING younger guys!!
Don't let that bother you man!! These old buzzards are pissed because you and older men can get a young hottie so they make u feel bad about it!! I noticed how some of those COYOTES try to diss older guys and make whack azz generalizations but some of them (Timberwolves...ooops... COUGARS) aren't supermodels I'm sure!! They are banging guys their kids' age and has the nerve to call that "sexy, confident and self assured!"
HA Yeah Right!! They don't believe their own delusional lies | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 11/4/2009 4:12:41 AM | 'When a younger man sees an older woman that is interested in him, one of the last things, if not the last thing, that enters his mind, will be long term commitment, marriage, and children.........and much more of just the short term experience of adventures and sexual pleasure with that person.'
I nearly choked on my tea when i read that, it seems to me there is a whole bunch of stereo-types knocking around here, you can meet someone of the SAME age and all they are interested is sex!!!. It has always been the case that it was somehow ok for older men to date younger women for as long as i can remember. I once had a fantastic relationship with a man ten years younger, sex was not the driving force, though it was good because we had genuine affection for each other and some 15 years later we are still great friends. I dated him for his personality and because he had a broad mind and i found him interesting, i was welcomed by his family and he by mine. There are some pretty astute younger men these days who find the company of a woman who maybe has some values that used to be appreciated by men in our own group, refreshing compared to the dog eat dog attitudes often prevalent today. If i were you i wouldnt speak for ll younger men...who died and made you god! | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 11/4/2009 8:43:50 AM | A. who told you it's sick? If it's a woman, maybe she just wanted to show her complain to your discrimination to older woman and they would consider you should just date a girl like their age.
If it's a guy, he maybe was just jealous of your lucky!!
My suggestion is , **** the hells those losers said. If that younger lady can accept your age , love you and your physical condition can match her request in bed, then just go for it!!!
No body can say you sick just because you want to date younger girls!!
That's your human rights to choose who you want ,what you want.
Come on, so many women just want to date a guy taller , richer then them.
If they think you sick, I would say they are sick,too.
If women can choose to date a richer and taller man , why can't we choose to date a younger girl??
PS: Guys need to to have an erection to start the sex with girls and
"in generally"............younger girls (18~30) are hotter (except some sexy MILF)
then older women(40~50) to most of guys.
Check out he hotties hollywood actress and playboy- girls' ages then you will see.
So, younger girl's bodies are easier to make most of guys feel excited to eract
If guys can't to have an erection first then how could them start the sex?
Let's admit it, older women date younger guys for experience the better sex ,too. isn't it? | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 11/4/2009 10:54:45 AM | | Errr older mens bodies deteriorate too what makes you think his body is going to excite the younger female or doesn't that bit matter....get real,,,,you could screw someone with a perfect body and it could be like sleeping with a table, its in the 2 way chemistry isnt it ? I remember when i was 24 the thought of someone ten years older wouldnt have entered my head with all the fit young guys to pick from ha ha ha ha | |
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| why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:13:56 PM | Older men dating younger women is as old as the mankind itself. It makes reproductive sense. But it's not new and exciting to anyone.
Older ladies dating younger men is a more accepted now than it was 50 or 100 ago. It's new. It makes less reproductive sense, but now we openly admit that dating is no longer a means to an end of reproduction, and even so - it is now more possible for women to have childern later in life than it used to be. So... It's a new thing. We are still breaking stereotypes. While many people still look down on it, it's not a fashionable thing to say.
Well, that, and some of those ladies who now have more options - who do you think they'll pick? Especially if they are not looking for a provider for the family? A younger guy or an older guy? With all things being equal, younger guys tend to look better. So these ladies will voise their desires to you in the form that cougar is OK, older guy is creepy. | |
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