| Is there stupid wrote across my face?
Posted: 5/5/2009 3:39:26 AM |
I thought I had found the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. He said he fell in love with me the first time he saw me and he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and if I would just give him a chance I would not regreat one moment of it.If someone seems too good to be true most of the time they are. He call me and said he would call me later that night if not he would be sure to talk to me the next morning. Wrong I have called him several time with no answer I even emailed him no answer. I don't know why he couldn't just say hey this is a mistake and part as friends but now I am feeling very rejected and unloved. i said I would never let a man make me feel that way again. Am I just stupited or have just hurt me it is ok wrote all over my face? I wish him well but you know what they say what goes around comes around.
As a professed Christian woman you should understand this situation OP. This man is telling you what you want to hear. He was dangling the apple in your face to see if you'd take a bite. He may have found out real quick that you weren't taking the bait (I presume) and exited... stage left.
Men are responsible for how they express their feelings. A good man would find a healthy way to show you how he felt that in a manner that shows respect for your heart. Consistency rings a major bell here.
Women need to realize that falling for this stuff is your own fault. Nothing wrong with desiring romantic gestures and actions on your behalf. Just exercise a little patience and allow a good man to show you his best.
The OP's love interest's actions are comparable to a pedophile waving candy in front of a child. | |
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| Is there stupid wrote across my face?
Posted: 5/5/2009 7:07:54 AM | | We looked at homes and talked about going on vacation.He wanted me to look at the things he had in his house to see if we needed anything extra. He said he would take good care of me as long as he lived and when he was gone I would have a nice house and plenty of money to last me the rest of my life. I do not need his money all I wanted was him and his love. I wish him the best if he was just playing a game .It will all come back to him good or bad.. Thank you for your kind words. I just need a little lift in my spirit. | |
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| Is there stupid wrote across my face?
Posted: 5/5/2009 9:17:45 AM | Maam no offense but you have not informed anyone as to how long you were "dating" this man, and I think that's revealing.
Many on your topic have asked and you've replied and responded to all but the most simple of questions.
How long did you KNOW him?
You looked at homes,
You discussed vacations,
He wanted to see your posessions to know what you had,
He said he would take care of you for the remainder of your life,
He said he would leave you with a nice house and plenty of cash
Clearly you believed him.
How long did you know him?
How long had you been dating?
How did you meet?
What did you REALLY know about him?
He wanted you to look at his house, but did you ever actually SEE a house? Go to it? Do you know where it is?
I do not think you were stupid, I think you were vulnerable and gullible two things that any woman can be, but in this time - is not safe to be. | |
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| Is there stupid wrote across my face?
Posted: 5/5/2009 9:35:53 AM | Here's a thing sometimes men say something that they dont really mean what they say.
Its up to us how to handle what they says.
Another thing if youve done your part to try to reach out with him and he shut you down ----- that message conveys that he does not want to pursue a relationship with you anymore and you have to get it .It looks like no class at all but the man that you like is immature even he is an old man.
Just think that he isnt worth your time he is developing the "senile stage"....... hang on....it could be that the "old" man youre dating has dementia???? and he couldnt remember the he was seeing you?
I think he is "lost". | |
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| Is there stupid wrote across my face?
Posted: 5/5/2009 9:38:56 AM | I didn't read the rest of your post because this line stopped me
He said he fell in love with me the first time he saw me and he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and if I would just give him a chance I would not regreat one moment of it.
Here's something to ponder: Did you "love" your friends the first time you met them? No, I didn't think so.
I never ever believe this whole "love at first sight" crap. I'd rather wait and see how much they love me by their actions.
Big talkers. Not so much a fan. | |
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| Is there stupid wrote across my face?
Posted: 5/5/2009 10:04:18 AM |
Am I just stupited or have just hurt me it is ok wrote all over my face?
I love you.
You are the one for me, even though I just met you three seconds ago.
My heart goes ca-pump, ca-pump when I see your 10 year old photo.
Did I tell you that I love you? Oh, I guess that was to Marcy. But I love you and only you for the rest of my life, or the next five minutes when this other chic responds to some of my more gullible stuff.
Do you know why I love you? Because you can't spell worth a crap and I love vulnerable women.
(On a more serious note, OP, I can't believe that there are still women out there that fall for that crap. The good news is that now you are getting tougher skin and perhaps a spell checker.) | |
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| Is there stupid wrote across my face?
Posted: 5/5/2009 10:10:46 AM | I'm with GSB, need more answers! In every post like this most people gravitate to the negative! What if he actually did die,or end up in the hospital, then he'd be gone and wouldn't be able to say "hey, I didn't lie!"
On the other hand if he lied...well, that seems to be common amonst both genders today.To bad all people can't go through life honestly. | |
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| Is there stupid wrote across my face?
Posted: 5/5/2009 10:13:26 AM | Outmind,
Just my opinion. I'm a little surprised at you. You are usually much kinder. I wonder if you considered that the OP may have sat down to write this thread when she was still upset and hurt? Bashing her spelling and punctuation, even when you were trying to say a kind word at the end is not like you.
I guess we all have an off day.....giver her hers.
Ginny. | |
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| Is there stupid wrote across my face?
Posted: 5/5/2009 10:23:27 AM | "Wrote"-? Great grammar. I think you mean "written"...
He came off too sappy and romantic right at the beginning. Would've been better if he chilled on the gooey romanticism and simply tried to develop a really good friendship with you, developing a sense of humor, infused with some enjoying the visual stimulation of your presence. That's what I think a good relationship is. Friendship with a silver lining of lust. | |
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| Is there stupid wrote across my face?
Posted: 5/5/2009 10:34:31 AM |
Maybe he's dead?
LMFAO.. We can only hope....
OP what you encountered is a creature that lurks online and slithers up to unsuspecting types and lures you in feeding you lines that you want to hear then when you're hooked..... they suck the life outta your soul and disappear again...
This slimy creature is called a Flake and needs to be avoided at all costs,,,,
How do you recognize said Flake? he is oozing smarm and corny *** outta his lyin yap
You seem like a sweet, lovely, sincere and trusting woman... what are you doing here anyway?
LMFAO | |
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| Is there stupid wrote across my face?
Posted: 5/5/2009 12:36:18 PM | | Gonesailinbabe, I have been to his home several times. WE met in Feb. 2008. Dated some and I moved 850 miles away. My Mom passed away in Feb.2009 so I moved back. I let him know of her death and he wanted to see me. As for love at first sight my Grandfather fell I love with Grandma the first time he saw her . They married and had 2 children and was together until his death . I really cared for him last year. He was always a gentleman to me. He won my heart . He knew my exhusband was very bad to me. He would call me to make sure I was ok. If I was having a bad day he would talk to me and lift my spirit up.Several years ago his wife passed away and he said never felt safe again until he met me and I was a kind loving person and he wanted me in his life forever. As for my spelling, I'm sorry but MATH was my thing. I love working with numbers. YES I play the stock market and I do very very GOOD.. I hope everyone has a blessed day | |
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| Is there stupid wrote across my face?
Posted: 5/5/2009 12:37:07 PM | OH OH OH I KNOW!!!!!!
he went back and told his kids that he had good news that he fell in love with a woman he met online and is going to buy her a house and take care of her and leave her all his money when he dies
And the kids had him comited to a nursing home and doped him all up with drugs for dementia and told the nursing home that he has troubles calling 900 numbers to make sure he stays away from the phone.....
well it was just a guess cause thats all anyone can do at this point including the OP | |
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| Is there stupid wrote across my face?
Posted: 5/5/2009 1:01:02 PM | OP fave08,
Sweetie,
Please don't take things so seriously. A lot of people get flippant here. You need to let it roll off your back. You have seen that lots of us are actually interested in you and helping you work your way through this difficult time.
Just figure the rest are trolls. And you know what they say about trolls. If you feed them it's like stray cats, they never go AWAY!
It'll get better, dear.
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| Is there stupid wrote across my face?
Posted: 5/5/2009 1:01:56 PM | OK, a little more information always helps. So, you two had a relationship and then circumstances caused you to move 850 miles away. A year passes, was there any communications during that year? Then you move back and try to rekindle the relationship. Do you honestly believe this guy changed that much in a years time that he'd all of a sudden end all communications with you?
I'd honestly be concerned about his welfare before labeling him. Things can happen fast, you're a widow, I'm a widower. My wife got sick, 45 days after diagnosis she was gone.
Is there one of his family members you'd feel comfortable calling just to enquire about his health? | |
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| Is there stupid wrote across my face?
Posted: 5/5/2009 1:15:21 PM | | I'm with lonesomerick on this one. If you've had everything good up to one day when you didn't hear from him when he said he would call and there was nothing that you can think of that would cause him to suddenly walk on you, I wouldn't jump to any conclusions just yet before you've had the opportunity to see if he's alright. If you determine he's fit as a fiddle then, unfortunately, he's done a real number on you and you'll have to deal with it as best you can without lamenting about it and letting it eat you up inside. You aren't responsible for someone else's lack of character. | |
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| Is there stupid wrote across my face?
Posted: 5/5/2009 1:16:15 PM | So you were away for about a year, and have been back home for about three months.
Sorry OP, maybe he met someone else while you were away and didn't know how to tell you after telling you how much he wanted you. Maybe he didn't expect you to return so soon.
Life everyone else though I'm hoping he'll turn up and set things right with you.
Take care of yourself | |
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| Is there stupid wrote across my face?
Posted: 5/5/2009 1:19:17 PM |
Thanks OutMind, I hope you have a blessed day and I hope YOU will never be HURT.(DID I SPELL THAT RIGHT?
Faye, I believe you are one of those last still in existence kind souls and as such have faith in the kindness of every single soul. Those are nice traits to have. I for one tend to be one of those that also "trust" (within limits) and prefer to be wronged and take the high ground.
Case in point was that I lent one of my Jeeps to my brother because he was laid off. Everyone said not to do it because of a bad deal he had with my sister in the past. I took the high ground, allowed him the chance to screw me. He chose not to. When he saw that he could not buy the truck from me he chose to return it. Instead he just thank be for being there when the going was rough for him.
With that said, Faye, I have been hurt before, and plenty of times. But one thing is to fall to the usual red flags and another is to have loved honestly and then getting hurt when the relationship does not work out.
I hope you recognize the foolishness of men out there. Perhaps the person that you talked about in subsequent post does not reflect this nature. Perhaps he does. Only you know the whole story. Nothing personal but If I can make you look at things in a slightly different perspective, my job is done, if not, still have a blessed day as well and hope you heal soon. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 1:26:51 PM | I'm with Rick on this...make sure first that he's OK. If you had a relationship with him, surely you know a friend, neighbor or relative of his you can contact?
Otherwise, in the early contact/first few dates scenarios, it's not at all unusual for a guy to lose his nerve or whatever the hell goes wrong in his head and he does a vanishing act...or slams on the brakes/dials back on an involvement that is building from from having met in a real time activity.
But first, were I you, I'd be checking on the guy's wellbeing. This isn't the usual flake off scenario.
Cindy O | |
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| Is there stupid wrote across my face?
Posted: 5/5/2009 1:28:04 PM | | lonesomerick. Thank you. At least you know how fast things can happen. He had to go out of town Friday morning. That is what really worries me .If he was in an accident no one knows how to get in touch with me. He is an only child and his sons live out of state. All I can do right now is hope and pray. If I died my family would not know how to call him. My sister had his address but not his phone number. ----- I guess it all falls back on me. I guess I never thought I was good enough for anyone to love until I met Rick.--- Thanks again. I hope you have a very blessed life. | |
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| Is there stupid wrote across my face?
Posted: 5/5/2009 1:35:25 PM | Well, you might try putting together a well thought out letter.....nothing nasty or hurtful, just a letter of concern, and mailing it to his home address. Gee, was his name Rick, cause that's mine to, your second to last sentence kinda through me...but then again I knew it wasn't me...lol.
You have a blessed day too......infact, have a blessed life!
Rick | |
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| Is there stupid wrote across my face?
Posted: 5/5/2009 1:38:41 PM | | If you've known him for over a year, and he had to go out of town, there are any number of possibilities in this scenario. Because you've known him this long and you want peace of mind, I wouldn't necessarily call it a stalker mentality, if you knew where he was going, to check hospitals or police services along the route or at his destination. Did you not get to know any of his friends where he lives during the time you've known him? Perhaps you could ask them to check on him. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 2:04:29 PM | | Minnx--He told me after I came back that he wanted me in his life forever. He said he prayed that I was happy .When I came back we talked on the phone and emailed each other. Thanks for your kind words. At work people did not know what was going on but a lady gave me a beautiful house plant because she knew I love plants. Her act of kindness really helped me. Have a blessed day. Thanks for your support. I live by myself and I work 4 nights a week because i'm semi-retired. Right now this computer and POF are my friends. I can put things on here and get feed-back. | |
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