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| If you found out he used an escort
Posted: 5/4/2009 10:36:45 PM | oh yeah. it would definitely be a deal breaker...the only way i could possibly think that it was not was if it happened twenty odd years ago when he was on summer break from college and back packing across europe or something. it's the same thing with pot smoking. it's something you do when you are a college kid but hopefully you grow up and realize that the consequences of such behavior is something that you don't want to deal with as an adult.
besides, with all the human trafficking that goes on around the world there is absolutely NO guarantee that any prostitute has not been trafficked. period. it's sick and any man that would fraternize a massage parlour or hire an "escort" has a problem imo.
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| If you found out he used an escort
Posted: 5/4/2009 10:43:18 PM | You're right it is nasty getting somebody drunk in order to to take advantage of them. I find to be way more reprehensible then going to a clean sober drug free escort who uses protection. I'll take my chances with an escort over some random bar patron anyday.
Okay...I see your point. I have no stats on this kind of thing, but my perception is that clean, sober, drug free prostitutes are in the minority...perhaps I am wrong.
Also, I have a huge problem with the idea of a human being pimping someone out, and I would hate to be a party to it in any way whatsoever, even unknowingly.
Now, I warn you I am about to be uncharacteristically sexist: I have some compassion for most of the women who end up in "the life". I do know there is a trend to college girls and high end hookers plying their trade on Craigslist and the like, and some of them are just plain money-grubbing opportunists, BUT there are still many women who have been victimized, drug addicted, abused, whatever...and ended up making bad choices in part due to the shitty hand they were dealt (notice I said IN PART..they still own their personal choices). I have some compassion for them.
A healthy adult male, though? Come on, he has no other choices? His abusive girlfriend pimping him out? I doubt it. I just have zero respect for a man who earns his living this way. As far as holding women to the same standard, I do think it is equally nasty for a woman to pay a man for sex. I suppose some men I know may have used a prostitute ...I would be shocked if ANY woman I know has done it or would even consider doing it. I have a problem with either sex paying for it.
Is it maybe because when something is easy to get it lowers in value and you have a problem with that?
Why would I have a problem with how easy/difficult it is for you or anyone else to get laid? I'm not selling it, so why do I care what the price/value is? Are you suggesting I am worried that I will have to compete with hookers at some level? I'm not going to lose any sleep over that one...lol | |
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| If you found out he used an escort
Posted: 5/4/2009 10:55:14 PM | What would you think if you found out someone you were interested in, had used an escort service in the past? Would it be a deal breaker?
Yes... for me it would. My own personal value system is such that I consider sexuality far more than a physical act and I think I can sum it up by saying that I believe we are spiritual beings having sexual experiences rather than sexual beings having spiritual experiences. To me, it is a beautiful gift made even more beautiful by reserving it for someone I love and so, it's worth waiting through some lonely times.
The person I would fall in love with would feel the same way about it. As far as I'm concerned, this is a core value and while preferences in every other area can differ, core values between 2 people need to be very similar for a relationship to have a good chance at success.
I don't care if 99.8% of the rest of the world is sleeping around with escorts, on dates or simply on one-night stands but the guy I fall in love with, will also think that it's far more than just an itch to be scratched. | |
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| If you found out he used an escort
Posted: 5/5/2009 5:18:53 AM | Best Answer? >
He used an Escort? Oh, that'd be a deal breaker. I will never date a Ford man. LMAO!! Perfect Frau!! 
What would you think if you found out someone you were interested in, had used an escort service in the past?
The operative word is the Past. If I was dating someone and they used an escort (not the car) while dating me - That would be a deal breaker.
This notion that a man using an escort has a higher risk of an std is just a buncha bull. Professional escorts do NOT always prostitute - And those who do - get checked and take more precautions than most men and women who "end up" in someone's bed after a nite at the bar. :eyeroll:
Speaking of sex.. hehe ..
There's a new form of viagra out - it's a nasal spray ..
It's for p e c k er heads!!! lmao | |
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| If you found out he used an escort
Posted: 5/5/2009 7:29:55 AM |
will he find it easier to buy sex at that time, and possibly come back to me afterwards?
This sentence reflexes that so many wrongs with your thinking.
First you lowered yourself to the level of "escort". Is your main attraction to your BF is what between your leg? Is that all you can offer to your BF?
Second, why would your BF need to satisfy himself with other woman, escort or not? Are you using sex to control him?
Third, would you feel better if he goes out to buy drinks or lie to get laid from random barfly or his ex? | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 7:37:07 AM | Well erm, I did have this ex one time, and wondered why she used to be a 10 all the time in bed, then later I found out. :O
She was a nice lass too, and thats who i dated.....sure it came as a surprise and no big deal to me...so i see no problem or why does it matter
But, this is the weird thingie i talked to a few friends and she went lala with jealously
strange eh?
Nicest girl you could have ever met... I have no regrets over that one | |
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| If you found out he used an escort
Posted: 5/5/2009 8:16:13 AM |
I've never used one.. but I live in Nevada where we have TONS of Brothels just 15-20 minutes away.
A friend and his buddies were visiting from AZ to take a gun class at Front Sight. They were drinking in the bar at Sherri's Ranch and was told by one girl it was $300 for 10 minutes! | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 9:43:56 AM | To 4forumonly.
thanks for the quote.
You know, I find your questions and assumptions to be rude and prying.
I shall not give you the satisfaction of answering any personal questions about sex or what I do or how I use it, wether as a weapon or not.
Stop being so bloody nosey.
I most certainly do not put myself on the level of a whore, my private parts are not for sale, nor are they the only thing I BRING to a relationship.
I offer nothing, I bring things... big difference.
I see sex as something more than a physical need, an itch to be scratched. I do not use, nor buy people to fulfil my need, therefore I see that I have nothing in common with a man who would.
Think thats judgemental? Fine... we're all entitled to our deal breakers,.. that would be one of mine.
I bring more than sex to a relationship.
I do however think, that if a man took the easy way out once, in regards to sex, he's likely to do it again. As ever, my own opinion.
Now stop being so bloody curious about me,.. and carry on...
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Posted: 5/5/2009 9:45:50 AM | | isn't it amazing, that no one on this board has a father that used a prostitute during the war? You're all so squeeky perfect! | |
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| If you found out he used an escort
Posted: 5/5/2009 11:04:27 AM |
I shall not give you the satisfaction of answering any personal questions about sex or what I do or how I use it, wether as a weapon or not.
Then there's no point in telling us about anything else you bring to a relationship.
I do not use, nor buy people to fulfil my need, therefore I see that I have nothing in common with a man who would.
Since many highly (and not so highly) paid jobs carry risk of exposure to dangerous substances and even risk of death in exchange for money, many people are bought and sold. They just don't see it that way because sex isn't involved. The vast majority of the rest go to a job they don't really care about and allow themselves to be treated like a disposable gear in a machine, except that they also don't see that as buying and selling people because sex isn't involved. Your objection is not about buying and selling people or even buying and selling sex. It's about exchanging money for sex with the amount determined in advance and fixed.
Think thats judgemental? Fine... we're all entitled to our deal breakers,.. that would be one of mine.
That's true. You're also entitled to whom you select from among those who appear to meet all of your requirements and who find you meet theirs. That doesn't mean you'll get what you really wanted.
I bring more than sex to a relationship.
Only if you find a guy who agrees with you. If what I thought was important eas the samething every woman thought was important, I'd have a line of women at my door. | |
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| If you found out he used an escort
Posted: 5/5/2009 11:49:10 AM |
that no one on this board has a father that used a prostitute during the war? You're all so squeeky perfect
OMG. Are people on here dating their fathers? Ew. | |
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| If you found out he used an escort
Posted: 5/5/2009 12:30:14 PM |
You have two men. One takes a woman he has just met out to dinner which costs $50, and then they have sex.One takes a woman and has sex with her and gives her the $50 he would have spent on dinner.In both cases he has spent money for sex. So what's the big deal? To you the second one is prostitution, to me neither is. And if both women leave with a big smile...even better.
What if the woman instead gives the guy 50 bucks after f her brains out? | |
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| If you found out he used an escort
Posted: 5/5/2009 12:56:30 PM | OP,
It wouldn't be a deal-breaker for me. Hell, I went on a date with a girl who told me she WORKED for an escort service.
She was a very nice person. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 1:04:56 PM | Like one poster said on here....it would only be a deal breaker if he used it while we were together.
The past is the past and l am happy to leave it there for the most part (things like bestiality and pedophilism<---is that a word? lol...are the line crossers) and besides the past is what makes the person l know and care about today.
l know many people who have been escorts/prostitutes, and also know many who have used them, including members of my own family who really didn't need to use them. l think a lot more people would be surprised to know the things in the pasts of people they know and love. Just most people don't talk about it because it is sooo taboo. l only know of the people in my life because they know l am not judgemental when it comes to such matters and know that their secret is safe with me.
There are many reasons why a person would use such a service and not all of it has to do with lack of morals or standards. It doesn't change who the person is and if someone is going to all of a sudden dislike a PERSON because of one ACT, then that is sad.
l get the risk of std thing, however l used to frequent a bar where there were a great many regulars who all knew each other, none of them were prostitutes but yet there was a point where there was an outbreak of the clap within the circle (not me PHEW lol) and it was a shocker to find out just how bad the situation was and got before anyone knew about it.......trust me there are just as many risks out there among even the people you know for std's than there are from buying it on the street. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 1:10:25 PM | It wouldn't bother me.... guys pay for escorts for various reasons... sometimes they may have gone through a patch of working all hours and haven't time for a relationship... others like to use them as they know from the outset that there will be no cross communication where the sex is concerned.... some use them when not getting sex at home from their partners and some for the thrill of it .
I believe most escorts get a regular check up at the GU clinic.... how many women who are not escorts do that? I for one make sure I do. | |
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| If you found out he used an escort
Posted: 5/5/2009 1:18:16 PM | "Okay...I see your point. I have no stats on this kind of thing, but my perception is that clean, sober, drug free prostitutes are in the minority...perhaps I am wrong. "
If that's the case, you are ignorant.
"Also, I have a huge problem with the idea of a human being pimping someone out, and I would hate to be a party to it in any way whatsoever, even unknowingly. "
Not all prostitutes have pimps. For example in Canada, Prostitution is legal, however pimping is not.
"Now, I warn you I am about to be uncharacteristically sexist: I have some compassion for most of the women who end up in "the life". I do know there is a trend to college girls and high end hookers plying their trade on Craigslist and the like, and some of them are just plain money-grubbing opportunists, BUT there are still many women who have been victimized, drug addicted, abused, whatever...and ended up making bad choices in part due to the shitty hand they were dealt (notice I said IN PART..they still own their personal choices). I have some compassion for them."
Fine, but that wasn't what I was asking.
"A healthy adult male, though? Come on, he has no other choices? His abusive girlfriend pimping him out? I doubt it. I just have zero respect for a man who earns his living this way. As far as holding women to the same standard, I do think it is equally nasty for a woman to pay a man for sex. I suppose some men I know may have used a prostitute ...I would be shocked if ANY woman I know has done it or would even consider doing it. I have a problem with either sex paying for it. "
Nobody is asking you what is your opinion of male escorts so I don't see what your point is. futhermore male escorting is totally different from female escorting.
"Why would I have a problem with how easy/difficult it is for you or anyone else to get laid? I'm not selling it, so why do I care what the price/value is? Are you suggesting I am worried that I will have to compete with hookers at some level? I'm not going to lose any sleep over that one...lol"
If you don't care, then why do you still have a problem with it? What do you find so reprehensible about 2 consenting adults exchanging something behind closed doors? Saying it's "nasty" or "immoral" is not an answer. Just because you would never engage in such an activity doesn't mean it's wrong. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 1:23:31 PM | Why all the assumptions that the escort was paid for sex?
Couldn't she have been arm candy for a professional gig?
There have been a few times when I've offered to pay men to escort me someplace I had to go and didn't wish to go to alone... sex wasn't involved.
Just saying....look how many of you immediately assumed SEX!
Shows what you're all thinking! | |
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