| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/13/2009 9:02:53 PM | Cabrandon, you have every right to want what you want and settle for nothing less. However, you have set the bar pretty high, almost to the point of wanting nothing less than perfection. That is very hard to live up to. I am not saying she doesn't exist, she more than likely does, but can you live up to her standard of perfection? You never know, you might stumble onto someone that meets none of your criteria and discover true bliss. Best of luck to you.
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/13/2009 9:14:15 PM | Oh I found her, alright... She's just not in my immediate area.
Your ideal girl may not live in your area, too.
Still...
Would you be willing to date someone without a Master's degree but with an equivalent?
What if she's only a high school graduate but is a top dog groomer?
How about an expert level cow herder?
Suppose you did get her with those qualities and she suffers an auto accident?
What then? What if she could not exercise anymore?
What if her mental faculties are altered?
What you seek, you may find, but always remember that people... change. Whether by themselves or as a result of accidents of fate.
Just be aware that people make lists all the time, but a LOT of them fail to honor one of the most important of lists:
1) love and cherish
2) honor and protect
3) in sickness and health
4) for richer or poorer
5) for better or for worse
6) till death do you part
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/13/2009 10:07:54 PM | OP, you described me, only I am way better than above average looking 
hehehe... A 32 year old woman who has never been married, has no children, and is above average in looks..... hehehehe.
Wait, wait... I'm trying to stop laughing, OMG OMG OMG...wait, never mind, it's pointless. I'm missing the humor here... I'm proof it can happen... | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/13/2009 10:46:26 PM | OP don't let other people to discourage you. I think whether you could get to meet that someone who checks every single box (and more) or not (even if she doesn't see the same in you), you are still entitled to have your own 'specification' when it comes to finding a lifetime partner who is compatiable with you.
Truth is, a good number of my friends will meet all (and more!) your criteria and here in Hong Kong, and if relocation is an option for you, I can help to hook you guys up.  | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/14/2009 7:08:38 AM | metalvixxn... herein lays the problem
[I'm missing the humor here... I'm proof it can happen...]
sounds to me you are pretty conceited.... it is difficult for one to judge oneself as to beauty, and smarts. We all have lots to learn and we should never stop learning. Besides outer beauty fades and it fades even faster if you do not have a beautiful mind to go with. sorry that is how I see people who say "hey look at me ... I am all you ever need and I am sooooo beautiful." yuck ... gag....
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/14/2009 7:20:39 AM | | ombrerose: I agree with you totally. Different things are attractive to different people and I would only place metal in the average range (in a cutesy way) (sorry Metal. Just an observation). Add being really self centred to that and it's not a really attractive package. | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/14/2009 7:49:04 AM |
sounds to me you are pretty conceited.... it is difficult for one to judge oneself as to beauty, and smarts. We all have lots to learn and we should never stop learning. Besides outer beauty fades and it fades even faster if you do not have a beautiful mind to go with. sorry that is how I see people who say "hey look at me ... I am all you ever need and I am sooooo beautiful."
Sometimes we are too obtuse to see actual humor also. Metal does fit the criteria and the comment about being above average, while she may believe it to a degree, was primarily tongue in cheek. It is valuable occasionally to read someone's posting history because her point was that it is not really that hard to find someone with the six qualifiers but that doesn't mean that you have found a prize.
The OP is I think expanding his mind though because he is thinking about whether his ideal woman might be outside the original age parameters he has in mind. | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/14/2009 8:01:30 AM | want somebody like you ? start dating yourself and see what makes you happy, then compare it what you want in a mate
I tried dating myself and I am bored to death. | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/14/2009 8:18:05 AM | I am reminded of the "Seifeld" episode when George dated a character played by the actress Tracy Nelson. The running joke was she looked so much like Seinfeld , George was teased. In another episode Jerry met a woman played by Janine Garafalo. They were the mirror image of one another. Seinfeld said something like, "So, what I've been looking for all my life is myself!"
I believe it is the differences two people bring to a romance that helps make it unique. Narrowing ones search to 6 criteria seems narsissitic. You have a hand if the only person you want to be with is yourslef. Dating outside your self-involved world may prove rewarding. | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/14/2009 8:40:40 AM | It's great to have things you want out of a person.
Just don't be TOO picky. Sometimes a little difference
in personality and life experience can be a positive thing. | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/14/2009 8:44:49 AM | There is absolutely nothing wrong with what you are looking for. It sounds reasonable enough. However at 32 don't be surprised if most of the women you run into have been married at least once and have kids already. I understand you don't want this and that is your right,just know that you have narrowed your dating pool considerably. Also getting the amount of schooling you require in a mate means that person has rich parents or they are pretty deep in debt. Most of us didn't have rich parents neither did we see a masters degree as worth being in debt for the rest of our lives.
As other people have said "yes there are those kinds of women out there", however just because they have all of your requirements does not mean they will want or be attracted to you.As I said it is your right to have any requirement you wish to have, but if you actually are serious about finding love you may want to get rid of or at least relax one or two
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/14/2009 9:00:02 AM | I don't understand how you're having trouble, OP. A large percentage of educated and successful men prefer a woman who is not as educated or career oriented. Since a larger percentage of women are college educated than men, and the fact that most educated women expect a man who is at least as well educated as themselves, you should be in a position of advantage to find a suitable partner. Especially when you take into account your age and appearance.
Maybe there is something other than availability of suitable partners that's keeping you from finding one. I'll admit though... Finding an otherwise suitable woman that doesn't have children is not easy, once you hit a certain age. You shouldn't be there yet. At 32, with what you supposedly bring to the table, you should have lots of options left to you... | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/14/2009 10:16:43 AM | Thanks Packagedeal, YOU got me =)
I mean but really, I do fit those criteria (yes, attractiveness is subjective) so how does that make me conceited? Am I *so* conceited because I KNOW I don't have kids, have never been married, etc? That makes no sense. I can see where whoever said it would have thought it because I said I was "way above average", but that's not even the quote she grabbed. (and I totally WAS being tongue in cheek!) I *AM* proof someone can be over 30 with no kids, no marriages and be attractive. If you don't think I am attractive, that's fine! I'm not going to apologize for knowing who I am and having self-confidence! Yeesh! Lighten up...
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Ismene2 (below) - Thanks, I'm glad someone else said what I was thinking! Oops, now I'm conceited for having that thought! LOL. :devil: | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/14/2009 10:20:43 AM | metal: when a man who is nearly 10 years older than you and not even in your league lookswise, says you are average -- I wouldn't worry about it...at all.
And he doesn't recognize obvious sarcasm.... | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/14/2009 11:31:48 AM | | ismene2: I wasn't trying to insult anyone if you read my post without the attitude. I was merely saying that what one person would find attractive is not what someone else would find attractive. Not sure why you feel the need to get some sort of female shot in because I DARED to say she was average but cute. What a horrible cad I am to not think she's a goddess. It's kind of dumb to try and compare my looks with hers anyway since we are different sexes and age really doesn't have a lot to do with looks . I am glad you find me so unattractive though since it would make my skin crawl if someone with your disposition did want me. | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/14/2009 11:50:22 AM | ^^^Look, she was being obviously very sarcastic about saying she was extra attractive. Instead of picking up on that, you put her down. You also put her down for being self centered. Based on her response to what you wrote, you hurt her feelings. So, I didn't mistake that you hurt her feelings. I was doing a mama bear thing protecting the young, so shoot me. You didn't pick up on that either. Just be mad and pouty about it all 
"Ismene2 fits your criteria as well!!! " LOL except she's about 25 years too old .... : ) | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/14/2009 12:01:47 PM | Ahhh, I love how text can be so misconstrued! Ismene2, maybe he is from a culture that doesn't appreciate humor or sarcasm, who knows.
And look OP, Ismene2 fits your criteria as well!!! 
Edit: cw35 (below) Glad you see now that you missed my sarcasm. I was going to ask the POF gods to remove this line from your profile:
Offbeat sense of humor and sarcastic wit are welcome :)
K, enough about me and ismene2, we both rock so back to the OP... | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/14/2009 12:02:10 PM | | I "put somebody down" by saying they were "average and cute looking" instead of incredibly gorgeous?! Are you just looking for a fight? I think somebody had their cereal pi*sed in this morning. I obviously didn't pick up on her humor and was mistaken. Wow. I should be shot. It's funny that your stubborness won't allow you to admit that you exaggerated and misread what I wrote. | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/14/2009 1:00:40 PM | | its a shame you live all the way on the other side of the country. I have a friend you sound like you'd be perfect for. She was just saying last night that she has given up on finding someone who has never been married. She is pretty, cute figure, cultured, smart, has a good job, never married and no kids. | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 5/15/2009 5:37:04 AM | in not usually hard on a hard-working drone but you Dudley got a can o whup-ass coming and u deserve it -its overdue -
you're 30
you're a man
take this on da chin an after
dust yrslf off and fix yrslf up
to your dilemma -
Here is what you have:
you are single,
never been married (no experience of committment)
I have NO kids. (bummer innit) (betcha da boss has, and his daughter)
I have a master's degree. - (so's everyone else me included)
I have a profession. - (so that's a job - no biggie)
I am at least average or slightly above average looking. (that's just vanity)
I am in good shape. (more vanity)
These are only SIX qualities. (those aren't qualities - trust me)
(status, education, quality of life, similiar type of profession, physical condition, that's all superficial latte they change as you change)
the answer - is it so HARD to find that kinda woman?
in a nutshell - POW- yes it is hombre - you're redundant
you've no character- you're a cypher - a drone
women won't live life like us dumb drones
there's millions of successful, educated, profesional working mothers out there - my mom was one way back in the sixties - a thoroughly modern millie - and she had 4 kids
move 30 years forward -todays woman is different - gifferent goals
she don't want a breadwinner she bakes bread
she had a kid or two from since her twenties -the kids in their teens now or college or uni
you're late- the Love Boat sailed without you!
i see guys like you every day at Canary Wharf (london).
I've got friends like yu in their 30's- 40's no kids - running on empty trying to scale some mythical bar set by the status quo -
who believes in the artificially priviledged alpha male anymore he's a phony who lied lied lied bout values n such
everyone else had kids and paid the price ,now they got grankids n outside kids n love em all to bits and wouldn't swop them for any car, yacht or mansion in a home n garden magazine
i've got friends in their 4o's who are grandfathers and granmas
now - where u been?
you think because you did what yo mama told u an became a good lil status junkie
u should be rewarded with a ' ultimate baby-maker alpha male o the year award
wrong -
shoulda dropped the six-pack,
got some character instead - give 2 get fool - sez Mr T
stop palming yr sorry materialistic, white picket fence view o the world on evryone else
is this a legacy issue? your mba and yr profession not keeping your cojones warm - shoulda got a life - taken gladly any woman who'd have you join her in her gene pool
and stopped looking for a stepford wife
trophies belong on shelf -dude
your sorry ass just made it to the dust-free section -
get out from behind your glass mantlepiece
if you was such a hero you woulda given someone else life instead of just lokking out for your own - stead you big baby say 'aw i didn't get on of those cute designer 3 men an a baby models as well as a suit,an certificate too - i wana quit
- jerk, that's called 'opportunity cost'
business 101
unit 1
day 1
and guess what you got played
if i was to compare your empty jaundiced existence to mine
i beat u hands down in terms of achievements
damn - i did the demos, the protests, the clubs, the staggering home drunk and never once did i take your puritanical holier than thou 'cos i got a certificate an a lil 9-5 100,000 job' attitude hence i'm better than these undereducated baby-makers out there
singles dads and moms who take care of todays kids are the ones who really count in terms of investing in the future ofd this planet - we rock!
they're the ones nurturing the eco-warriors and nano-engineers of tommorrow's brave new world and dorian greys like you are trapped like stevie says in your pasttime paradises. wid yr mbas, and shes' not good enough to take home to ma preggers outlook
lissen - i gotta degree, i teach college, i build the corporate websites you masters of yr universe hide your inadeqacies ans lies behind
an i got kids
and i'm independent
an i don't gotta wear a soot n tie to prove to mom what a good hard-working valued citizen of the world i've become
stop pickin on da sisters to cover your inner adequacies - your superficial ass is all exposed -
i mean is this bit of navel gazing cos theres a credit crunch on and you ain't so sure bout your job security any more
grow up n and remember this
it's the woman who chooses who to have kids with not the man
so you better get off your high hoss, hoss and beg real hard - cos if i was a woman these days i would'nt want a dinosaur like you to bring up the next generation
bear this in mind too we men just choose the gender of the child and that's not even a conscious decision thats chromosomes dude
so in conlusion i don't even think yu got the cojones to make the sacrifices that bringing up kids demands
you wanna spend your time navel gazing and counting them cold unfertile never evolving gilded eggs you been laying aside all this time
cos you been ducking real committment an sacrifices to anyone else but yourslf all yr life
grow the hell up - ditch your presentation kit
go buy some sandals, move to Jamaica and try to grow some locks
this superhero is outahere - nuff sed! | |
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