| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 10/13/2009 11:36:59 PM | I am single, never been married. --- I cant see your profile how old are you, the older you get the harder this is going to be to find..
I have NO kids. --- same as above..
I have a master's degree. --- Good luck with this one not every one is going to have a masters degree...
I have a profession. -- Most of us have a profession but rather you think it is worthy or not is another story.
I am at least average or slightly above average looking. ---All the hot women, are not gonna want you more than likely because your list is ****ed
I am in good shape. --- Same as above.
I suggest you stop being a douche and get rid of your ****in list and find you someone you get along with, that gets along with you back. Your list should consist a lot more of personality, motivation and simply who they are. | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 10/14/2009 4:03:18 AM | | Many women that have what you have enjoy it and lots stay single because without the need for a family, there is no need for her to sacrafice her independance for what? What will she get what she already doesnt have? She now has the ability to have what she wants. Kind of like having her cake and eat it too. If you look hard you can find it, but remember you will need to have something that will rock her world because you arent offering anything that she already has. | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 10/14/2009 5:03:20 AM | [I am single. Never been married.
I have no kids.
I will have...a lot of schooling by the time I'm done.
For now I'm a student, but I will be a doctor as of 2012.
I am average looking.
I am in good shape.
See? We exist!! I know a TON of other women out there who can say exactly what I just said about myself and they would be completely honest :)]
Yep, I agree, We are out there ! Although I can see Op's point of view too. Most people wants someone of similar background and status. It's all about relating to each other.
I went to a mother's group once (I don't have kids), the first 10 mins, I fell in love with all the adorable babies, however after they peed and vomit on me..... that's it..It's back to their mothers..Talking about the cost of nappies and cracked nipples just doesn't interest me. What would I know about that? | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 10/14/2009 5:19:50 AM | [Awww, give the poor dude a break. One day he will find someone as stuck on themself as he is on himself, it'll just take time and since he doesn't have time for kids that just gives him more time for what he really enjoys, himself, and the search for someone equally selfish. Yes, I said selfish, I tend to view those that choose not to have kids as selfish and wanting life to be all about them (providing it's been their choice to remain childless), and for him to claim to be in his early 30's, single, never married no kids, hmmmm smells like selfishness to me. I could be wrong, but eh, who knows, certanly wouldn't be the first time. BUt if he's loking for a nearly carbon copy of himself it might take a while, good luck OP, I think you're gonna need it]
OK, I'm single and at 32 it's not my choice to be childless! I'm not selfish, I'm still looking for the right man to have a dozen kids with. | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 10/14/2009 6:53:34 PM | I tend to view those that choose not to have kids as selfish and wanting life to be all about them
You need to realize that some people choose not to have children because they could pass on conditions that are hereditary. Some people really longed for children, but decided not to because they were thinking of the child.
People have children because they ARE selfish - the selflessness comes later, but the decision to have children is all about YOU and what YOU want at that time. | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 10/18/2009 8:14:21 AM | I was all set to wail on this fella...then I thought "easy killa--you want/expect certain things too, just different than his expectations"....I'm thinking (and could be way off base) he means those are the 'qualities' he wants FIRST--the MUST HAVES, because those things are important to HIM...and from there he'll weed through those to find the kind, caring, giving, fun, mother of his children. I'm thinking that list was just the STARTING point.
My starting point is: must have a job, must have a car, must have teeth. (I know those are superficial things, but please be gentle on me--I live in small town Texas!) Once I've established that he has those under control, I look at personal qualities--honesty, kindness, warmth, communication skills, sense of humor--the things that are REALLY important to ME. In a nutshell--I'm really just looking for a sensitive, yet macho man. Are there any gay truckers out there??!!  | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 10/18/2009 10:47:27 AM | Consider a woman with a masters degree will definitely not settle, and might not have time to be on a dating website or dating, due to her busy schedule. She might go to a bar with friends or casually socialize (I have friends like that). And as a single mom going for her masters pretty soon, I wont settle for what I want. I can have many friends and go on dates, but I will be open to meeting those that I can learn from and have an opportunity to get to know. They might not be an exact replica of me, how boring would that be, goals, character,and qualities I find attractive (not necessarily the average weight, height standards) will be part of my search. But i agree with Shaitan, stop thinking that you need someone like you, just be open to finding someone who likes you and you can enjoy each others company with. Start with that.  | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 10/18/2009 12:09:15 PM | | WEll what do you do when asking a lady out and she says sorry your just my type and you havent met yet its like thear jugeing you with out giveing you a chance ===snow on top of fire | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 10/18/2009 12:13:20 PM | snow on top of fire say es i long dits can be a hard thing when meeting some one 4 the first time but when she s a local or near by and you fit the pofile shes looking 4 what then  | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 11/2/2009 8:02:51 PM | People have children because they ARE selfish - the selflessness comes later, but the decision to have children is all about YOU and what YOU want at that time.
All right, Wild Heart, I'll give you props for turning this around to the truth. The exception are those who adopt. I'd like to be rich enough some day to throw them all a party.
Stop comparing YOUR laundry list to the OP's, folks. He wants a very understandable and reasonable basis from which to work in a mate, and that's his choice. Personally, I look for a pulse as being my bare minimum in a date, but that's me. Let him get hooked up with his over-achieving counterpart so that their progeny can rule the world eventually - sheesh. | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 11/2/2009 8:09:07 PM | brandon,
you sound exactly like my ex. he's going through the same thing. has a lot on the ball & cute, yet not getting very far with 7's (or even 6's) who don't have his level of ed or anything else. it's just plain weird. at first, he went for younger gals, so that might have explained it, but now he goes for gals closer to his age and it's STILL happening. weird, just plain weird. if you figure it out, let us all know! the closest i can figure is the gals don't have enough going for them to see what you are. if you're choosing cute women but with boatloads of kids, no jobs, and the like, then you have to expect a certain mentality. they're gonna be easily dazzled by anyone clicking his fingers & posturing. that kind of explains it, but not really... who knows??? | |
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| I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 11/10/2009 6:06:47 PM | | Hmm.... you forgot one more quality you have.... you are also UP YOURSELF. Get over yourself. You are way too picky. If a man handed me a list like that, I would hand him the door. You are shutting out the opportunity for someone to come into your life that may not have any of those qualities, and they may be the most perfect person for you. But you will have to think about someone else for a change instead of yourself, sorry. As long as you put yourself first, you are putting up a hard criteria for anyone to follow.... seems to me you wouldnt be satisfied with anyone. You have to ask yourself if you are "perfect".... and if you think the answer is yes... (then think again cause nobody is perfect)....... not sure I will say anymore here. However, I will say this, that I knew a girl who had a list of qualifications as well. She married a man that had NONE of the qualifications, and she said she never knew it could be so good with someone that was not everything on her list. They have a nice family and are very much in love. She said she had to "open her heart" for the right person to come in, and allows herself to fall in love, not find someone with a list of qualifications on a piece of paper. Hmmm.... | |
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