| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/15/2009 8:32:19 AM | | I know how you feel bro. I was engaged and then we just fell apart and i still think about her sometimes. the only thing that has helped me is time. Thats sucks but thats the only thing that will help. | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/15/2009 9:35:14 PM | I realize I am young, but for 5 years now every single date I have been on seems to get worse.
Its almost amusing, I actually had someone tell me she just goes on dates for free dinners.
Or better yet, one I dated for a month told me she was unsure of staying with me or another guy she was dating. She thought that was normal behavior and a valid concern.
Hell turning gay doesn't sound like such a bad idea anymore...
Yes I know technically my heart didn't get ripped out, it was meant as a metaphor. Obviously if she literally gouged my heart out, not only would I not be here I would have bigger problems than just the quality of women I date... 
Perhaps you are right about me comparing everyone to her, I think I do that a lot. One day I will find my pearl that knocks me back | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/16/2009 4:48:12 AM | | I wouldn't even worry about it. Be on your own. It's much, much better that way. Trust me. It makes life a whole lot less complicated. | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/16/2009 5:33:16 AM | | Well my friend, it is part of life and trust me is better to have loved and lost then not have love at all. It is true, this is the way we learn, and what you like about the ex, maybe defnt one someone new, we are alive to enjoy life not to dwell on past sorrows but to create new ones... There had to be an attraction with all this woman, and not a physical one, one that touches you to the deeper. | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/16/2009 4:52:17 PM | Hey Kubo...
Read your profile; you're adorable and intelligent and funny...maybe you're not choosing dates that can appreciate you and see that, which means they're probably not that perceptive!
The examples you gave--free dinners, choosing between you and someone else--both girls seem to have the same thing in common. They're superficial and self-absorbed!
Start looking for the same traits you offer, the ones I mentioned above. Once you get beyond the attraction, you can see if they're somewhere in the ballpark. Of course that's not a guarantee, LOL, which is why so many other people including myself are still searching. But it's all any of us can do.
And it really does suck. But there's strength in numbers! (as in look how many of us, of all different ages, are still looking!)
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/17/2009 2:21:00 PM | | I'm pretty much in the same boat - met what I thought was a wonderful guy, dated for 5 months. Everything was going great. We got along really well, spent lots of time together, did things together....then I found out he had lied to me. I had asked him for the truth very early on in the relationship, and I believed him. He finally came clean, which broke my heart. Had he told me the truth right at the beginning of the relationship it wouldn't have mattered to me - but to be lied to is not something I can easily forgive. | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/17/2009 6:55:05 PM | I can certainly identify with the way you are feeling. I found myself back in the dating world about eight years ago and after many failed and short lived relationships, falling in love and getting my heart ripped out and stomped on, and shedding many tears and enduring many lonely nights, naturally it became harder and harder for me to get up the same enthusiasm for dating as I had in the early going. Finally I got to the stage where I just felt indifferent about the whole thing and resigned myself to the fact that perhaps having someone by my side just wasn't in the cards for me.
I threw myself into work, hobbies, duties at home, and spent more time with my children and casual friends and my pain and loneliness have now dissipated somewhat. But you know, it seems as soon as I did that, more women were expressing interest in me.
I never believed in the old adage, "love will find you once you stop looking for it" but it seems true. | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/17/2009 7:55:18 PM | I am sorry someon hurt your heart. How long you've carried this hurting heart?IT.S TIME YOU put on your upward thinking cap.Say to yourself it's time to mend my broken heart.each day check to find the holes are getting smaller and smaller.look for the light, at the end of the tunnel.not ging to be easy,but it,as a start.STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP.WHATEVER WENT WRONG CAN,T BE ALL YOUR FAULT. IT TAKES TWO. GET THAT HEART OF YOUR MENDED OK?
MiMa, | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/18/2009 6:21:09 PM | sounds like you're worn out, you need to recharge yourself again and take some time off from dating. you could really use one...
i supposed you need a different outlook in life as well, try volunteering it does wonder to your self esteem and do other people as well.
i've only had 2 bfs in my life, so it doesnt matter about the quantity the important to me is the quality of potential man I like to meet. | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/18/2009 7:08:04 PM | omg, what is it with the younger generation and tired hearts? what i mean is why not start saying that your heart is tired when you get to some of our ages? you're young, active, and still have a lot of love to offer to the person of your dreams once they come along. i'm going on 45 and my heart is far from being tired...it's just tired of being hurt but never tired of loving and being loved.
stop looking for love, let love find you. don't just hand your heart out to anyone, allow your heart room to grow, share your love (and heart) once you know it's true. | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/19/2009 6:56:31 AM | | I think for most of us if we are here we have tired hearts...tired of looking...tired of meeting...tired of no connection...tired of being dumped...tired of attracting the wrong guy...just plain tired...I sure know I am | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/19/2009 6:59:19 PM | | audacity, you said it all right there. (see message 37) I couldn't have put it better myself. | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/19/2009 7:21:05 PM | Look, when you have been married and have dated a long time, you expect or you set as standard for yourself. Most of the time you settle for something you know that its not good for you. Give your heart a break and just be friends with those you meet. 1st and foremost, learn to love yourself first and once you do that everything else will fall into place. Take a year and get to know yourself all over again.... Remember you are your best company.
Best of luck
Tina | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/19/2009 10:06:15 PM | Count your lucky stars you get to go on dates. Most people never even get to leave their computers. | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 5/27/2009 11:13:32 PM | | Very true. I guess I need to look at the good side of things. She's out there! | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 7/26/2009 4:55:35 AM | | I think I know how you feel... or eventually I will know.... I'm getting out of an engagement with my picture perfect us marine.. but he has a lying issue... that he can't get over.... and all I asked for was honesty... but I started to date and every one seems so wrong.... like how was it so simple to find some one before... I enjoy being in a long term relationship that is committed.. but I would like to find my pearl.... or my four leaf clover... some thing a little manlier.. | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 7/26/2009 5:43:43 AM | i feel the exact same way :-(
since i split up with my ex i just feel like i cant do this dating & falling in love thing all over again it hurts way 2 much & i dont ever wanna feel the way im feeling right now EVER AGAIN 
ive actually decided that im giving up on love  | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 7/26/2009 6:06:01 PM | I agree with moonbean, pray and trust that the Lord will put the right person in your life in HIS time andtrust me as you already know that anything that comes from God can only be good.
I put it in His hands a long time ago and He has led me to the right man and that is why I am having such a hard time letting go of him even though he has let me go. All in due time. Watch the movie Fireproof, in fact everyone needs to see it and really listen to the song "While I'm waiting."
My heart is tired and broke in half and I will tell you a little secret that a girl at work shared with me and I truly believe it works, ytou may message me if you like as I don't want to get beat up on the forums for saying it and people may think I'm a crackpot and it has to do with praying.
I've dated and talked to other men but none of them have worked out for various reasons so I will keep looking and praying.
You should too, don't give up!! | |
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| My heart is tired
Posted: 7/26/2009 8:24:27 PM | yah atleast wait until you are 30 to get bitter, dating for men REALLY sucks at 30+
http://www.qoe.cn.to/ | |
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