| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 5/15/2009 9:20:24 AM | That's funny notshellfish  but more than likely true.
Funny this topic came up, I'm much older than most of you, but this topic came up between me and four of my friends, all male. All separate discussions.
I'm 65 and my search has been 56-66, and basically I've dated mostly 58-65, accept one 45 yr. old, to young for me with two daughters 45.
Well, my first friend 75 won't date women in their 70s..his thought, don't want to date women who look like grandma and thinks they start having major health in their 60s ,he also thinks most have major issues or most commonly referred to as baggage!
Second friend is 60, he only dates women in their mid 40's-50, likes the younger looks. And also thinks they have to much baggage.
third friend 68, he too only dates women in their 50s, he's in great shape and likes the younger looks. Also thinks older women have to much baggage.
fourth friend 39, he's living with a 22 yr. old. They get along fine.
So, here I am, wondering if I should start focusing in more on the 50's range because (a) I don't have any baggage (b) because the two ladies I really liked (64) had a great deal of baggage, kinda soured me. Not to say people men/women can't have baggage at any age. | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 5/15/2009 9:36:04 AM |
third friend 68, he too only dates women in their 50s, he's in great shape and likes the younger looks. Also thinks older women have to much baggage.
My personal opinion is that someone over 30 that doesn't have visible 'baggage' has baggage of a different, subtler and likely scarier sort. But really, what kind of baggage would a 60 year old have that a 50 year old wouldn't? A few more wrinkles?
Cheers,
Mike (personally, I like all my baggage to come from Tumi) | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 5/15/2009 11:44:44 PM | my first bf was 12 years older than me, I was 27 and he was 39 at that time. Too much of an age difference and lifestyle. I personally wouldn't do it again.
Dated 22 year old guy, too immature for me.
I might go for someone around my age and closer. | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 5/16/2009 9:58:46 AM | | i try to keep it at men above 20 to 30. i think a little older would be too hard. he'd want to move fast if he is over 35 and he's pretty much ready to start a family and i am not. it all depends on the man though. some over 30 guys are pretty much set about not starting a family until much much much later in life. i try not to be an age-ist | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 5/16/2009 10:17:13 AM | ooooer
My first real love was 31 and I was 18
My first husband 19 and I was 25
My holiday fling (in between husbands) was ermmm very young and I was 36 hahahaha just can't go there!
My second husband was a year younger than me
My last LTR was 10 years older
Biggest gap older 10 years
Biggest Gap younger ....errrrrrm yes 
Age is just a number but as someone else said it is all a case of maturity and what type of relationship you have with them. | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 5/16/2009 12:52:41 PM | My dad is younger than my mom, my ex was five years younger than me, and my daughter's husband is wee bit younger...one month.
It's not so much about age, it's about connection. If you rule someone out because of age then you may miss a really great connection.
That being said, I have a hard time, esp now that I'm older, making a connection with guys my own age or older. I had a response from someone who said 'You can find me at the coffee shop any day of the week.'
Um... So this is your life now? The coffee shop? And if we hooked up what would be my role in the whole 'coffee shop' set up?
Maybe I'm the immature one... I dunno... It just seems that there should be more out there than that. | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 5/16/2009 1:00:50 PM | Good grief, you are 25. When I read the original post I thought you had to be in your forties.
Your barely out of your teens and your worried about women in their thirties being to old for you. Most of the people playing teens on tv are in their thirties. Does that put it into perspective for you?
Also many people much younger than you are legally off limits to you. At your age a few years older doesn't mean much in terms of experience or maturity. But go down a few and you've got someone who is quite immature. They are still learning how to be an adult. | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 5/16/2009 2:18:41 PM | | I prefer dating older men. I am 30 and prefer dating someone between 30-40. I don't date younger guys....not all, but most I meet are too focused on starting their career in their 20's or haven't finished school yet. I also feel like I am babysitting someone if they are younger than me...even if they are mature. I know this sounds funny but I want a protector in a man...so thats part of the reason I am drawn to older men. I also find most older men have more relationship experiences and know what women want. I also want someone who is settled down already in their careers etc. | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 5/16/2009 2:23:38 PM | | I won't date a guy younger than the age of 38, nor older than the age of 60, if you're speaking of numbers. What will really win my heart is a fella who is young in heart and has similar interests that I have. | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 5/16/2009 2:26:15 PM | | I'd prefer to date a woman between the ages of 27-42; but would probably say roughly 12 years either way (I'm 31 so 19-43), although maturity plays a big factor in dating a younger woman, | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 5/16/2009 2:42:46 PM | I generally try to stick with somebody round & about my age (43). A couple of years ago I dated a guy who was 11 years younger than me but he just seemed so immature and would often rather play on his Nintendo thingey, which he insisted on bringing over whenever we met!!! Needless to say, that ran its course and I now tend to focus on guys no younger 38ish. Obviously it does all depend on the actual guy - some 30 year olds can be very mature and some 50 year olds can be immature - it is a case of finding that happy medium!  | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 5/16/2009 2:44:35 PM | | I like women of all ages...but not too young. Most of the women i've been out with have been close to my age,but it's the young ladies that want to go out with me. I try and deal with women at least 38 and older,but some of the younger ones are so fine! The youngest woman that wanted to go out with me was 23yrs old(my son's 24!)very nice and mature for her age but i just couldn't see being out with someone my son's age! | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 5/16/2009 2:54:15 PM | I'm finding that women with one foot in the grave are starting to contact me because I'm 35.
The more I think about it, I should be dating younger women only. Most guys my age have had children and I haven't. If I ever want to have my OWN children, my best bet is to aim younger - as it takes some time to see where the relationship is going and all that. I don't want to feel the pressure of some girl's biological clock ticking and getting together for the wrong reasons. | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 5/16/2009 5:36:04 PM | | I have the same opinion about the 10 yrs up or down. I have found that those younger than I tend to still be in the "Party Every Weekend" mode. Not to say all are like that, just my experience. | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 5/17/2009 8:33:06 PM | I am 52- or so it says on my birth certificate... no offense, but I find that men my age or older are a bit settled, stuffy even, for my taste. Therefore I usually date men that are in their 40s. No one looks at us strangely either because I look like I am in my mid 40s... as long as we get along , have fun, have some common interests, and a good sexual chemistry, it's all good. Age really is just a number. Its how you think and your energy level that matters more. | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 8/19/2009 9:40:35 AM | Even being over 50, I have no 'Pre-measured' Gap....especially as far as 'Dating' goes...
For me, it's all in attraction and chemistry....
There are plenty of attractive 50+ y.o's, but a majority of them are already married/taken or so tainted and bitter from previous relationships, that no decent man would spend more than an hour with her on a date...
Women in their 20's are still in training....
Personally, I'm looking for a Long-term Loving Relationship....
With all the chores and daily duties included....
As long as we give of each other freely, and openly...
The little telling hints of affection...: The raised eyebrow....The naughty grin...
Fingernails gently down the back...Earlobe-nuzzling...
Age is not an issue... . .    | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 8/19/2009 11:07:59 AM | | I am 38 and my age range is 30-44. I will make exceptions for the exceptional if they are older but I will not go younger. I have tried as much as 15 years younger and 22 years older. For me age is an issue, I want someone to understand the issues that relate to my generation and my current phase in life. I have found that when you go widely outside your generation that almost becomes impossible. | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 8/19/2009 11:08:29 AM | I noticed someone has recently added to this thread. I just got to add something about maturity. In case you haven't read any of my posts I work in retail. Well yesterday a middle aged woman was in line. Our computers went down, no big deal just got to call IT and have them reset the server. Well she was being more impatient than a 5 year old. She was harking and complaining to me and my cashier. I finally just walked away. I would never date someone with that was that much inpatient. She was beyond what I thought a middle aged woman should have been. I can understand she might have been in a hurry but she could have treated me and my cashier some respect. BTW the other cashier is 18 and she has twice as much maturity of this middle aged woman.
Sorry for the small rant just wanted to throw that out. | |
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