| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 8/19/2009 12:34:47 PM | I mostly like a few years older but have dated guys that were 4-5 years younger.
My preferences are 5 years either way. with maybe a couple years leeway either way.
Most of the people I have dated in the last year have fallen into the older category.
If someone is not too set in their ways and can release their need to try to control younger people or take charge and just let me be me I love what happens to a guys mind after the age of 50. | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 8/19/2009 12:49:31 PM | ^^^^^ My great-grandmother always said, "It is better to be an old man's darling than a young man's fool."
I don't date men who are younger than me primarily because a lot of guys my age and younger want kids, and I don't. I've gotten messages from men asking me if I can still have children. Can I? Yes. Am I willing? HELL NO!
When I was 24, I dated a guy who was 17 years older than me. Ultimately, it was the age difference that broke us up. He was continuously treating me like a child and acting as if my thoughts and opinions were of no consequence because I was, "so young..." But, I'm a lot older now, and I might be willing to date someone up to 15 years old than me.  | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 8/19/2009 1:42:52 PM | Normally, I'm against these age-gap relationships. However, I did find a profile of an attractive woman in my town who is in a different age group and she would be an option if she were available, so I no longer can say that I'm absolutely opposed to these relationships. I still think for the most part that they are flawed; but there can be exceptions.  | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 8/21/2009 4:23:32 AM | I use to carry on with my ex that it was almost time to trade him in for a younger man... Well we broke up I am 37 he just turned 32. Now I am dating a guy who is 26 is that too much of a gap. He is extremely nice and a wonderful guy. We have great conversations and well the Sex OMG amazing.. Actually the best I have ever had!!! So what do you all think I am sure I will hear the negative comments too but fire away... He is mature and a great dad..  | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 8/21/2009 7:12:30 AM | | After being married to a woman 7 years older than myself after our divorce 15 years ago I started dating women younger, but still near my age. Today all that has changed. After several ltr's and a whole lot of dating I find what works best for me today at age 66 is dating women 15 to 20 years younger although I will date younger than that just for fun. The latest two women I am dating are 26 and 31 and we just are having fun until a potential ltr partner turns up for any of us. Life is good! | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 8/21/2009 8:29:33 AM |
What's a reasonable gap for you?
Well my age range is 18-80, blind, dumb or crazy. And I wont broaden those no matter who asks.
Now as far as the sweet zone... 35-45. I'm 41. | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 8/21/2009 8:42:18 AM | I'm in agreement on the comments regarding maturity. I find if I'm talking to a woman younger than me by more than 5-6 years, it is more on my mind than hers. I had a close relationship for a few years with a woman 16 years younger than me, she was born the year I graduated HS, that was sstrange for me, but all I got from her is that age is just a number. She called it the "alive" factor, and said that her SO who was her same age was dead on his feet. it is different the other way as when I was younger, older women were great fun and it was a big +++++ to be with them. I guess it depends who has the shoe of being older on their foot??
I also think it has a lot to do with what you're interested in b ecause when you're running around together, if youi're doing things you both like, who cares? | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 8/21/2009 9:09:51 AM | No more than 10 years younger and preferrably not older at all. It's more of a guideline than a rule though lol.
On a superficial level, I hit it off with a bartender 20 years younger who was kinda in the same place in life as me...we were both bored and looking for some new excitement.
Even though she already had a boyfriend, so, much as I found her adorable, I didn't seriously pursue anything with her, just flirted a lot lol, on a deeper level, it became clear over a period of visits, that we were somewhat incompatible in the sense that she thrived on stress (and that's why she works in a busy bar), constantly on the go, and I was/am more laid-back, a "quiet type". But I was that way in my 20s too, so it had nothing to do with age. She sure was cute, sexy, funny...and I miss her, but the loud, noisy bar scene ain't for me. I'd bore the s--t out of her and she'd stress the s--t out of me.
Now, if I meet someone like that in a quiet, methodical intellectual think-tank of some kind, you better believe, if she's single, I'll pursue her-! | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 8/21/2009 1:45:54 PM | IMO the age gap really depends on the maturity level of both people involved.
If maturity is there along with great communication, common values and a high level of compatibility in other areas..It would not hold me back that's for sure!!! : ) | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 8/21/2009 1:50:21 PM | | Me I would to date closer to my own age, I would not go lower than 3 yrs younger than me or 12 yrs older, the reason is if I 'm 35 dating 22 yr old kid basically you are her father and 12 yrs older, well I'm dating someone close to my mother, I prefer to stay in age brackett that way everybody is on the same playing excluded immature people my age. | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 8/21/2009 5:50:25 PM | | I dated a guy almost 7 years younger than myself. I took a gamble and it paid off. I don't think I would do it again though. 34 to 42 seems to be a comfortable range. Anything in the outliers would give me reason for pause. | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 8/21/2009 6:39:35 PM | I'm 32.
My general preference: within 5 years of my age. I want to date someone at the same stage in life as myself, not someone who has already been there and done that or someone who still needs a babysitter.
The hard rule: if he's closer in age to my dad than to me, ICK. | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 8/22/2009 6:37:57 PM | When I was 25 I "dated" a 52 yr-old for about 6 months.. I say "dated" because we both knew it was obiously not going anywhere, and it was so nice to relax and just enjoy each other's company!
Age is just a number. It's the person that matters! | |
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| Age differences in dating - whazza gap?
Posted: 8/22/2009 7:00:43 PM | sometimes in their 20s
sometimes in their 50s
wealth helps especially with a 30 year old -- gold card mania but what the heck
ALWAYS rent a car for date -- never drive your own
the expenditure leaves their eyes sparkling
"you did this for me????????" | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 8/22/2009 8:42:08 PM | Age really doesnt matter but would have a difficult time going +_10 years...I have met a few on both ends of the extreme that I would have no problem with 
The obvious differences is the younger folks arent as footed in their careers, etc. and the older ones have more relationship baggage like recent divorces... | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 8/22/2009 11:12:01 PM | age really is just a number, it's all about where they are in life and how that matches up with what you're looking for.
As for me, I'm 30 and my search criteria on here is 21-35. I wouldn't question myself at all for going out with a mature 21 yr old, or dating a youthful and energetic 35 yr old. People make too much of a big deal out of age. | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 10/23/2009 10:43:32 AM | What gives me a giggle, are the ones who are willing to go 10 to 15 years younger, but only 2 years older? LOL
Generally speaking, an ideal range is 5 years, either way. However, of course it is not set in stone....so much depends on the individual. I have met 30 year olds who are more mature and more compatible than some 50 year olds! LOL | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 10/23/2009 11:19:20 AM | | I used to date women my own age, but had a hard time finding a woman that wasn't wrapped up in ex-issues or difficult family issues, so I kinda didn't date for a while. Last year through my work, I met a much younger woman, and we got along well. We also knew that the future was limited and we enjoyed ourselves till she went back to school to study law..it was an amazing time and as much as I had my doubts in the beginning, we really got along well. As embarrassing as it sounds now after reading many of the responses, she was 24... | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 10/23/2009 12:53:26 PM | | I'm in a LTR with a woman 46. So that's for some a big difference in age, but not for me as I've date and had LTR's with bigger gaps; notably 30 annd 21 years. At this point in time older than myself or even the same age is out of the question, just feels strange to me. My wife of 18 yrs however was 11 months older, no real difference there. | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 10/23/2009 3:09:34 PM | I met the love of my life on POF in August of 2008...I was 56 he was 47!
Personally I have always been attracted to younger guys because of my energy, personality, etc.
We were the perfect match and age was only a number! Everywhere we went people told us what a beautiful couple we made!
Unfortunately, he passed away in May 2009 unexpectedly from a major heart attack.
We had plans to be married and spend the rest of our lives together...
Bottom line...forget age...go with the HEART! | |
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| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 10/23/2009 4:52:46 PM | | Unfortunately I like younger blokes at least 10 years younger than myself. Most people think Im in my early thirties but this does have its drawbacks. Most men in their 30s want children. I have met another today who is my scene but then he dropped the bombshell he too wants kids. I was in a relationship for the last 11 years and he was ten years younger and he too wanted children. Im sorry but I am a person in my own right and expect to be treated as such not as a brood mare. Its beginning to get downright depressing. I suppose I should be flattered men want me to bear their children but its just not gonna happpen. | |
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