| |
| |
| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 11/22/2009 8:54:47 PM | I don't have one, I'm simply not fixated on an age range. Age is just a number to me. I know an 18 year old who is mature, poised, and has a great head on her shoulders. Conversely, I know a couple of 50+ year olds who think and act like my 13 year old niece. What's important to me is that a woman has similar personality traits, values, and interests to mine and that we connect. I would also need to find her attractive.
 | |
|
| |
| |
| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 11/23/2009 4:40:06 AM | My first relationship out of the divorce shute was a girl about half my age.
I felt kinda stupid dating her...like I was robbing the cradle. She was this really sweet young thing who wanted to do kids and the house with the picket fence and the whole nine-yards, ground over which I'd trod already. But DAMN this girl was hot! In the end, my otherwise alley cat-like ethical perspectives got the better of me and I broke it off, suggesting she needed to find someone more her own age (and less a "daddy" figure, I figger--did not SAY that to her!) with similar goals, expectations, etc.
Did not go well, but it all ironed itself out (her mom, a lady only a few years older than me was happy, tho!). Last she told me (we still email and actually had a couple of lunches) she is dating a nice doctor her age! I feel like a proud dad! Yeah. Strange...don't tell me, I know.
Strangely, another one about the same age I dated was such a total **** I had no such feelings whatsoever. Did her a few times, and moved on. But I still feel a bit odd about dating the younger ones.
Yet, I can't seem to find women my own age who are even moderately acceptable (of course, my stalkers--and they are legion!--will have things to say about this) in the usual categories. So, I still find myself being drawn to women half my age...or less. What up with that?
No doubt, my detractors will point up my immaturity, my shallowness, my lack of ability to "please" a proper grown woman (I will let the 26 y-o know you think so, ladies!), and of course my arrogance as being factors that in fact prevent such fine, "handsome" women from finding ME acceptable.
But there it is: I simply cannot seem to find a woman my age who has bothered to keep herself fit and attractive, is not one of those horrific "take charge kinda gals!" and is not dragging the Barnum & Bailey and Ringling Bros. baggage train behind her enormous behind.
Must be me! | |
|
| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 11/23/2009 4:48:13 AM | | i've never had a set gap. I don't claim to know people before i've met them, and my mates have never been decided based on a media driven time line either. it's all about where people are headed, and what they want. | |
|
| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 11/23/2009 8:03:28 AM | It doesn't even help to put age restrictions one site continually sends me men who are much younger. Honestly I am not being picky but be real what do you have in common with a man being younger by 15-20 years. Please I do not nor want to be a cougar its not even a funny term anymore. Give or take 5 years is very acceptable .
I have just started reading forums on several sites and wished I had done it before. I have been on this dating escapade for less than a year and scam artists are everywhere and married men out there cheating and looking for action. Got off the subject here but age does make a difference. BTW- this site is good for looking and reading forums for a laugh now and then anything else NOTTA | |
|
| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 11/23/2009 8:05:37 AM | I'd like to legally go out for a drink, but I have yet to meet anyone under 27 that I share similar interests with.
As far as + my age goes, no restrictions...you never know what you might find.  | |
|
| |
| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 11/23/2009 8:22:41 AM | | I have dated 9 and 13 years older. The age difference bothered me. I prefer my own age or 5 years older the max. Now for a younger man never tried that... I might give it a shot if one was interested... | |
|
| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 11/23/2009 8:33:48 AM | When I was 18 and older, they were always a decade older than me, usually 30+ - same mentality, more comfy with who they were, knew what they wanted out of life, been through most of the game playing, could talk on an intellectual level, politics, etc. Lived with a 35 y/o woman I started seeing when I was 18 for 1 1/2 years.
Since I was 18, I've only dated 7 women younger than me, and it wasn't by much. When I hit 30's, I still preferred 30+, and even still, that's the youngest I'll go. I dated one woman 52 y/o, and that was about a 20 year difference.
Yeah, I feel the same about dating. 20's is for figuring out who you are, what you like, and what you want. Still playing all the head games, etc. 30+ is when life really begins. There's still some whack-jobs out there, but I became pretty adept at weeding them out early so I didn't have to deal with all the dramatics that normally comes with the unstable.
More in common, much better sex, less games, more stable, more confidence, more self-sufficient/independent (on average) than their 20's counterparts. That, and even in my 20's, 18-25 y/o women still struck me as kids. I wanted a woman. | |
|
| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 11/23/2009 8:40:13 AM | | The older I get, the less it matters, as long as there is a high degree of compatibility in all areas. Generally, though, my range was -10 to +5 years for anything serious. If it's just a date or two, then -20 to +10 would be fine. | |
|
| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 11/23/2009 9:03:15 AM | | At my current age of 57 I usually find myself dating women in their late thirties through their midforties. I have no hard and fast rule. It just turns out that way most of the time. | |
|
| |
| |
| |
| Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you?
Posted: 11/23/2009 10:11:22 AM | | Guys under 30 are usually too imature for me and seems like their 2 balls comsume all of their thoughts LOL But even some guys in 40 ties can be very imature enough to proudly say "Hey I have a new tatoo you like a guy with a tatoo?" wth LOL Anyways I prefer someone who is around my age. | |
|
| |
Home
login 
