| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 10:58:42 AM | Yes, girls are less picky on this. We look for personality and that is what makes them goodlooking. With a touch of whatever we can't describe
I disagree. Women in general can be just as picky about looks / weight as men are. There are dating sites that cater to BBWs. Therefore there are some men who don't mind and actually prefer larger women. For the sake of argument, even if men were more picky about weight, some women can be very picky about other things such as height and income. | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 11:24:55 AM |
I put my actual weight in my profile but I've always wondered what most men consider "overweight" on a gal.
Depends on height. Use the BMI index as your starting point. | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 11:40:05 AM | The real answer is "anything we don't like." On one woman, that little tummy is the cutest thing ever. On another - if a man doesn't like her - she's a fat f*cking stupid nasty as* b*tch!
Yeah, men are totally fair and objective like that. | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 1:17:17 PM | | nashwc, i disagree, atleast in my personal opinion. while i wouldn't date a guy who was HUGE (really obese), my potential dates don't have to have a perfect, hot body either. i've dated many types of men body wise...from very athletic to a few extra pounds. so, im being honest when i say personality DOES matter more..while some level of attraction is needed, looks aren't what keeps a couple together. JMO though. :) | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 1:26:29 PM |
Men tend to put on a little belly weight this is usually seen as acceptable by women, as long as it's carried well.
What's a "little" belly weight?
I don't mind a man with a few extra pounds, but I simply cannot stand those men who look like they are pregnant or whose belly enters the room five minutes before the rest of them. They look like frogs. Interestingly enough, I have heard those same men make derogatory remarks about fat women.
My deceased ex father-in-law used to brag that he could wear 34 inch waist pants. He never seemed to notice that the pants barely covered his private parts and though his legs were skinny, he looked as if he were pregnant with triplets.
However very few men like women carrying weigth on thier tummy. Mostly as it appears as rolls so to speak.
Ya know, I see women who look like this all the time, and they are with men! It must be difficult for all those physically perfect men to be with women who are so imperfect. | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 1:37:57 PM | | There are in fact many definitins of overweight. There are also many definitions of wrong and right in this world. If you are thinking about this, have fun with all the shallow guys you are attracted to, as from the pic I saw, you don't have much reason to be thinking about this. | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 2:55:13 PM | | who says i am attracted to shallow guys? i'm most certainly not. i may not be obese, but i'm not a skinny size 2 either. seems like most of the shallow men would go for the size 2 skinny type. | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 3:05:22 PM | I am OBESE - both by the eye's version and the doctor's version. However, I will say this - reading through these replies has been a real eye opener for me - in many ways. One of the replies that really stood out for me was the "huffing and puffing" I never thought of how my obesity could change my activities with a partner. I know "duh" but it really hadn't. Though I had weight loss surgery last fall and the weight is coming off slowly - I really need to push the exercise bit - not only for an activity partner but for myself.
Thanks to you all!
PS: till then I'll have to keep the crane in the yard ;-) | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 3:08:51 PM | Overweight is when one can pinch more than inch.
I'm making tent with my bubbler in case I ever find my self in a survival situation - yeah that's the ticket.
I was visiting Budapest a few years ago, looked around the airport, and was shocked to realize, I didn't see one overweight person. I mean not even 10 lbs over weight.
Come back to America, and 5 out of 10 people are not just over weight, they are triple wide with a bag of chips. | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 3:42:07 PM |
I was visiting Budapest a few years ago, looked around the airport, and was shocked to realize, I didn't see one overweight person. I mean not even 10 lbs over weight.
Come back to America, and 5 out of 10 people are not just over weight, they are triple wide with a bag of chips.
Isn't it shocking. I notice this in the supermarkets especially. I just wonder how people can let themselves go like that. When I was 40 pounds heavier, I would look in the mirror in disgust, but I had two knee surgeries and it was really hard to exercise when your knees were being held together by threads. Now that they're find I have an old pair of jeans and it makes me feel disgusted with myself | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 4:25:20 PM | | it seems to depend on the guy --most of my friends are athletic to some degree they are attracted to athletic or slender women. others that are not body conscious themselves go for women similar to their build. | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 4:27:19 PM | Considering beauty is in the eyes of the beholder & so many people have their own opinion, is it even possible to get an average answer?
I try not to judge people by their weight but I don't think many are like me any more...
...perhaps one day all people will be looked upon for who they are as a person and not what the scale shows when they stand on it  | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 5:13:00 PM | Just be comfortable in your own skin. Everybody is not meant for everybody. Be sexy and confident with who you are. Chances are if you don't make it an issue, neither will they. If we all waited to start living our life once we lost weight, made more money, had a better job, etc....life is going to pass us by. Don't worry...be happy! | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 5:28:37 PM | Celts I have to diagree with you.
Look at most TV sitcoms (and I know not real life) but why do they always have a goodlooking woman with a funny guy? Probably cause that seems to be the norm. Most girls are looking at personality (and a confidence within them) and that is how the guy is attractive. Yes there is the hot guys we all say ohhhhh!!! but how many of them end up with a so called over weight person. More in real life will you find an attractive fit girl with the average guy. Then the hot guy with average girl.
Online might be different cause we don't know personalities and we go on pixs and some made up profile. So looks are important.
True to say about income, but most ladies don't just look at that. Gold diggers in all excluded. Usually if a guy has made money it is built on his personality and smarts so that personalilty will show through before his looks. Which makes him attractive.
Just my take on things, but some will diagree. | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 5:39:13 PM |
I just wonder how people can let themselves go like that.
Obesity occurs because of several factors--and not necessarily because a person is lazy as one poster is fond of reiterating. It is about self esteem, personal worth, and a feeling of hopelessness. As we age, we are subject to creeping obesity--you gain five pounds in a year, no big deal, right? The next year, another five pounds, and so on. This doesn't usually result in morbid obesity, though.
Because I used to weigh 250 pounds, I know all about the reasons why people are obese. I was unhappy with my life but felt powerless to change it. Losing weight was one of the things I did to gain power.
I also love food, the taste and the texture--and some studies show that obese people don't know when to stop eating.
Look at most TV sitcoms (and I know not real life) but why do they always have a goodlooking woman with a funny guy? Probably cause that seems to be the norm. Most girls are looking at personality (and a confidence within them) and that is how the guy is attractive.
Since when are sitcoms mirrors of real life? In the 50s and 60s, how many families were really like Ozzie and Harriet, Father Knows Best, or Leave it to Beaver?
I am an inveterate people watcher, and I RARELY see a beautiful woman with an obese or ugly man!
I think those TV shows are to placate the common man, giving him the illusion that he, too, COULD have a gorgeous wife. They also send a silent but pervasive message to women that WE should settle for the ugly/fat, inconsiderate but "funny" guy.
Women are concerned about looks, and if they are smart, they also look at financial status--NOT so a man can support them, but so they don't have to support a man.
Call me jaded, but also call me realistic. | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 6:10:56 PM | | i'm not a guy but i know alotttt about what they think. to me, most guys think there are two categories of women, sticks and bbw. you either are a stick or you are not acceptable. there is no in-between, actual curvy, or anything. and i was only a stick at one point in my life when i really wasn't eating. so i probably won't ever go back to that again. there are a few guys who are more flexible than that but they are much more an exception not the rule. | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 6:17:15 PM |
to me, most guys think there are two categories of women, sticks and bbw. you either are a stick or you are not acceptable.
Thank the powers that be that I don't know the same men that you know. This is simply not true--or most people in the US would NOT have partners.
In fact, most of the men with whom I have consorted, on romantic and platonic levels, say they don't like stick women. It doesn't mean that they want fat women, either, so there must be some categories in between. | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 6:51:48 PM | | well, most of the men i know are in the southeast, and i totally am trying to make a move north. the social environment is a big factor. the guys that i've had the most success with have been from the north. | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 6:52:06 PM | | When I was a stick, I used to go for sticks. Now that I've filled out, hardly fat by any means but definitely stockier than the 20-year-old kid I used to be, as long as a woman has an hourglass shape, I find her sexy. Sticks appear anorexic now, or I don't see how they could possibly be into ME lol. | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 6:59:10 PM | | It depends on how much gear we take. My bike has a load capacity, so the woman has to weigh under a certain amount. One benefit to my having lost weight is that now I can carry a bigger woman passenger. | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 7:02:49 PM | | exciting, i don't see where you're getting that from. i was very thin up until i was around 21, when i started to fill out a bit....and most of the men i know think i look much better now filled out than super skinny. i also get much more attention from men now than i did then. so i really don't think that's true. tons of men like "thick" women....which is basically not fat, but girls that have curves. | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 7:06:14 PM | There is a lot of disagreement about "average/normal weight", "a few extra pounds/ or chubby" & BBW. The US & Canada have different charts of ideal/healthy weights & so do
other countries. I have a friend in the UK & he insists I am "average" & that I am over-reacting in using the descriptor "a few extra pounds." I am in all honesty, more than a few,
but I am also aware that I hide it quite well. I gained 2 pounds last month & accoding to the BMI, I am technically "obese" now. Lovely 
 
I had a conversation not long ago with a friend who has his own struggles with his weight & he guessed me at 130 pounds! 
(not in at least 25 years & 5 kids ago). But thanks very much for the compliment.
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My deceased ex father-in-law used to brag that he could wear 34 inch waist pants. He never seemed to notice that the pants barely covered his private parts and though his legs were skinny, he looked as if he were pregnant with triplets. - Gwendolyn2009
He probably didn't realize HOW overweight he had become, the same pants size fooled him. The same thing happened to me after the birth of my youngest daughter. Everything
fit exactly the same. I didn't realize I had gained 40 pounds until I moved here to Abbotsford & discovered during a fairly routine doctor's visit, that I had developed high blood
pressure. He asked me if it ran in my fmaily & how much I currently weighed. I had no idea, I had no scale in the house, so I told him, I was 140 pounds after my daughter's birth
& I am the same size. I just about had a heart attack when I saw I wasa the same weight as when I was 9 months pregnant!
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 7:21:06 PM |
He probably didn't realize HOW overweight he had become, the same pants size fooled him.
Nah, his doctor told him if he didn't lose weight, he was going to die of a heart attack.
And he did. | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 7:27:53 PM | well it's nice to hear that at least some women somewhere know men who don't insist on sticks, esp since i don't ever plan to be one. i just need to move there. seems like now, though, i'm getting better results from men i meet irl than on here. as long as i can meet some different ones.
the men that i know that have those standards are here in nashville, both online and offline; some in or near bowling green, ky, and i've met a few occasionally from other states or visited other states in the southeast. and yes, i'm aware of the obesity rates in the southeast, and that doesn't change anything. even online, there are men with huge bellies saying they require small women, etc. | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 7:33:34 PM | | yes! that is what i can't stand. when ugly, overweight men insist on petite, supermodel-esque girlfriends. what makes them think that they deserve that? do they have some kind of reverse body dysmorphic disorder that they see an athletic, gorgeous man when they look in the mirror? nothing more disgusting than a hypocrite. | |
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