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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 7:44:16 PM |
I was visiting Budapest a few years ago, looked around the airport, and was shocked to realize, I didn't see one overweight person. I mean not even 10 lbs over weight.
My sister and I were discussing that when we were kids, we NEVER saw grossly obese people--overweight, plump, yes, but not those who weighed in excess of 200 pounds or so. Now, it doesn't matter where you go, you see people in excess of 300 pounds.
We have become a fat nation, in part, because of the availability of food. I wonder if nations who are still "skinny" are so because of health consciousness, culture, or the unavailability of food. If people can afford to travel, it probably isn't the last aspect.
I am also curious about people from other countries assimilating into the US--how long does it take for them to begin to get fat, or do they? For instance, second and third generation Asians are generally taller than their parents--will they eventually be fatter?
yes! that is what i can't stand. when ugly, overweight men insist on petite, supermodel-esque girlfriends.
But when we see an ugly, fat man with a good-looking woman, we just know he has money.
Right?
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 7:49:54 PM | i dont know why these huge men insist on small women except they do it because they can. (another whole thread lol). and if they don't get one, they just stay online and keep complaining they can't find somebody. i just know alot of them do, and i've had my looks insulted by one of them a few weeks ago on here. posted elsewhere too lol.
about other countries, i've seen things that say their obesity rates increase as western food including fast food becomes more available, and people adopt more of the western lifestyle with eating out, etc. | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 7:53:35 PM |
We have become a fat nation, in part, because of the availability of food.
I think it's also the abundance of conveniences. My favorite being the people movers at airports. That's laughable. But people would rather drive around the parking lot for 10 minutes instead of parking way in the back and walking. People wouldn't watch as much TV if they had to get up and press the up switch 123 times to change the station. People don't have to cook a meal anymore, they can just buy a fattening prepackaged sodium laden TV dinner. There are more people who sit in an office all day on their butt(I built in a 90 minute break in my schedule twice a week to go to the gym) than ever. Kids don't go out and play sports spontaneously anymore. They'd rather sit at home and IM their friends while playing Madden '08.
But I digress because I'm hijacking a thread.
To get this back on topic, I announce again that I like women with a little meat on their bones as long as they maintain their hourglass shape  | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 8:00:29 PM | I have worked very hard over the years to maintain a flat stomach. I would have to say that I am more muscular now than at any point in my life. I remember reading in college that physically, we are at peak strength and health at 20 years of age. That is a bunch of crap. At least in my book. My 20's were very poor health, no stamina, and always going to the dr. Thank God for 40+.
I find a woman that has worked to take care of herself in a similar way as myself, attractive.
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 8:32:19 PM | This is absolutely no slam on the above poster, but a flat stomach without brains and personality is just a flat stomach!
Same for a pretty or handsome face--but yet I know as well as anyone that looks count.
For me, there must be a balance of looks, intelligence, creativity, and a couple more factors. | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 8:35:40 PM | The convenience argument is definitely something I have seen in some of my family too. I don't have a car so I walk everywhere outside to get the exercise I need for my nerve-damaged legs (and cause I love walking!) and most in my family (except for my grandma, bless her heart) wouldn't even go walking with me, even though they all say they need to lose weight. They would rather take their car across the street than just walk it and it's just across the street! LOL I don't honestly get that. I may not be the best of health yet (gaining more weight though, so getting there!) but I truly hate sitting at home every day, I get anxious and need to see the outdoors!
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 8:41:00 PM | | All men are different. I think that it is preference. I am a little round around my middle, but I am ok with it. I personally prefer a man with a little meat on his bones. I like big men because then they can hold me with little to no effort. Thin and lanky guys are not appealing to me at all. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2009 9:25:05 PM | yeah i am totally not even looking for a guy with 0% bf. i'm looking for a balance between the physical and the other factors, not just physical. even this past week, i had some nice conversations at least with a guy who has at least some % and has lost, and i was attracted to him before he lost more. and he seemed to be attracted to me, but apparently we won't be dating. so i'm not looking for a physically perfect guy, but i do want someone who is serious about health.
i do think that many people need to make those lifestyle changes and eat more healthy food and exercise more. | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/17/2009 10:23:11 PM | Gwendolyn2009 has the best attitude Iv'e heard. And although she lists herself as a few pounds over, her few pounds are deffinately not a detrament.
It is all based on life's experiences and how we percieved attractivness when first starting dating.
Of course I am just an old guy that has always been more interested in who the person is rather than how she looks. And who she is and her self image will affect how she looks.
Just an old guys opinion. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2009 8:34:38 AM | Good question with no one right answer. Just a bunch of opinions. So here's mine.
I know what I don't like...
I don't like skinny and no round shape to hips, waist and butt. So skinny that they might even appear to be a boy from the rear. But I also don't like morbidly obese either.
The range of what attracts me is very wide, from not to skinny to not to heavy. So much of what might attract me depends on other things then what the scale says. First, a woman's eyes will win out over her weight. Then her lips can be the thing that does it for me. I don't think I have a preference to weight beyond the wide margins I mentioned.
I am definitely attracted to feminine looking women that have curves in all the right places. But if I had to choose one shape. size or weight over others, it wold be women that are built like Marylin Monroe, Jane Mansfield or Jane Russell. Hips, thighs and legs well rounded.
Attraction is so subjective. As an example, the last woman I fell madly in love with did not attract me at all when I saw her picture. I know I would not turn my head to look twice. But because of mutual interests, beliefs and lifestyles, I became attracted to her. As I became more and more interested in her as a person and potential mate, her looks became more and more beautiful to me. She was not overly endowed up top and was maybe 30 pounds over weight according to the very misleading charts. When I did fall head over heels for her, I can tell you that to me, she was the most beautiful woman in the world to me. so her size meant nothing. Now that she dumped me to the curb for the umpteenth hundred time in 4 short years, I wonder just how beautiful she will appear when I can say I am completely over her. Only time will tell. But the beauty of her bright green eyes will never be anything but beautiful to me... Even if I grow to hate her. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2009 9:38:50 AM | I agree that most people have a "preference" for a certain body size. The important thing is to be honest in your assessment of yourself and to post a current photo on your profile.
I am not a small woman, but I post a full-body picture so people can see me as I really am. I don't have the time or inclination to try and "deceive" men that I am anything other than I appear to be.
If a man indicates that he only wants to date "slim, athletic" women, I know that I don't fit the bill. There are plenty of options available to us all, after all; that is why this site is called "Plenty of Fish." | |
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Posted: 5/18/2009 11:06:07 AM |
Celts I have to diagree with you. Look at most TV sitcoms (and I know not real life) but why do they always have a goodlooking woman with a funny guy? Probably cause that seems to be the norm. Most girls are looking at personality (and a confidence within them) and that is how the guy is attractive. Yes there is the hot guys we all say ohhhhh!!! but how many of them end up with a so called over weight person. More in real life will you find an attractive fit girl with the average guy. Then the hot guy with average girl. Online might be different cause we don't know personalities and we go on pixs and some made up profile. So looks are important. True to say about income, but most ladies don't just look at that. Gold diggers in all excluded. Usually if a guy has made money it is built on his personality and smarts so that personalilty will show through before his looks. Which makes him attractive. Just my take on things, but some will diagree.
That's fine. We are entitled to our opinions. But based on what I have seen, when an attractive woman is with a below average looking man or fat man, it is often ( not always ) largely because he is rich, famous, powerful or he had gained a lot of weight after they had started dating each other. | |
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| what do men consider overweight?
Posted: 5/18/2009 11:35:37 AM | Just look around.... you'll see what I see.
A handsome young man with wife who's shaped like a little apple with legs.
A tall, thin man with an equally tall, thin wife.
An averaged-size older man with a woman who has a body like a 12 year old girl.
A slightly heavy man with a trim, toned girlfriend.
A man who's 30 pounds overweight with a woman shaped like Marilyn Monroe.
A tubby white man with a flat-chested, thin Asian woman.
A short, slight man with an equally short, slight woman.
A 5'6" man with a tall, shapely blond bombshell wife.
A very big, tall man with a petite wife nearly 2 feet shorter than him.
A heavyset man with a heavyset woman.
Who can say what's attractive to one and not the other? | |
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Posted: 5/18/2009 11:57:18 AM | It's such a subjective thing. Two women of the same height and weight may look very different, so in the end it comes down to individual attraction. However, there are some generalities that can be made that are true for many people.
BMI is not perfect - there is no perfect way to assess this. Someone who is slender with a low BMI can be very unfit, yet someone whose BMI indicates overweight could be very fit.
Standard BMI ranges are these:
Underweight = <18.5
Normal weight = 18.5-24.9
Overweight = 25-29.9
Obesity = BMI of 30 or greater
Typically, many men are most attracted to women whose BMI falls in the 18 to 21 range, if I recall those numbers correctly from a study I read not long ago. In that range, there's not much room for awkward distributions of weight!
I've encountered women with BMI around 27 who were fabulously beautiful, and some at BMI 20 who looked unhealthy and unattractive. It depends totally on the individual and the observer. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2009 12:17:28 PM | | when I see BBW it sounds obese. when I see curvey, it sounds like a few pounds more than you'd like but think that you've got a good shape; when I see slender or thin, that is how I see it but assume not much on top or it would be curvy in many cases. I find that women are much more into the size of their breasts as part of that curvey thing. that and the big emphasis on beyonce' sized butts has me wondering what the attraction of that is, but maybe I'm part of another getneration that liked women with round nice butts but not big enough to set your drink on like a shelf. we're not usually model thin and I think most guys know that when they are looking. sooner or later you're going to meet and no one wants to watch someone go to the bathroom and not come back. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2009 1:22:20 PM | My definition of overweight would be the weight at which your appearance is adversely affected; there is no magic number of pounds, its a visual thing.
There may be a body 'type' preference for some men, and that would only skew their opinion of whether or not a woman was 'over'weight, but again, it comes down to a person's appearance, how they carry themselves, how they act (feminine/unfeminine, sensual/unsensual, etc) how they groom themselves, their demeanor, etc, etc.
Another factor is health issues - i personally value keeping myself in good physical condition and could not relate to a woman who is obese, or was over a physical body size with which i felt comfortable being intimate with - its all pretty subjective unfortunately.
The most important thing is honesty: i've seen too many profiles where an obviously (by anyone's perception) overweight woman lists herself as 'average'. I've also seen some slender women who said they were average, and wondered how thin they thought they needed to be to feel slim/slender - that would also be a concern.
I frequently do a reality check with a few female friends to keep myself honest about my perceptions!!! | |
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Posted: 5/18/2009 2:00:50 PM | Yeah me too. On the charts I weigh too much but my pants are a size 6 - love to work out to relieve the everyday tension of work, family commitments, etc. I weigh 150 and am 5"8" tall.
No, by the charts (if you're talking about BMI), you're right in the middle of the so-called "healthy" weight for most people (athletes are exceptions) of your height. Your BMI is 22.8. Average is between 18.5 and 24.9 . Depending on your frame and muscles and such, you'd have to weigh about 165 before you hit even the lowest of the "overweight" range.
yes! that is what i can't stand. when ugly, overweight men insist on petite, supermodel-esque girlfriends. what makes them think that they deserve that? do they have some kind of reverse body dysmorphic disorder that they see an athletic, gorgeous man when they look in the mirror? nothing more disgusting than a hypocrite.
That's not being a hypocrite. "Ugly" overweight people who desire athletic, gorgeous partners (of either gender) are only people who are specifically attracted to a certain physical look. They'd only be hypocrites if they didn't accept with grace that the people they want might not want them in return, because of their looks or any other reason. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2009 3:44:09 PM | | I meant that they were hypocrites because thats the ONLY type of women they are willing to date. To me, if they expect that kind of women to date them, they should either lower their standards a little or improve themselves. If you are obese, i find it hypocritical to reject people that are just like you are. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2009 4:33:29 PM | it depends on height really......but if you can pinch an inch your ok, if you can pinch 3+ inches you better go and exercise. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2009 6:05:00 PM | As we all try to maintain a healthy weight is the main consideration.
Now if you wear your sweat pants[men & women] or tights to the wal mart and have a turnip shape figure, then maybe that's a bit much of a fashion statement.... | |
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Posted: 5/18/2009 6:41:52 PM | Men....what do you really think about women with flat bellies? I personally don't want a flat belly, I have a toned one....it's rounded...like it's supposed to be. I love my body the way it is....I don't get on scales but the last time I fit into the size pants I fit into today, I was 145 pounds. So I'm 5'7 and I weith 145 pounds...that's my story and I'm sticking to it - and I'm fifty (with a Molly Shannon shout and kick and stretch)!
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Posted: 5/18/2009 7:14:00 PM | | You do not fall in love with another for their body but you should be falling in love with another for who they are inside of the body. | |
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