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| too long single
Posted: 8/30/2009 6:21:55 PM | Ha! you don't know what 'single' is!
Try 10-12 yrs alone, I lost count.....
Actually, to be honest, for most of that time I wasn't 'looking' and if any man DID show interest, I pushed him away so fast I barely noticed they were there. I had opportunities - many of them! I was the main force behind a very large and active single adults club at my church. I was actually the instigator in many OTHER PEOPLES meet-ups and remarraiges, but for me - I was always the 'friend', I kept allmen at arms length away..
I was HURT - big time, by my ex-husband. I honestly think he killed something in me that took a long, long time to re-grow; I wasn't even able to consider having anykind of 'relationship' with a man. sex? OMG, no way! I concentrated on raising my son, volunteer stuff like the singles group and scouts, my home and my job.
But I did heal, and I got over the ex, and an 'old friend' from that singles group showed up on my doorstep one day, friendship grew into a relationship, a rather hot and heavy relationship - boy, did we have fun! It didn't work out, I couldn't deal with his mental / anger issues, and broke it off, we had been together for 3 yrs. But the relationship with him gave me a gift - it gave me back a working heart - the part that I thought my ex had killed. I learned that not every guy was out to hurt me or use me, they aren't ALL my ex repeated, and that, maybe, there WAS a guy out there for me.
I've been 'single' again now for , I dunno - a year and a half, maybe - longer if you include the 6-8 months that he shut me out and I tried to be 'patient' with his issues. I am lonely sometimes, but I threw myself into other things, including a new career that is working out great for me.
POF is not working for me, but I have lots of friends thru other online contacts, am meeting new people thru my new job, life is full, I'm busy.
At one time, after my divorce, Ithought I would be alone forever, and I was OK with that. Now, I don't think I'll be single forever, but if I am, I'm ok, either way. | |
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| too long single
Posted: 8/30/2009 7:00:53 PM | | I been single my whole life.....31 years. | |
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| too long single
Posted: 9/8/2009 8:18:24 AM | Well I was single for close to 25 years. I had great friends that I was with during that time frame ( with NO sex just really good friends) I was I can't say happy all the time but my friends made it a lot eisier to handle being alone so I basicly just stopped looking. Well 2 years ago JoAnn died of cancer on me and left a huge hole in my heart. I started looking to findsome one to be with and share my life with and I found her.
That relationship lasted for 4 months up until last saturday when I went to go be with her in the morning and we ended up in bed ( she lived 85 miles away and I didn't see her all the time) well to say the least It came as a shocker that I got a text msg from her saying she was in bed with another guy.
Well the one I thought was going to be my life long partner is now gone from my life. She moved in with the guy and then Blamed me for her affair.
I did what I had to do. I erased her from everything and out of my life. I am now trying to fix my broken heart and move on.
Being single is lonely but it beats the Drama, and all the other stuff that came with this loser of a drama queen. My life will be MUCH better off and up untill I meet the right woman then I will be able to life again.
Till then I will search or a partner that wants a guy for a commited relationship. There HAS to be someone out there that won't cheat and wants to be commited to a loving guy.
I'll just keep looking then til I die then who cares lol | |
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| too long single
Posted: 9/9/2009 10:59:30 PM | Going on five years....but you know, I can honestly say I love my self enough now that I can love and accept another individual...I didn't want to share my life with anyone for a long time.
Then I was watching the comedy channel in July, my daughters were on holidays with their dad, I was lmao, and for a moment I wished there was someone there to laugh with...omg that sounds really sappy...well we all know why I have been too long single 
It is all about the little things!!! | |
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