| Dating in the workplace?
Posted: 5/20/2009 4:54:17 PM | Your young dude, dating in the workplace is easier to manage when your well..., younger.
If you like her go for it. | |
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| Dating in the workplace?
Posted: 5/20/2009 5:51:21 PM | | I dated a co-worker for a few months. It was OK, but it was a grocery store and everyone knew we were dating. It was very awkward when another co-worker would bring up our relationship. If she is your only option at this point, go for it. If you have other options, I'd exercise those first. | |
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| Dating in the workplace?
Posted: 5/20/2009 8:09:32 PM | The best thing to do is just ask her if she is seeing anyone. And if she is, just do your best to get over it and keep talking to her like normal. Just being asked if you are going out with anyone is flattering, although it can be very embarrassing to bring up. On the other hand if she is single.... a window of opportunity opens up for you.
Whether is it acceptable to date someone in the workplace or not is up for you to decide. I've tried it, and it hasn't been entirely successful. At the very least you both need to get along at work if things turn out incredibly bad between you. I will.... spare you my own story. | |
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| Dating in the workplace?
Posted: 5/22/2009 3:14:28 AM | No guts, no glory.
If her demeanor toward you is friendly, then ask her to coffee so you can finish your
conversation without having to continuously interrupt due to work. Let her decide.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. If she says she'd rather not, no harm, no foul.
Cheers! | |
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| Dating in the workplace?
Posted: 5/22/2009 9:42:19 AM | Your manager is doing a very foolish thing if his date is someone he supervises. That never should have happened. It has "sexual harassment lawsuit" written all over it if the realtionship sours.
I once made the vow. "I'll never date someone from work" but then a very special woman caught my eye. I dated her and made another vow that lasted for 23 years untill she forgot hers. | |
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| Dating in the workplace?
Posted: 5/22/2009 5:18:03 PM | Connor you just crack me up. Regardless of our back n forth I find you adorable.
I say ask her.
But.....You could be a lil sneaky if you like. Make it sound less like a *date*
Ask her is she is interested in *tagging along* with you to get a bite to eat? Grabbing the next movie thats playing? The mall to shop for ....hell whatever. You pick
As corny as it sounds to be a bit sneaky - it does help give you an option to save face if
she declines.
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| Dating in the workplace?
Posted: 5/23/2009 8:39:50 PM | | I have always gone by an old rule and thats don't play where you get paid! | |
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| Dating in the workplace?
Posted: 6/16/2009 4:56:42 PM | Generally I think it's a bad idea, but I'm not 100% against it.
It just means that you have to carefully weigh the risk of losing your job vs gaining a long term relationship. I would probably probe the local job market before I attempt it, just in case. And, of course, I'd spend a lot of time weighing and getting to know the person better.
Although infatuation can cloud one's judgment, I would say the money (e.g. job) can cloud the judgment just as well. You can always go out with someone else, just as you can find another job.
Job vs a chance to have a great LTR? Sure, I'd consider it. | |
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| Dating in the workplace?
Posted: 6/16/2009 5:35:17 PM | My father's advice.... "Never get your pvssy where you get your paycheck"
Advice I've always followed. | |
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| Dating in the workplace?
Posted: 6/17/2009 12:27:23 AM | | well considering you're working at a movie theatre and still pretty young--at least ask her if she's seeing anyone to test the waters. generally i'd say dating people from the work place can lead to Bad Things (tm) more often than not because your work and personal life will start to overlap and if it ends bad it will make work hell. but at this point in your life, live a little. | |
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| Dating in the workplace?
Posted: 7/6/2009 8:02:36 PM | I'm going against the grain here. I've always dated co-workers (not bosses), even married one! You have to be mature enough to understand that if it doesn't work out, you still have a job to do, even though this isn't a career job.
Dating people from your workplace allows you to get to know someone over the course of months, maybe even a year. It allows you to go out them over lunch, even after work, without the pressure of an actual date/sex. Also, it's been my experience that the more skilled/career work you do, the more you'll find in common with your co-workers. | |
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| Dating in the workplace?
Posted: 7/6/2009 9:16:21 PM | Monkey see monkey do. Go out with her, and get it out of your system. Yeah, you really are 19. Just cause your co-workers are doing everything wrong does not mean you should, but by all means you are absolutely free to do so. There are some things in life you just have to learn on your own. Join the collective, and keep them counters clean if you know what I mean. | |
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| Dating in the workplace?
Posted: 7/7/2009 10:52:29 AM | | normally i`d say you`ll be sorry but in this situation there isn`t much to lose. make sure she is on birth control and download baby!!! | |
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| Dating in the workplace?
Posted: 8/9/2009 9:52:18 AM | I would do a calculation: Is it easier to get a date or a job? If the economy is good or if you are so highly skilled that it is easy for you to switch jobs then dating where you work is fine. If you have a few dates with that person and you want to get serious then just move to another job.
The other part of the calculation is how hard is it for you to get a date. For some people it is very difficult. In that case it would be difficult and probably unwise to turn down any opportunity.
However if if is both difficult for you to get both dates AND jobs you may want to consider becoming a monk. | |
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| Dating in the workplace?
Posted: 8/17/2009 3:32:11 PM | | It's always a risk. If it doesn't work out, you have to still see that person all the time and it can create some bad feelings even if it ends well....because you will hear about and even sometimes see the new person that she is seeing after you break up. Perhaps it's better to just be friends and get to know her better. You can still hang out on your off time and enjoy her company. | |
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| Dating in the workplace?
Posted: 8/17/2009 3:40:01 PM | | As a general rule...don't make your honey, where you make your money. Although I have broken this rule once or twice. | |
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| Dating in the workplace?
Posted: 8/17/2009 3:43:58 PM | Ok, you're both young and it's not really a career. You get to ask ONE time; Make it real basic: "Wanna grab some pizza after work?"
You have to accept the answer what-ever-it-may-be. | |
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| Dating in the workplace?
Posted: 8/17/2009 3:48:01 PM | | It doesn't even have to be at work or school - just someplace where you see the person regularly or at least bump into him/her often. I've gone through two such experiences in a "simple" place as the gym. It's the "silliness" that follows once things don't work out, e.g., ignoring each other. Neutral ground is always best even though we rarely get to choose. | |
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| Dating in the workplace?
Posted: 8/17/2009 7:25:58 PM | | Not a good idea to date people you work with especially at such a small place of work. | |
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