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Posted: 11/8/2009 11:01:11 PM | | It all has to do with "confidence". It just depends on how confident you are and how much self esteem you have. I am a BBW, size 20.... and I have NO problems getting naked in front of men or women. I think thats because first of all, I am open & upfront from the beginning. I tell men Im a BBW, a large woman (not huge, just large).... and I am a very confident woman. I believe you have to relax and be yourself in order to have fun and enjoy yourself. I also like the person I am with to have fun & enjoy themselves, so its not all about a perfect body, or size (of anything for that matter)....its about how you make the person feel... and how you enjoy yourself. I have no problems whatsoever. | |
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Posted: 11/8/2009 11:19:48 PM | When I was married, I would never let my husband see me naked. He made me feel unattractrive, unwanted, ashamed of my full figure.
Since my divorce, however, I have discovered that there are men who actually make me feel beautiful, and unashamed about my BBW body. I now have no problem getting my clothes slowly taken off of me.
Who knew there were men like that? I only wish I had known of them years ago!  | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 3:52:36 AM | You'd think the older you get the more comfortable with your body you'd become... but I have always worried about my looks... not that it stopped me mind you... but in one of the Bridget Jones movies (second one I think) she is feeling insecure about her body and wraps up in the bedsheet the next morning... her bf looks at her and says he likes looking at her bum... she smiles and drops the sheet... I think that is all that needs to happen is for the person you're with to find you attractive...
with close girlfriends, we get naked around each other when changing clothes or getting ready to go out on the town... and its only with those friends who love you no matter how you look.. meaning they aren't gonna run tell someone else about your flaws...
but for the first time??? I'm gonna be nervous.. no doubt about it... and yes, wine and candles help ease the tension..
I like too people who say they are going to date someone relative to their own looks.. but if a personal trainer boyfriend wants to help me get in shape I'd like it... lolol... I have had one of those in the distant past... was kinda nice... met him when I worked at Bally's (good 15 yrs ago)and yes even then I scrutinized myself... wish I had the body now that I did then....
I have Osteoporosis which has caused me to slow down.. as being high risk for fracture. I think when you've got something chronic going on in your life that causes you to not be able to do the things you used to that you can be more worried about your appearance. I have talked to many people who have had health problems that have taken a toll on how firm they are... | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 4:00:04 AM | | Funny I have no problem with it and have been nude with 3,000 others for a picture once. Not sure if it is confidence or my thinking is ,it is what it is! I am not the best looking or biggest or tightest but it's mine and thats all I have so what can you do? I think if someone is willing to get naked with you then I am sure they will overlook your flaws, like I said we all have them! | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 4:07:22 AM |
and have been nude with 3,000 others for a picture once.
As in a Spencer Tunick installation you mean? That must've been SO cool! | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 4:10:23 AM | | Yeah it was for him and it was in Downtown Cleveland, great experiance and people were really cool about everything. I would do it again in a heart beat! | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 4:15:18 AM | | I'm not sure if he's been to Sydney yet, but I'm definitely up for it! | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 1:57:27 PM | | yes i would agree with its always best that over that age because you always feel more at ease with yourself ( and it looks good ) | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 4:16:30 PM | When I was married, I would never let my husband see me naked. He made me feel unattractrive, unwanted, ashamed of my full figure.
I would've asked him why he was there and then have him get naked while I marked all of his problem areas with magic marker. lol
It's funny how when they want "some" they don't have a problem with it.
I figure any guy that's got a problem with my body doesn't have to sleep with me.
When someone criticizes their lover's body, it's like biting the hand that feeds them.
It's strange that the men that were the most critical of my body had no problem reaching orgasm, when many times THEY couldn't bring ME to orgasm.
Now - never again. Once a man says something negative about my body, it's "Hit the Road Jack."  | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 4:20:19 PM | ^^^
Thank you,,,
all of you ladies out there should step up to the plate like MissMewsic did and finally show us a pic of yourselves without make-up,,,
-feels a sudden pain in my arm, then my leg, then, excruciating pain in my groin area for no reason-
W T H ? | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 4:24:19 PM | no matter what you look like, confidence is sexy, fake it if you have to, just dont be "cocky" no pun intended. And dont suck it in. Trust me ,if shes naked too, shes thinking about her own body. IF you are well endowed down there, she will not give 2 craps about your little belly. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 4:25:25 PM | | I dont have make-up on. Not too scary!! | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 5:00:39 PM |
My question is how comfortable are you getting naked with someone the first time?
Have to admit the thought terrified me...but when the actual situation took place...the man I was with made me feel like I was the most beautiful woman in the world.
~sigh~
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Posted: 11/9/2009 9:45:38 PM | | Whats the point ? If you see the person naked do you see your own lusts or do you see the person you love (hopefully) and care for ? I think it is a pretty crude, rude and inapproprite question for any forum. Whats it to you anyway ? | |
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Posted: 11/16/2009 8:05:39 PM | | well what is the worst that could happen running in fear or getting happy | |
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Posted: 11/16/2009 8:08:25 PM | | 32 broken bones in my life to many stupid dumb things I did but still feel okay about my 1 packlol | |
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Posted: 11/16/2009 9:05:41 PM | | At 60 I've still got the body I had at 35; Six pack AND rockin' guns. For all of you who might be inclined to call "BS". I don't care I Know what I've got. None of my profile pics are older than 2 years. Good genetics and a lifelong commitment to health and fitness, that's all, no big secrets; just the simple stuff. | |
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Posted: 11/17/2009 7:57:35 AM | My question is how comfortable are you getting naked with someone the first time?
That would be the last thing I would worry about, because by the
time we got to getting naked for the first time, we would already know
we liked mostly...everything else about each other. And , our relationship would be a real committed one by then.
Well, guess this would detour quite a number of men!!  | |
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Posted: 11/17/2009 8:27:37 AM | | Try yoplait fat free yogurt and about 30 minutes of cardio a day and your 6 pack will return in a few months! Yogurt has alot of protein and carbs much like baby food and will rebuild your body faster. It will be well worth the results for 30 minutes a day! | |
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Posted: 11/17/2009 8:32:50 AM | | I for got to mention buy a light weight set of dumbells # 5 thru #10 and curl them as you do cardio to shape your arms or do as I and go heavy at the gym! I am 53 and will show my body! | |
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Posted: 11/17/2009 9:37:53 PM | Treasured said ...
I have always been shy, never mattered my size, weight or what type of shape I was in...
I wonder if it has more to do with your life-long comfort? If you have always been comfortable au naturali, then maybe it doesn't go away. If you are shy????
I have never been uncomfortable being naked, either alone, with a sexual partner, or in a locker room full of people. I would say that if you are comfortable, it never goes away.
If you are uncomfortable being naked, you have my sympathies. I just never saw a reason to be shy or embarassed about it ... it is what it is and feeling bad about it won't change a thing. | |
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Posted: 11/18/2009 3:23:19 AM |
I am 53 and will show my body!
Were waiting..........show us........ | |
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Posted: 11/18/2009 2:07:05 PM | Let's get naked and play volleyball... | |
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Posted: 11/18/2009 5:14:18 PM | I didn't have a good self-image when I was young. I just figured it had more to do with the fact that Twiggy was the top model and since I wasn't a stick figure I was toast! But, being raped as my introduction to sex did me more damage than the fact that I was just an average body type.
Now that I'm old...er  I hope I've matured in my thinking that what I look like naked isn't as important to me (or him!) as whether or not I feel desired and desiring, appreciated and appreciative.
I just hope he can't hear my creaky bones with his hearing aids out, or see the deflated-balloon skin with his glasses off! I'm sure his sense of touch will work just fine. | |
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Posted: 11/19/2009 2:16:00 PM | It's getting too cold for that.
Unless, I move to a better insulated cardbox. | |
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