| How should I arrange a MFM threesome?
Posted: 5/18/2009 8:05:21 AM | | Hell, just post on craigs list. You will probably get hundreds of replies and just weed out all the women from Russia and Nigeria, the ads from people with links to their 'real' photos, guys who send 3 word replies and then just start trying to decide who is the least creepy. | |
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| How should I arrange a MFM threesome?
Posted: 5/18/2009 8:13:53 AM |
heard of intimate friends who have done this, and it's ruined their intimacy and the friendship too
I've heard this too. It may be best that you are not in a relationship. And turning to professionals sounds like a good idea. You get what you pay for... | |
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| How should I arrange a MFM threesome?
Posted: 5/18/2009 8:14:59 AM | May I suggest that you take a trip to www.nasca.com/ then click on the on/off premise club link.
You will be able to locate clubs in your area. Most experienced couples in the Lifestyle that have actually been swinging for years are very open, honest and willing to help you in addressing as well as answering any questions that you may have on threesomes and how to approach such.
I understand you're seeking a MFM however most experienced couples will happily point you in the right direction. Simply make sure you're speaking with or involved in a true legitimate swing club. In your situation, I would be speaking with the she of the swing clubs owner. Most all swing club owners are caring people that will again point you in the right direction.
Another suggestion is to keep alcohol as well as drugs usage out of the quotient. A threesome can be a great sexsational experience if done correctly. Always fully discuss and disclose your boundaries before indulging, make sure all involved are on the same page. Keep us posted and enjoy! | |
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| How should I arrange a MFM threesome?
Posted: 5/18/2009 8:26:17 AM | I have some experiences in threesomes, I've had a few MFM and FMF.
I've never done this with strangers on-line, people I don't know. Not that I wouldn't be up for it. I'm more comfortable if I have some sort standing relationship with the potential people . Get to know them.
It's kind of a given but you need to meet really open minded individuals. So for example if you have a friend who goes to church every sunday, seems very conservative and traditional good chance he wont be up for it.
Once you think this is the guy that might be up for something like that, the simply way to find out is to talk about sex. Eventually you can tell if the people are uncomfortable talking about sex, if they seem that way. Stop there. Next.
Eventually if the conversation seems good I'll throw in "What do you think of threesomes ?" If I get the ick response, I say ya me too and drop it. It's lying I know but if you dont want your buddy to think your a freak in the sheets. Best to do that.
But if you get a positive response, then continue the conversation about it. In my experience they've never been spotaneous, its pre-planned.
That way boundries can be set up, for example with guys no crossing swords, etc. One time a woman I was seeing want me in one with her married best friend. They were an open minded couple. She asked the husband first before she ask her, he said sure. But I knew there were some problems in their marriage, so at the last minute I backed out for those reasons, I didn't want to be responsible for any turmoil in their relationship.
The funny part he called later to see how it was going found out I didn't show up, so he had the threesome with my gf and his wife. lol
Open minded sexual people is the key here.
P.S. Too bad you dont live in Ottawa, your a cutie  | |
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| How should I arrange a MFM threesome?
Posted: 5/18/2009 8:31:23 AM | Perfect solution to this predicament ...................take a mate guy or girl to a swingers club .....Ideal place , no-one judges and that's what everyone is the for ...unadulterated SEX ...good luck in fullfilling your fantasy xxxxxx | |
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| How should I arrange a MFM threesome?
Posted: 5/18/2009 8:40:24 AM | | From personal experience I strongly encourage that one man/partner is someone that knows you sexually, you TRUST and you fell comfortable with. Together you find another man, I think finding someone to join a couple is easier than finding two partners. I have found that very few straight men would even consider a MFM so you may have to go to someplace like a swingers club where the encounter is accepted and openly available. Word of advisde....If you find a male partner to accept and participate in your fantasy then you should help him fulfill his with a FMF..... | |
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| How should I arrange a MFM threesome?
Posted: 5/18/2009 8:56:12 AM | | hi lila, call me old-fashioned but i think it's more dangerous to hook up with 2 male strangers at the same time... my suggestion is: get familiar with a male f-buddy first, get to know each other's limit and then bring in the second guy. now if u trust the first guy enough, let him bring that second guy along... --Lydia | |
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| How should I arrange a MFM threesome?
Posted: 5/18/2009 9:28:04 AM | | I think you're better off asking two friends than having an S.O. in on it. If those guys are really your friends, I'm not sure why you don't talk about those fantasies anyway. With two friends, I'd think you'd be less likely to generate any bad feelings or jealousy. However, it would probably be a good idea to have an encounter with each one separately first. | |
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| How should I arrange a MFM threesome?
Posted: 5/18/2009 10:00:41 AM | | I had a MFM threesome with a couple of men that I had a FWB relationship with. As other people stated, join a swingers club. You can get to know these people first before deciding if you would want a thressome with any of them. | |
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| How should I arrange a MFM threesome?
Posted: 5/18/2009 10:17:39 AM | I'd say that posting your desire to do so on a dating site forum should increase your visibility to those who would be willing to help you out. Advertising is important. 
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| How should I arrange a MFM threesome?
Posted: 5/18/2009 10:40:05 AM | You could always go to onlinebootycall.com I'm sure you could easily find two guys that are willing to help you out.
If you do find two strangers to help you out, please, be safe. Always ask for them to take the time to get a test done, especially if you met them online.
Good luck with your kinky fantasy!!! | |
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| How should I arrange a MFM threesome?
Posted: 7/1/2009 3:43:17 PM | Why not joke around with your buddies and see what they say. Put it out there and listed to their reactions.
Keeps us posted..hopefully you get what you want..it is nice to see a sexual woman out there that is not afraid of having some fun. | |
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| How should I arrange a MFM threesome?
Posted: 7/1/2009 8:57:15 PM | Lila,
Well I suppose your first step is to post on PoF...
I'm sure you've gotten a lot of responses from this.
I'd add my voice to those who have said find a guy and develop some trust with him. Sex is tough without it and meeting two strangers might make it overwhelming. The other thing is to have an idea of what limits you may have and make those limits clear beforehand. While it may take the "excitement" the trust factor during the meeting itself will more than make up for it. | |
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| How should I arrange a MFM threesome?
Posted: 7/1/2009 9:08:55 PM | Have had this offered to me thrice and never went for it. Two of the opportunities were much younger males/no bi tendencies...and the other opportunity was one bi male with one straight.
I came close, soooo very close to going for it. We talked it over a good bit but in the end, there are some things I just don't think have any room in my reality.
One guy is more than enough for me...if he's the right guy.
Too bad we didn't know each other OP...I could have sent them your way! Haha...
But I agree...doing that with strangers...meh...not such a good idea. The guys that propositioned me were buddies and I had some acquaintance with them so I knew them vaguely enough that they wouldn't try to take it too far.
Even then...still wasn't something I felt comfortable with. But damn, it's a fantasy that just keeps on giving way more than IRL ever could LOL! I'll stick with that. | |
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| How should I arrange a MFM threesome?
Posted: 7/1/2009 9:15:13 PM | Have had this offered to me thrice and never went for it. Two of the opportunities were much younger males/no bi tendencies...and the other opportunity was one bi male with one straight.
I came close, soooo very close to going for it. We talked it over a good bit but in the end, there are some things I just don't think have any room in my reality.
One guy is more than enough for me...if he's the right guy.
Too bad we didn't know each other OP...I could have sent them your way! Haha...
But I agree...doing that with strangers...meh...not such a good idea. The guys that propositioned me were buddies and I had some acquaintance with them so I knew them vaguely enough that they wouldn't try to take it too far.
Even then...still wasn't something I felt comfortable with. But damn, it's a fantasy that just keeps on giving way more than IRL ever could LOL! I'll stick with that.
I definitely don't recommend doing this with an S.O. | |
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| How should I arrange a MFM threesome?
Posted: 7/1/2009 11:30:41 PM | lol ew
I pretty much hate men (not in the abstract, just sexually) and could never stand for that.
Its like that Johnny Carson joke "Good evening ladies and germs" | |
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| How should I arrange a MFM threesome?
Posted: 7/1/2009 11:39:09 PM | Craigslist, lol :)
I once posted as a girl ~ 2 years ago , lol fun times, haha ;)
Seriously, you will get a sufficiently good volume of responses on CL to weed through, if you write it well and don't sound like a computer bot. | |
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| How should I arrange a MFM threesome?
Posted: 7/2/2009 11:35:25 AM | The swinger sites have a lot of great advice on these topics. Read the issues regarding safety first, so you know what you're getting into. Guys who would be more open to this might be prone to being bi and thus at higher risk for HIV. Of course, you'd want them focused on you though, not each other. Unless you don't mind. The more people, the more variables, which is probably why the guys don't like reading about it or discussing it. So there are obviously things to discuss up front.
I don't like reading the posts where people are judging each other. This isn't my cup of tea, but if it's what you want, and it's fun and safe, why not make it happen! If it isn't going to be a regular occurrence in your life it might be a lot of trouble for one time, or it could just be an enjoyable special project for you that once you set it up, could happen more than once! Only 2-3% of the population is open to, and can enjoy more than one partner in addition to their own SO regularly. It's hard enough to find your SO!
A suggestion might be to make friends with someone new from a site where people are open to this, and be able to trust them. If it's worth it to you, I'm sure like anything else, the amount of work you put into it up front will be worth the fun and fulfillment for you in the end! (haha no pun intended, but I seem to gravitate to these types of metaphors!) | |
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| How should I arrange a MFM threesome?
Posted: 7/2/2009 12:25:18 PM | I've done it, I didn't arrange it though, it was a guy that I had slept with off the internet before and one time he asked if I wanted to have some fun with him and his friend. Sometimes good guy friends are willing to do it together, or just two guys who don't care.
If you're going to have with it though, just remember that other people do it too and it's not that big of a deal. If you're embarrassed to even have the fantasy then you won't have as much fun.
Good Luck! | |
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| How should I arrange a MFM threesome?
Posted: 7/2/2009 12:33:54 PM | | Craigslist? When I was in my lat teens and early 20's it seems I was involved in many mwm situations ( or mmmmmmmw situations lol) I haven't met a woman my age (30's) who is into that, they want wmw...which is a lil harder to come by...I have been lucky I guess ( I love my gf, she is enough for me, an extra woman is a bonus, but honestly I can take it or leave it) If my gf said she wanted another man, I'd do it- and I am a southern man- quite republican too- it depends on the person I guess. to me it's just sex. I know my gf loves me. | |
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| Thoughts and Suggestions from someone who has been there...
Posted: 7/2/2009 3:04:27 PM | ...and offered IMHO...and nothing more
1) Not having a partner actually might be good...because while I have done this, I would NEVER do it with a woman I cared for...and I am in no way the jealous or possessive type. The idea of my "girl" having sex with another guy doesn't bother me if we have that understanding...in fact I think monogamy in general is over rated. That said, I don't want to SEE HER having sex with another man, and for the life of me I don't understand how any man could...not and actually care about the woman in question. So...the point here is that I think you being single makes this easier.
2) While there is no good reason for you to be embarrassed that you have this desire, you are right to want to be careful about who you let know it...because people WILL form opinions about you because of it. Accordingly, you should probably NOT involve anyone whose opinion of you is something you care about a great deal...or that you spend a great deal of time with.
3) You are right to NOT want to do this with two total strangers. At least ONE of them should be someone you know on some level and feel comfortable with...and I know that seems to run in conflict with the above two items, but not really - as I will explain.
4) Beyond the obvious...that the person(s) you pick have to be someone you want to do the dirty with...they should be someone you know. Not someone you are friendly with necessarily....but someone who cannot walk into and out of your life like a ghost. Someone that you know where they work..where they live. You are certain about their name. you have some insight...however little...into their personality, ethics, etc. If you think about it, there are lots of men in your life that you know that you aren't friends with...you just aren't thinking about them right now because you haven't given thought to fcuking them before. The idea here is to pick someone who you know a little bit about so you can feel safe...and a lot about so they know they can't get away with hurting you without consequence.
5) I would have the person in paragraph 4) supply the 2nd guy. One, because he is gonna be just as concerned about his safety and whatever as you are, so he will want it to be a guy he can trust as well. Plus, they both are more likely to do it if they have something they can then "share" as buddies over beers in the future, etc. Myself, each time it has been my best friend...and yes, periodically it comes up in conversation, followed by smiles and high fives. Its like a little "secret" that we share. While this second guy is going to probably be a stranger to you [it would be GREAT if he weren't, but that would be tough given paragraphs 1) and 2) ], you are going to have to trust that guy #1 is "vouching" for him. You SHOULD verify how will guy number one knows guy number two...they should be FRIENDS...close enough that guy #1 isn't gonna be caught off guard by guy #2 behavior (as in "I didn't know he was a serial killer torture rapist!!")
6) Think about your expectations of this. This IS NOT gonna be like some soft girl porn where they make sweet gentle love to you both at once, and then everybody falls down into a hugfest heap on the bed. They are gonna fcuk you like it is a hardcore porno because in their mind that is what it is...and they aren't going to "respect you" afterward because for starters they barely know you, and secondly this requires that they completely objectify you (which is why I could never do it with someone I had feelings for). You are a piece of meat. A fcuk toy. Now...me...I know some women like that...being objectified. And sometimes I can do that with the woman in my life...turn it on and off like a switch. But you aren't going to be the woman in EITHER of these guys life....so it ain't gonna work like that. They will think you a skank. In theory, if you have been following the rules, you don't care if they do. But I am putting this out there so that you can have a reality check.
If you have gotten this far...I say...GO FOR IT!! But again....really think about what your expectations are. Because it isn't going to be anything but SEX....so if you think you might feel "dirty" or "weird" afterward...it isn't gonna be a good idea.
Again...all IMH but experienced O..... | |
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