| How many people have you met in person??
Posted: 6/21/2009 6:04:27 AM |
Talked to around 40.......dismissed 35, loonies.....
Met 5........4 were loonier.....
Last one turned out be just a stalker, just relentless......
Have to admit, experiences like this baffle me. I've met plenty of people from online, not just POF, and most were normal enough people - just not for me. One or two were perhaps what I'd call a bit off, but not really loony.
Hmmm .... maybe I'm one of the loony ones THEY met! Ooops!  | |
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| How many people have you met in person??
Posted: 6/21/2009 7:56:14 AM | ^-^ Let's see....probably upwards of 30 not counting the POF event(yes,just 1) Been here for a couple of years....
The last 2 dates scared the hell outta me, both showed up(no, not at the same time) half baked and proceeded to drink even more....sigh.
I somehow get the impression people are not on here to meet anyone to start up a new beginning/friendship/relationship/heck whatever! Lotta gameplaying....
Not a whine, just an observation.... | |
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| How many people have you met in person??
Posted: 6/22/2009 1:59:52 AM | Allright, Discounting events which acciount for 12 or so people
I have met 8 women from here
And I have spent 1.5 months of my time here in two seperate relationships with two of those 8 women. | |
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| How many people have you met in person??
Posted: 6/22/2009 11:04:13 AM | Hmmm .... maybe I'm one of the loony ones THEY met!
I DOUBT that! But it's all relative before a CERTAIN point! lol
I haven't met any nuts or intoxicated types(not one on one anyway EVENTS are another story!; O) and I have done the online and personals ( b4 pc's thing) most of my adult life. I travelled a lot as a child due to my father's work and as an adult due to my own work. I found meeting this way the only time I could cut to the chase and meet someone who I valued and valued me to date and have relationships with.
Not for most people, I know, they have had the fortune to have long term circles of friends and relatives, possibly work that exposes them to a regular volume and variety of people. Just not so for me,I have been self employed for a long time and work out of my home, I was born last, to elderly relatives, many childless, except MY parents LOL!, and lived the life of a gyspy from the beginning, later on only, was THAT by choice. I see this site and any venue like it as a networking tool for friendships and more because that is how I have utilized it.
Soooooo, I INSIST on emailing, im ing , phoning AND snail mailing through a friendship for at least three months before a face to face meet with men!
Women are another matter! I have chosen wisely after one mail (and stalkin em on the forums lol YOU know who you are!) met soon after and met crazy ... but only ever in a good way ; p, wonderful friends, MOST long term.
This extended communicating I (and some other women DARE insist on) eliminates 90% of the nuts and addicts coz they don't have the stamina or motivation for that! I do. I also save myself a trip and worse!, TOO early, when the other 10% of nuts and addicts start to fall apart ( facts wise and/or TMI wise) within the first few exchanges by the means I've mentioned.
The sad part about this practise is that I forfeit some "keepers" who, because they have heard of it( women who never want to meet or arent what they say they are online) or experienced it themselves, INSIST on quick meetings where a week or less elapses and it IS just too easy, even for hard core addicts and nuts, to keep up a civil friendly front for such a short period of time, IMO! I notice my friends, who agree to do it, meet WAY to many bottom of the barrel sickos. | |
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| How many people have you met in person??
Posted: 6/22/2009 12:46:48 PM | Discounting events I've met ... hm... (counting quickly) ... 7 or 8 different women from POF, in the couple years I've been on. They've all been positive experiences, although nothing serious has sprung from any of those meetings yet.
I also have to wonder what's going on with people who complain about running into nuts and losers all the time, because that hasn't been my experience at all. I have run into people whose pictures are ten years out of date and overly flattering, but that's no big deal, wouldn't really have expected anything different if I'd expected anything at all, and it won't stop me from making friends with someone (although it is a a definite turn-off to any romantic aspirations).
So maybe it's something to do with expectations. Or maybe I never run into those people because my list of interests aren't the sort that match up with lounge lizards ... or maybe after close to thirty years of online chatting I've got so good at spotting time-wasters that I just filter them out before the meeting stage and don't even bother to remember it. Those last two are probably closer to the truth. :) For sure there are a lot more than eight people with whom I've exchanged one or two messages ... but not even three. | |
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| How many people have you met in person??
Posted: 6/22/2009 12:56:42 PM | So maybe it's something to do with expectations.
Sure is!
We expect not to meet nuts when there is no indication by their profile or communication with us that they are! They expect us to put up with it because
we SHOW UP!
Otherwise, saying it's about expectations and that you have effective radar against such an encounter, just ignores the difference in the type of women met vs men met on here. You likely wouldnt have meets with men(who want to meet women lol) so you would have NO idea that it is the men themselves who are off, not our healthy, reasonable expectations. ie: not intoxicated(on any number of things) or babbling crazy, as mentioned by a few of us women. | |
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| How many people have you met in person??
Posted: 6/22/2009 1:15:11 PM | Been on this site off and on for 3 years now. Have met about 7 and dated two. Have met lots of women at group events and a few men. Usually women my age and men a lot younger come to the gatherings. Always have fun, regardless.
Not being a tv subscriber and healing a knee injury... this is quite entertaining. | |
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| How many people have you met in person??
Posted: 6/22/2009 1:35:37 PM |
Otherwise, saying it's about expectations and that you have effective radar against such an encounter, just ignores the difference in the type of women met vs men met on here.
Oh... What IS that difference, exactly? And how do you know? Date many women?
Besides, you yourself just said you hadn't run into any nuts on here, so all this must be theorizing, right? (Or are you just trying to pick a fight again?)
Anyway, why not theorize? It is an interesting point and I'll accept (at least for the sake of argument) that women probably do run into more nuts here than men... Before I ever joined POF the first I heard of it was from a fleeing male lunatic who'd been banned here and went to flood other forums with complaints. :) But ...
Does anybody really believe that more men than women are nuts or addicts? Maybe but I doubt the difference in number is all that big. Is there some reason why POF would attract more male nuts than female? Maybe, but none seem obvious up front. Are the male nuts just easier to run into because they're more aggressive? Maybe that's it. Male nuts hunt aggressively for dates but female nuts just hide behind their profile and don't answer anybody.
Sure is! We expect not to meet nuts when there is no indication by their profile or communication with us that they are! They expect us to put up with it because we SHOW UP!
Despite the dripping sarcasm, there is an indirect good point there. I think men really do expect to meet nutty women (or at least unreasonable ones), enough so that we just don't bother commenting on it or even particularly thinking about it when we do have such encounters. We just shrug our shoulders, once again acknowledge our inherent inability to comprehend the female half of the race, and move on. Maybe I was too quick to dismiss expectations as an explanation.
I should go look up one of those threads full of weird date stories and check the gender balance in them... Anybody got a link handy? Eagle? | |
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| How many people have you met in person??
Posted: 6/22/2009 7:19:39 PM |
Talked to around 40.......dismissed 35, loonies.....
Met 5........4 were loonier.....
Last one turned out be just a stalker, just relentless......
Oh, don't get all bent... he's talking about me, the bragger.....  | |
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| How many people have you met in person??
Posted: 6/22/2009 7:23:43 PM | When I used to use this for dating I met a very large number of people. Many through events (made some friends, some I would classify as great) and I met a ton of women.
It was a virtual meat-market mentality that I had and I was chewing through them like candies. Found out pretty quickly however that some of my behaviours could bite me in the a$$ and that I was hurting some womens feelings. With reflection, I think I went overboard, but I learned, and I found the forums which is why I remain today.
(this was many moons ago btw) | |
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| How many people have you met in person??
Posted: 6/25/2009 1:17:01 AM | Very picky here...meeting is sooo overrated. Thinks back... yep 2 dates and went so bad left date world...but third was a keeper  , he was within limits and didn't have to be tossed back in, just here for laughs with friends only tag teaming in mails over crazy threads....  | |
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| How many people have you met in person??
Posted: 8/30/2009 1:56:37 AM | meeting is sooooo overrated? GIVE ME A BREAK!!! type away, babe - i like living breathing human beings...call me wierd, that's alright...although WIERD is a probably a word better reserved for a troll with Mrs. Hathaway pics ("coming, Mr Drysale! the Clampets are at it again...") and extremely man-like postings that bear an alarming resemblance to the pendantic instructions and self-congratulatory ramblings of a parking ticket dispenser...YAWN  | |
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| How many people have you met in person??
Posted: 8/30/2009 8:55:04 AM | i'd like to meet a couple of people in person that i can think of offhand right now but they would never show since their balls rolled down and out their pant legs and into the drain....OOPS!
The PMS Douchebag | |
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| How many people have you met in person??
Posted: 8/30/2009 1:24:27 PM |  ^^^ funny in small doses. PMS is noticeable only in comparison to the absence of symptoms. Everyday b!tchy or biatchy or butchy is just plain boring. Peece. | |
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| How many people have you met in person??
Posted: 9/4/2009 10:50:07 PM | This is not about quantity but about quality of people met on PoF. Although I was actively looking on PoF for a few years and I met many (in the hundred) at the various activities, only a handful I still reguard is dear friends and these friends are for life.
Enjoy the search. | |
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| How many people have you met in person??
Posted: 9/4/2009 10:54:40 PM | i've been on here about 1 1/2 years, and its been a real steep learning curve.
I have met quite a few people offline, sometimes two a week if I have time. Most are really nice, and I love meeting new people, hanging out and having coffee. The possibility of a new friendship is all it takes to get me out the door. Some are still friends, but most disappear when the possibility of taking it any further does. In total about 25.
One thing I have learned is that the pictures and profiles are only a possible filter. Most people offline, that I have met, do not look anything like their pictures, and don't behave the same way they do in online conversation. You simply have to put in the time and take a chance. I don't expect Mr. perfect for me, to jump out of a profile :) | |
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| How many people have you met in person??
Posted: 9/5/2009 1:07:47 AM | I actually have not had any bad experiences.
Just no sparks, for the most part...with the usual I like them but they don't like me or they like me and I don't like them kind of thing.
So I asked my children for advice, LOL, and they said "Mom, that's the way it goes".
So wise, these babes...
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| How many people have you met in person??
Posted: 9/5/2009 6:18:37 AM | I've been on here since 2005....can't beleive it's been that long.
Dated a couple of great guys from here for a while.
But I met the greatest group of rainbow girls, wish I could see them more.
I think I've met around 500 people or so....but only about 60 or so that I would recognize. Who'd of thought, you'd meet a ton of friends on a dating site???
I think I only met one wack job.....oh and a spazzy one too.... | |
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| How many people have you met in person??
Posted: 9/5/2009 5:00:19 PM | Msg 67.
OH SORRY! Hope my profile did not startle you by jumping right out in front of you like that. My name is Perfect. Mr. Perfect. | |
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| How many people have you met in person??
Posted: 9/5/2009 5:39:09 PM | | I've met five people in person in two years. Three were men I went on dates with, two were women I did not date but hung out with :) | |
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| How many people have you met in person??
Posted: 9/5/2009 7:10:53 PM | | Not sure, but near 8-10. Very nice people ad all, never an uncomfortable experience, just not that chemistry required you know. No hard feelings. | |
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