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Posted: 8/19/2009 1:41:22 AM | Why tell at all? Sometimes, you can just feel it, and actions are far more meaningful and telling of feelings than words issued at cliche moments.
You should be able to tell if somebody loves you or not without them opening their lips a smidgeon. All this "Who says it first" game encourages is the irrational belief that everything changes once "it's been said".
Newsflash. Saying it means nothing. If it wasn't there to begin with, saying it's so isn't going to change one thing. Also, if you're the kind of person who only realizes you love somebody when they tell you so, then I think you're confusing it with something else.
Enough of the relationship red-tape. Let be what will be, and just do. If you seriously can't tell how somebody feels about you without them saying it in cold clean daylight, then there's a problem with how tuned in you are to eachother.
Edit: this is not to say saying it is pointless at all. Just people seeming to have this "Saying it makes it real" idea is horribly childish imho. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2009 1:47:38 AM | I've always felt actions speak louder than words on this...the words come when there is no other choice for them to ...not like , oh I don't want to say it..but when you're that ready, you say it...the actions are more important anyway.
edit..lmao, "at closing time" and THIS is why I never, ever pick up guys in bars , ladies ;-) hahah..lol..good one though =) | |
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Posted: 8/19/2009 1:51:47 AM | NEVER YOU FOOL!
Cripes, admit that and you'll be doing the laundry, cleaning gutters...
Nope just zip it. Once you get the shoes in a relationship don't ever let 'em go. And if they say it to you, just say, That's nice dear. More toast?
Love you, geez. Mums make you say that before plastering lipstick all over your face and sending you off to school wearing velvet trousers. It's uncut corderoy you try to tell your friends. Haha, yeah sure it is. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2009 8:21:57 AM | | I usually fall in love with someone months later and it may even take up to a year for me to fall in love with someone like my last relationship I was in, so basically it all depends on you and the other person involved | |
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Posted: 8/19/2009 6:02:03 PM | | I completely agree with breath~. Life is too short to wait. Work like you don't need the money, dance like nobody is watching and love like you've never been hurt. You don't know when it will be over. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2009 6:33:22 PM | | Tell them you love them when you feel it. Love is a crap shoot at best. It might backfire and you end up looking like a jerk or it might work out. There are no guarantees. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2009 6:47:23 PM | | Good Grief! I didn't even bother reading any of the other posts on this one - everyone is different! How can you possibly ask strangers to answer whether or not you should tell someone you love them??? IMO the best way to deal with emotions when in a relationship is TO BE HONEST and express those emotions..........to THEM, not to us! You'll either get a positive response or a negative one - if it's negative, then at least you found out now rather than after even more time. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2009 6:48:11 PM |
When do you think is the right time to say I love you ?
When looking down a gun barrel held by your SO while you are 8 inches deep into the maid..
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Posted: 8/19/2009 7:07:10 PM | | Say it when you really mean it ...... say it when you really feel it ...... say it when you are really "living" it ...... and, with those three small words, share that special feeling that is living in your soul. There is no "right" or "wrong" time to say I LOVE YOU ...... providing it's the TRUTH. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2009 8:51:19 PM | One of the greatest feelings one can experience is knowing that a person you love is also in love with you; it must be mutual to be meaningful.
Why one will say it may be too soon; it is never too soon if it is mutual.
Sometimes intimacy can inspire one to have loving thoughts for those moments…….
When uttering I love you’s in the throes of passion, it is beyond awkward to try to take back those three words when afterward one realizes it was the act and not the person that you loved. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2009 8:56:15 PM | ~~ When to Tell Someone You Love Them ~~
Don't do it. Not worth it. You're not in love you just like the idea of being in love. Run away. Get out while you can.
Is there ever a good time
No. Well....maybe if they're a parent and about to die you can say it. Otherwise, if you MUST say it, make sure they're asleep. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2009 9:28:14 PM | hummmmmmmmm...........
When uttering I love you’s in the throes of passion, it is beyond awkward to try to take back those three words when afterward one realizes it was the act and not the person that you loved.
Is that the same as when a gal declines going to church on sunday with ya, yet they seemed rather content on screaming for help from the holy one during the week ???? | |
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Posted: 8/19/2009 9:56:50 PM | My guess would be that if you tell her you love her and she runs screaming the other way....it was probably not a good time to tell her.
Who knows when the right time is? I think it depends on the two people forming the relationship. I would go get a magic 8 ball and ask it. It may be able to lead you in the right direction.  | |
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Posted: 8/19/2009 10:00:56 PM | I guess ive always just really tried to say what I was feeling when i actually understood that was what I was feeling... sometimes it takes me a while to really understand and about a tonne of bricks need to drop on my head at times to really drive the point home......
now when you would ask someone to marry you? NEVER!!! OH WOW NEVER there is NEVER a good time for that... dont do it ever.
love on the other hand? sometime before you break up and after the meeting of the parents.. except if you decided to introduce your date to your parents at your first meeting and then well... perhaps not then | |
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Posted: 8/19/2009 10:20:59 PM |
When uttering I love you’s in the throes of passion, it is beyond awkward to try to take back those three words when afterward one realizes it was the act and not the person that you loved. Is that the same as when a gal declines going to church on sunday with ya, yet they seemed rather content on screaming for help from the holy one during the week ????
I think it could be something like that, lol.   | |
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Posted: 8/20/2009 5:53:39 AM | | after 4 months? i think 4 months is more then enough time to tell you S/O your true feelings. you've gotten past the awkward stages and now just let the feelings flow. love just happens so i mean regardless of when it is you should tell the person.....but dont get hurt when they dont reply with it. my past rel. we said i love you after like a monthish.. i felt it maybe he felt it lol maybe not since we're now single.lol. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2009 7:13:27 AM | | me personally after a few months you have only started to get to know who that person really is, what they are like... so if the couple are smitten it could just be lust or yet love. i think you can love that person after a certain time it all depends on how much time is spent with each other, you knnow what they say though " love at first sight" | |
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Posted: 8/20/2009 7:54:34 AM | | "Art of Love". Indeed. What a romantic expression. And one that deserves much consideration before utterance. I use those three words only when I know without doubt that I am ready to accept and receive it fully. For me acceptance is the harder end of the bargain. Op, it is never wise to ever hint at it or use those words casually. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2009 9:53:00 AM | | Wow. Truly, O wise one, how you teach me. And too patient and kind. Makes perfect sense. Just believe. Maybe I should practice what I preach? And a reminder for all those who pass up opportunities you should believe that some are sent to you for a reason. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2009 10:48:17 AM |
Hey, this is relevant to the thread since love is the communicated between the created and Creator. So, when was the last time you told God you loved him? For those who do not have conversations with God give it a try? You may be surprised!
Does this make any sense?
God's busy creating too much chaos in the world. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2009 10:52:59 AM |
Say you met someone new and you guys are going real well and you find yourself having feelings but you been dating about 4 months.
When do you think is the right time to say I love you ? cause that is the way you feel inside without scaring him/her off!!!
Is there ever a good time?
I suggest saying it 5 minutes into the first meeting. Wait until you order so she can't run away. Bring a ring too and propose after dinner. | |
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