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Posted: 8/20/2009 7:54:34 AM | | "Art of Love". Indeed. What a romantic expression. And one that deserves much consideration before utterance. I use those three words only when I know without doubt that I am ready to accept and receive it fully. For me acceptance is the harder end of the bargain. Op, it is never wise to ever hint at it or use those words casually. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2009 9:53:00 AM | | Wow. Truly, O wise one, how you teach me. And too patient and kind. Makes perfect sense. Just believe. Maybe I should practice what I preach? And a reminder for all those who pass up opportunities you should believe that some are sent to you for a reason. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2009 10:48:17 AM |
Hey, this is relevant to the thread since love is the communicated between the created and Creator. So, when was the last time you told God you loved him? For those who do not have conversations with God give it a try? You may be surprised!
Does this make any sense?
God's busy creating too much chaos in the world. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2009 10:52:59 AM |
Say you met someone new and you guys are going real well and you find yourself having feelings but you been dating about 4 months.
When do you think is the right time to say I love you ? cause that is the way you feel inside without scaring him/her off!!!
Is there ever a good time?
I suggest saying it 5 minutes into the first meeting. Wait until you order so she can't run away. Bring a ring too and propose after dinner. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2009 12:52:03 PM | | Scaring them off? I say I love you when I feel it for someone. Whether they reciprocate the feeling or how it affects the future of the relationship is not a concern. It is telling someone how you feel not ASKING for something back. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2009 3:57:35 PM | God....so... he says I love you... but if you dont do what I want you will BURN IN HELL FOREVER!!!!
but I will love you even while you suffer...
ummmm ya can we not bring God into every single talk about love. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2009 6:15:46 PM | | Since when do we relate God and love in negative terms? For some God is a part of their life and represents a purer love. Just because you may choose not to believe doesn't mean that everyone has to. This poster in no way pointed a negative finger at anyone. Merely his belief of accomplishing a higher love. Just wow. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2009 6:47:28 PM | when to tell someone you love them is the question.
have you responded to it?
You made a judgement about my belief without understanding it and I wont explain it to you... But YOU are off the mark by a long way.
The belief that one who only wants you to do what he wants and then if you dont threatens you with eternal fire....if you dont do what he wants thats not a higher love... thats just not. just wow.
but lets not make it about religion thats all im saying since NOT everyone believes the same as you. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2009 7:28:03 PM | The phrase has been **stardized. It's lost its power over time... Women usually say it when they mean it. ...No matter how often they mean it... 
Men say it to satisfy a woman's need to hear it... effectively destroying their integrity and disqualifying themselves as a challenge in their significant other's eyes.
I say hold back on the I love yous. Make it special again! | |
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~Music
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Posted: 8/20/2009 8:28:31 PM | ^^^^^
Yes, we both responded. Twice. He never spoke of damnation. I never judge but I do believe in his right for a higher love thru God. God Bless.
Bob, do you need a hug honey? Throwing a hug to Bob..... | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 1:33:51 PM | ...maybe NOT at the beginning of the booty call. or maybe....
The last time SHE said it just before i painted the house, fixed the brakes, roto-tilled the garden, fertilized the rosebush, vacuumed the car, and made a 5 course dinner.
Too bad it was at her place though...next time i wont cook.... | |
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Posted: 8/22/2009 10:23:56 PM | Yeah, well from what I've heard "some" people can just hear the words "I love you"
and it just makes them crazy. Talk about some major manipulation. A right time? Personally? It has to just feel right to you. Probably, to some extent, it depends on the environment you grew up in and how demonstrative "love" was. Whenever you say you "love" someone it is a risk because sometimes "love" is blind and not felt on an equal level. When there is an imbalance it is awkward and, from my experience, awkward for the person who has less intensity. I think you have to make a decision if the abundance of love from one side can be met from your partner. If they are not even on that level than you will only be pursuing pain. But pain can only make you grow  | |
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Posted: 8/23/2009 12:44:08 AM | If you feel it and wanna say it, go right ahead IMO. If that's who you are to want to say it regardless of how long you've been together, why hide who you are? It already will not work if you feel you cannot be yourself and express your feelings. What if you wait a year to say it then find out they STILL do not fully reciprocate the same feelings you have been hiding for months? You just wasted a year of your life.
If it's going to work it will. There is never a good or bad time, just the time you make. Use it or lose it. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2009 4:36:53 PM | | I've always tended to be the first one to say it, and I think a woman generally loses at least half of her respect and attraction for me as soon as she hears the words. It's really tough for a guy like me, I'm all heart and I love like a child loves... easily, ethusiastically, happily. So I reallllly have to fight against myself at times to go against my natural instincts because I've learned that women really are not always very receptive of it when I'm just me and let my heart guide me. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2009 6:38:28 PM | The key to falling in love isn't in who says "I LOVE YOU" first. The real measure is if both fish are expressing their love thru their actions.
If one fish is giving everything they can and not getting the other fishes full and undivided attention, then one needs to slowly slip away, bait your hook with a different flavor and hope the next nibble is the one holding your hand as you take your last breath 70 years later.
Basically, what I am saying is: if he/she isn't into you as you are into him/her, the element of saying I Love You is wasted air--- wait until you feel that they are giving back as much as you are giving-- then say I LOVE YOU!!!!
All in all, don't use the phrase as a test to see if she/he loves you back, you have to read that one thru their actions
~ ~ This is one of the best pieces of advice I have seen so far. Love is not about the words. Anyone can say 'I love you', but to show someone you love them and that you are important to them is, by far, much more important.
That said, I don't like playing games. If, however, you are with someone who has stated that they like to truly know someone before saying those three words, I think it is better to show them in your actions and not in the statement. I dated a guy for nine months. I was totally crazy about him and I did love him, but I knew how he felt about saying those words. Out of respect for him, I did not say them. I showed him. In the end, it didn't work out, but that was more due to his job and a move. With two kids, I can't pick up and move. Still, he knew I loved him and there was no need for the words. I know he loved me too. Actions do speak louder than words. If you feel that you have to say it or burst, just say it when the moment is right. If he doesn't say it back right away, that's ok. You still love him. Sometimes we have to live by the motto, 'Nothing ventured, nothing gained'. I wish you luck. Just be true to yourself and him and don't play games...that usually results in a bad situation for all involved.
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Posted: 8/24/2009 6:42:51 PM | | well defenitly DON'T do it during sex, my ex did that and i told him "havn't you heard NOT to say that during sense for the first time" and he said "that's the only time i had the kahuna's to do it" ugh! | |
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Posted: 8/24/2009 7:04:10 PM |
well defenitly DON'T do it during sex, my ex did that and i told him "havn't you heard NOT to say that during sense for the first time" and he said "that's the only time i had the kahuna's to do it" ugh!
There is a wealth of insight in your brief comment. In my perception, which others may or may not agree with, women just aren't turned on by love. They may want it, think about it, dream of it... but it isn't what turns them on. If anything it's a deterrent to honest attraction for women, not a boost to it. And this is one of my major incompatibilities with most women because emotional intimacy, to me, is damn hot. | |
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