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CTR916
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Joined: 11/27/2006
Msg: 352 | |
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 5/2/2007 11:02:10 PM | I just thought about something. To have a friends with benefits with someone, that means it's ok for both of you to sleep around with other people. Meaning the more spread of stds even with a condom as some stds are not preventable from condoms yuck! You never know where your partner has been or who they were with yesterday, which makes FWB kinda scary.I mean at least with a relationship,there's more of a chance of the partner being faithful and not messing around, though it doesn't stop people. They could be messing with you one day and then messing with numerous other people the next day or even messing with more people within the same day.
All I can say is if you going to have a FWB,choose your partners wisely & find out if they have other people on the side! | |
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 5/3/2007 1:05:28 AM | I agree there's a lot to be afraid of out there. I was in a FWB relationship until he told me that he was with another on the side and she was with others too. We had discussed this and would tell each other if we were with others...he neglected to tell me. Anyway I was pissed...
FWB just makes me feel less of a woman and I tend to respect myself less as a result. Been there done that...I'd rather be with a man long-term. Take me or leave me, but I'm going to respect myself for being true to me. | |
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CTR916
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Joined: 11/27/2006
Msg: 356 | |
| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 5/3/2007 7:17:31 AM | | Why would having a friend (with or without benefits) make you feel like less of a woman? I am of the opinion, that even a booty call relationship should not make you feel like less of a woman. Maybe, a "chase" relationship could be a let down after the chase high was over, but you could still put a notch on your lipstick case afterwards. | |
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 12/9/2007 4:57:49 AM | | Been there, done that; not too kewl when she got too dependant and attached. Too make a long story short; she blew it all up and caused a major commotion. My wife doesn't care if I get a little on the side as long as she doesn't have it thrown at her after the fact but this girl hunted me for 2 years. She got totally weird and wanted to marry me and so on. Thankfully, she found someone and got married and my wife and I had a baby so there is final separation. I still wouldn't mind a bit on the side with the right one as wife is no longer too much into sex, but I would be much more careful now. I would state right up front, "This will never be more than what it is, period." There is nothing wrong with friends with benefits, but make sure you both know what you are getting into and end expectations. Also, don't forget the condoms; I never want to bring home. | |
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 12/9/2007 9:32:04 AM | | Nothing wrong with it. Hon your being a lot safer if you have one person for a fix than a one night stand where you don't really know the guy. A friend with benefit can be good but don't make the mistake many do witch is someone will get emotionly attached by accident. So when your having this friendship make sure your both on the same level. Many will get hurt after it happens for so long. But nothing wrong with it at all. Just make sure you pick someone who can control there emotions and knows what level your on for it. | |
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 12/16/2007 1:04:46 AM | I think having a "special" friend is GREAT !!
I had the same one for 14 years.. We shared a friendship of many facets..
Neither of our spouses ever had a clue.. And I honestly feel that the "extra" sex is what has kept me young..
Moving out of state is the reason it ended.. | |
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 3/24/2008 4:19:02 PM | Just not for me. Call me old-fashioned -- I want the whole "nine-yards" or nothing -- just the way I was raised. But I can see why it's popular.
a friend with benefits = sex w/o marriage with a regular partner.
All other aspects depend on the people involved and the situation. Basically they "cherry pick" what suits them for their situation.
At least you're being honest that each of you need to attend to your "needs" in a "safe" way, not exposing yourself to a crappy relationship, STD's, or babies.
But someday, you'll want it all. Then, will the sex still be "special" with your special someone? | |
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 3/24/2008 7:38:24 PM | | My girlfriend once had a "Friend with Benefits". He was a long term friend of hers, and I told her I was not comfortable with him around. She wasn't happy about it, but I told her it was him or me. So in the long run, she lost a long term friend. In the long run, she lost out... | |
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 3/24/2008 7:39:55 PM |
Which is better: a friends with benefits relationship or booty call with benefits relationship?
Hmm that's like asking which is better, a long term contract with a hooker or just getting a fresh one of the corner when you need one. | |
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 3/24/2008 10:44:58 PM | | Of course it is ok. In fact, it is the best relationship to have if you do not want a bunch of complications in your life. But if you are not going to be monogamous with one another be sure to practice safe sex EVERY time. I have one female friend who has been my friend with benefits for sixteen yrs. When she had a relationship going, I quietly backed out of the picture until it ended, and she did the same for me. | |
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 3/24/2008 10:49:41 PM | "I just thought about something. To have a friends with benefits with someone, that means it's ok for both of you to sleep around with other people. Meaning the more spread of stds even with a condom as some stds are not preventable from condoms yuck!"
There we go with the fear mongering of std's again. Number one, friends with benefits do not always sleep around. Number two, the consistent use of condoms greatly reduces the risk of any std. If you use a condom EVERY time and use it correctly, you have about as much chance of getting an std as you do of winning the megabucks. Face it, some risks are acceptable. Otherwise you are going to live a very dull and uninteresting life. You may get killed the next time you get into your car, but you are going to continue driving your car. People have to keep things in perspective. You may spend your life terrified of getting an std and die of cancer, which incidentally, you have a far greater chance of dying from. | |
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 3/26/2008 4:01:16 AM | Funny that I should come across this. I've know a guy for almost 4 years. We both have always been friends with benefits. Yes, it can happen & yes, it is also very painful.
After you have learned more about that person, you decide you want more. We both just found out recently how we really feel about each other but, he won't let his guard down. So, I informed him that I can no longer go on this way. It is painful ! Won't do it again !
Good Luck to those who think they can handle it...Not Me | |
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 3/27/2008 3:13:20 AM |
If you use a condom EVERY time and use it correctly, you have about as much chance of getting an std as you do of winning the megabucks.
Then I'd better wear a condom next time I buy a lottery ticket, because only a few people seems to win every year, yet thousands get Std's.... | |
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 3/27/2008 7:48:07 AM | | that's cool and all that but there has to be a connection if you want some red hot monkey love. Otherwise people would be replaced with appliances. A Bob can't take you for martinis on the bike now can he? | |
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 3/27/2008 8:01:53 AM | | It's fun for awhile, but I've never known it to work out for very long. It can interfere with the start of a new, serious relationship. Jealousy can still be a problem and could lead to the loss of the friendship. Or one might start feeling romantic towards the other and it is not mutual. And if it does increase to a more serious and committed relationship it could mean an awkward transition. | |
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