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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 7/6/2005 10:36:42 AM | | there is absolutely nothing wrong with that! for about a year after my last relationship, me and my ex continued to sleep together. With the agreement that if either of us started seeing anyone else we would stop. friends with benefits.... it's all good. | |
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 7/6/2005 10:52:51 AM | | See, with my ex-husband that never worked, We did try that after the divorce. But he thought that I still had romantic feelings for him and that I wanted to work out our marriage, which was not the issue and way to confusing for both of us....And so that was a BIG NO NO!!!!!!! | |
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 7/6/2005 12:34:12 PM | Dont do it!
I had a friend with benefits for 7 months, that's all they want and that's all your gonna get. To many feeling arise from doing this, trust me its better for the heart not to go there unless he's someone you really like/want and possibly if things go right there may be a long term thing there downt he road.. | |
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 7/6/2005 1:08:44 PM | | i think everyone should experience the whole friends with benifits thing...i tried it a few years back and it was great... but if u break the agreement of "not falling for each other" u should end it fast cause it isnt healthy for either of u | |
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Northy
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Joined: 6/13/2005
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 7/6/2005 5:16:35 PM | ok with whom?
as long as it's something you can handle without harming yourself....go for it.
yours is the only opinion you need worry about
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I agree with what Pandy said but would add Harming yourself or the other person
personally I think you'll find 99 percent of the time one of you will fall for the other and someone gets hurt. Me had enough meaningless sex fer one life time...damn x wife...lol/jk sort of.... | |
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 7/6/2005 5:51:28 PM | | I absolutely agree with having a friend with benefits. I am going through a divorce right now and I have just recently began a FWB relationship and I love it. We both agreed when we started this that there would be no strings and when and if we want to pursue things further we have that option. I say GO FOR IT!!!!!!!! | |
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 7/6/2005 7:02:36 PM | the problem with fwb is that you have to keep the friendship seperate from the f*cking
You don't want to mix those 2.. otherwise it could spell disaster.
The last thing either of you wants is for either of you to get hurt...
because lets face it.. you are friends..
and if you decide to move on and have a relationship outside of the fwb..
someone could get hurt.. and that sucks..
I have thought about the fwb thing.. and the one and only time I tried it..
I resented the person I was doing this with.. because at the end of the day..
they are basically saying.. *I'll roll in the hay with you.. but I don't really want you*
and that is a knife in the gut.
That is why I choose not to do the fwb thing..
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 7/8/2005 7:44:39 AM | You answered you're own question, girl.
I am a divorced single Mom, who is really not ready for a longterm relationship, but who has needs.......I really don't want to go out to a local bar and find a guy to take home alone and have a one night stand with.....So I would like opinions from everyone about having one special guy who I trust to be my CALL ON WHEN IN NEED GUY
It sounds like you already know what's right for you. You shouldn't worry so much what other people think and just do what's right for you. There was a time when most people thought masturbation was wrong, now people think nothing of it as a regular practice.
Personally, I'd say get yourself a few different FWBs, just in case one of them is unavailable when you need him. A woman who loves sex just for its own sake, and goes after what she wants without worrying what other people think is extremely sexy in my books. Go for it. You only live once. There's no prize at the end for who had the least fun. | |
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 7/8/2005 7:50:49 AM | No matter what size, or what age you are, there has to be a common interest and some sort of attraction between the two. Without the attraction, and some form of chemistry between the two people seeking FWB, wouldn't you just be friends??
Philosophically yes, but for them to facilitate your sexual needs that wouldn’t be true, this is what makes it complicated because how can you take the humanity out of the process of relationship development to then maintain the continuity of fling. | |
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cmix55
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Joined: 2/10/2005
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 7/15/2005 9:52:18 PM | Friends with benefits can work between two special people. Been there and done that…! Ladies that were friends with benefits before I got married are still friends now married and NO BENEFITS…! Just friends… Dating now 10 years after my divorce. I have a few friends with benefits… Up front we inter into an agreement that works for the both of us until we both meet someone special. The key to making any relationship is total communication and being respectful to each other’s feelings… being up front, truthful and dealing with issues immediately. Of course this formula works in any relationship!  | |
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 7/15/2005 10:48:35 PM | | Well... it sounds good in theory, however, in practice it works out a whole lot differently. By the time you both sit down and actually talk about what this "FWB" is going to look like, you'll have more questions than answers. Personally, I can't do it. | |
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 7/15/2005 11:06:30 PM | I had a FWB for two years and it was great! We both had high drives and the other was just a phone call away. Also we got to try a lot of things and were a lot more honest (sometimes blunt!  ) with each other. There was no jealousy... except from our friends when they found out! | |
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 7/18/2005 4:14:57 PM | Sometimes the things I want just aren't a good idea when played out in "Real Life". Maybe that's what fantasy and porn are for... idunno...
I prefer to not take the FWB risk. It means more "self service" than I would like, but it also minimizes confusion in my life. At the heart of it all, I am a simple guy, trying to keep my life simple, and FWB (attractive as it is in my mind) is a bit too much for me.
I bet I'll be flogged for this- but frankly, I'm trying to become whole. Thirty years has left fractures and inconsistencies in my life that I can no longer accept.
Leading two lives leads to confusion. I don't like to feel confused. | |
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| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 7/18/2005 4:16:22 PM | | FWB or whatever you want to call it works best when you have good communication between you I find. The hooking up with an ex is something that just boggles my mind? If I wanted to keep fuc king her I probably wouldn't have left? Dont' think I could do that. | |
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cino
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Joined: 6/28/2005
Msg: 124 | |
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Rake
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Joined: 3/12/2005
Msg: 125 | |
| Is it ok to have a friend with benefits.....???????????
Posted: 7/18/2005 5:26:42 PM | | stop thinking so much and drop yer drawers and screw each others brains out....what else are you gonna do? Sit at home and watch Smallville? Then again, if smallville's yer problem, you might wanna turn of the lights first... | |
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