| smokers and non smokers can they get on
Posted: 6/6/2009 8:53:05 AM | | OP: I would not date someone who smokes. This is not a moral judgment against smokers. Simply put, I don't want to breath cigarette smoke, have it on my clothing, have it in my house or car, let alone be in close proximity to someone who smells of smoke. This is my preference. At the same time, I agree things would go more smoothly if people were clear about their preferences. | |
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| smokers and non smokers can they get on
Posted: 7/26/2009 11:00:28 AM | Several times I've been with a woman and we have those serious convos and I ask if I could smoke and every time I've been told no, well this pissed me off and I wasn't able to convey my thoughts because I was stressed in the situation and needed to relax so I could think straight.
I hope you know that the reason you are stressed is you are withdrawing from Nicotine, and your body is needing to replentish it with a fresh dose... If you quit you won't have this problem any more! As far as it helping you think better, you are misled. Sorry bud...
As far as can a smoker and a non smoker make it work?
Well depends on if it's short term or long term. For long term, in the end No. They can't. It will always be an issue as you see, who wants to be with someone long term who is killing themselves? Who wants to be with someone who is 10, 20 or so years will be dieing of Lung Cancer, COPD, Emphysema or other smoking related illnesses? Who will have drag an Oxygen tank with them while grocery shopping? Who in the end you are holding their hand in the hospital watching them die an early death, all because they could not give up a self destructive habit? | |
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| smokers and non smokers can they get on
Posted: 7/29/2009 11:07:58 PM | | I'm a non-smoker, but I've dated two smokers. I'd rather not though. I've the must not smoke box ticked .I don't really like kissing a smoker. | |
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| smokers and non smokers can they get on
Posted: 7/29/2009 11:22:47 PM | I quit smoking 4/03/03.....I swore I would do my best not to be that type of ex smoker that so many were to me.
I truly think I have done pretty good, not perfect.
There have been some smokers that I couldnt even breathe around, while others I have bee shcoked to learn that they smoked.
Not really sure if I could handle a smoker, especially a heavy one. Sorry but the inside of my house has never had anyone inside of it smoking and never will. | |
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| smokers and non smokers can they get on
Posted: 7/29/2009 11:27:25 PM | | I couldn't care less if a woman smokes or not. Of all the truly horrendous character flaws a person can have, and all the truly awful things they could've already done or may one day do, which still doesn't take into account the many problems that could arise in dating them, whether or not they smoke is so low on the list of importance it might as well not be there at all. | |
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| smokers and non smokers can they get on
Posted: 7/30/2009 12:28:45 AM | | Well being as I am smoker..I guess I can answer this..I consiter myself a consiterate smoker..I understand that it is my bad habit and no one elses..I never smoke in anyone's home including my own. Never around children even outside, I brush my teeth several times a day..I smoke as a stress relief I will admit it is a crutch..and I am working on it..I kicked drugs and alchol..and right now my weight is my number one concern..and as doctors have ordered they want me to not quit until I can control my eating habits and lose some of the weight. So..would I date a non smoker yes..as long as they are comfertable with it.. I understand if someone isn't I don't hate on people who do not smoke..I dislike people who assume the worst in all of the smokers based on people they know or people they have seen... | |
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| smokers and non smokers can they get on
Posted: 7/30/2009 12:49:20 AM | Well, to each their own in this case. Myself, I dated smokers when I was a non. I dated nons when I was. And when we both did. Dating is truly a game, as that's what life is. So many ppl want to win it, but little do they know, it should be a draw, we all win! Smoker, drinker, money lover or hater, the middle ground should always matter before all. Opinions will always arise, but its best to look over the things you don't like...and focus on those you do. Those little ones will fall right into place if you really find your match, but trust me...if they won't date you because you smoke...shame on them. So many worse habits in this world. And for women looking for love on this, picky should not be they. IMO.   | |
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| smokers and non smokers can they get on
Posted: 7/30/2009 3:00:42 AM |
Well last year I did meet someone great but found out pretty quick she was a heavy smoker.
Hmmm, ah, do you still have her phone number  | |
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| smokers and non smokers can they get on
Posted: 7/30/2009 3:39:51 AM | It might not seem possible given the vast number of smokers with "poor attitudes" but there exists the RARE breed that are both considerate and "light" smokers.
With care, planning and most importantly, RESPECT, it can be "made to work".
SHE quit not too long after we met [of her own accord] and we were married for seven years. I never got to meet her father I might add, because he dad died from lung disease from yes ... smoking, the year before I met her! I believe he was only about 55 or so. She is still one of the smartest, brightest females I have ever met and yet as I type this, she currently smokes but has quit on several occasions, which I think speaks to the power of the addiction.
Today, I am not sure... I feel certain that at least 30 if not closer to 40% of the otherwise "acceptable" profiles I look at are some type of smoker. Just makes life in this big Fishpond all the more exasperating. | |
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| smokers and non smokers can they get on
Posted: 7/30/2009 3:53:40 AM | | I don't smoke, but I would date a smoker as long as they weren't constantly chain smoking, or blowing their smoke in my face. Actually I was married to a smoker, but he was very respectful and wouldn't smoke inside our home or vehicles. | |
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| smokers and non smokers can they get on
Posted: 7/30/2009 7:00:39 AM | | Of course they can, but the odds of them breaking up eventually are double that for those couples where both smoke or do not smoke. | |
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| smokers and non smokers can they get on
Posted: 7/30/2009 8:45:15 AM | | I don't smoke and would naturally prefer to date a non-smoker (hate the stink and don't want to kiss a dirty ashtray). But if she's "smokin' hot", and likes me, I'll make an exception lol. | |
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| smokers and non smokers can they get on
Posted: 7/30/2009 9:01:01 AM |
I have gone to beaches before (Maumee Bay State Park and Destin Beach) and immediately left because it stunk like an ashtray and every where you look you had butts stubbed out in the sand. There was no place I felt I could set my tots down to play and dig in the sand with out them digging in a huge ashtray. Very gross.
Interesting......I go to Maumee Bay usually once a week, it's a fairly large, open air (of course) beach so how in the heck did the whole beach smell like an ashtray LOL You musta went on "smoke your lungs out" day because I've never encountered a butt of the the cigarette variety problem either. WEIRD I was there recently though & it must have been "obese in bikinis" day which was interesting to say the least & presented it's own BUTT problems.
Anyhooooo
I'm non-smoking then smoking (keep falling off the wagon) my insurance won't cover any smoking cessation medications so it's cold turkey for me. I've dated non-smokers & have lots of non-smoker friends & one thing they can all say about me is that they didn't even know that I smoked for a long time.
I personally hate that I smoke, I agree that it's a nasty addiction & it does stink. I'm always in possession of hand sanitizers/lotions, body spray, mouth wash that I keep in my car & purse & chewing gum. I stand very far away from non smokers when I smoke.....it's just respectful. I've even gone so far as to refrain from smoking for days at a time while on vacation with a non-smoker.
We aren't ALL evil
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| smokers and non smokers can they get on
Posted: 7/30/2009 9:06:15 AM | | I am an ex-smoker (about 8 years since I have had one) and I tried to remain open about dating a smoker. It did not work and I have tried on a few occasions. For me a smoker is an absolute deal breaker and I have very few of those. | |
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| smokers and non smokers can they get on
Posted: 7/30/2009 9:09:56 AM | I quit exactly 8 months ago after smoking over 15 years...
Today, I can't even stand to be in the place with a smoker. Having a relationship, kissing...etc...is out of the question.
When I smell cigarette smoke, I get this terrible gaging reaction .... and my eyes start to water.
I smoked at least a pack for 15-16 years..... sad part is that can't even remember "why" | |
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| smokers and non smokers can they get on
Posted: 7/30/2009 10:05:27 AM | I wouldn't date a smoker, simply because I'd be afraid of picking up smoking again. It would be too easy. I quit in 1994 but still feel the craving at least weekly.
Also, fairly recently, my boyfriend (not really a smoker) decided to light up in the apartment. I woke abruptly from a nap in a different room and had to runnnnn to the bathroom to get sick. (If TMI, I apologize.) Maybe I've developed an allergy to the smoke.
So, anyway, I wouldn't be "strong" enough to date a smoker. | |
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| smokers and non smokers can they get on
Posted: 7/30/2009 10:07:41 AM |
I smoked at least a pack for 15-16 years..... sad part is that can't even remember "why"
That is how long I smoked. Sadly every time I smell someone smoking I remember exactly why I smoked. | |
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| smokers and non smokers can they get on
Posted: 7/30/2009 10:37:35 AM | >>>> Edgar Cayce said that Up to 8 cigarettes a day is not harmful. (Back in the day before filters, etc.) Hey, it's just a frikkin' plant!! The danger is in the papers.
But, some people hate the smell because of the social stygma.
Nuff said... <<<<
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Cayce's death from stroke-related complications at the relatively young age of 68 may or may not have been aggravated by his heavy smoking habit. It is also more than likely that tobacco in his time was different, before the wide use of pesticides and chemical fertilizers by tobacco growers. It should also be kept in mind that before the 1940's, lung cancer was fairly rare and was considered almost a medical curiousity. The book describing the Cayce remedies does not even mention lung cancer as a disease. It may well be that there has been some change in the manufacture of cigarette paper in the past 70 years that has made the harmful effect worse, but if you believe the statistics cancer is also on the rise for cigar smokers and tobacco chewers. | |
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| smokers and non smokers can they get on
Posted: 7/30/2009 10:54:11 AM | Everything in moderation. What's wrong if a person enjoys a smoke once in a while? If they're respectful of others by not smoking in a living/eating space then what's the problem?
Sure they're taking years off of their life, but its *their* life to live not mine. | |
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| smokers and non smokers can they get on
Posted: 7/30/2009 10:03:52 PM | Wow. Never guessed there'd be so many outright, whiny, pouty, and judgemental non-smokers. And all of them - save for a few with health problems - use the "official warning sign they're about to say something spiteful", the statement about nothing against smokers, it's their choice, yada, yada, yada...but. 50 years ago, the world "blacks" (well, something worse) would've filled the role "smokers" do today.
Of all the things to nitpick and worry about, you're picking the one that can cured with a breath mint, instead of something requiring a good and extremely patient psychologist. Kudos to you, you reach levels of shallow I could only hope to one day reach even if I had the strength of five men.
And keep in mind, I'm a non-smoker. I just haven't reached the point of pathetic that makes one see someone interesting, and perhaps compatiable (which is why we're here in the first place)only say..."Oh, no! Not them! It's evil smoker! Nevermind! Run! Run!" | |
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