| | is romance a thing of the past??Page 8 of 11 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11) | Rocker - ROTFLMAO - alright then have em delvrd and the card signed a secret admirer....you just give her one of them looks after she recvs them...like emmmm whats this about....at least we'll all know you did something romantic...and she'll feel good...LMAO
btw that's the problem with not being romantic all the time...they'll think you done something to get kilt fer...lol | |
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Posted: 7/3/2005 5:21:24 PM | Um....if my husband had brought me flowers out of the blue, I would be thinking that he had either blown a lot of money foolishly or was screwing around. After 10 or so years of no flowers, it would have been really suspicious if they suddenly appeared.
*actually, I did get flowers "for no reason" a couple of times when he was screwing around | |
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Posted: 7/3/2005 5:26:41 PM | | Ksee,,I just can't say anymore. It would be TMI!!! My wife already calls romancing me is like "romancing the stone." | |
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Posted: 7/3/2005 6:03:22 PM | | Romance is not a thing of the past. I just turned 25 last month. I went to Shanghai which was very exciting to me. I met a girl there and we had a great time together. We had a language as a barier, but we still manage. She knew very little english. She broke off two dates with me for whatever reasons. Each day we talked on the phone she was very excited to hear my voice. One the second to last day of my departure was the second time she broke off our date. I was sad. I decieded to go visit her at work place. I took a picture of myself which i bought from one the street vendors that takes picture for a living. I also bought a english/chinese dictionary as a gift and I also bought her roses. I serioulsy thought that girls did not cared about roses anymore, but I did it anyway. When I went to her job, she was so happy to see me and she rans towards me. My heart was filled with joy that I felt that happiness she felt for seeing me. She had a gift for me ready. she did not want to get used to me and that was the reasons for her actions. She was testing me if my actions were really sincere. It has been a month and I still think of her everyday. I am going back in december for a month. I was there for ten days and I knew her for 9 days. We had so much fun together. I am willing to go half way around the world just for a chance at love. I cried the first week i got back. I have pushed girls away for almost 4 years. the last girlfriend i had was in 2000 and it lasted a little over a year. i want to find my soulmate, and i think that is worth traveling around the world. if you think my thoughts are not real, then contact me again in december and i will send you a post card and a picture of me in shanghai hopefully wity her or if not by myself. my purpose of this service is so i can myself learn mandarin. her english is very bad, so i look else wher to learn. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2005 7:40:07 PM | to me it is a shame that guys don't take and give flowers to ladies. All it takes is finding out what she likes and using a little thing called love to give. Doesn't have to be the kind of love in a relationship just love of the gift that you can make a lady happy even if for a moment of her life. Give her candy, a small gift of any kind, something that is given with out the thought of something in return. Just for the sake of being the kind of person that wants a lady to feel special. Theres nothing better than making a woman happy for a few moments and seeing her smile. also doing something for her in the same manner is also a treat to ones inner self.
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Posted: 7/3/2005 8:43:53 PM | Countrylin, that jerk that stood you up ain't worth the salt in your tears darlin.
On topic, I suppose I learned it from my father, as he and my mom have been happily and faithfully married for over 30 years... bringing home flowers for no reason, running bubble baths with candles, and actually cooking for your beloved (as opposed to simply ordering in or going out) are all romantic acts.
Through experience though I have learned that not everyone appreciates romantic gestures, and it's good to know early... cuz any woman who doesn't like to be treated like a Lady and pampered once and a while is not right for me.
Unfortunately... they seem to be breeders. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2005 3:57:20 PM | | I was wondering the same thing myself. I am very old fashiond. I have learned that romance is a 2 way street. I think that romance is not they way it used to be just seems alot people are just in to realtionships as a game or just trying to get something out of it. What ever happend the old saying ladies should be cheerished and not tarnished? And in the same time i myself aim a very romantic person or aleast try very hard to be. I myself have not been around to many women that were romantic. And i mean something as simple as when you walk in to room smiling a person telling you hey i am happy to see you. Just showing how much they appricate what you do. | |
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*Em*
| | Joined: 6/29/2005
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khama
| | Joined: 3/31/2005
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| is romance a thing of the past??
Posted: 7/5/2005 2:26:19 AM | Every woman I have romanced started asking me questions...
What are you trying to hide??... or what do you want??
or don't be stupid??
Geez, as if they don't like it... but everytime they think I am up to something..
So really what's the point... You don't get anywhere with it anyway.... | |
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Posted: 7/5/2005 3:42:06 AM | | I suppose the next question sassy is... having been romantic... there could be a happy danger than friends could be the 'beautiful' we are all seeking... there lies the dilemma... friendship is the basis of any relationship... dam these forums (LOL) | |
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Posted: 7/5/2005 4:08:46 AM | | This whole business can knock the romance out of it right from the start..it's like filling in an application form before you get started, and then sending off a CV to any interested parties...almost lose the air of mystery completely...it just seems sometimes that everything has become a little too organised and categorised...still nothing to compare with that chance meeting i suppose | |
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sddude
| | Joined: 11/4/2004
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| is romance a thing of the past??
Posted: 7/5/2005 10:39:44 AM | I used to be the guy to give flowers to a girl from my mom's garden , place little notes on their car , call and leave messages of how I was thinking of them , wrote poems to them , the women I knew would either laugh , thought it was ajoke , felt it was so gay or wimpy , little notes I would find them on the floor of thier house or car , like it did not matter , did , little things for years , I was always the one to plan the picnik and have the food and vino , virtually everytime my efferts were wasted on someone who said they loved romance but actually went to a cold guy that just wanted her a*** , they loved what I gave them but did not care about the guy that gave them that , other guys that were opposite of nice and romantic always got the girl , end up alone in my house for the effort , those guys who did nothing are never alone , I want to be those other guys ...
Yes , sometimes romance is dead , guys no longer do it , it is mostly guys work traditionally , women are the receivers for the most part . Tired of trying , THEY killed the romance , why do it if it never works , it is like begging a women for nothing , sometimes it is free or costs alot , but it always takes effort , time and wearing our heart on our sleeve .
Women who complain about the death of romance ... blame it either on yourselves or your peers that changed the culture forever , nice guys finish last even in romance , that is why they do not do it , the opposite type guys do not need it , you ever notice that ? | |
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Posted: 7/5/2005 10:51:20 AM | I dont even remember what romance is anymore ... i dont remember the last time a guy did anything romantic for me  ... im always the one doing the romancing .... I am a true romantic.. and it doesnt have to be flowers and dinners (even though that would be nice) For me the small things can be just as romantic as the big gestures.Taking a walk at night along the beachstrip holding hands is romantic to me. I will be shopping and see a card or something that makes me think of him so i will buy it. I will call his machine when hes at work just to say i was thinking about you ... that is romantic to me.
Just dont think there are any romantic guys out there anymore ... all the guys that want to meet me just want sex they could care less about romancing me. So i understand how girls wonder what the guys up too if he starts to act romantic.
I dont know ... just my 2 cents lol | |
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Posted: 7/5/2005 11:34:04 AM | No, romance is not a thing of the past. It may be getting more rare with more and more men and woman becoming jaded.
Here's my main example of how romance does not necessarily win out over the lack of romance:
A few years back I started to date a woman who recently broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years because he hit her. We were at the one of the dance clubs with our friends and I bought a rose and had it tucked in behind my back for a few hours without letting her knowing it. After the last song I gave her the flower, she was ecstatic, telling me no one had ever given her a flower before and saying the only things her ex gave her were a lighter and a card. On a later double date we went to her friends house for some drinks and cards, I told her I picked up some vodka and mix (in truth I had bought all the ingredients for her favorite drink), she came in to the help me mix drinks and she was pleasantly surprised and even said she's never met anyone who has given her so many nice surprises.
I had to go out of the town to visit my dad for the weekend and before I left I arranged to have a flower sent to her on my birthday. She liked the flower, but to my dismay when I got back to town the day after she told me she was back together with her ex. Her roommate goes out with his brother, so he was with him and he saw the flower I sent her and realized he had to patch things up. Talk about having a romantic gesture biting you in the a**.
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