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By your conversation it sounds like you have in mind new nice guy, possible new relationship.
Did I miss that? Where do you see that? A relationship????
(re-reads all of her posts...nope...)
there was a place in my home town we jokingly refered to as "hotties on parade", for the young guys almost a sure thing, a bunch of cynical older guys drinking at the bar, and a lot of cars left all night in the parking lot
Soooo...what is your point?
I went out with my g-friends. I danced with some nice men. I didn't kiss or have sex somewhere with any man. I left in my car with my g-friend to somewhere to eat. I went home happily by myself.
I know what goes on with other women and men.
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Posted: 5/24/2009 8:41:10 PM | Facetious,
I don't have to challenge anyone to like me. I just put myself out there and I enjoy.
I do see "challenging" going on and it's like kids fighting in daycare. Who's tough enough in the pecking order. I guess it's something like jails and prisons where "challenging" is an acceptable way of being. You have to stand up for yourself or get crushed.
I like a decent man who is naturally nice and engaging. His values and morals shine through and I am attracted to that. I have no need to walk all over a man.
I do have enough self-confidence to choose wisely and it will be someone who I respect. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2009 9:45:17 PM | ...I don't know. I was at a couple of PoF dances that felt like being in a meat market. Men leaning up against the bar and watching the ladies go by....looking for the choicest cut perhaps
And then I attended another one where I felt like I was at a school dance. Guys on one side, ladies on the other. It seemed like the ladies were just hoping to be asked to dance....and the strange thing was....very few men asked.
Only two experiences I've had and I haven't been to another singles dance since.
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Posted: 5/25/2009 7:33:12 PM |
I do see it very prevalent on here, though. The women and men hard-timing a nice guy.
In fact, I saw a forum moderator put out a huge post on a thread to say there are to be n no more nice guy threads.
OPie, the point is that professional "nice guys" are not nice at all. They are excruciatingly boring duds, who hit on "hotties," are turned down, and turn on womenkind, claiming we're all just after their money. Read enough nice guy threads, and you'll begin to want to retch, lol!
These so-called and self-proclaimed nice guys are nothing of the sort, and have nothing to do with *good men* who are entirely different critters.
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Posted: 5/25/2009 8:14:58 PM | I think I met more "good men" then. But...they were very nice and I appreciated the respect and consideration that I got. They were into conversation, swapping of interests, flirting and joking, and general having fun. And they acted like guys.
They had some good dance steps.
I haven't done the "bump" from the 70's for so long and it was so cool! We also did some good moves learned from "Dancing from the Stars". I think I did a bit of a tango mixed up with a samba! Loved doing some jiving, too.
That is what I wanted more than anything. Was to get out and have some real fun.
I am not looking for a man right now. He will come around when I am not looking. | |
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Posted: 5/26/2009 4:03:59 AM | BoudaciaSmile: I read your posts and you sound like a very nice woman. IMHO, you are doing all the right things, you are getting yourself in circulation and have the right attitude. Keep that up and you will see that things will work in your favor soon!
I hear a lot of women say "I am not looking for a man right now. He will come around when I am not looking. ". Times have changed to some degree. If you aren't looking or ,at least, as they say "putting feelers" out there, he's not going to come to you and fall in your lap. Usually nothing in life does.
She hasn't fallen in my lap, she never has and never will. Many women are sitting home for Prince Charming to come on knocking on their door, and they wait, and wait, and wait, and wait, and wait.
woobytoodsday: I read with disdain what you wrote. Just what are "professional" nice guys? Hopefully, there are no "professional" women out there (except of course for the "we all know whats" of the world) . So with your way of thinking, what are we supposed to do now? We present ourselves as nice guys we're criticized, we behave like pompus jerks, we are comdemned. Where is the middle ground? What is meant by excrutiatingly boring? Are you an exciting person yourself or just anther "hottie" who wants men to bow down and kiss her "you know what"? Sounds like you've had some bad experiences, and just like the nice guy, you are sounding bitter and are throwing all "mankind" under the bus. JMHO | |
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Posted: 5/26/2009 4:37:14 AM | Greg, I believe the self-proclaimed nice guys who woobytoodsday is referring to are the type of guys who are like the one I met for a meet and greet.
We had little in common, there were no sparks, we weren't a match. I was polite, I also tried to pay for my drink; however when I told him sorry we just weren't a match, he went off on me. I received several scathing, hateful e-mails each rant containing variations of how I and all women on this site are only playing games, after money, saying we want a good guy but are continually turning him down.
Self proclaimed good guys like the one I met are VERY different from the truely good and decent men out there. | |
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Posted: 5/26/2009 5:17:55 AM | goodmangreg~
you indeed missed the point a few of the ladies on this thread are making. the operative words being "self proclaimed". there's a huge difference between a man (or any person for that matter) that feels the need to "announce" their "niceness" and ones whose actions make them nice.
I believe that the "professional" reference means that they make it a point to tell women at every opportunity just how "nice" they are--NOT that they are professionally knowledgeable of something.
I don't join bandwagons, nor run to defend pof members, but what I've seen of wooby's postings, she's never presented herself as a man-basher...not even of "professional" nice guys.  | |
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Posted: 9/22/2011 6:54:47 PM | GoodmanGreg, I'm glad to see you're still on the forums. I hope life has been kind to you this last year or so. You were the kind gentleman who wrote a glowing testimonial of me, even though we had never met. I greatly appreciated it, even though Testimonials have now been removed.
On topic, there most definitely are some good ladies who greatly value and appreciate 'nice guys', and would never settle for anything less. I am one of them.
OP, I'm glad you had a good time and were observant. Personally, I consider someone separated still married, and men who are separated I consider off-limits (I don't poach). You may find the quality of the fellows who show an interest in you improves once you are legally divorced. Just a possibility.
All the best with the next phase of your life. | |
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Posted: 9/23/2011 5:44:48 PM | | Apparently women in a group are too intimidating for a man to approach. Beter off with just one girlfriend.......going out on the town.... Even then she can get resentful if you go off dancing with a guy and she is left. But you may have a good time with the girls and not meet anyone.... who knows.......... | |
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Posted: 9/24/2011 5:43:13 PM | if you are going to a 'meat market' looking for quality .... your failure is apparent before you enter the door.
the hit it and get it is about par for the course.
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